https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 20 May 2026 19:58:05 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-on-dates-with-just-your-so/page/2#post-2141790 Mon, 13 Apr 2015 09:04:00 +0000 bunnylove08 2141790@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Alivoo01: Our friends do the same. We usually try to entertain them at our place and they will play with DD while I cook and we take turns eating/monitoring her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-on-dates-with-just-your-so/page/2#post-2141755 Mon, 13 Apr 2015 08:40:55 +0000 snowjewelz 2141755@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DD i s 4 mo and DH &amp; I went out alone once b/c it was his birthday! I feel like it takes a special occasion for us to leave DD... I already work all week so I treasure all other times I get with her! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-on-dates-with-just-your-so/page/2#post-2141668 Mon, 13 Apr 2015 07:57:01 +0000 MoreCoffee 2141668@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We don't have family close by, but they do come visit every couple of months and we have date nights then. We've also had a few nights out where a friend has volunteered to babysit. </p> <p>For a long time DH and I carpooled and worked next door to each other so we did lunch dates during the work week while DS was in daycare. Overall we haven't felt too deprived of couple time even if it's different than pre-kids. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-on-dates-with-just-your-so/page/2#post-2141655 Mon, 13 Apr 2015 07:44:31 +0000 Alivoo01 2141655@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope! Like you, we don't have family nearby to help us watch DS. We do have friends we trust, but they're all busy doing their own stuff so I don't like to burden them unless absolutely necessary. However, when we do group dinners, my friends to help watch/entertain DS so we can actually eat eat for a bit. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-on-dates-with-just-your-so/page/2#post-2141650 Mon, 13 Apr 2015 07:39:22 +0000 looch 2141650@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband and I have a standing lunch date, it works so well for us because we currently work across the street from each other. We also sometimes meet for an early dinner on Friday afternoon before we'd pick up our son, but now we've turned that into family movie night and it would kill my son not to have it!</p> <p>We have a difficult time going for dates on the weekends, we have that working parent guilt. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-on-dates-with-just-your-so/page/2#post-2141538 Mon, 13 Apr 2015 00:21:36 +0000 ScarletBegonia 2141538@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We try for once a month. It helps that now in our hometown most of the awesome restaurants have started doing online bookings - there is never anything available in the current month but we can always get a reservation for the next month or the one after, so we make them and then we know we have a date in the schedule, and time to hire a babysitter. My MIL babysits for us when she can but she's single and has quite an active social life (A LOT more active than ours!) so she isn't always available - I have two former students who are now in university that are always happy to help. We are also having our first full night away from our son in a couple of weeks!! Woohoo! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-on-dates-with-just-your-so/page/2#post-2141537 Mon, 13 Apr 2015 00:10:24 +0000 ChiCalGoBee 2141537@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, we do. It takes a lot of effort to make sure we have care for our son, but I think it's critically important to our marriage that we have time alone together. To me the cost of our nanny for those hours is an investment in our relationship. We also sometimes will grab lunch together when she's here during the day and we're both working. I was a nanny when I was younger and used to be the person who provided childcare relief for parents, and I made a vow right then and there that I would do the same for my own relationship one day. I also think it's important for my son to be used to someone else putting him to bed other than me. We don't have grandparents or aunts/uncles in town to help, so when I looked for a nanny I asked that she commit to at least two weekend evenings per month to baby-sit, which has worked out beautifully.</p> <p>If your daughter has anxiety with new people, could you have a potential sitter come and do some day-time playing with her so she gets used to the sitter? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-on-dates-with-just-your-so/page/2#post-2141533 Sun, 12 Apr 2015 23:48:56 +0000 SugarplumsMom 2141533@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, but it's not common at all. Dates for us usually mean movie and dinner/late lunch. By uncommon, I mean almost never, but we're working on upping it since she's a little older now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-on-dates-with-just-your-so/page/2#post-2141521 Sun, 12 Apr 2015 23:03:55 +0000 kgbee 2141521@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We usually go during the day when the Little Dude is at school. I don't work and my husband works from home on a super flexible schedule, so daytime dates work best for us! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-on-dates-with-just-your-so/page/2#post-2141431 Sun, 12 Apr 2015 20:11:53 +0000 Miss Ariel 2141431@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@erinpye: I'm sure they do and it's the type of thing I would have loved to use in high school or college. But I guess like everything else, you just never really know... But really that's how it is anytime you have someone watch your kids. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-on-dates-with-just-your-so/page/2#post-2141423 Sun, 12 Apr 2015 20:03:32 +0000 cat620 2141423@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My in-laws live in town, so they babysit for us regularly. I would say we go on dates about 3 times a month. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-on-dates-with-just-your-so/page/2#post-2141360 Sun, 12 Apr 2015 19:10:49 +0000 erinpye 2141360@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Miss Ariel: they have background checks and references available on there. I have done interviews as well as had the caregivers we've found start while I'm at home too. I get to know them and feel comfortable with them first. We've had some good luck finding a couple of great girls to watch our kiddos! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-on-dates-with-just-your-so/page/2#post-2140949 Sat, 11 Apr 2015 22:12:32 +0000 SweetiePie 2140949@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We go on dates almost every weekend. We have a standing sitter for Saturday nights. I get ready while my husband entertains our son and the sitter arrives, then I do bedtime routine and put him down and we leave immediately after. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-on-dates-with-just-your-so/page/2#post-2140858 Sat, 11 Apr 2015 19:52:36 +0000 bunnylove08 2140858@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mamaof2: my dd is having some seperation anxiety at daycare. </p> <p>@Miss Ariel: I am having a little paranoia about that too since I just read an article about how a female engineer who usually babysits friend's kids was doing sexual things the children. It got me so sick and I know not everyone is like that but it just scares me to death. </p> <p>We try to go on dates when we see mil and fil. I may ask my dad if he can watch dd for a day when we visit. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-on-dates-with-just-your-so#post-2140821 Sat, 11 Apr 2015 18:42:20 +0000 Miss Ariel 2140821@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@erinpye: I always wonder about things like that. It seems like a great idea, but the idea of finding someone to watch your kids online seems like it could be potentially dangerous. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-on-dates-with-just-your-so#post-2140818 Sat, 11 Apr 2015 18:39:49 +0000 travellingbee 2140818@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have date night tonight!! We go here and there. We either use his teacher as a babysitter or my parents. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-on-dates-with-just-your-so#post-2140804 Sat, 11 Apr 2015 18:13:49 +0000 Mamaof2 2140804@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bunnylove08: is your LO in DCP?<br /> Our sitter is a teacher at DCP- that way they both already knew her! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-on-dates-with-just-your-so#post-2140702 Sat, 11 Apr 2015 14:49:30 +0000 tysonja 2140702@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>my mil will watch them sometimes, and we do have a few good friends that the kids trust.</p> <p>sometimes for less experienced babysitters we just put the kids to bed first (7:30) and then go out afterwards. it's a shorter date (dessert and drinks, appys and drinks, only a movie, coffee date), but it's just as valuable, cheaper, and the kids are usually none the wiser. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-on-dates-with-just-your-so#post-2140662 Sat, 11 Apr 2015 13:19:01 +0000 bpcmarj 2140662@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We didn't for a long time and our marriage really suffered. Now we make it a priority to try to go once a month or so. Hiring a babysitter helped, and reaching out to friends and offering swaps also helped us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-on-dates-with-just-your-so#post-2140641 Sat, 11 Apr 2015 12:39:44 +0000 NurseDMB 2140641@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes. We try to do 1X a month but lately it's been less than that. I'm lucky that our family lives close by and my mom is always willing to come over and watch DS. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-on-dates-with-just-your-so#post-2140594 Sat, 11 Apr 2015 11:07:04 +0000 Mrs. Pen 2140594@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Fairly consistently actually. We're lucky to have my mom, sister, and brothers all nearby who are willing to watch him. We also have a few trusted babysitters in the area. </p> <p>There was once during my semester break DH took the day off ahd we sent J to daycare and had a day date- it was awesome! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-on-dates-with-just-your-so#post-2140581 Sat, 11 Apr 2015 10:47:04 +0000 californiadreams 2140581@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>yes we take advantage when my mom visits which is every few months and for special occasions like our bdays or valentines day, we try to get a sitter. our sitters are our former nannies though. i don't have anyone that i have only just used for occasional babysitting. </p> <p>can your nanny babysit once in a while? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-on-dates-with-just-your-so#post-2140510 Sat, 11 Apr 2015 08:43:32 +0000 miramira 2140510@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No because LO screams like he's being tortured if anyone but me or his father hold him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-on-dates-with-just-your-so#post-2140506 Sat, 11 Apr 2015 08:39:07 +0000 Greentea 2140506@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No we haven't! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-on-dates-with-just-your-so#post-2140491 Sat, 11 Apr 2015 08:06:18 +0000 rachiecakes 2140491@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Almost never. No family close by and no sitters. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-on-dates-with-just-your-so#post-2140469 Sat, 11 Apr 2015 06:53:04 +0000 ChitownRo 2140469@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes. We often will put him down for bed a little early at 7:30 and have the babysitter come right after. It works out well.<br /> ETA- no family in city, use hired babysitters probably 3 times a month on average. But they aren't only for solo date nights. Lots of friend dinners, weddings Etc </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-on-dates-with-just-your-so#post-2140425 Fri, 10 Apr 2015 23:25:37 +0000 mrsjyw 2140425@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep we try to go at least every two months. If we get into a lull where we can't go, we try to do creative date nights in. Board game night, redbox night, etc. we do have family watch ds when we do our date nights out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-on-dates-with-just-your-so#post-2140344 Fri, 10 Apr 2015 20:40:45 +0000 ShootingStar 2140344@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We use a couple of our daycare teachers as sitters. Is that a possibility for you? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-on-dates-with-just-your-so#post-2140343 Fri, 10 Apr 2015 20:40:42 +0000 shellio 2140343@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We do, but haven't lately. Our kids always went to bed fairly early and we worried they wouldn't go down well for someone else so we almost always put them down ourselves. We have family in town and also have used paid sitters a handful of times. I've wanted to trade babysitting nights with girlfriends for a while now but haven't gotten anyone to agree to it, boo hoo. (Because of schedule difficulties.) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-go-on-dates-with-just-your-so#post-2140334 Fri, 10 Apr 2015 20:36:20 +0000 Ash 2140334@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We've gone out twice since LO has been born and he's 16 months old. :sad: </p>