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Hellobee Boards Topic: Do you have assigned tasks? https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 11 Apr 2026 23:02:10 +0000 gingerbebe on "Do you have assigned tasks?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-assigned-tasks#post-2150054 Mon, 20 Apr 2015 13:12:30 +0000 gingerbebe 2150054@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We have assigned tasks but obviously the other takes over as needed. DH does water jug replacement, garbage/trash, diaper genie cleanout, bottle wash, first feeding of the day for DS, bath for DS, most diapers and bottles on weekends, and vacuuming. He also pays all the bills and handles car maintenance. I do all shopping and cooking/food, including a good bit of couponing, majority of the childcare while I'm maternity leave, bathrooms, handiwork/small home repairs, prepping and cleaning the house and cooking for our weekly Bible study. I buy all our clothing, manage all the holidays and gifts, and manage all travel related tasks. We split laundry and dishes pretty evenly. peaches1038 on "Do you have assigned tasks?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-assigned-tasks#post-2149930 Mon, 20 Apr 2015 12:21:10 +0000 peaches1038 2149930@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We have assigned tasks but will help each other out as needed. He does the majority of the cooking and all the dishes and I do all the laundry, vacuuming, mopping, dusting and cleaning the bathroom. He also does the litter now that I'm pregnant. We do grocery shopping together. We live in an apartment, so there are no outside chores. I find that it really reduces feelings of resentment or "I always do more". It's fair and it works for us. Torchwood on "Do you have assigned tasks?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-assigned-tasks#post-2149866 Mon, 20 Apr 2015 11:48:53 +0000 Torchwood 2149866@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I'm a housewife, so most of the house stuff falls on me. I'll be a SAHM, so to some degree the same when LO is here. That being said, he handles a few things that for no good reason just annoy me to do (like unloading the dishwasher), and all of the yard work (he likes it, and I hate it, so it makes sense). It's not official though, just the way things work out. When I was working, we usually picked a day to get a big block of cleaning done, and we'd just each pick a task, do it, pick another, etc. It would tend to work out the same every time due to preference. petunia354 on "Do you have assigned tasks?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-assigned-tasks#post-2149800 Mon, 20 Apr 2015 10:52:43 +0000 petunia354 2149800@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I do most of the cooking and cleaning, he does all of the lawn and outdoor maintenance except for the garden, that's my responsibility. He also takes out the trash. It's just worked out that way over the years, we never really hashed out who was going to do what. mrsjyw on "Do you have assigned tasks?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-assigned-tasks#post-2149709 Mon, 20 Apr 2015 10:00:27 +0000 mrsjyw 2149709@https://boards.hellobee.com/ In general, I do mostly indoor (cook, laundry), DH does mostly outdoor (Lawn cutting, snow shoveling, trash). We both clean/organize as needed and vaccum, grocery shop, etc. littlebug on "Do you have assigned tasks?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-assigned-tasks#post-2149690 Mon, 20 Apr 2015 09:43:38 +0000 littlebug 2149690@https://boards.hellobee.com/ It's basically get it done when it needs to be done. He tends to do more of the outdoor maintenance, as far as mowing and edging and trimming. I do all of the shopping and the majority of the cooking. He does his own laundry, and I do mine and D's, plus the diapers. But everything is kind of done by who notices it needs to be done and who has the time to spare (ha). nana87 on "Do you have assigned tasks?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-assigned-tasks#post-2149681 Mon, 20 Apr 2015 09:37:56 +0000 nana87 2149681@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We have assigned tasks for most stuff, sort of by default--I think we might have discussed it several years ago! But we'll both do stuff as needed as well. WinterBee on "Do you have assigned tasks?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-assigned-tasks#post-2149616 Mon, 20 Apr 2015 08:47:41 +0000 WinterBee 2149616@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Applesandbananas: We don't have assigned tasks, but we have certain things that one or the other does more often. DH takes out trash and recycling 99% of the time. I do 99% of the cleaning in the house, but DH cooks a lot. I do most of the grocery shopping, but DH will stop if he thinks we need something/I ask. We both do a lot of laundry. It ends up evening out. I don't feel like I do more or he does more. It works for us. :) Smurfette on "Do you have assigned tasks?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-assigned-tasks#post-2149602 Mon, 20 Apr 2015 08:37:43 +0000 Smurfette 2149602@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Just kind of an unspoken rule. Like he always does the yard and the grill. But if it is something outside like trimming the bushes or leaves, I will help if weather is permitting for LO to be outside with us. I usually do all the laundry and grocery shopping, but he does help out too. I was gone all weekend and I got back yesterday and he had done the grocery shopping for the week and all the laundry, while solo parenting. I really appreciated it. snowjewelz on "Do you have assigned tasks?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-assigned-tasks#post-2149595 Mon, 20 Apr 2015 08:33:20 +0000 snowjewelz 2149595@https://boards.hellobee.com/ The general rule is I take care of the inside, he takes care of the outside. When I was pregnant, he took over vacuuming b/c the Dyson Animal is soo great, but soo heavy! So I think that job went permanently to him haha. Mamaof2 on "Do you have assigned tasks?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-assigned-tasks#post-2149577 Mon, 20 Apr 2015 08:21:54 +0000 Mamaof2 2149577@https://boards.hellobee.com/ we do! Alivoo01 on "Do you have assigned tasks?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-assigned-tasks#post-2149575 Mon, 20 Apr 2015 08:21:19 +0000 Alivoo01 2149575@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Divide and conquer, but there's some things that kind of became our assigned tasks by default. Like baths, nail clippings, storytime are mommy tasks. mediagirl on "Do you have assigned tasks?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-assigned-tasks#post-2149553 Mon, 20 Apr 2015 08:00:06 +0000 mediagirl 2149553@https://boards.hellobee.com/ They're not really assigned but for the most part: He: does any yard stuff, vacuums, sweeps the floor, takes out the trash. I: do laundry, dust, windows, bathrooms, cook and keep the rooms tidy. Together: Grocery shop and split the dishes. Adira on "Do you have assigned tasks?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-assigned-tasks#post-2149546 Mon, 20 Apr 2015 07:53:02 +0000 Adira 2149546@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I think it's more an unspoken agreement (or we've just fallen into these roles over time). Hubs usually starts the dishwasher and unloads the dishes, takes out the trash and recycling, snowblows and shovels, etc. But I've done all these things too. I'm the one that goes grocery shopping, prepares the kids food, does the kids laundry, cooks dinner most nights, etc. Then we both split other tasks: cleaning, washing sheets and towels, lawn care maintenance, etc. looch on "Do you have assigned tasks?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-assigned-tasks#post-2149485 Mon, 20 Apr 2015 06:21:14 +0000 looch 2149485@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We've fallen into a routine that works really well for us, the main thing is that we have a house cleaner that does the deep cleaning twice a month. In betweeen, we both do what needs to get done. I do the laundry exculsively though. I also have time set aside to iron while my husband is out grocery shopping. youboots on "Do you have assigned tasks?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-assigned-tasks#post-2149466 Mon, 20 Apr 2015 04:45:34 +0000 youboots 2149466@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We have assigned tasks. I do laundry, cooking, grocery shopping. He will pitch in if needed. He takes care of everything outside- lawn, watering, trash. I will take over when he's out of town- but don't mow. We work together on general picking up and the kitchen. We have a 1/mo Housecleaner who does all of our deep cleaning. Works for us. Ree723 on "Do you have assigned tasks?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-assigned-tasks#post-2149461 Mon, 20 Apr 2015 03:15:42 +0000 Ree723 2149461@https://boards.hellobee.com/ No assigned tasks - we both do what needs to be done when it needs to be done. Sometimes that means DH is doing the laundry whilst I'm building a bookshelf, and sometimes that means I'm cleaning the bathroom whilst DH is outside mowing the lawn. No real roles here and it works for us as DH is very hands on around the house, despite working very long hours. Corduroy on "Do you have assigned tasks?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-assigned-tasks#post-2149452 Mon, 20 Apr 2015 01:48:03 +0000 Corduroy 2149452@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Usually we do what needs to get done. However I'm in my 3rd trimester with #2 and not shy about asking for trades/help. DH is getting more chores every week. Mrs. High Heels on "Do you have assigned tasks?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-assigned-tasks#post-2149448 Mon, 20 Apr 2015 01:17:07 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 2149448@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I recently made one and it's hanging on our fridge! It's made a huge difference since we implemented it. Love it! Mae on "Do you have assigned tasks?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-assigned-tasks#post-2149366 Sun, 19 Apr 2015 21:14:18 +0000 Mae 2149366@https://boards.hellobee.com/ He does trash and yard maintenance. I do laundry and all shopping (including food). Otherwise we mostly do as needs done. ShootingStar on "Do you have assigned tasks?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-assigned-tasks#post-2149307 Sun, 19 Apr 2015 20:27:38 +0000 ShootingStar 2149307@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We have a lot of stuff that over the years have kind of become de facto assigned. It makes it a lot easier to me because I feel like things are pretty even this way. blackbird on "Do you have assigned tasks?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-assigned-tasks#post-2149290 Sun, 19 Apr 2015 20:14:28 +0000 blackbird 2149290@https://boards.hellobee.com/ As needed mostly, but we do fall into some specific roles. DH does trash, for example. But I won't not take it out if it needs it. Anagram on "Do you have assigned tasks?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-assigned-tasks#post-2149246 Sun, 19 Apr 2015 19:44:29 +0000 Anagram 2149246@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Divide and conquer. But I tend to do more food prep and DH tends to do more bath time. T.H.O.U. on "Do you have assigned tasks?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-assigned-tasks#post-2149235 Sun, 19 Apr 2015 19:37:30 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2149235@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pretty much an unspoken ownership and then we trade as we need breaks. Applesandbananas on "Do you have assigned tasks?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-assigned-tasks#post-2149234 Sun, 19 Apr 2015 19:36:17 +0000 Applesandbananas 2149234@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Do you have assigned tasks or do you guys just divide and conquer as needed?