https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 29 Apr 2026 18:26:42 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-hold-onto-anger#post-853379 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 06:11:56 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 853379@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Life's too short for a bunch of anger. I used to be pretty angry, but age and a great guy really mellowed me out... And babies. I'm mellow for my babies. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-hold-onto-anger#post-853376 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 06:09:01 +0000 sorrycharlie 853376@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It depends who..having trouble moving past issues with DH's family. I lose sleep over it every single night. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-hold-onto-anger#post-853374 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 06:07:07 +0000 BananaPancakes 853374@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't hold into anger for long at all. That said, I can become fully indifferent to people quickly, which doesn't seem to affect me, but sometimes I wonder if its healthy, either? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-hold-onto-anger#post-853342 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 05:28:37 +0000 Cherrybee 853342@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I let go of anger really quickly but I harbour guilt for a long, long time. I still tear up when I remember DH's birthday in May 2012. Long story short, it sucked for him and it was all my fault. I made up for it this year (and he did nothing for mine at all, a week later - not even a card - which made me so happy, it was cathartic!) but I'm tearing up writing this now....!! I need to learn to forgive myself as easily as I forgive other people!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-hold-onto-anger#post-853315 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 04:45:15 +0000 Andrea 853315@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, I can become angry quickly but I cool off quickly, too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-hold-onto-anger#post-853283 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 03:03:37 +0000 Sweet T 853283@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I try not to but I do with certain people. I've finally gotten to a point in my life where my blood doesn't boil when DH &amp; I speak about his mother. She will be here in a couple of weeks with my SIL so we'll have to see how things go. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-hold-onto-anger#post-853119 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 00:03:59 +0000 autumnlove 853119@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, I get really upset then I get over it fast. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-hold-onto-anger#post-853116 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 00:02:54 +0000 anonysquire 853116@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Only with certain people. Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice you never get a Christmas gift from me again. I really need to be better at letting go cause right now the anger is hurting me. And I can't get over feeling hurt. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-hold-onto-anger#post-853071 Wed, 12 Jun 2013 23:19:02 +0000 mrbee 853071@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FutureMrsMcK: :( That must've been heartbreaking to hear that hate... so sorry! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-hold-onto-anger#post-853066 Wed, 12 Jun 2013 23:14:58 +0000 lovehoneybee 853066@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: Now not so much. 3 years ago I was still...much more on the fence than I am now (I'm probably more of an atheist than an agnostic, but I don't feel completely comfortable labeling myself as such because I'm not fully committed to it...if that makes sense?). But I think it hurt more because this brother was the one I was closest to, and his voice just dripped with hate. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-hold-onto-anger#post-853064 Wed, 12 Jun 2013 23:12:43 +0000 Maysprout 853064@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I used to have a pretty sharp tongue that was fairly transparent. So I had a more fiery temper but I didn't hold onto things for long. Now I rarely get angry with people but I do get irritated and I don't usually tell people when I'm irritated now (besides for my husband and family members) so it does take longer to get over smaller irritations. I don't really avoid people or act mean but just am a bit more guarded. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-hold-onto-anger#post-853063 Wed, 12 Jun 2013 23:12:04 +0000 mrbee 853063@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FutureMrsMcK: Does it sting as much if you don't believe in hell? (I'm an atheist myself.) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-hold-onto-anger#post-853061 Wed, 12 Jun 2013 23:11:05 +0000 lovehoneybee 853061@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: Yes, and that's a big part of the problem (with most of my family). Well that plus my political leanings and the fact that in their eyes I "betrayed the South" (and them) by moving north. It was rough for a while, but I have DH's family now (and one or two black sheep from my own :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-hold-onto-anger#post-853056 Wed, 12 Jun 2013 23:05:22 +0000 mrbee 853056@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FutureMrsMcK: Ugh sorry you had to go through that!! Are you agnostic too? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-hold-onto-anger#post-853053 Wed, 12 Jun 2013 23:02:49 +0000 lovehoneybee 853053@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Completely depends on who and what I'm angry about. For the most part I can let go of it easily but there are times I can hold s serious grudge. Case in point: one of my brothers called me on my wedding day to tell me I was going to hell because I married "that guy" (my almost-atheist husband). I haven't spoken to him since that day, 3 years in October. He may as well be dead to me, and I mourn him as if he was...who he used to be when we were younger. </p> <p>Less extreme things I easily let go of, though. And it takes a lot to get me angry to begin with. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-hold-onto-anger#post-853041 Wed, 12 Jun 2013 22:52:47 +0000 HLK208 853041@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope! I get over things quickly. I'm a pretty happy person and there's no sense in being upset about something that's happened and done with. However, I do learn from others behavior to avoid getting upset in the future.</p> <p>ETA: if I'm really angry, it might take me a day or two to recoup. Like, if someone has done something SUPER hurtful. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-hold-onto-anger#post-853038 Wed, 12 Jun 2013 22:48:29 +0000 runsyellowlites 853038@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I forgive pretty quick... I don't think holding onto unforgiveness or any of the emotion that comes with it is ever, in any circumstance, the way to go! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-hold-onto-anger#post-853034 Wed, 12 Jun 2013 22:45:48 +0000 mrbee 853034@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I used to... but in the past decade or so, I've tried to just let that all go. I think that anger can twists and corrupts you... and if you hold onto anger at someone, it can eventually poison the relationship.</p> <p>So now I try to just let go of the anger. It's weird though... sometimes I feel like I'm too forgiving now. That's not how I ever would've described myself when I was younger. I'm not sure what the right balance is.</p> <p>Do you hold onto anger? How do you balance anger and forgiveness? </p>