https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 26 Apr 2026 18:55:33 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-twins-in-there#post-604737 Fri, 01 Mar 2013 08:20:39 +0000 Smurfette 604737@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would just smile and nod. </p> <p>Pregnancy has made me realize women really don't think before they say things to other women. Men never make these comments. Every "bad" comment I have got has been from women. Don't they remember what it is was like being pregnant? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-twins-in-there#post-604682 Fri, 01 Mar 2013 07:51:22 +0000 Arden 604682@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry for your loss, and your situation makes this already annoying phrase even more difficult to cope with. </p> <p>Honestly, I'd would just answer with the typical "No, just one" and if someone does it more than once or persists with "Well it sure looks like twins, are you sure?" I think it's completely appropriate to reply "Well it was, but we lost one baby." Only if that's something you are comfortable with sharing though.</p> <p>People need to be taught a lesson - it's a rude question anyway, designed to make people feel bad, and they should really stop saying it anyway. Maybe you'll be the one to teach them to be more sensitive in general when asking questions of pregnant women. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-twins-in-there#post-604649 Fri, 01 Mar 2013 07:34:08 +0000 Dandelion 604649@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with @T.H.O.U....just smile and nod, but if someone particularly rubs you the wrong way, just come out and say it and make them feel like an ass, lol. Maybe they'll learn.</p> <p>I'm really sorry for your loss. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-twins-in-there#post-604645 Fri, 01 Mar 2013 07:31:58 +0000 matador84 604645@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was absolutely huge even early on and there was a possibility early on I had a m/c of a twin or a very large sch, I will never know. I would get the twin comment constantly and I just grinned and bared it even though I wanted to punch the person saying it because its so incredibly rude..hard to take the higher road. It will always be hard especially when I met someone the other day who is pregnant with twins, I feel just a twinge of guilt. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-twins-in-there#post-604639 Fri, 01 Mar 2013 07:28:41 +0000 T.H.O.U. 604639@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Smile and nod, but if you have to, let at least one stranger know, "Well actually there were twins in there but one passed away". At least you can laugh at how quickly they will walk away embarrassed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-twins-in-there#post-604636 Fri, 01 Mar 2013 07:27:27 +0000 Mrs D 604636@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@swedishfish: I'm so sorry for your loss. Sadly people's rudeness never ceases to amaze me. Knowing me and my sass if someone really irked me and kept pushing "are you suuuuure there isn't twins in there" I could totally see snapping back in the wrong moment with a "actually I was having twins and lost one - so yes I am sure there is only one" and make them feel like a complete you know what! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-twins-in-there#post-604632 Fri, 01 Mar 2013 07:24:34 +0000 Mrs Hedgehog 604632@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@swedishfish: lol. Yep! I would say you deserve it at that point. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-twins-in-there#post-604614 Fri, 01 Mar 2013 06:53:00 +0000 swedishfish 604614@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs Hedgehog: thanks for your reply! People can be so rude. You're right - smile and nod. I can eat a cookie after a rude comment, right? Haha </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-twins-in-there#post-604511 Fri, 01 Mar 2013 03:21:22 +0000 Mrs Hedgehog 604511@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Also, I am truly sorry about losing one baby. Honestly, I would smile and let it roll of your back. People are going to be rude and not think through what they say. You can't avoid it. Just ignore it and bitch to DH later. It will make you feel so much better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-twins-in-there#post-604509 Fri, 01 Mar 2013 03:19:43 +0000 Mrs Hedgehog 604509@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have gotten the exact opposite. "Are you sure you are pregnant?" At one point I was feeling especially bitchy and hormonal so I profered up a "Want me to vomit on you like I have been doing all day to prove it?"</p> <p>Not my finest moment but sometimes people deserve it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-have-twins-in-there#post-603529 Thu, 28 Feb 2013 21:43:05 +0000 swedishfish 603529@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My colleague is pregnant and due before me. She is due in a few weeks and I'm due in June. We were talking today and she mentioned how many people have asked her if she's sure she's not having twins due to the size of her bump.</p> <p>I know this kind of remark is probably inevitable but my pregnancy began as a twin pregnancy and I lost one baby early on. I am so excited to be pregnant with one baby as TTC was difficult for us but I know if I get the "are you sure you're not having twins" remark that it will still sting. I will probably have to grin and bear it. Any advice for me? Has anyone been through something similar? </p>