https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 08 Apr 2026 05:50:02 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-a-policy-where-if-one-person-cooks-dinner-the-other-person-does-the-dishes#post-1280155 Fri, 13 Dec 2013 14:10:34 +0000 hilsy85 1280155@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Tidybee: YES. DH will be like, oh would you rather do the dishes or play with LO, and I'm like "I'll do the dishes! I think we need a moment away from each other" :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-a-policy-where-if-one-person-cooks-dinner-the-other-person-does-the-dishes#post-1280153 Fri, 13 Dec 2013 14:09:44 +0000 ModernDayJibarita 1280153@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, I cook and he does the dishes. Since my husband doesn't cook I haven't done the dishes since we started dated 6 years ago. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-a-policy-where-if-one-person-cooks-dinner-the-other-person-does-the-dishes#post-1280132 Fri, 13 Dec 2013 14:01:42 +0000 Tidybee 1280132@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Generally that's our MO but now that I'm a SAHM, I do the dishes while DH hangs with DD or reads her books before bed. I'd rather her get the time with her...and oddly, doing dishes is usually my break from her! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-a-policy-where-if-one-person-cooks-dinner-the-other-person-does-the-dishes#post-1280126 Fri, 13 Dec 2013 13:59:36 +0000 shinymama 1280126@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes - "He {or she} who cooks, does not clean." Unless of course she is feeling quite generous. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-a-policy-where-if-one-person-cooks-dinner-the-other-person-does-the-dishes#post-1280121 Fri, 13 Dec 2013 13:58:07 +0000 AmandaB8 1280121@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. If you cook, you clean. Otherwise DH uses 6 pots/pans just to make spaghetti! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-a-policy-where-if-one-person-cooks-dinner-the-other-person-does-the-dishes#post-1280112 Fri, 13 Dec 2013 13:55:38 +0000 MapleMoose 1280112@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This was our rule pre-baby. I used to cook and DH would clean up after. Now I tend to the baby while DH throws something together and cleans up. Occasionally I cook but definitely not as often as I used to. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-a-policy-where-if-one-person-cooks-dinner-the-other-person-does-the-dishes#post-1280017 Fri, 13 Dec 2013 13:21:03 +0000 hilsy85 1280017@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. I cook and usually clean. DH will sometimes help dry if there are a lot. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-a-policy-where-if-one-person-cooks-dinner-the-other-person-does-the-dishes#post-1280004 Fri, 13 Dec 2013 13:17:33 +0000 deerylou 1280004@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sort of. I usually prep our meals, and my husband comes home and cooks, as it relaxes him. We take turns with dishes, or split them as cleanup usually aligns with one of us bathing with DD, or getting her ready for bed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-a-policy-where-if-one-person-cooks-dinner-the-other-person-does-the-dishes#post-1279984 Fri, 13 Dec 2013 13:10:47 +0000 lemondrop 1279984@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, basically if my husband works that day, I put away clean dishes, cook, and he does all dishes from the entire day after dinner. On days that I work, he puts away clean dishes, cooks (read: we go out to dinner) and I do dishes from that day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-a-policy-where-if-one-person-cooks-dinner-the-other-person-does-the-dishes#post-1279972 Fri, 13 Dec 2013 13:08:16 +0000 mrs. wagon 1279972@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sometimes. But on a daily basis I cook and clean up, then set up baths and bedtime and pack everything in their lunches except the fruit. Wagon Sr. bathes them and puts them to bed and finishes the lunches. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-a-policy-where-if-one-person-cooks-dinner-the-other-person-does-the-dishes#post-1279961 Fri, 13 Dec 2013 13:04:29 +0000 BSB 1279961@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That's generally our rule. I cook and he does the dishes. Well, there are certain things that I clean because they need to be hand washed (like the dutch oven). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-a-policy-where-if-one-person-cooks-dinner-the-other-person-does-the-dishes#post-1279948 Fri, 13 Dec 2013 12:59:23 +0000 Littlebit 1279948@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That's our rule! He cooks, I clean up after. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-a-policy-where-if-one-person-cooks-dinner-the-other-person-does-the-dishes#post-1279943 Fri, 13 Dec 2013 12:57:48 +0000 Koolbreeze 1279943@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wash all the dishes. My SO cooks dinner every night though (I can't remember the last time I made dinner) so I don't mind. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-a-policy-where-if-one-person-cooks-dinner-the-other-person-does-the-dishes#post-1279918 Fri, 13 Dec 2013 12:51:09 +0000 LovelyPlum 1279918@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That's generally how it works in our house. When there's lots of dishes, though, we both do them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-a-policy-where-if-one-person-cooks-dinner-the-other-person-does-the-dishes#post-1279887 Fri, 13 Dec 2013 12:44:56 +0000 Mrs. J 1279887@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH is supposed to do dishes because I do laundry, but I definitely do a lot of dishes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-a-policy-where-if-one-person-cooks-dinner-the-other-person-does-the-dishes#post-1279884 Fri, 13 Dec 2013 12:44:41 +0000 Crystal 1279884@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He loads the dishwasher, I put the dishes away. This happens regardless of who cooks. </p> <p>Though when I cook, I do try and be mindful and rinse off my stuff to get it ready for him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-a-policy-where-if-one-person-cooks-dinner-the-other-person-does-the-dishes#post-1279876 Fri, 13 Dec 2013 12:41:31 +0000 bhbee 1279876@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I do way more dishes than DH and I do all the cooking. we definitely don't have a 50/50 split on anything, but it works ok for us. sometimes if I've been home with LO all day I am happy for him to play with her while I have some quiet time in the kitchen. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-a-policy-where-if-one-person-cooks-dinner-the-other-person-does-the-dishes#post-1279829 Fri, 13 Dec 2013 12:29:14 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 1279829@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We do, but it doesn't always happen that way. Usually I cook and then after we eat I put away the food while DH loads the dishwasher. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-a-policy-where-if-one-person-cooks-dinner-the-other-person-does-the-dishes#post-1279788 Fri, 13 Dec 2013 12:20:51 +0000 psw27 1279788@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In theory we have this rule... but it frequently ends up that I do both since he is usually walking the dog. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-a-policy-where-if-one-person-cooks-dinner-the-other-person-does-the-dishes#post-1279781 Fri, 13 Dec 2013 12:19:34 +0000 septca 1279781@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No. I feel (most days) good about the division of labor in our house, but it's definitely more of a big picture split than a 50/50 division of duties. I am responsible for pretty much everything kitchen-related, although DH and I often do the dishes together. And that is 100% okay with me. Hello, my name is Septca, and I am a kitchen control freak. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-a-policy-where-if-one-person-cooks-dinner-the-other-person-does-the-dishes#post-1279777 Fri, 13 Dec 2013 12:19:11 +0000 Beyond2 1279777@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had this rule when we were both working fulltime. Now that I'm a SAHM I do the majority of the dishes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-a-policy-where-if-one-person-cooks-dinner-the-other-person-does-the-dishes#post-1279771 Fri, 13 Dec 2013 12:17:29 +0000 twodoghouse 1279771@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That's sort of the rule, although my husband usually helps me cook and I *try* to help him out with the dishes too. He's good at doing the dishes and doesn't seem to mind. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-a-policy-where-if-one-person-cooks-dinner-the-other-person-does-the-dishes#post-1279768 Fri, 13 Dec 2013 12:16:00 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 1279768@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I clean the dishes while I'm cooking or baking, so DH usually gets off there ;-) But if he cooks, I'll usually clean. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-a-policy-where-if-one-person-cooks-dinner-the-other-person-does-the-dishes#post-1279767 Fri, 13 Dec 2013 12:15:57 +0000 HabesBabe 1279767@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yup-- I cook, he cleans. It's nice when I cook in a crock-pot because there's less to do for both of us! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-a-policy-where-if-one-person-cooks-dinner-the-other-person-does-the-dishes#post-1279766 Fri, 13 Dec 2013 12:15:52 +0000 Cherrybee 1279766@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That used to be our policy (and DH used to do most of the cooking) but since I've been on maternity leave I unload the dishwasher every morning and it's not unusual for me to both cook and clean up afterwards. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-a-policy-where-if-one-person-cooks-dinner-the-other-person-does-the-dishes#post-1279740 Fri, 13 Dec 2013 12:07:33 +0000 mrskc 1279740@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We used to. But DH ends up doing majority of cooking and majority of dishes. It just works for us since he gets home from work 2 hours earlier than I do and I'm usually tending to our son &amp; putting him to bed while he cleans up after dinner. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-a-policy-where-if-one-person-cooks-dinner-the-other-person-does-the-dishes#post-1279736 Fri, 13 Dec 2013 12:05:44 +0000 bunnylove08 1279736@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I cook and DH will do dishes. I help when I'm cooking I will wash pots and pans and clean up while the food is cooking and he will wash dinner dishes and things like that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-a-policy-where-if-one-person-cooks-dinner-the-other-person-does-the-dishes#post-1279729 Fri, 13 Dec 2013 12:03:09 +0000 Ash 1279729@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That's not our policy but that's how it usually works out! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-a-policy-where-if-one-person-cooks-dinner-the-other-person-does-the-dishes#post-1279718 Fri, 13 Dec 2013 12:00:13 +0000 sheskrafty 1279718@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sometimes. Although I clean as I cook and when DH cooks it looks like a tornado ripped through our kitchen. :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-a-policy-where-if-one-person-cooks-dinner-the-other-person-does-the-dishes#post-1279717 Fri, 13 Dec 2013 12:00:07 +0000 mrs. bird 1279717@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>errr. i wish! i don't mind cooking, but i hate cleaning up after. once my butt sits down to eat, i don't feel like being productive anymore, lol. if he offers to clean up, usually i find a sink full of dishes, not even rinsed or put in the dishwasher. he likes to let them sit in there until he can't find the sink, there are only two of us, that can take a while! then do 'em all at once. yucky. BUT in his defense, he cleans gross things that i could never touch. </p>