https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 12 May 2026 22:12:00 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-everywhere-with-your-so#post-1250513 Fri, 29 Nov 2013 19:00:40 +0000 mrsmate 1250513@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our friends live too spread apart for us to have regular girls' and guys' nights. Mostly we hang out with other families or couples. But DH does a lot of days solo with DD on the weekends, so I wouldn't say DH and I go everywhere together.</p> <p>I would never be the wife that tagged along everywhere on what were obviously guys only events. Why would I want to be where no one else wants me around? She sounds a little bit socially inept. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-everywhere-with-your-so#post-1250480 Fri, 29 Nov 2013 18:08:11 +0000 loveisstrange 1250480@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH and I both encourage each other to go do things alone. I think we both definitely need time away sometimes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-everywhere-with-your-so#post-1250471 Fri, 29 Nov 2013 18:00:40 +0000 Sunderling 1250471@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have a lot of mutual friends, so generally if we're out with friends we're together. Occasionally he'll make plans with one friend or another, or I'll do the same with one of my friends, and we'll be apart for a few hours or a day. We do spend probably 90% of our non-work hours in each other's company.<br /> I imagine that will change when the baby comes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-everywhere-with-your-so#post-1250465 Fri, 29 Nov 2013 17:52:15 +0000 yoursilverlining 1250465@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sarac: same. </p> <p>We hang out together with friends in a group, but I'm not friends with the female SO's just because my husband is friends with the males, and we don't have separate gender activities. We also both value our own time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-everywhere-with-your-so#post-1250460 Fri, 29 Nov 2013 17:40:51 +0000 ILoveLettie 1250460@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're also in the "generally together" camp, but we have times where one of us will go off with our own friends, especially when we're in our respective hometowns for holidays or whatever. Our college friends are mutual friends, but we both still are fairly close with our separate high school friends. Sometimes when DH goes out with his high school friends (co-ed: there are guys and girls and some bring their SO's, some don't), I'll go, but a lot of times there's a lot of inside jokes and they just sit around playing videogames forever so I'll stay at my in-laws where it's quiet and relax. That's actually what I'm doing this evening--figured I'd give DH some friend-time and no obligation to come back home when I got tired (which is always a lot earlier than him). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-everywhere-with-your-so#post-1250457 Fri, 29 Nov 2013 17:38:23 +0000 calsmom 1250457@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our friend's girlfriend goes everywhere with him. If anyone wants to get together with him, it has to be before noon as she is still asleep until then. Guy outings don't happen past that time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-everywhere-with-your-so#post-1250456 Fri, 29 Nov 2013 17:38:18 +0000 sunny 1250456@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We do almost everything together but there have been 1-2 guys nights scheduled with his friends and I won't go. I occasionally have a girls get together and he doesn't go to those either. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-everywhere-with-your-so#post-1250454 Fri, 29 Nov 2013 17:36:53 +0000 Beyond2 1250454@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We do pretty much everything together. Neither of us likes to go on our own and we generally have the same friends. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-everywhere-with-your-so#post-1250452 Fri, 29 Nov 2013 17:33:47 +0000 Cherrybee 1250452@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're a tag team but most of our "group" are couples who all hang out together. It's rarely a guys only thing - but if it was I obviously wouldn't go! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-everywhere-with-your-so#post-1250417 Fri, 29 Nov 2013 16:54:47 +0000 Foodnerd81 1250417@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We more often hang out with friends separately. Or we hang out with couples together. We have a lot of mutual friends but it's often all guys or all girls. </p> <p>Now I tend to see my sahm friends during the day, obviously without SOs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-everywhere-with-your-so#post-1250059 Fri, 29 Nov 2013 12:00:07 +0000 sarac 1250059@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, we each have our own lives outside of our life together. I would not want to lose my sense of individual identity. We've been together for almost twelve years, and I'd hate to feel like I didn't have an identity outside our marriage. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-everywhere-with-your-so#post-1249759 Fri, 29 Nov 2013 08:40:12 +0000 avivoca 1249759@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We do everything together, but we do have individual time with our friends. I'd say we are together 80% of the time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-everywhere-with-your-so#post-1249756 Fri, 29 Nov 2013 08:35:42 +0000 Glitter 1249756@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have the same group of friends so we generally do everything together. Sometimes the wives would plan something in one location so our husbands would hang out together at a different location, or vice versa, so we would split up til the end of the night. Occasionally (like very, verry rarely) we hang out with our own school friends individually, but for the most part we enjoy going to the same places together. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-everywhere-with-your-so#post-1249749 Fri, 29 Nov 2013 08:31:00 +0000 mlm2934 1249749@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We spend most of our time together because we like to. I'd say 75% of our friends are mutual friends, so often we are together during friend time too. We also have lots of couple friends so we usually hang out together with them. That said, we definitely each do our own thing with friends as well. I don't tag along to clearly "guy time" and he doesn't to clearly "girl time". Those lines are blurry for us though because since I'm also friends with his guy friends, I will likely go if they say are going to a try a new brewery since I'm a beer lover too.</p> <p>It doesn't sound like this guy's wife has the same dynamic though of being a welcome part of the group. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-everywhere-with-your-so#post-1249737 Fri, 29 Nov 2013 08:14:50 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 1249737@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We do our own thing. We have different friends anyway and our work obligations sometimes conflicts with us showing up as a couple. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-everywhere-with-your-so#post-1249735 Fri, 29 Nov 2013 08:06:03 +0000 MapleMoose 1249735@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We do our own thing with our own friends, not that we don't get along with each others friends. But usually time with friends is time apart from each other. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-everywhere-with-your-so#post-1249734 Fri, 29 Nov 2013 08:04:40 +0000 autumnlove 1249734@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We spend a lot of time together but we also do our own thing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-everywhere-with-your-so#post-1249719 Fri, 29 Nov 2013 07:44:12 +0000 nana87 1249719@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>we are often together but if I make plans with my bff, dh always asks is we want "girl time" or if he should come too, and vice versa with his. we definitely give each other space to hang out with friends alone, especially if one of us clearly isn't going to enjoy the evening as much--like I don't go if dh and his bff are going to see an action movie I have no interest in </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-everywhere-with-your-so#post-1249716 Fri, 29 Nov 2013 07:36:47 +0000 Ra 1249716@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, we love our time together but we also value our time as individuals. DH has a weekly poker night and goes out with the guys 1-2 times a month. I also try to go to dinner or for a drink with my girl friends 1-2 a month. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-everywhere-with-your-so#post-1249693 Fri, 29 Nov 2013 05:36:45 +0000 Andrea 1249693@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, we always do our own thing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-everywhere-with-your-so#post-1249691 Fri, 29 Nov 2013 05:33:55 +0000 rachiecakes 1249691@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's very rare that we're together when with friends. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-everywhere-with-your-so#post-1249687 Fri, 29 Nov 2013 05:26:03 +0000 Dandelion 1249687@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're together a lot in our spare time, but I have no issues if he wants to off and do something on his own. I do the same, and it's nice to be out on my own. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-everywhere-with-your-so#post-1249682 Fri, 29 Nov 2013 04:56:42 +0000 Bookish 1249682@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Danizaur: this. We love to spend the majority of our time together, but I don't intrude on his guy time or alone time, when he wants it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-everywhere-with-your-so#post-1249665 Fri, 29 Nov 2013 03:49:18 +0000 Greentea 1249665@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are a three person unit. Me husband ebf baby. We are best friends and value our time together. Now that we have baby we value our time together as a family more than anything and we are highly selective about who we spend our time with. Baby takes up all of it and we love spending it together with her. I think there are other things at play bothering you about their dynamic like her jealousy? Always annoying! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-everywhere-with-your-so#post-1249663 Fri, 29 Nov 2013 02:40:59 +0000 artsyfartsy 1249663@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We do everything together. But I don't tag along to "just the guys" things and I do my own thing with friends occasionally. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-everywhere-with-your-so#post-1249594 Thu, 28 Nov 2013 22:50:37 +0000 HellOnHeels 1249594@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: The thing that confuses us is that they have kids and there was a whole week where she was with him every evening, not at home... some dedicated babysitters, I guess. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-everywhere-with-your-so#post-1249590 Thu, 28 Nov 2013 22:47:31 +0000 mrbee 1249590@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Now that we have kids, we almost never hang out together with each other's friends... one of us stays has to stay home with the kids! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-everywhere-with-your-so#post-1249589 Thu, 28 Nov 2013 22:47:02 +0000 BSB 1249589@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We do our own thing. DH does not go to all of my get togethers and I don't go to all of his. If it's a couple's event, I'll tag along but sometimes I don't. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-everywhere-with-your-so#post-1249588 Thu, 28 Nov 2013 22:44:16 +0000 HellOnHeels 1249588@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm wondering how common this is...</p> <p>DH has a friend who brings his wife everywhere. He was over this morning, and of course, she was with him (I was at work). It's gotten to the point where DH and mutual friends don't want to ask this friend over when its clearly "just the guys" because the wife might tag along. She goes and does her own thing with HER friends, but it's becoming more and more apparent that she won't give him the same courtesy.</p> <p>Word got to us that she was jealous of me because I was spending a lot of time with the guys. I was unemployed and at home for 6 months and it just so happened that they were here 90% of the time... doing their own thing while I did mine. Major eyeroll... </p> <p>I completely understand that what works for one couple, may not for another. But, I whole-heartedly believe that having your own life and friends outside of your relationship is necessary for a healthy relationship. </p> <p>I feel really bad for DH because it feels like he's slowly losing one of his best friends and there's nothing we can do. </p>