Hellobee Boards Topic: Do you have help from family financially? Do you help family?

Hellobee Boards Topic: Do you have help from family financially? Do you help family? https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 26 May 2026 07:47:35 +0000 fairy on "Do you have help from family financially? Do you help family?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-help-from-family-financially-do-you-help-family/page/2#post-1996739 Tue, 23 Dec 2014 23:49:50 +0000 fairy 1996739@https://boards.hellobee.com/ No help from family here other than a loan from SIL a few years ago that we paid back the next month, but we have helped family members. In fact, my MIL is moving in with us soon because she is in a really bad financial position and it is about to get worse. So we are going to fix her house up and she is moving in with us for the time being. I don't think I would feel right accepting financial help from family - even when we were poverty-line broke while DH was finishing school we still held our own. 808love on "Do you have help from family financially? Do you help family?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-help-from-family-financially-do-you-help-family/page/2#post-1996679 Tue, 23 Dec 2014 22:10:32 +0000 808love 1996679@https://boards.hellobee.com/ No, but I usually get a monetary birthday and Christmas gift. My dad gives me some $ when I see him, which is rarely since he lives far away. I treated my mom to some big stuff at Disneyland this year but then again, she covered the hotel for a few days. BSB on "Do you have help from family financially? Do you help family?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-help-from-family-financially-do-you-help-family/page/2#post-1985010 Mon, 15 Dec 2014 12:10:06 +0000 BSB 1985010@https://boards.hellobee.com/ A few years ago we needed some financial help but we've since paid them back and luckily, have not needed to ask for it again. I do help my parents out but it's very minor (like cell phone bill because both my parents are on my family plan). There are other issues with my parent's finances but that is due to my dad's fault. I will help my mom out but not my dad. anonysquire on "Do you have help from family financially? Do you help family?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-help-from-family-financially-do-you-help-family/page/2#post-1985003 Mon, 15 Dec 2014 12:04:40 +0000 anonysquire 1985003@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Oh and my husband's mother has asked for money often and I've always said no. It w oukd be different if she wasn't an alcoholic. anonysquire on "Do you have help from family financially? Do you help family?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-help-from-family-financially-do-you-help-family/page/2#post-1985001 Mon, 15 Dec 2014 12:03:13 +0000 anonysquire 1985001@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Yes. My parents are very generous. I mean we pay all our own bills except we have company cell phones so my dad pays those. But they bought our house. And they take us on trips and give us fun money a lot and feed us. Haha I might die when they leave me to serve a LDS mission. And we don't ask or need the help, but they are just super generous and caring people. .twist. on "Do you have help from family financially? Do you help family?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-help-from-family-financially-do-you-help-family/page/2#post-1984967 Mon, 15 Dec 2014 11:45:27 +0000 .twist. 1984967@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Currently, no. Have we ever? Yes. As a married couple, we have never needed financial aid. However, both our parents have offered to help from time to time for various things. We have paid them back every time. My Only Sunshine on "Do you have help from family financially? Do you help family?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-help-from-family-financially-do-you-help-family/page/2#post-1984958 Mon, 15 Dec 2014 11:39:47 +0000 My Only Sunshine 1984958@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Our moms both offered to watch our daughter for 2 days each during the week when I went back to work part time and both refuse payment. We get them occasional gift cards but it has absolutely saved us a ton of money in child care expenses! Astro Bee on "Do you have help from family financially? Do you help family?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-help-from-family-financially-do-you-help-family/page/2#post-1984804 Mon, 15 Dec 2014 10:38:18 +0000 Astro Bee 1984804@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My husband and I are both financially comfortable and have been since before we met, so we don't receive help from our parents. Other than my parents paying for my wedding dress and his parents paying for the rehearsal dinner (they both wanted to because it's tradition, but it wasn't necessary), we paid for our own wedding. Same goes for car and housing cost. If I stretch way back, my parents paid for a few flights home during college. We do help my ILs out a lot financially, however, with large interest-free loans. I also gave them my car when I bought a new one this fall. I've also helped my brother out a few times with flights for Christmas, and seed money when his apmt burned down (without insurance). We did say no to my BIL and his wife when they asked us to co-sign their mortgage this fall. We'd just found out we were expecting, and we didn't feel that they were financially prepared to own a home, especially a major fixer upper. We did help out with their wedding, though, and I imagine we'll help my brother too, when the time comes. Shutterbug on "Do you have help from family financially? Do you help family?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-help-from-family-financially-do-you-help-family/page/2#post-1984771 Mon, 15 Dec 2014 10:26:45 +0000 Shutterbug 1984771@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My parents helped pay for college (but I still have student loans), and paid for maybe 20% of my wedding, but that's it. We make more than they do now, so I would feel ridiculous getting financial assistance from them. My ILs have never helped us financially. artsyfartsy on "Do you have help from family financially? Do you help family?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-help-from-family-financially-do-you-help-family/page/2#post-1984756 Mon, 15 Dec 2014 10:20:12 +0000 artsyfartsy 1984756@https://boards.hellobee.com/ my dad bought us a new washing machine when ours bit the dust a couple of months ago. We really couldn't affoed to replace it and he graciously offered. And that's the only time we've ever been helped financially by family. Sapphiresun on "Do you have help from family financially? Do you help family?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-help-from-family-financially-do-you-help-family/page/2#post-1984745 Mon, 15 Dec 2014 10:13:58 +0000 Sapphiresun 1984745@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Not out of necessity... We were given an interest free loan from DH's parents when we bought our condo, but that's long paid back. However, when we go to visit them, they usually leave some money on the nightstand in the guest room "to help with the costs" of getting there. Not a lot, and we've tried to refuse it... but no go. In the past though they've loaned us money for school (fully paid back) and gave us money for our wedding. LaughLines on "Do you have help from family financially? Do you help family?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-help-from-family-financially-do-you-help-family/page/2#post-1984726 Mon, 15 Dec 2014 10:01:16 +0000 LaughLines 1984726@https://boards.hellobee.com/ DH and I are extremely careful with our money, both being in finance/accounting fields, and have never really needed assistance from our parents since graduating/getting married. We both had our full schooling paid for (even DH's masters) and my parents paid for most of our wedding. Not having student debt has allowed us to be able to afford our own down payments, etc, that we may not have been able to otherwise. However, both of us have sisters and both of our sisters are less financially stable. Both of our parents help out our sisters in ways they don't help us. Gas, car insurance, flights home for holidays when they don't buy us flights, etc. It's a little annoying that just because we're super responsible and always saving / working hard on our home business and becoming financially stable on our own that we don't get some of those "perks". I know my parents could afford to pay for our flights, too, but know they don't have to with us. And DH's sister bought a car WAYYYYY too expensive for her level of income, so she can't afford to pay for the insurance on it, and her parents cover it. We have cars that are much less expensive than hers (and much less nice) but we pay for them AND the insurance on them (and gas, maintenance, new tires, etc, which she doesn't). I don't mean to sound bitter, i'm glad we're financially independent. Just a little annoying sometimes :) illumina on "Do you have help from family financially? Do you help family?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-help-from-family-financially-do-you-help-family/page/2#post-1984695 Mon, 15 Dec 2014 09:47:56 +0000 illumina 1984695@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Not regularly and only for major things like education, wedding, deposit for house, expensive items of furniture. My parents also contribute to a savings account for LO. I wouldn't be opposed to helping out family, though I have never done so other than giving holiday vouchers and nice wedding gifts. ElbieKay on "Do you have help from family financially? Do you help family?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-help-from-family-financially-do-you-help-family/page/2#post-1984686 Mon, 15 Dec 2014 09:42:43 +0000 ElbieKay 1984686@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My parents paid for my college education. They also gave us a generous wedding gift that covered more than the cost of their guests. And now they watch our son (their first grandchild) two afternoons per week, which shaves 20% off the cost of childcare for us. LuLu Mom on "Do you have help from family financially? Do you help family?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-help-from-family-financially-do-you-help-family/page/2#post-1984682 Mon, 15 Dec 2014 09:41:55 +0000 LuLu Mom 1984682@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My in laws always give us large birthday/Christmas gifts (cash) but it's not something we count on when budgeting. We will occasionally get random checks in the mail as well, they say they are trying to "get rid of cash" for the end of the year (they farm and have particular taxing rules) fancyfunction on "Do you have help from family financially? Do you help family?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-help-from-family-financially-do-you-help-family/page/2#post-1984674 Mon, 15 Dec 2014 09:37:40 +0000 fancyfunction 1984674@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My parents give us and M very generous monetary gifts, because they want to and also to help disperse their funds. JennyG on "Do you have help from family financially? Do you help family?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-help-from-family-financially-do-you-help-family/page/2#post-1984657 Mon, 15 Dec 2014 09:28:09 +0000 JennyG 1984657@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We bought a house at an auction recently and needed to come up with some serious cash in only 10 days time. Luckily, we knew that both my and DH's parents were more than willing to help us out until we can get a home equity loan in 6 months. Typically, they help us out by being too generous. We don't need it, but as both my dad and DH's mom say, you can't take it with you. They'd rather share it with us now then wait to give it to us as inheritance. SugarplumsMom on "Do you have help from family financially? Do you help family?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-help-from-family-financially-do-you-help-family/page/2#post-1984641 Mon, 15 Dec 2014 09:18:48 +0000 SugarplumsMom 1984641@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Nope bunnylove08 on "Do you have help from family financially? Do you help family?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-help-from-family-financially-do-you-help-family/page/2#post-1887715 Fri, 03 Oct 2014 12:38:38 +0000 bunnylove08 1887715@https://boards.hellobee.com/ no alohaorchid on "Do you have help from family financially? Do you help family?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-help-from-family-financially-do-you-help-family/page/2#post-1887666 Fri, 03 Oct 2014 12:21:02 +0000 alohaorchid 1887666@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Not a thing. I wouldn't take anything even if it was offered, I can take care of myself jsut fine and don't need the strings that would come attached. plantains on "Do you have help from family financially? Do you help family?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-help-from-family-financially-do-you-help-family/page/2#post-1887622 Fri, 03 Oct 2014 12:06:18 +0000 plantains 1887622@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Yes, MIL gave us some money towards our downpayment and she funds DDs 529. namaste on "Do you have help from family financially? Do you help family?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-help-from-family-financially-do-you-help-family/page/2#post-1887610 Fri, 03 Oct 2014 11:58:42 +0000 namaste 1887610@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Nope but we have given because we'll never get that money back. We try to give when we can but both our families are a little expecting when it comes to giving help. snowjewelz on "Do you have help from family financially? Do you help family?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-help-from-family-financially-do-you-help-family/page/2#post-1887300 Fri, 03 Oct 2014 09:48:12 +0000 snowjewelz 1887300@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Yes - my in-laws gifted us a large sum of money as part of our downpayment for our house. My parents did the same, and they actually paid for most of our house so I pay them "mortgage". But they've been so generous since I've been pregnant and wanting to pay for a lot of things so I'm super thankful! Mrs. Lemon-Lime on "Do you have help from family financially? Do you help family?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-help-from-family-financially-do-you-help-family/page/2#post-1887230 Fri, 03 Oct 2014 09:15:51 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 1887230@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Our families do not help us financially. Mr. Lime has given his mom money since we have been married; I have done the same for my dad. Mr. Lime gave his extra car to his brother for free. We even paid for the routine maintenance & surprise repairs right before handing over the keys. mrsjyw on "Do you have help from family financially? Do you help family?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-help-from-family-financially-do-you-help-family/page/2#post-1887220 Fri, 03 Oct 2014 09:07:13 +0000 mrsjyw 1887220@https://boards.hellobee.com/ ILs are very generous with their "special occasion" gifts. We (and my brother) help my parents with bills. oliviaoblivia on "Do you have help from family financially? Do you help family?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-help-from-family-financially-do-you-help-family/page/2#post-1887216 Fri, 03 Oct 2014 09:06:26 +0000 oliviaoblivia 1887216@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Kind of. We don't ask for our expect anything but my parents are very generous with gifts and vacations. FIL had started disbursing his estate for tax reasons so we have received some cash. It goes directly into savings, education funds, or home repairs. We definitely love within our means, but appreciate the extras that family generosity allow for every now and then. edelweiss on "Do you have help from family financially? Do you help family?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-help-from-family-financially-do-you-help-family/page/2#post-1887149 Fri, 03 Oct 2014 08:33:24 +0000 edelweiss 1887149@https://boards.hellobee.com/ my parents tend to give cash as gifts for various occasions, but it's not something we rely on as part of our income. we haven't provided financial assistance to family members. Mamaof2 on "Do you have help from family financially? Do you help family?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-help-from-family-financially-do-you-help-family/page/2#post-1887120 Fri, 03 Oct 2014 08:22:45 +0000 Mamaof2 1887120@https://boards.hellobee.com/ sort of I have asked my mom to front me money for a few things and then when the time comes she wont let me pay her back jhd on "Do you have help from family financially? Do you help family?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-help-from-family-financially-do-you-help-family/page/2#post-1887113 Fri, 03 Oct 2014 08:17:26 +0000 jhd 1887113@https://boards.hellobee.com/ No and no. But both grandmothers love to buy things for LO like clothes, shoes, books, etc. loveisstrange on "Do you have help from family financially? Do you help family?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-help-from-family-financially-do-you-help-family#post-1887104 Fri, 03 Oct 2014 08:10:40 +0000 loveisstrange 1887104@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Not financially, but my mom does babysit when I need her to. Working a 2.5 year old around 2 full-time college schedules is challenging sometimes.