https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 01 Jul 2026 13:35:51 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-judge-parents-who-have-overweight-children#post-146316 Thu, 03 May 2012 14:33:00 +0000 Crisark 146316@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep.<br /> I think mainly because I am overweight and make sure my children are as healthy as possible.<br /> It seems even worse to me when the whole family is obviously over weight more than just a little.<br /> Like the LO was set up for failure because they couldn't choose their food and activity. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-judge-parents-who-have-overweight-children#post-146252 Thu, 03 May 2012 14:01:02 +0000 mrskc 146252@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Guilty. I know I shouldn't judge because I don't know their situation. But I can't help but feel sorry for the kid. Their parents don't teach them healthy eating habits and then they become overweight adults. They are judged as an adult for being overweight. And people blame them and wonder why they just don't eat better when that's not how they were taught. Then it's even harder to break the bad habits as an adult. I feel like it's a viscous cycle. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-judge-parents-who-have-overweight-children#post-146202 Thu, 03 May 2012 13:39:37 +0000 mrsjyw 146202@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Honestly, I do, internally when I see them eating unhealthy food. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-judge-parents-who-have-overweight-children#post-146181 Thu, 03 May 2012 13:27:02 +0000 joyjoy 146181@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Unless that child is also eating super sized junk food in front of me, no, I don't judge. </p> <p>I'm from a similar situation as @Jessicamcb in that I was always the skinny, underweight one in the family. My dad is also pretty thin. My brothers, on the other hand, grew up chubby, and my younger brother has stayed large into adulthood. We grew up on the same diet of home cooked meals, rarely ate out, played outside, etc. Somehow I was always small and my brother was always overweight. Just because a child is overweight doesn't mean their parents are feeding them junk. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-judge-parents-who-have-overweight-children#post-146084 Thu, 03 May 2012 12:45:19 +0000 lavender 146084@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>guilty here as well, esp if I see them with soda/chips/fast food etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-judge-parents-who-have-overweight-children#post-145967 Thu, 03 May 2012 11:43:14 +0000 JessicaMcB 145967@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No I don't and I'm really upset that so many people think its acceptable. I grew up the thin one in my family- my mom has been a heavy lady since she had me and my sister, and my little sister was obese pretty much from infancy. My mother and my sister ate way better than I did and exercised- but they were judged anyway.</p> <p>Who knows if the overweight children you judge are that way due to negligence or a health issue, or worse yet just born into a heavy family. I think we're the product of a very judgmental society and we need to remember, "be kind; everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-judge-parents-who-have-overweight-children#post-145956 Thu, 03 May 2012 11:35:16 +0000 HLK208 145956@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It depends. Some children have baby weight through childhood and once they hit puberty, it melts off (but I think those children are fine as long as they are active and eating balanced healthy meals).<br /> Children who are really overweight, eating crappy food and not doing the regular childhood activities like riding their bike or learning to play a sport, then yes, I become judgemental. I feel like those children are robbed of a normal childhood and have to deal with difficult emotional battles. It's just not fair to them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-judge-parents-who-have-overweight-children#post-145894 Thu, 03 May 2012 10:55:03 +0000 Mrsbells 145894@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>yes especially if i see them guzzling soda, and eating candy bars </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-judge-parents-who-have-overweight-children#post-145882 Thu, 03 May 2012 10:47:16 +0000 plaidpants 145882@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'll admit: when I see parents with an overweight kid in line at a fast food place or holding a Big Gulp full of soda, I definitely judge. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-judge-parents-who-have-overweight-children#post-145880 Thu, 03 May 2012 10:46:15 +0000 Honeybee 145880@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No. We all have faults we don't want to pass on to our children; luckily, most of us don't have faults with visible consequences like bad diet, not exercising, etc... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-judge-parents-who-have-overweight-children#post-145873 Thu, 03 May 2012 10:42:33 +0000 Mrs. Oatmeal 145873@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I understand in some cases that the parents have little control over the situation, or they are extremely busy and their child only eats fast food, etc.<br /> However, my SMIL doesn't take any responsibility for what my 8 year old BIL eats, and he has gained close to 20 pounds in the last 6 months. None of his clothes fit, he wears sweatpants every day, he gets teased at school all the time...its just a bad situation. So in that case, yep there's a little bit of judgement. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-judge-parents-who-have-overweight-children#post-145866 Thu, 03 May 2012 10:39:26 +0000 Mrs. Pen 145866@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It depends on the age, the size of the parent they're with and if they're just "baby chubby", "built big/strong" or actually unhealthy looking overweight.</p> <p>My brother is built big/strong, so some could mistake it for overweight, same with my husband. They may be packing a few extra/unnecessary pounds, but I wouldn't classify them as overweight. </p> <p>I tend to judge most when I see an overweight child with their overweight parent. Then I know for sure their parent is implementing healthy choices at all, if they're the same. I am SOOO guilty of this. </p> <p>I decided right when I got pregnant that I would strive to set a healthy example for LO, make exercise and healthy eating FUN. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-judge-parents-who-have-overweight-children#post-145784 Thu, 03 May 2012 09:43:20 +0000 MamaMoose 145784@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm guilty of this. Particularly when I see them ordering an extra large ice cream or supersized french fries for the child. I honestly think at a certain point that becomes child abuse since you are negatively affecting your child's health and their ability to thrive. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-judge-parents-who-have-overweight-children#post-145779 Thu, 03 May 2012 09:42:14 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 145779@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Guilty as well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-judge-parents-who-have-overweight-children#post-145778 Thu, 03 May 2012 09:41:58 +0000 BSB 145778@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, I don't think I even think about it. Unless the kid is eating a huge messy candy bar right in my face. My DH tells me I'm oblivious to stuff like this. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-judge-parents-who-have-overweight-children#post-145773 Thu, 03 May 2012 09:40:34 +0000 Cole 145773@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I find I am most guilty of this when said child is eating junk mindlessly in front of the television or is playing on some electronic device. Otherwise I try really hard not to because I know that sometimes there are situations where it is totally out of the parent's control-- for example, my sister needed to be on a high dose of prednisone for an extended period of time and despite always being average sized she got quite "puffy" for the better part of the year. If you didn't know it about her you would just assume it was due to diet and exercise. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-judge-parents-who-have-overweight-children#post-145772 Thu, 03 May 2012 09:40:25 +0000 DillonLion 145772@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH definitely does. I really try to avoid passing judgment on this kind of stuff, because I really don't know what their situation is or why the child is overweight. It is probably a combination of many things, and the parents probably feel guilty enough about it as is. Maybe not, but that's what I like to tell myself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-judge-parents-who-have-overweight-children#post-145748 Thu, 03 May 2012 09:28:59 +0000 LuLu Mom 145748@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If they are extremely overweight yes, because it's just not good for the child. I think it's the parent's responsibility to try and help the issue before they get older and the bad habits are harder to break. I do understand that some people are just thicker, but in many cases it can be controlled (stop fast food and introduce exercise instead of TV!) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-judge-parents-who-have-overweight-children#post-145703 Thu, 03 May 2012 09:12:57 +0000 Minnie_Girl 145703@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>*shrugs* There's a difference between having a chubby little kid and an overweight kid who is fed junk. You can't always tell by how they look. But after a certain age, yes, the sugary/high calorie diets begin to show. </p> <p>It drives me crazy when I see parents feeding their kids crap, no matter how big the parents or kids...soda, pizza, nothing but carb snacks and sugary drinks. Ugh. Parents make SO MUCH effort in other areas with their kids, why can't they pay a little bit of attention to their health too? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-judge-parents-who-have-overweight-children#post-145689 Thu, 03 May 2012 09:06:51 +0000 autumnlove 145689@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, I do. :-( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-judge-parents-who-have-overweight-children#post-145687 Thu, 03 May 2012 09:06:18 +0000 Alivoo01 145687@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sadly, I do. Especially if they're significantly overweight. I can't help but feel bad/sorry for them and ask (in my head) why the parents are doing this to them?? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-judge-parents-who-have-overweight-children#post-145674 Thu, 03 May 2012 09:01:55 +0000 lilteacherbee 145674@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, its hard not to when I teach some overweight 4-5 year olds. I try not to though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-judge-parents-who-have-overweight-children#post-145658 Thu, 03 May 2012 08:57:05 +0000 mrs. wagon 145658@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>it depends on how old the children are. I would say probably.... 4 or younger? not really. 4 or older (I guess school-age)? Probably. :T </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-judge-parents-who-have-overweight-children#post-145655 Thu, 03 May 2012 08:56:32 +0000 heffalump 145655@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No.... probably because I fear LO will be overweight! Not because of what we feed her, she's always eaten healthy, I make all of her food. But she's always been a big girl, in the 90-95th percentile. Her daddy was a big kid too, so I think it just runs in the family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-judge-parents-who-have-overweight-children#post-145652 Thu, 03 May 2012 08:55:11 +0000 Cchoi4 145652@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>my initial reaction would be to judge :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-judge-parents-who-have-overweight-children#post-145651 Thu, 03 May 2012 08:54:52 +0000 mrstilly 145651@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I will admit that I do sometimes. Especially when I see the child eating junk and drinking soda. On the flip side I commend parents, who have children of any size, that I see outside and doing any kind of activity. We have a lot of parks, and I love seeing kids on bikes and scooters with their parents. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-judge-parents-who-have-overweight-children#post-145650 Thu, 03 May 2012 08:54:36 +0000 mediagirl 145650@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@chopsuey119: agreed. Guilty as charged. I wonder if they ever eat at home... (I'm a horrible person) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-judge-parents-who-have-overweight-children#post-145649 Thu, 03 May 2012 08:54:28 +0000 pelikila 145649@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I haven't really thought about it but yeah, probably. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-judge-parents-who-have-overweight-children#post-145644 Thu, 03 May 2012 08:52:04 +0000 chopsuey 145644@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>.. guilty. </p>