Hellobee Boards Topic: Do you have the same last name as your kids?

Hellobee Boards Topic: Do you have the same last name as your kids? https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 11 May 2026 20:46:44 +0000 lady baltimore on "Do you have the same last name as your kids?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-the-same-last-night-as-your-kids/page/2#post-2634151 Sat, 08 Oct 2016 12:12:04 +0000 lady baltimore 2634151@https://boards.hellobee.com/ DD has my last name, and DH's last name as a second middle name. It was the subject of A LOT of conversation during my pregnancy. @Ms. RV: Very few people asked what LO's last name would be, which occasionally felt rude to me (that they were assuming it would be DH's). I actually brought it up a lot to deflect from questions about what first names we were considering (which I preferred not to discuss very much). "Are you all talking about names?" "Well, it's hard to decide on first names until we figure out whose last name we're trying to match." Finfan on "Do you have the same last name as your kids?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-the-same-last-night-as-your-kids/page/2#post-2634137 Sat, 08 Oct 2016 11:24:02 +0000 Finfan 2634137@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Yes, I changed my name. I don't think it's a big deal. My mom had a different last name from mine growing up and it seemed to cause no problems whatsoever. I think schools are very used to parents and kids having different last names due to having children outside of marriage, parents not changing last names, divorce, whatever. DesertDreams88 on "Do you have the same last name as your kids?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-the-same-last-night-as-your-kids/page/2#post-2634117 Sat, 08 Oct 2016 09:54:10 +0000 DesertDreams88 2634117@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Nope, I kept my maiden and LO has DH's name. No big deal to us, but other people think it is. Mamas2k13 on "Do you have the same last name as your kids?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-the-same-last-night-as-your-kids/page/2#post-2634106 Sat, 08 Oct 2016 08:04:42 +0000 Mamas2k13 2634106@https://boards.hellobee.com/ yes, I changed my name a few years after we married. I like my maiden name better because I have a "first" name as a last name now and people, like at the doctor or pharmacy, will always be like, no what's your last name. THAT is my last name.. maddyz on "Do you have the same last name as your kids?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-the-same-last-night-as-your-kids/page/2#post-2634079 Sat, 08 Oct 2016 05:46:00 +0000 maddyz 2634079@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I kept my name. My mother also kept hers and it was never any trouble growing up. I bought a plane ticket over the phone for lo1 and didn't notice they used my last name until we were at the airport. He's so little it wasn't an issue, but was funny. Ms. RV on "Do you have the same last name as your kids?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-the-same-last-night-as-your-kids/page/2#post-2634000 Fri, 07 Oct 2016 20:10:05 +0000 Ms. RV 2634000@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @ShootingStar: Hm. Maybe rude wasn't the right word. Maybe awkward? It was mainly acquaintances that would ask, and I really don't understand why my LO's last name was small talk. There is a million other things in the world to talk about. ShootingStar on "Do you have the same last name as your kids?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-the-same-last-night-as-your-kids/page/2#post-2633995 Fri, 07 Oct 2016 19:49:40 +0000 ShootingStar 2633995@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Ms. RV: Why is that rude to ask? Seems like a fair question to me. Ms. RV on "Do you have the same last name as your kids?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-the-same-last-night-as-your-kids/page/2#post-2633966 Fri, 07 Oct 2016 19:16:31 +0000 Ms. RV 2633966@https://boards.hellobee.com/ DD has OH's last name. We joke that the next LO will have my last name :silly: I am wondering if bees who don't have the same name as their LO were asked whose last name LO would have while they were pregnant. I had lots of people ask me and it seemed really rude to me. alphagam84 on "Do you have the same last name as your kids?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-the-same-last-night-as-your-kids/page/2#post-2633953 Fri, 07 Oct 2016 18:57:56 +0000 alphagam84 2633953@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I kept my name when I got married. I've always had an issue with the woman being expected to change her name to the mans and the exception for a baby to be given the mans name if they couple doesn't have the same last name. It seems so sexist. There's no logic to it. We hyphenated our daughter's last name with our names when she was born. It's my last name-husband's last name. We purposely chose a shorter first name to make up for the longer last name. Mrs. Goose on "Do you have the same last name as your kids?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-the-same-last-night-as-your-kids/page/2#post-2633951 Fri, 07 Oct 2016 18:55:12 +0000 Mrs. Goose 2633951@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Anagram: my married name is double the length of my maiden and harder to pronounce. I always wanted to take my husband's name when I got married, but I was sad to let my maiden name go. It feels a bit like a piece of you is erased somehow. Mrs. Goose on "Do you have the same last name as your kids?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-the-same-last-night-as-your-kids/page/2#post-2633949 Fri, 07 Oct 2016 18:53:43 +0000 Mrs. Goose 2633949@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Yep. We think it's important for us to all have the same last name. jhd on "Do you have the same last name as your kids?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-the-same-last-night-as-your-kids/page/2#post-2633871 Fri, 07 Oct 2016 16:56:04 +0000 jhd 2633871@https://boards.hellobee.com/ yes. it was important to me that we all share a last name. Mrs. Marshmallow on "Do you have the same last name as your kids?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-the-same-last-night-as-your-kids/page/2#post-2633804 Fri, 07 Oct 2016 15:03:40 +0000 Mrs. Marshmallow 2633804@https://boards.hellobee.com/ One of the big reasons I changed my name was to have the same family name. I also have a very long hard to pronounce 11 letter maiden name that I was happy to make the switch to Jones. So, our kids will go by Jones, and I'm happy that we'll all have the same last name. Anagram on "Do you have the same last name as your kids?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-the-same-last-night-as-your-kids/page/2#post-2633691 Fri, 07 Oct 2016 11:48:52 +0000 Anagram 2633691@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Same last name. I really wanted to keep my maiden name and my husband really wanted me to change it (inexplicably, because it doesn't work like that in his culture), and we went round and round the first year of our marriage. Finally just a week before LO was born, I changed my last name. I spend a fair amount of time the first year regretting it. My maiden name is more common, easy to pronounce, classic...my married name is impossible to pronounce, not english, isn't spelled phonetically. But now I answer to it and identify with it so I couldn't even easily change it back at this point. ShootingStar on "Do you have the same last name as your kids?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-the-same-last-night-as-your-kids#post-2633644 Fri, 07 Oct 2016 10:38:48 +0000 ShootingStar 2633644@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Yes, it was important more to me that we all have the same last name than for me to keep my maiden name. My maiden name was essentially made up anyways. When my grandfather was born his parents didn't speak or write English. So the name on the birth certificate was spelled phonetically. Ultimately 2 siblings ended up with the same name and a third's was spelled completely differently. Supposedly it's the Russian word for gardener. Mrs. Cotton Candy on "Do you have the same last name as your kids?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-the-same-last-night-as-your-kids#post-2633608 Fri, 07 Oct 2016 09:59:17 +0000 Mrs. Cotton Candy 2633608@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I didn't change my name, and we decided to hyphenate our son's last name. :) psw27 on "Do you have the same last name as your kids?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-the-same-last-night-as-your-kids#post-2633606 Fri, 07 Oct 2016 09:58:41 +0000 psw27 2633606@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I took DH's name, which was simpler and shorter. DS has our last name too. My maiden name is my middle name though. It is too much of a mouthful to put onto my kids though! looch on "Do you have the same last name as your kids?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-the-same-last-night-as-your-kids#post-2633592 Fri, 07 Oct 2016 09:40:26 +0000 looch 2633592@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I took my maiden name as my middle name (never had one growing up), so everyone has the same last name. hitchhiker on "Do you have the same last name as your kids?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-the-same-last-night-as-your-kids#post-2633553 Fri, 07 Oct 2016 08:50:11 +0000 hitchhiker 2633553@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I kept my name, which we never really discussed since I felt strongly about it. And both of our moms kept their names so it didn't seem like an issue to either of us. After much discussion, kids got their dad's last name with the agreement that I got to pick first and middle names. In the end, though, we totally agreed about them. But we have a portmanteau that we use socially (kind of like Nysmith) and goes on our holiday cards, etc. I really wish we all just had the portmanteau last name because I love it so much. snowjewelz on "Do you have the same last name as your kids?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-the-same-last-night-as-your-kids#post-2633551 Fri, 07 Oct 2016 08:49:27 +0000 snowjewelz 2633551@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @oliviaoblivia: Same here! I always dreamt of marrying someone with a more normal/easy last name and I got my wish, haha! yin on "Do you have the same last name as your kids?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-the-same-last-night-as-your-kids#post-2633547 Fri, 07 Oct 2016 08:44:19 +0000 yin 2633547@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I changed my name right before LO1 was born. I needed to legally change my name anyways due to a mix up at birth. It was the push I needed to get it done. I like my married name (still three letters but easier to pronounce). josina on "Do you have the same last name as your kids?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-the-same-last-night-as-your-kids#post-2633542 Fri, 07 Oct 2016 08:37:48 +0000 josina 2633542@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My children will have my married name (I took DH's name). My stepdaughter who lives with us full time has her mom's last name though, which does get weird in school since her name doesn't match ours. People expect her parents to have her last name and neither of us do, or they think that she is my daughter from a previous relationship vs. his. oscarthegoon on "Do you have the same last name as your kids?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-the-same-last-night-as-your-kids#post-2633503 Fri, 07 Oct 2016 07:43:11 +0000 oscarthegoon 2633503@https://boards.hellobee.com/ No, I kept my maiden name. And actually both of my kids have different last names, as one was from my first marriage and the other is from my current marriage, and both have their dad's last names. MrsSCB on "Do you have the same last name as your kids?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-the-same-last-night-as-your-kids#post-2633499 Fri, 07 Oct 2016 07:33:20 +0000 MrsSCB 2633499@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Nope, I kept mine. We talked about whose name to give our kids and decided on my husband's. We plan for all our kids to have a middle name starting with C as a nod to my last name. It's fun seeing a lot of others who didn't change their names! I only know one person IRL who didn't. And also my mom, so I guess that's two :-) travellingbee on "Do you have the same last name as your kids?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-the-same-last-night-as-your-kids#post-2633498 Fri, 07 Oct 2016 07:32:59 +0000 travellingbee 2633498@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Yes, I took my husband's name because that seemed the easiest for us and most practical. He actually encouraged me to keep my own but I preferred to just take his. His last name is shorter and easier too. Andrea on "Do you have the same last name as your kids?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-the-same-last-night-as-your-kids#post-2633496 Fri, 07 Oct 2016 07:24:40 +0000 Andrea 2633496@https://boards.hellobee.com/ No because my last name is tied to my ethnicity and I didn't want to lose that. mrbee on "Do you have the same last name as your kids?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-the-same-last-night-as-your-kids#post-2633478 Fri, 07 Oct 2016 06:31:55 +0000 mrbee 2633478@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @SugarplumsMom: oh, that's so neat! I had no idea... Mrs. Pajamas on "Do you have the same last name as your kids?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-the-same-last-night-as-your-kids#post-2633472 Fri, 07 Oct 2016 05:07:38 +0000 Mrs. Pajamas 2633472@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I kept my name and our dd e has a hyphenated last name with my name first. I really wanted her to just have my last name but this was the compromise. I know it'll be hard for her butyou last name is easily identifiable by my family's ethnicity which is a huge part of my life. Also we're way closer to my family than dh's so I'm happy she'll identify with my family more. Mrs. Lemon-Lime on "Do you have the same last name as your kids?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-the-same-last-night-as-your-kids#post-2633468 Fri, 07 Oct 2016 04:54:53 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2633468@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @avivoca: that's really cool! I took my husband's last name mostly because I wanted any future children to share my name as well. SugarplumsMom on "Do you have the same last name as your kids?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-the-same-last-night-as-your-kids#post-2633462 Fri, 07 Oct 2016 01:57:38 +0000 SugarplumsMom 2633462@https://boards.hellobee.com/ No, I kept my name. I was really happy about my decision, but now I'm thinking about adding my husband's name on. Here in Sweden, it's not very traditional when it comes to names. It's as common to have the man change his name to the woman's surname as it is the other way around. But they don't allow made-up names. I think the law regarding name changes is you have to choose a name from your family tree. Nysmith is quite clever! It means "new" smith :happy: