https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 29 Jun 2026 11:33:29 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-back-and-forth-about-how-many-los-you-want#post-2080805 Sun, 22 Feb 2015 16:09:24 +0000 californiadreams 2080805@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i am pretty dead set on 2.....i only waver when i think that LO#2 could be a boy and then i would have 2 boys and i really want a girl. I wonder if if i would consider a third. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-back-and-forth-about-how-many-los-you-want#post-2080783 Sun, 22 Feb 2015 15:40:53 +0000 petunia354 2080783@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>All the time! I love DS but am not sure I can go through toddlerhood again, and we aren't even through it yet, lol. I'm fairly certain we will go for a #2 though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-back-and-forth-about-how-many-los-you-want#post-2080597 Sun, 22 Feb 2015 12:54:54 +0000 Miss Sarah 2080597@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I originally wanted 3 or 4, but it's taken us 2 years so far to conceive #1, and we're trying IVF now. So now that this is the journey we're taking, we're just so focused on having one for now and we'll see how we're feeling after that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-back-and-forth-about-how-many-los-you-want#post-2080593 Sun, 22 Feb 2015 12:42:35 +0000 kjpugs 2080593@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When we find out the sex of #2 it will likely solidify our plans. We think we just want 2 but may feel pulled for a third.</p> <p>I can't handle another pregnancy but sometimes I think of all the eggs in my body and get sad that they won't become children. I'm crazy. I blame pregnancy hormones. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-back-and-forth-about-how-many-los-you-want#post-2080590 Sun, 22 Feb 2015 12:39:33 +0000 keepcalmcarrie 2080590@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sometimes. </p> <p>I've always said 3-4, but leaned more toward 4. DH is more comfortable with 3 but is open to 4. Right now, with LO1 at 23 months and LO2 at 6 weeks, I think I might be insane to want to do this again once, let alone twice. But that is the sleep deprivation talking - I know our family isn't complete yet. I just need at least a year of good sleep after this to recover! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-back-and-forth-about-how-many-los-you-want#post-2080561 Sun, 22 Feb 2015 11:53:02 +0000 MrsHoneyC 2080561@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks: i love what you wrote oh so much. (( and i am so happy you and your son are home now!)) :heart: </p> <p>I waivered a lot after DS was born... he was a super difficult baby for a lot of reasons and i suffered with PPD. But now that 15 months have passed my heart is suddenly bursting with yearning. We had always talked about 3-4, but i think we both have settled in a happy place of wanting 3. We have plans to TTC this summer, which is equal parts terrifying and exciting. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-back-and-forth-about-how-many-los-you-want#post-2080552 Sun, 22 Feb 2015 11:34:25 +0000 catlady 2080552@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, we waver between wanting another and being one and done, although I'm pretty sure both of us believe that we will eventually end up with two. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-back-and-forth-about-how-many-los-you-want#post-2080548 Sun, 22 Feb 2015 11:28:49 +0000 Mamasig 2080548@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Every day! We want a 3rd. But I worry about finances and if I can handle all 3. I have to solo parent a lot. My husband is ok with whatever I decide. But my heart wants a third! I don't ever want to regret not going for it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-back-and-forth-about-how-many-los-you-want#post-2080543 Sun, 22 Feb 2015 11:12:18 +0000 Ree723 2080543@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>All the time! We thought we wanted three, and we sometimes still do, but we're in such a good place with two, we're not sure we want to rock the boat again by going for number three. Regardless of what we decide though, we are set in our decision to not even discuss #3 seriously until DD2 is around 2, so still another year away... </p> <p>Some days it seems like a great idea, other days I think we'd be nuts to have a third! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-back-and-forth-about-how-many-los-you-want#post-2080474 Sun, 22 Feb 2015 09:34:08 +0000 loveisstrange 2080474@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep, we waver between one and done and "wellll, MAYBE in a few years". </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-back-and-forth-about-how-many-los-you-want#post-2080469 Sun, 22 Feb 2015 09:30:25 +0000 fancyfunction 2080469@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We waivered between one and two for a while but are now on the same page with wanting two. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-back-and-forth-about-how-many-los-you-want#post-2080467 Sun, 22 Feb 2015 09:29:53 +0000 winniebee 2080467@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have always thought we would have 2-3. Now that we have 2, we go back and forth about a third. I have a feeling we will probably go for it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-back-and-forth-about-how-many-los-you-want#post-2080460 Sun, 22 Feb 2015 09:15:40 +0000 mfa_lady 2080460@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our first is only 7 weeks old, but we always talk about having 4 because that's our ideal. However, I think we both know it probably won't work out logistically/financially...so, kind of? I think we'll start having real conversations about what to do once we are pregnant with/have #2. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-back-and-forth-about-how-many-los-you-want#post-2080453 Sun, 22 Feb 2015 08:57:39 +0000 mrsjyw 2080453@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@NovBaby1112: same!</p> <p>We're a two maybe three family! We will reassess after baby #2! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-back-and-forth-about-how-many-los-you-want#post-2080450 Sun, 22 Feb 2015 08:51:20 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 2080450@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We did for a couple years. Two was so much more logical than 3! But something in my soul wouldn't rest... And now we know in the clearest way possible that 3 was meant to be. </p> <p>I think it is important to listen to that quiet voice deep in your soul and maintain open conversation between partners to know the right family size for your family.</p> <p>I am now completely at peace with the size of our family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-back-and-forth-about-how-many-los-you-want#post-2080441 Sun, 22 Feb 2015 08:24:35 +0000 lovehoneybee 2080441@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I spent two years wavering between one and two! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-back-and-forth-about-how-many-los-you-want#post-2080440 Sun, 22 Feb 2015 08:18:20 +0000 Anya 2080440@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Totally undecided between 1 and 2. Sometimes I even dream about having 3 even though logistically that's not what I want. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-back-and-forth-about-how-many-los-you-want#post-2080439 Sun, 22 Feb 2015 08:14:51 +0000 NovBaby1112 2080439@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep! I waiver between 2-3. i think a lot of it will depend on the temperament of this next LO. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-back-and-forth-about-how-many-los-you-want#post-2080432 Sun, 22 Feb 2015 07:52:45 +0000 matador84 2080432@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Always! We don't have room for more kids...and are def happy with our two. But all the time I think about if we had a 3rd/4th... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-back-and-forth-about-how-many-los-you-want#post-2080431 Sun, 22 Feb 2015 07:48:42 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 2080431@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not yet. We want 3-4 and only have 1. I'm sure once we get to 2 or 3 we will waiver. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-back-and-forth-about-how-many-los-you-want#post-2080427 Sun, 22 Feb 2015 06:56:55 +0000 illumina 2080427@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I go back and forth between wanting 2 and 3. I can imagine having 3, but I think it will all depend on what kind of toddlers/pre-schoolers LO's 1 &amp; 2 turn out to be as to whether we can handle another in the mix! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-back-and-forth-about-how-many-los-you-want#post-2080424 Sun, 22 Feb 2015 06:35:56 +0000 ILoveLettie 2080424@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not yet! While we thought we wanted 2 before I got pregnant we've been solidly in the one and done camp since and that sureness has only gotten stronger. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-back-and-forth-about-how-many-los-you-want#post-2080423 Sun, 22 Feb 2015 06:34:29 +0000 MrsF 2080423@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yup. We've always wanted 3 but now that we have 2 we're not 100% sure. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-back-and-forth-about-how-many-los-you-want#post-2080421 Sun, 22 Feb 2015 06:29:03 +0000 SugarplumsMom 2080421@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yup. 1 or 2. Two. No, one. No, we should at least try ... :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-back-and-forth-about-how-many-los-you-want#post-2080414 Sun, 22 Feb 2015 06:07:18 +0000 lamariniere 2080414@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Never. It has always been just 2. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-back-and-forth-about-how-many-los-you-want#post-2080387 Sun, 22 Feb 2015 03:28:40 +0000 AprilFool 2080387@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>All the time! I go from two to three to one and round and round. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-back-and-forth-about-how-many-los-you-want#post-2080374 Sun, 22 Feb 2015 02:11:14 +0000 Cherrybee 2080374@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Definitely. I swing between wanting another and being one-and-done several times a day! Then some days I imagine the three children family I always wanted and I think for a fleeting moment that it would be so lovely..... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-back-and-forth-about-how-many-los-you-want#post-2080371 Sun, 22 Feb 2015 02:04:04 +0000 lemondrop 2080371@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes- we are pretty sure we want 3, but are really enjoying 2 right now and question our plans regularly. We are planning on waiting a couple more years anyway before opening up negotiations again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-back-and-forth-about-how-many-los-you-want#post-2080345 Sun, 22 Feb 2015 00:29:39 +0000 Andrea 2080345@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We still discuss it, but I know that we are done. I guess it's just fun to talk about "what ifs" sometimes! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-back-and-forth-about-how-many-los-you-want#post-2080052 Sat, 21 Feb 2015 19:15:34 +0000 Foodnerd81 2080052@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Only when C is behaving really badly- then we joke "are we sure we want another one?" But we are both quite certain we want two, usually. </p>