https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 09 Apr 2026 21:06:46 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-any-residual-resentment-or-anger-towards-the-hospital-where-you-gave-birth/page/2#post-691185 Thu, 04 Apr 2013 10:42:26 +0000 littlebittyhouse 691185@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't didn't have a terrible experience but it wasn't ideal either. I was a quiet laborer so I think I got pushed to the back burner a bit. After I got my epidural I felt really out of it so I am not sure what that is all about. The nurse who coached me pushing and the doctor that caught my LO were amazing though and my pp care was top notch. So really it is just that middle fuzzy part that I struggle with.</p> <p>Sidenote: I attended a breastfeeding group 3x per week after my LO was born and was given the opportunity to be part of a focus group to improve the hospital stay and massive amount of information they give you in those few days. It was a really great experience and I love that that the hospital was being proactive about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-any-residual-resentment-or-anger-towards-the-hospital-where-you-gave-birth/page/2#post-691074 Thu, 04 Apr 2013 10:22:11 +0000 JessiBee 691074@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope, I had a great experience. I actually called the nurse supervisor to give POSITIVE feedback about one of the nurses in particular, who I had for consecutive nights, and who was especially fantastic. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-any-residual-resentment-or-anger-towards-the-hospital-where-you-gave-birth/page/2#post-691000 Thu, 04 Apr 2013 10:10:07 +0000 purrpletulips 691000@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not really from the birth process but a little bit from both post-partum stays. My main complaints was that the lactation consultant didn't come see me until very late into my stay both times (it was at least 30hrs after DD's birth and I was waiting for DH to bring the car around when they showed up after DS); except for one PP nurse, they didn't really offer much help with breastfeeding and several of them just "slammed" DD onto my breast instead of helping me understand a proper latch. My other complaint was that as a second time mom, the nurses were pretty much non-existent whereas my first birth they were in the room all the time if just checking in (some may find this frustrating but I found it comforting). </p> <p>Mr. Bee-I would suggest writing a note to the hospital expressing your concerns. You are obviously not the only one who was negatively impacted by this nurse and if the hospital is not made aware of her behavior nothing can be done. While I don't feel it will result in any policy changes, I mentioned all of my concerns during a post-discharge telephone survey and felt better just having someone at the hospital hear them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-any-residual-resentment-or-anger-towards-the-hospital-where-you-gave-birth/page/2#post-690984 Thu, 04 Apr 2013 10:08:04 +0000 tysonja 690984@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>no, i lovvvvveeddd our hospital and all the doctors and nurses we saw. unfortunately we have to deliver elsewhere this time (we moved), so hopefully it goes well again! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-any-residual-resentment-or-anger-towards-the-hospital-where-you-gave-birth/page/2#post-690953 Thu, 04 Apr 2013 10:04:36 +0000 mrsjazz 690953@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: I didn't either! She was amazing. I found her through my lactation consultant. This therapist left her practice to raise her kids and wants to establish a new one because she let her clinical license expire so she needed to put it a lot of hours so she's also super duper cheap. And she's a lactation consultant, so I got breastfeeding help and help regarding my birth experience. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-any-residual-resentment-or-anger-towards-the-hospital-where-you-gave-birth/page/2#post-690924 Thu, 04 Apr 2013 10:00:51 +0000 mrbee 690924@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsjazz: Wow I didn't realize there were therapists specializing in birth trauma... that's amazing! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-any-residual-resentment-or-anger-towards-the-hospital-where-you-gave-birth/page/2#post-690854 Thu, 04 Apr 2013 09:46:53 +0000 bunnylove08 690854@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes my DH is still angry about what happened to me during labor that he is boycotting the hospital. When I received a survey on my experience I wrote out everything and I dont know if it makes a difference it made me feel better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-any-residual-resentment-or-anger-towards-the-hospital-where-you-gave-birth/page/2#post-690820 Thu, 04 Apr 2013 09:40:43 +0000 mamabolt 690820@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a pretty positive birth but did have issues with one of the overnight nursery nurses. She brought me LO to feed and then when LO fell asleep feeding told me I didn't feed her long enough and to try and wake her up, and then left the room. I couldn't get LO to wake up and eat and was freaking out. When she came back I was crying and she felt terrible about it, so hopefully she learned from it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-any-residual-resentment-or-anger-towards-the-hospital-where-you-gave-birth/page/2#post-690639 Thu, 04 Apr 2013 09:04:40 +0000 mrsjazz 690639@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I used to have a ton of resentment, but then when I was working with a therapist who specializes in birth trauma, I realized my resentment wasn't at the hospital but just at my overall birth experience. Everyone in the hospital, the nurses, doctors, LCs, were all great to me (except for the fact that some of the doctors were looking at a delivery menu while I was on the table for my C-section and taking orders)...I just should have researched the transfer hospital more. I never realized that our birth center's transfer hospital just happened to be the hospital with the most births in New York State...so that place was a baby madhouse. No private rooms, heck I was in labor and they had no room for me! So I was stuck in a small triage room for hours.</p> <p>I will never go back to that hospital because I prefer to not be one of a bazillion ladies giving birth at the same time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-any-residual-resentment-or-anger-towards-the-hospital-where-you-gave-birth/page/2#post-690560 Thu, 04 Apr 2013 08:50:03 +0000 prettylizy 690560@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>There was one nurse who was a bit of a beast, but I'm sure my 2 page birth plan was a bit off putting! lol! Other than that everyone was awesome and I have no real complaints about our care. I plan to have a midwife next time instead of an OB, and am sort of hoping to have a homebirth if I can get DH on board. My biggest beef was the 'schedule' after she was born. 4 hours PP, bath time..... even if that's 4 in the morning :S Seriously guys, the bath can wait. I'm tired! lol! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-any-residual-resentment-or-anger-towards-the-hospital-where-you-gave-birth#post-690509 Thu, 04 Apr 2013 08:39:54 +0000 MamaMoose 690509@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a wonderful experience at my hospital. There is another hospital in town that is kind of known as the baby hospital but I tell everyone they should go where I went because it was so great.</p> <p>But oddly enough my delivery nurse and both of my post partum nurses were ALL pregnant! So that may have given them more empathy for me. I don't know if that was part of it or not but they were all wonderful. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-any-residual-resentment-or-anger-towards-the-hospital-where-you-gave-birth#post-690453 Thu, 04 Apr 2013 08:28:56 +0000 MsLipGloss 690453@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: The labor nurse's name is very likely in Mrs. Bee's medical records . . . you could request a copy. </p> <p>My birth experience wasn't ideal (and really, it was the pp portion that was the most lacking . . . I could have done without the 5 million nurses, students, residents, etc. in the delivery room, but everyone who was in there was great). . . Out of everyone though, my experience with the hospital's LC is the one that makes me the most angry. She was rude, condescending, ridiculously negative, and caused more problems for me BFing than I had before I met with her.</p> <p>ETA: Makes me wonder if (1) she everBF, and (2) whether she had a bad experience BFing and is (sub)consciously transferring that resentment to new mothers. Come to think of it, she never mentioned anything about her personal experience. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-any-residual-resentment-or-anger-towards-the-hospital-where-you-gave-birth#post-690441 Thu, 04 Apr 2013 08:26:44 +0000 pelikila 690441@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We didn't love the baby nurse we were assigned post partum for the two days we were there but it wasn't a bad experience. Overall, we were happy with everything. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-any-residual-resentment-or-anger-towards-the-hospital-where-you-gave-birth#post-690410 Thu, 04 Apr 2013 08:20:26 +0000 mediagirl 690410@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh no, I loved our hospital and all of the nurses I ran into. I wish the lactation consultants would have spent more time with me but I know they were busy with other moms, as well. Friends of mine used to talk down about the hospital I gave birth in (before I gave birth there). I couldn't imagine having a more wonderful experience anywhere else. Shoot, I want to write a letter to my hospital thanking them!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-any-residual-resentment-or-anger-towards-the-hospital-where-you-gave-birth#post-690217 Thu, 04 Apr 2013 07:12:01 +0000 LemonLong 690217@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was lucky. My experience was great! There's a newer fancier hospital just built in town and most people seem to want to deliver there. We choose the older hospital though for its baby friendly policies and I'm glad we did! We had no complaints at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-any-residual-resentment-or-anger-towards-the-hospital-where-you-gave-birth#post-690206 Thu, 04 Apr 2013 07:05:44 +0000 Mrs. Twine 690206@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mine's strange; I'm actually mad at the local hospital. They sent us 14 miles in the other direction because they were too "busy" to take the transfer. I know they got in trouble for it, but it made me mad because during the whole preparation for my HBAC I received concurrent care with the local hospital in case I needed to transfer! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-any-residual-resentment-or-anger-towards-the-hospital-where-you-gave-birth#post-690195 Thu, 04 Apr 2013 07:00:56 +0000 dagret 690195@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The only weird thing was our l&amp;d nurse went on a semi rant about how she left her church bc the pastor came out as gay. I normally would say something but I kept my mouth shut...other than that she was a very good nurse. </p> <p>The one LC was a whack job, but I think everyone I know has bad a bad experience with a hospital LC. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-any-residual-resentment-or-anger-towards-the-hospital-where-you-gave-birth#post-690162 Thu, 04 Apr 2013 06:32:40 +0000 tequiero21 690162@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No complaints. We had a good delivery. Was really glad I went to the hospital post renovations.</p> <p>Btw, if the nurses are on union, nothing u say or do will do anything. So annoying. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-any-residual-resentment-or-anger-towards-the-hospital-where-you-gave-birth#post-690161 Thu, 04 Apr 2013 06:31:20 +0000 Dandelion 690161@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't like one nurse that I had one night. She was a nutcase, and drove me crazy cause she kept having to fidget with me during my contractions, when I was trying to concentrate. I have an arsenal of things I couldn't stand about her and the crazy things that spewed out of her mouth.</p> <p>I couldn't stand the midwife that attended me, either. She wasn't my regular midwife, but one with hospital privileges. She really talks down her nose at everyone, including me. The crazy part, though, is that I'm forever stuck with her for my prenatal care, if I have more babies, cause she has actually been through (as a mother) the same things I have been, so even though she talks down her nose at people, she's been there. It's a weird relationship we're embarking on. I hate her, but respect her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-any-residual-resentment-or-anger-towards-the-hospital-where-you-gave-birth#post-690139 Thu, 04 Apr 2013 05:45:45 +0000 illumina 690139@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: Did she do the presentation? I would be so nervous if I had to do something like that!</p> <p>(completely unrelated - did you have a nice holiday?) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-any-residual-resentment-or-anger-towards-the-hospital-where-you-gave-birth#post-690138 Thu, 04 Apr 2013 05:43:19 +0000 Cherrybee 690138@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A friend of a friend of mine was so upset following her birth experience, she wrote to the hospital to complain. Long story short (she wasn't letting the complaint drop), she was invited into the hospital to meet with the Chief Executive, which led to her being invited into the ward to give a presentation to all the nurses and labour ward staff about her experience! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-any-residual-resentment-or-anger-towards-the-hospital-where-you-gave-birth#post-690128 Thu, 04 Apr 2013 05:06:40 +0000 LittleFox 690128@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Only a little. I started to fee intense pain even with the epidural, which I guess means it wasn't working right. I kept getting told I "shouldn't" feel pain, which left me in an odd place because I was feeling it and didn't know what to do. I was really vocal while I was hurting so much, and my nurse (who was nice for most of labor) told me I wouldn't be able to "whine" once I got to the pushing stage. It made me feel pretty down on myself, like the labor (over 24 hours of back labor by that point) must not be that bad and I was just such a whiny wimp I couldn't handle it and that's why I was in pain. Then when I got the c section I felt bad about it, too, like maybe it was because they could see I just wasn't strong enough to handle it. Logically I'm sure that isn't true. LO was really low for a long time, and I had a cervical lip that I couldn't push past (then fetal distress). I think the nurse was trying tough love, but it sure wasn't what I needed to hear. It was also hard because I felt like nobody took me seriously about the epidural. It worked at first, but after a while I felt all the contractions but couldn't feel/move my legs. Doesn't that mean something wasn't going right? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-any-residual-resentment-or-anger-towards-the-hospital-where-you-gave-birth#post-690092 Thu, 04 Apr 2013 03:42:27 +0000 Tidybee 690092@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Given I spent my second night there without power and running water and had to walk down 13 stories in the dark to be evacuated, I'm a little bitter that I didn't get to enjoy recovery time with DD but it was beyond the control of any of us or the staff. They did the best they could in an emergency situation so I can't be too angry with them.<br /> Note - I was at NYU hospital during hurricane sandy but thankfully DD and I were healthy enough that we were literally the second to last family evacuated. But we watched it all happen throughout the night. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-any-residual-resentment-or-anger-towards-the-hospital-where-you-gave-birth#post-690049 Thu, 04 Apr 2013 02:01:52 +0000 loveisstrange 690049@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A little, yes, but mostly from the care post-partum rather than the actual labor and delivery. I hold some major resentment about how I was treated when I started giving C formula by one of the ward managers. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-any-residual-resentment-or-anger-towards-the-hospital-where-you-gave-birth#post-690028 Thu, 04 Apr 2013 01:00:29 +0000 cyndistar3 690028@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have a ton of resentment towards the hospital where #2 was born! First: the anesthesiologist hit a nerve and it took 5 tries to get the spinal block in... Second: the doctor who did my c-section didn't lift up my baby to show her to me. Third: the nurses (as nice as they were) kept forgetting about me and I didn't get to get up for quite a while and I didn't get a shower for almost 2 days after. Oh yea and on top of it all the ped there was a total jerk face. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-any-residual-resentment-or-anger-towards-the-hospital-where-you-gave-birth#post-690016 Thu, 04 Apr 2013 00:19:53 +0000 ladyfingers 690016@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We absolutely loved our hospital, midwife, and all the nurses. We had a fantastic experience! That being said, the on-call lc the 3 days we were there was a mental midget who had no clue why LO wasn't latching and suggested pumping. Turns out he was just sleeping and ended up eating about an hour later. Then she would come in and just shove him on my boob and offer no guidance or instruction for getting him to latch properly. Even our nurse was irritated with her (and was infinitely more helpful). Thankfully a different lc came on a routine visit a few hours before we were discharged and was SO helpful. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-any-residual-resentment-or-anger-towards-the-hospital-where-you-gave-birth#post-689932 Wed, 03 Apr 2013 22:38:34 +0000 mrsmenow 689932@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I work atthe hospital that i delivered at and my postpartum nurse was terrible. She did not follow a lot of policies ~never assessed my bleeding in a 12 hour shift, signed of on a narcotic count that was never done,etc. I am still figuring out the best course of action here.</p> <p>The rest ofthe staff was great. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-any-residual-resentment-or-anger-towards-the-hospital-where-you-gave-birth#post-689921 Wed, 03 Apr 2013 22:32:14 +0000 erwoo 689921@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sorry you guys had such a bad experience, especially as first time parents. I was pretty lucky both times went quite smoothly with all really nice nurses and support postpartum. I thought I didn't like this one postpartum nurse but she ended up helping me the most with nursing so in the end she wasn't all that bad. And we saw her again when we had number two. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-any-residual-resentment-or-anger-towards-the-hospital-where-you-gave-birth#post-689899 Wed, 03 Apr 2013 22:22:57 +0000 travelgirl1 689899@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not for the actual delivery but the nurse in the recovery room after the c-section didn't understand why I wanted to try breastfeed straight away then gave me a syringe full of formula and said I wouldn't have any colustrum and to drop the milk on my nipple to tempt her to feed. I now know this was bullsh*t and I shouldn't have listened at all. Pretty pissed about that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-any-residual-resentment-or-anger-towards-the-hospital-where-you-gave-birth#post-689897 Wed, 03 Apr 2013 22:20:36 +0000 photojane 689897@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, thank goodness! I absolutely loved everything about my birth experience - especially my L+D nurse. I know that's rare, so I'm very thankful. </p>