Hellobee Boards Topic: Do you have a regular day to yourself?

Hellobee Boards Topic: Do you have a regular day to yourself? https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 19 May 2026 19:25:02 +0000 heffalump on "Do you have a regular day to yourself?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-a-regular-day-to-yourself#post-504708 Tue, 15 Jan 2013 05:41:29 +0000 heffalump 504708@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I dont have a regular day off. I'm a sahm. My mom used to come watch lo once in awhile so I could run some errands... But now she's a nanny full time for my niece. It's not a huge deal though. If there's something I can't do with her like a doctor's apt, haircut, etc my mom will still take her or ill do it on evenings or weekends when dh can watch lo. pinkcupcake on "Do you have a regular day to yourself?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-a-regular-day-to-yourself#post-504592 Mon, 14 Jan 2013 23:08:05 +0000 pinkcupcake 504592@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I'm a SAHM, and I've never LO alone w/anyone except DH or our parents. I always take her out on all my errands, and if it's something that I can't do with her (like a haircut), I'll just wait until DH can watch for an hour or so. I'm so used to going everywhere with her - she's my little sidekick! - and it might be easier to do things alone, but I don't want to :) Mrs. Pen on "Do you have a regular day to yourself?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-a-regular-day-to-yourself#post-504584 Mon, 14 Jan 2013 23:03:00 +0000 Mrs. Pen 504584@https://boards.hellobee.com/ No... I'm a SAHM and would love even just half-day child-care to do things on my own or just take a nap!! but it's not feasible $$ wise. daniellemybelle on "Do you have a regular day to yourself?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-a-regular-day-to-yourself#post-504579 Mon, 14 Jan 2013 22:57:15 +0000 daniellemybelle 504579@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Thanks for all your feedback! Seems like there's a few that do this, but most working moms want to spend as much time with their LOs as possible, which makes sense! MrsBrewer on "Do you have a regular day to yourself?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-a-regular-day-to-yourself#post-503132 Mon, 14 Jan 2013 12:11:37 +0000 MrsBrewer 503132@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I'm not a mom, but I have a friend who works part time Fri-Sun and she brings her daughter to day care. I think it's 5-6 hours per day Mon-Fri, but she is also taking two classes. I think every situation is different! I think personally if I was ever able to be a stay at home mom I wouldn't send LO to daycare. If I needed a little extra time I would see if my mom or some other family was available. But I don't think I would schedule it on a regular basis prettylizy on "Do you have a regular day to yourself?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-a-regular-day-to-yourself#post-503054 Mon, 14 Jan 2013 11:43:48 +0000 prettylizy 503054@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I doubt I'd have this if I was a SAHM. I go back to work in 2 months (sob!) but if I could swing a 4 day work week I would want to spend that extra day with LO for sure. Lozza on "Do you have a regular day to yourself?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-a-regular-day-to-yourself#post-503049 Mon, 14 Jan 2013 11:42:50 +0000 Lozza 503049@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I work 4 days a week from the office, and then Fridays are kind of my flexible day- all my benefits and such are prorated to 80%, but I still get paid for any hours I work on Fridays, and I work from home on Fridays unless I need to be in the office for meetings. I end up typically putting in about 3 hours on Fridays, and have the rest of the day to myself while LO is in daycare. I usually take LO to daycare a little late (sometimes we'll go out for breakfast together, or take the dog on a long walk) and pick him up early, but I use the rest of the time to work out, clean up the house and do laundry, have appointments for myself or anyone/thing else (dentist, vet, waxing, plumber, etc.), and have a little fun free time (the last couple Fridays I've had lunch dates with friends between working and running errands and such). I LOVE my Fridays. I have a long (45-60 minutes each way, more if it rains or is a Friday) commute, and working 5 days a week was just overwhelming. Fridays are often a day for me to catch up on work, so if I have to leave work a little early on Tuesday to get LO, or to make it home in time to have dinner with LO and DH, I don't feel bad. Fridays also allow me to schedule all my appointments so they don't require time off- when I was full-time, I used up SO much of my vacation and sick leave on stuff like doctor and dentist and vet appointments and house stuff, and now I just do all that on Fridays. It also keeps me sane. One of the things I miss most about my pre-baby life is flexibility and getting to do things spontaneously and not being accountable to anyone. Even though my Friday to-do lists are generally such that I only have a couple hours to screw around or do "fun" things, I love being able to decide what I do when. I'm lucky in that it's is pretty common in my office to only work 4 days a week, or to have some kind of similarly alternative work schedule. No one bats an eye if you say you're not in the office on Fridays. Anagram on "Do you have a regular day to yourself?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-a-regular-day-to-yourself#post-503045 Mon, 14 Jan 2013 11:41:30 +0000 Anagram 503045@https://boards.hellobee.com/ well, I'm not a mom yet, and when I am, I'll be a working mom.... But, whatever you do, don't feel guilty! I have a couple of teacher friends who have summer off but still send their LOs to daycare (one sends her two sons full time, one sends her daughter PT in the summer). When I asked what they were going to do all day, they were like, "relax!". One said she was going to concentrate on losing her baby weight. I think if you can, and you don't feel like it's adversely affecting your child, then why not? There's a drop-off program at a church in our city for SAHMs and they take kids for 4 hour periods for only 10$ an hour. I think it's awesome. blackbird on "Do you have a regular day to yourself?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-a-regular-day-to-yourself#post-503034 Mon, 14 Jan 2013 11:37:43 +0000 blackbird 503034@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I don't know anyone who does this on a weekly/regular basis. London Mama on "Do you have a regular day to yourself?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-a-regular-day-to-yourself#post-502913 Mon, 14 Jan 2013 10:54:43 +0000 London Mama 502913@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I'll be working 4 days a week but DS will be at home with me on the 5th day, I wouldn't feel right leaving him in daycare while I did things on my own. Plus I'm taking a 20% salary reduction, and that's not so I can go have my hair done. cascademom on "Do you have a regular day to yourself?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-a-regular-day-to-yourself#post-502826 Mon, 14 Jan 2013 10:37:44 +0000 cascademom 502826@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @autumnlove: I do the same thing too if I get home early. At first, I felt guilty about it, but now it's a chance to get the house squared away before the night becomes all about him. Andrea on "Do you have a regular day to yourself?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-a-regular-day-to-yourself#post-502819 Mon, 14 Jan 2013 10:36:59 +0000 Andrea 502819@https://boards.hellobee.com/ No way. If I don't work, I don't get paid so I would rather work than have a day off. autumnlove on "Do you have a regular day to yourself?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-a-regular-day-to-yourself#post-502817 Mon, 14 Jan 2013 10:36:28 +0000 autumnlove 502817@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Work is my break! LO goes to daycare and I stop working at 3pm but sometimes I don't pick her up until 5 or 6 because I need to get stuff done. lavender on "Do you have a regular day to yourself?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-a-regular-day-to-yourself#post-502777 Mon, 14 Jan 2013 10:28:11 +0000 lavender 502777@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I work 4 days a week but I have LO to myself on Fridays- she comes along with me with errands or my mom looks after her for a couple of hours. Weagle on "Do you have a regular day to yourself?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-a-regular-day-to-yourself#post-502627 Mon, 14 Jan 2013 09:21:54 +0000 Weagle 502627@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Nope. If family lived closer I would be more likely to do this. Being a SAHM is hard for me, even though I love it. I think it wouldn't be a bad idea to do this every other week or so. rachiecakes on "Do you have a regular day to yourself?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-a-regular-day-to-yourself#post-502614 Mon, 14 Jan 2013 09:15:14 +0000 rachiecakes 502614@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Nope. If my family lived closer, I'd have no problem leaving DS with my mom for the afternoon so I could run errands, etc. I work full time and when I get home I'm with DS just about every minute until he goes to bed. yoursilverlining on "Do you have a regular day to yourself?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-a-regular-day-to-yourself#post-502612 Mon, 14 Jan 2013 09:14:07 +0000 yoursilverlining 502612@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Nope – I work 5 days a week and LO goes to daycare 5 days a week. I run a lot of errands on my lunch hour – grocery shopping, store runs, etc. and I don’t find it tough to shop with LO on the weekends if we have to. I just do laundry in the evening or over the weekend too. So far I definitely don’t feel like I would need a day to myself to get those errands done. If I want time alone on the weekend or want to go get my hair/nails done, my husband or parents have no problem taking LO. littlek on "Do you have a regular day to yourself?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-a-regular-day-to-yourself#post-502595 Mon, 14 Jan 2013 09:06:42 +0000 littlek 502595@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Nope, I work 5 days a week and LO goes to daycare 5 days a week. duckduckkristen on "Do you have a regular day to yourself?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-a-regular-day-to-yourself#post-502576 Mon, 14 Jan 2013 08:54:31 +0000 duckduckkristen 502576@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I'm a SAHM and have a sitter for 5 hours one day a week. While LO takes his morning nap I go out for coffee and a bagel by myself, then get stuff done around the house, then go grocery shopping. mamabolt on "Do you have a regular day to yourself?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-a-regular-day-to-yourself#post-502574 Mon, 14 Jan 2013 08:53:12 +0000 mamabolt 502574@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Nope, I work five days a week and I'm not willing to give up a huge chunk of my time with baby and DH on the weekends. I just squeeze in errands when I can during the week or take LO with me. That being said, I definitely can see taking a day off occasionally during the week and still sending her to daycare for part of the day. Sometimes I need a baby-free break! yellowbird on "Do you have a regular day to yourself?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-a-regular-day-to-yourself#post-502552 Mon, 14 Jan 2013 08:34:45 +0000 yellowbird 502552@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Nope! I only work 1/2 day on Fridays and I fly home so I can see my baby!! mediagirl on "Do you have a regular day to yourself?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-a-regular-day-to-yourself#post-502529 Mon, 14 Jan 2013 08:17:43 +0000 mediagirl 502529@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Nope. Honestly? Work is my break. I can get out of the house if I want to - my husband will watch M but I don't often have a want to get out alone. winniebee on "Do you have a regular day to yourself?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-a-regular-day-to-yourself#post-502483 Mon, 14 Jan 2013 07:04:29 +0000 winniebee 502483@https://boards.hellobee.com/ No - I work 4 days but the other day LO is home with me. I took a huge paycut to stay home that extra day and I did it so that I could have extra time with him. I am thinking of taking a day off in the near future and having LO go to daycare so that I can do stuff like get my hair cut, get a wax, get a few errands done If I ever SAHM I would be in favor of sending kiddos to daycare a day a week though. It is HARD to be home with a baby full time - you never get stuff done. lomom on "Do you have a regular day to yourself?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-a-regular-day-to-yourself#post-502482 Mon, 14 Jan 2013 07:02:06 +0000 lomom 502482@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I will be working 3-4 days a week after I return from maternity leave but the daycare we chose doesn't offer part time care. We picked it despite them not offering part-time care because the quality of this center far exceeded the others in the area and the price differential between the center that offered part time care and this one was very minimal, $25 difference. It was worth it to me to pay an extra $25 per week to send LO to a daycare that doesn't use a microwave to heat up bottles. I might send LO there for a few hours once a month on my day off but I don't intend for it to ever be a regular thing. With my job, there is a good chance there will be weeks where I need to work 5 days so the ability to bring LO in during those times is very valuable as well. T-Mom on "Do you have a regular day to yourself?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-a-regular-day-to-yourself#post-502424 Mon, 14 Jan 2013 01:10:49 +0000 T-Mom 502424@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Its definitely nice to get a break. I worked 4 days a week for several months after having DD and it was so awesome. I had her in day care 5 days and would use the free day to grocery shop, run errands, exercise, cook, and also I scheduled all DD's appts on that day too. It really made the weekends better since I didn't have to squeeze errands in and we had more fun outings. I would also pick DD up after nap time on my off day sometimes to go to the library, etc. I had to stop this schedule since I still ended up working 40 hr many weeks, but wasn't getting paid such! I'm trying to get to a 3 day schedule now and am debating my options for child care for DD and DS. As far as the guilt, it made me feel soooo much better that I didn't feel guilty at all. daniellemybelle on "Do you have a regular day to yourself?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-a-regular-day-to-yourself#post-502420 Mon, 14 Jan 2013 01:00:39 +0000 daniellemybelle 502420@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I have a friend who is a SAHM and she has a regular babysitter one day a week so she can run errands, go to appointments, and have time to herself. I definitely understand that because being a mom is a 24/7 job! I think I remember hearing a couple working moms on here too say that they only work 4 days a week, but send their LO to daycare 5 days a week so that they have a day to themselves. Is this pretty common? As a non-mom, it sounds really nice, but I also wonder if I would be the type to feel guilty and nervous to leave my LO when I could be with them.