https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 08 May 2026 00:24:47 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-mom-friends-irl#post-2572877 Wed, 22 Jun 2016 23:08:45 +0000 ALV91711 2572877@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have no mom friends. I pretty much have no friends were we live. I chit chat with moms on the block when the kids are playing outside.</p> <p>I recently found out from DH that a mom I went to a baby group with lives at the end of our block. Our boys were born the same day. She was nice and I have hopes that we could get to know each other. But I'm such an introvert that it will be hard. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-mom-friends-irl#post-2572868 Wed, 22 Jun 2016 22:24:29 +0000 PinkElephant 2572868@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes. I moved to this neighborhood after living overseas for 8 years, so I was starting from scratch...and already had two kids. So really, life has only presented me with the opportunity to make friends with moms in my current location. I have people I'm friendly with but not close to who arent moms, and a few old friends from my pre-kids life, but don't see them much! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-mom-friends-irl#post-2572853 Wed, 22 Jun 2016 21:42:22 +0000 Foodnerd81 2572853@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I do and it's a life saver. I have some friends that I was already friends with and now we are all moms, including some I've become much closer with since having kids. But I also met a bunch of moms when I did a mommy and me class when my older one was 6 weeks old. I really connected with a bunch of them and several have become really good friends- like I can text venting about my day, or call in a pinch when child care falls through, or once, call and ask to use their potty on our way somewhere else! (Oh potty training). I feel so so lucky that I met them when I did, because our LOs were all in the same stages AND when they were little we could actually talk to each other at play dates. We still get together more than 2 years later but there is a lot of conversation interruptions from the toddlers! </p> <p>That said 1) I actually put in a lot of effort to meet people and befriend them because I knew it was important for me not to go crazy; and 2) I SAH so we so midweek play dates to fill the time and socialize the kids as well as ourselves. It's so much harder to coordinate schedules when you only have the weekends. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-mom-friends-irl#post-2572827 Wed, 22 Jun 2016 21:04:43 +0000 Coffee-lover 2572827@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I dont. Im a introvert and its hard. Everytime I think I can make mom friends it seems as though they all already have their own circle of mom friends. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-mom-friends-irl#post-2572812 Wed, 22 Jun 2016 20:57:54 +0000 ScarletBegonia 2572812@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>At the moment I have a nice mix of mum friends, married with no kids friends, and single friends who I really try and make an effort to see regularly. I like feeling like I'm not just a mum with just mum friends. Still, with limited time available, working full time and taking care of my 2 year old, I can't devote the kind of attention to my friendships as I'd like and I need to work on that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-mom-friends-irl#post-2572803 Wed, 22 Jun 2016 20:51:31 +0000 erinpye 2572803@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes! Some live a state away, in my hometown, and others are local, a couple of my closest are from HB and also happen to be local! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-mom-friends-irl#post-2572801 Wed, 22 Jun 2016 20:48:40 +0000 cheesetomywhine 2572801@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sorrycharlie: sort of? I have a couple who have children around the same ages but I don't see them very often. Honestly we just to my mum's because she has a great child friendly yard plus a puppy to have play dates with ours. I would love mum friends but I am also introverted and always feel awkward. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-mom-friends-irl#post-2572766 Wed, 22 Jun 2016 20:26:02 +0000 Boogs 2572766@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sorrycharlie: You sound just like I do! The only irl friend I have is a sibling lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-mom-friends-irl#post-2572513 Wed, 22 Jun 2016 16:32:39 +0000 youboots 2572513@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, I have lots of Mom friends. But I'm an extrovert. Lots are from high school and college that had kids before me. I've made some friends in my town- now I've been here for 4.5 years and feel hooked into the community- I do MOPS and story hour. Some friends I met through my work as a wedding photographer and I've stayed friends with them which is awesome. I just met someone on bumble bff which was fun and different. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-mom-friends-irl#post-2572500 Wed, 22 Jun 2016 16:23:36 +0000 ElbieKay 2572500@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have friends who have become moms, and I have mom acquaintances. But I have very limited time to spend with friends, so I don't bother trying to make new mom friends. I am 39, and people I meet today almost never measure up to the friends who have known me since high school or college. Very few people click with me well enough to overcome decades of shared history. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-mom-friends-irl#post-2572429 Wed, 22 Jun 2016 15:41:57 +0000 sandy 2572429@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lamariniere: love that you and HM were able to connect and become friends :heart: - who would have thought all the way in Vienna!</p> <p>When I quit my job to be a SAHM I had to make all new friends. When I had my LO it was easiest to become friends with other moms bc we were in the same life stage and had similar schedules. I have a core group of mom friends that have been my good friends for the past 4 years that I see regularly for play dates, mom dates, weekend shopping trips, birthday parties/BBQs and some of us now go on family trips together. I met most of my mom friends through LO's activities - play gym, music class, ballet, and parent-tot swim. I have met a few through HB as well. I have found that if I make the effort and take time to invest in a person then the other person reciprocates and that leads to a real friendship (not just an acquaintance). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-mom-friends-irl#post-2572416 Wed, 22 Jun 2016 15:31:05 +0000 Kimberlybee 2572416@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think you would be a great mom friend! You are so funny and laugh a lot, 2 great qualities most people would look for in a friend. Just be yourself and I think once DD1 starts school you will have lots of opportunities. I made mom friends through church and Gymboree but I have been so out of the loop since I had DD2. I feel bad for always rsvping NO lately, I hope I still get invited to play dates but I am just so tired right now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-mom-friends-irl#post-2572111 Wed, 22 Jun 2016 12:11:43 +0000 Cherrybee 2572111@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have a lot of mummy friends in real life.... but there's a woman who lives 10 doors down from me who I reeeeally want to be friends with. She has 4 little ones ranging from a little older than E to a little baby like S. I said hello to her a couple of weeks back when she walked past me in the street and she looked horrified, like it was the weirdest thing ever. The next day, she virtually crossed the street to avoid me. I guess she doesn't want to be friends!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-mom-friends-irl#post-2572104 Wed, 22 Jun 2016 12:04:15 +0000 nana87 2572104@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wish I had more. My friends who have kids who I was friends with before don't live nearby. I've done some play dates with daycare friends. It's hard in my neighborhood at the park or museum or whatever-- it's a big, anonymous type of city and I'm not good at being open/befriending people. I think I'm going to try some mommy kinds of groups with this second pregnancy-- my lo takes a couple classes at our local JCC and while I haven't really made friends there (it's a lot of nannies...) they have prenatal groups I've seen advertised... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-mom-friends-irl#post-2572103 Wed, 22 Jun 2016 12:03:04 +0000 lamariniere 2572103@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In our current city, all of my friends are mom. In our previous city, none of my friends were moms (and still aren't)!</p> <p>I met a good chuck of moms through local baby groups, a few at the playground, a few from daycare and one HelloBee mom hooked me up with a mom who moved here and we have become good friends! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-mom-friends-irl#post-2572101 Wed, 22 Jun 2016 11:58:01 +0000 bushelandapeck 2572101@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have several that I met through local moms groups. I was a SAHM with DS for almost a year and I can't stand to be home a lot so I sought out as much interaction as I could to fill the days. Almost 4 years later, they have become some of my best friends. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-mom-friends-irl#post-2572100 Wed, 22 Jun 2016 11:57:37 +0000 twodoghouse 2572100@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>All my mom friends are my close friends from before motherhood. Between 4 of us, we've had 5 babies in the last two years. It's been awesome going through this crazy parenthood thing with my girlfriends. I am not good at all at making new mom friends when we are out at story time or the park. I'm too busy trying to make sure my kids don't run away or jump in the pond at the park to chat with other moms right now. Maybe as they get older I can trust them better? They are 2 now and both runners. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-mom-friends-irl#post-2572096 Wed, 22 Jun 2016 11:53:13 +0000 sunny 2572096@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes I have lots of mom friends in real life. I have met people everywhere and I'm not really an extrovert either! Some were acquaintances before kids and after we had kids we became closer. I've also become friends with the mom of someone in my LO's preschool. I have also met people in parent ed classes. I think it's way easier to meet a mom friend since you already have something you have in common, especially if your kids are the same age. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-mom-friends-irl#post-2572064 Wed, 22 Jun 2016 11:28:20 +0000 LulaBee 2572064@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes. 3 of my closest friends are moms with kids around the same age. Two of them I knew before kids (one is my bestie for 21 years) and the other I met at our daughter's music class- we just clicked! I don't know what I would do without them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-mom-friends-irl#post-2572033 Wed, 22 Jun 2016 10:41:52 +0000 mrs.shinerbock 2572033@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, I'm good friends with the mom who we did a nanny share with and I'm also friends with some other moms I met in the neighborhood. I'm an organizer/planner type person, so I've been trying to get our neighborhood moms group to be more active by planning play dates and moms nights out. </p> <p>I also have a handful of friends from before babies that are now moms too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-mom-friends-irl#post-2572032 Wed, 22 Jun 2016 10:40:56 +0000 wrkbrk 2572032@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sorrycharlie: I have mom friends but only because my actual friends became moms ... haha. In other words I have not sought out new friends just because they have babies the same age as DS! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-mom-friends-irl#post-2572027 Wed, 22 Jun 2016 10:39:00 +0000 Andrea 2572027@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have a lot of IRL mom friends and I meet them all over. Kids' schools, activities, gym, library, playground, camp. I don't mind chatting people up though. But as with anything else, you get better at it with practice. I'd start with someone at school, once your DD starts, since you know that you'll be seeing them on a regular basis and you already have a few things in common. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-mom-friends-irl#post-2572020 Wed, 22 Jun 2016 10:34:09 +0000 looch 2572020@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, school helps. The kids start to form friendships, they want to see each other outside of school and I've learned to do short playdates away from home so we can easily leave as needed. My favorite place to meet up is the beach, there's a playground, they can splash in the water, etc. It's great.</p> <p>My son also makes friends at the playground down the road, we tell people the house we're living in and believe it or not, on evening bike rides, people are stopping over as we're outside. It's getting interesting there, lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-mom-friends-irl#post-2572012 Wed, 22 Jun 2016 10:28:48 +0000 snowjewelz 2572012@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I only have 1 mom friend in my town that I don't really hang out with cause we don't know each other very well and I work full time so it's hard to get together. </p> <p>A lot of my friends also have kids within the same time frame but I don't live close to most of them. I do have 3-4 mom friends that are still local, mostly know them through church. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-mom-friends-irl#post-2572011 Wed, 22 Jun 2016 10:28:35 +0000 BSB 2572011@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm a part my local babywearing group so those people are moms. I'm introvert, too, so I don't really go out and do playdates. </p> <p>There are a few moms that share more than one group so I would be more open to going a playdate if they hosted. </p> <p>As for hosting my own playdate? No, I'm not the person who could do that. I don't have the initiative to do it. That kinda freaks my introvert self just thinking about it. Yeah, I like to leave the planning to someone else.</p> <p>What about a HB meetup? I would consider meeting up with HBers than from the random FB groups that I've joined. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-mom-friends-irl#post-2572009 Wed, 22 Jun 2016 10:24:52 +0000 Mamaof2 2572009@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I never made mom friends with DS's class but with DD I have 2 local moms that we hang out with </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-mom-friends-irl#post-2572007 Wed, 22 Jun 2016 10:24:40 +0000 LAZB 2572007@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I do have a good amount of "real life" mom friends. Some are existing friends that have had children around the same time. Others are moms I've met in the neighborhood. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-mom-friends-irl#post-2572005 Wed, 22 Jun 2016 10:21:20 +0000 catlady 2572005@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I commiserate. I don't have any mom friends that I'd consider "close." All of my pre-kid close friends are either still childless or live across the country. I have a few "mom friends" from my LO's daycare but no one I've really clicked with (I tried doing playdates with some of them a few times and it was just awkward). </p> <p>I'm on a local moms Facebook group and recently posted a request to see if there was anyone in my neighborhood who wanted to get together for a toddler playdate. A few people responded so I ended up meeting 4 women and their kids last weekend and I'm hoping we can turn it into something more regular. But I agree, it was very hard to just start chatting. Feels like dating, only harder somehow. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-mom-friends-irl#post-2571992 Wed, 22 Jun 2016 10:09:05 +0000 sorrycharlie 2571992@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have tons of online parent friends. And even some local friends, that I mainly connect with on Facebook.</p> <p>I'm a super introvert but really good at pretending I'm not (mainly online..). The thought of planning play dates gives me anxiety. As does the thought of joining any large, pre-existent mom group. It intimidates me as if I were going to a new high school and everyone is already friends. Ha. This sounds so lame.</p> <p>How did you make close mom friends? My daughter starts preschool in the fall, so maybe that will help.. </p>