https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 08 Apr 2026 19:02:38 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-a-lot-of-parenting-guilt#post-2030309 Mon, 19 Jan 2015 08:46:03 +0000 hummusgirl 2030309@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ree723: This may make you feel a bit better about that last one: <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/bunmi-laditan/im-done-making-my-kids-childhood-magical_b_5062838.html" rel="nofollow">http://www.huffingtonpost.com/bunmi-laditan/im-done-making-my-kids-childhood-magical_b_5062838.html</a> </p> <p>I don't really feel guilt. I had a tremendous amount of it when I couldn't breastfeed in the beginning, but ever since I realized that didn't matter, I've managed to let go of the guilt. I feel good that LO is growing up in a happy, relaxed and supportive home which is better than I had (good childhood but parents frequently yelled at each other and us kids, which was stressful). So I try to be happy that we're providing a really good life for him, even if it isn't perfect. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-a-lot-of-parenting-guilt#post-2030284 Mon, 19 Jan 2015 08:26:46 +0000 Ree723 2030284@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh, I'm so jealous of those of you who don't have any parenting guilt! I feel as though I am constantly battling the guilt monster and it's gotten worse with having two kids now. The guilt for all the things I did for DD1 that I haven't done/don't do for DD2, the guilt for the lack of patience I have, the guilt when I raise my voice after my toddler pushes my last button, the guilt for not taking my kids out on outings all the time, the guilt that I have done something wrong to make my toddler the pickiest eater on the planet, guilt that we haven't yet potty trained my 31 month old, guilt that I am not a super creative mum who comes up with all these amazing activities to do every day.</p> <p>Yeah, the list goes on and on......I need to kick the guilt but as of yet, haven't been successful at doing so. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-a-lot-of-parenting-guilt#post-2030270 Mon, 19 Jan 2015 08:16:32 +0000 Smurfette 2030270@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sometimes but less and less as she gets older. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-a-lot-of-parenting-guilt#post-2030223 Mon, 19 Jan 2015 07:12:29 +0000 blackbird 2030223@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. Too emotionally taxing for me! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-a-lot-of-parenting-guilt#post-2030088 Sun, 18 Jan 2015 23:52:55 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 2030088@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Bee: Aw thanks!! So are you (if you don't already know that, which I hope you do!) :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-a-lot-of-parenting-guilt#post-2030085 Sun, 18 Jan 2015 23:49:43 +0000 Mrs. Bee 2030085@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. High Heels: you are! :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-a-lot-of-parenting-guilt#post-2030084 Sun, 18 Jan 2015 23:44:40 +0000 lemondrop 2030084@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Very minimal, only when I get into deep thoughts, which I rarely have time for anyway. I work too much, but I love the hell out of my job most days. My boys are my escape from work and my work is an escape to grown up time. I'm working on balance, but I have two happy boys, I'm happy too and that's what really matters. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-a-lot-of-parenting-guilt#post-2030076 Sun, 18 Jan 2015 23:37:55 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 2030076@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, not at all. I'm pretty secure with my choices, and know that I'm a good mom. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-a-lot-of-parenting-guilt#post-2030066 Sun, 18 Jan 2015 23:29:56 +0000 loveisstrange 2030066@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not particularly. I've realized that it's not worth it. I just do the best I can.</p> <p>I had a TON when she was an infant though. That was mostly the environment we were living in at the time, though, and people whispering in my ear about how I was doing everything wrong. Fuck those people. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-a-lot-of-parenting-guilt#post-2030055 Sun, 18 Jan 2015 23:20:01 +0000 yoursilverlining 2030055@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope! I think a lot of faux nostalgia feeds into parenting guilt, and that's just not for me. Everything in moderation, with a good wide look at all the truly horrendous and damaging parenting that surrounds every single one of us. Most of us that worry enough about whether or not we should have parenting guilt are parenting saints. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-a-lot-of-parenting-guilt#post-2030035 Sun, 18 Jan 2015 22:49:05 +0000 matador84 2030035@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. I have two really sweet, well-behaved kids. Agreed, I did much more with my first child than second. I hardly have any now I would say. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-a-lot-of-parenting-guilt#post-2029995 Sun, 18 Jan 2015 22:27:57 +0000 Mrs. Bee 2029995@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I did when we just had Charlie. But now that we have two, I don't have much guilt. Childcare? Screentime? I'm cool with it... it's hard to be a parent and I cut myself slack. :wink: </p> <p>Do you have a lot of parenting guilt? </p>