https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 19 May 2026 07:16:01 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-give-unsolicited-advice-to-new-moms-irl#post-249517 Mon, 06 Aug 2012 11:33:05 +0000 MsLipGloss 249517@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope - only if asked! The *have you tried/considered . . .* statements drive me nuts because yeah, I have tried/considered/googled/called the 24-hour nurse. :P </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-give-unsolicited-advice-to-new-moms-irl#post-249516 Mon, 06 Aug 2012 11:29:14 +0000 Lozza 249516@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think I've ever said "You should do [X]", but like most other posters, I'll often share what I've learned about a topic (like the "Oh, I see you're looking at that stroller, we loved how it handled but my husband is really tall and he found it to be an awkward size for him" or "That sucks that you're nauseous. I was too, though I found that exercise helped.")<br /> I think it's one thing to share knowledge that you've discovered, and something a little different to try to tell someone else what to do. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-give-unsolicited-advice-to-new-moms-irl#post-249495 Mon, 06 Aug 2012 11:14:18 +0000 kokobee 249495@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>never. only when asked. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-give-unsolicited-advice-to-new-moms-irl#post-249471 Mon, 06 Aug 2012 11:05:36 +0000 heffalump 249471@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I do. I don't mind when people give it to me. I know that I have no clue what I'm doing sometimes! I think there's a difference between giving advice and telling people how to parent. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-give-unsolicited-advice-to-new-moms-irl#post-249443 Mon, 06 Aug 2012 10:53:08 +0000 pelikila 249443@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've caught myself doing it and try to curb myself when I do happen to do it. Mostly it is to friends that are struggling with something and sharing but not asking for advice so I try to couch my unsolicited advice in more of a "have you considered doing/trying . . . ." so they can blow me off or not as they see fit. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-give-unsolicited-advice-to-new-moms-irl#post-249366 Mon, 06 Aug 2012 10:01:19 +0000 pastemoo 249366@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bpcmarj: That's different and totally cool. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-give-unsolicited-advice-to-new-moms-irl#post-249216 Mon, 06 Aug 2012 07:44:44 +0000 Bluebonnet 249216@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've done it. I was at a baby store the other day and a woman was testing out the rocker/recliner we bought for the nursery. I told her what we liked and didnt like about it. Then she asked my opinion on a zillion other thing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-give-unsolicited-advice-to-new-moms-irl#post-249192 Mon, 06 Aug 2012 07:19:21 +0000 bpcmarj 249192@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Guilty. Did it the other day at target. I saw a pregnant woman looking at the rock and plays. I told her that someone gave us one and it saved her sleep. Told her if she doesn't get one, to keep it in mind for the future if there are sleep issues. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-give-unsolicited-advice-to-new-moms-irl#post-249185 Mon, 06 Aug 2012 07:12:21 +0000 T.H.O.U. 249185@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I try to wait for friends to ask for advice on something. A close friend of mine is trying to breastfeed #2 and even though I feel like I have been through all kinds of experiences breastfeeding for over a year, I try to keep my tips to myself unless she asks. Although, I do share freely online! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-give-unsolicited-advice-to-new-moms-irl#post-249161 Mon, 06 Aug 2012 03:45:42 +0000 Mrs. Pen 249161@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Usually if it comes up or if they ask. Or I phrase it, "Have you tried....?" Instead of telling them to do something. Just saying what has worked for me is a better way to offer ideas </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-give-unsolicited-advice-to-new-moms-irl#post-249133 Mon, 06 Aug 2012 00:29:17 +0000 HabesBabe 249133@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, because I hate when people do it to me. I didn't do it as a former bride to girls planning their weddings, either. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-give-unsolicited-advice-to-new-moms-irl#post-249131 Mon, 06 Aug 2012 00:20:36 +0000 Sweet T 249131@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Never. I hate it when others do it to me. If they ask, I'm more than happy to share my experience. Otherwise, I keep my mouth shut! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-give-unsolicited-advice-to-new-moms-irl#post-249111 Sun, 05 Aug 2012 23:36:30 +0000 mediagirl 249111@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No because so far, I have been so annoyed when they do it to me! I'll offer suggestions or help if asked but no, not unsolicited. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-give-unsolicited-advice-to-new-moms-irl#post-248682 Sun, 05 Aug 2012 13:22:27 +0000 pastemoo 248682@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hmm.... my baby is still the youngest. So not really, but sometimes it comes up in conversation "what do you do for x?" Oh, I do y, what do you do?"</p> <p>But I also talk too much, so maybe I have? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-give-unsolicited-advice-to-new-moms-irl#post-248667 Sun, 05 Aug 2012 13:13:19 +0000 looch 248667@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, because I hate it when people do that to me. If someone asks, I share, otherwise, I just go on about other stuff. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-give-unsolicited-advice-to-new-moms-irl#post-248580 Sun, 05 Aug 2012 11:33:56 +0000 chopsuey 248580@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have to one of my friends. :D She had her baby 5 months after I did! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-give-unsolicited-advice-to-new-moms-irl#post-248575 Sun, 05 Aug 2012 11:29:23 +0000 autumnlove 248575@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't! I will definitely share my personal experiences or give advice if someone asks for it! </p>