https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 03 Apr 2026 09:33:48 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-keep-bad-news-from-your-parentsfamily#post-1370011 Thu, 23 Jan 2014 11:12:19 +0000 lovehoneybee 1370011@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I tell my mom pretty much everything, my ILs a good amount, and my dad and stepmom pretty much nothing. The latter couple knew I was in labor because D insisted on calling them. If it was up to me I'd have just let them find out on FB later... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-keep-bad-news-from-your-parentsfamily#post-1369996 Thu, 23 Jan 2014 11:09:43 +0000 looch 1369996@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Depends what it is. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-keep-bad-news-from-your-parentsfamily#post-1369958 Thu, 23 Jan 2014 10:59:01 +0000 blackbird 1369958@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I filter everything. Hell, they hover over good stuff, let alone bad stuff! Not even gonna go there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-keep-bad-news-from-your-parentsfamily#post-1369907 Thu, 23 Jan 2014 10:50:53 +0000 snowjewelz 1369907@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not the small stuff. I've been like that my whole life though. Usually tell them afterwards or once I figure out a solution. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-keep-bad-news-from-your-parentsfamily#post-1369785 Thu, 23 Jan 2014 10:22:01 +0000 Alivoo01 1369785@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yup! DS had the flu last week and I didn't tell them. Like you, I hate fielding questions and never ending inquiry. I tell them after the fact when I see them, which isn't often. It'll often be in passing like oh yea, last month, he caught the flu. By now, everything has passed and settled so no point digging in for more info. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-keep-bad-news-from-your-parentsfamily#post-1369262 Thu, 23 Jan 2014 07:49:27 +0000 Adira 1369262@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't tell them everything, especially things that might just worry them or end up them giving me advice I don't need or want, haha. And I NEVER tell them bad stuff about Hubs because my mom will hold a grudge!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-keep-bad-news-from-your-parentsfamily#post-1369251 Thu, 23 Jan 2014 07:43:20 +0000 illumina 1369251@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't tell them everything, especially not if it involves vaccinations or weight issues because I know they will disapprove of what we've decided to do. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-keep-bad-news-from-your-parentsfamily#post-1369079 Thu, 23 Jan 2014 00:33:55 +0000 HLK208 1369079@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I keep some of it to myself. I worry I'll stress them out more which they don't need. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-keep-bad-news-from-your-parentsfamily#post-1369067 Thu, 23 Jan 2014 00:23:31 +0000 googly-eyes 1369067@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I tell most things! But sometimes it backfires because I end up with advice I wasn't necessarily asking for! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-keep-bad-news-from-your-parentsfamily#post-1368949 Wed, 22 Jan 2014 23:14:46 +0000 birdofafeather 1368949@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>we share mostly everything, but we haven't had a bunch of issues that are worrisome. i feel like family is there to share worries and struggles and sorrows (as well as the good stuff!) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-keep-bad-news-from-your-parentsfamily#post-1368785 Wed, 22 Jan 2014 21:58:14 +0000 Mrs. Bee 1368785@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i don't tell things that will worry them. they have enough stress in their lives already. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-keep-bad-news-from-your-parentsfamily#post-1368777 Wed, 22 Jan 2014 21:56:11 +0000 hellobeeboston 1368777@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Poor L! I hope he's OK!! </p> <p>I totally tell my parents about both little and big incidents - but we def do not tell my in laws anything! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-keep-bad-news-from-your-parentsfamily#post-1368761 Wed, 22 Jan 2014 21:48:24 +0000 .twist. 1368761@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't tell them until it's necessary. </p> <p>I had a few abnormal paps but didn't tell my mom about it until I knew the results. And actually, I didn't even tell her that because it ended up being nothing so I didn't even feel it was worth telling at that point since everything was done. </p> <p>Equally, I haven't told her exactly how some drama with friends aaand vag issues have put me into a bit of a depression. I just don't want her to worry about me, or ask questions, or make suggestions, or worry. Lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-keep-bad-news-from-your-parentsfamily#post-1368653 Wed, 22 Jan 2014 21:00:54 +0000 Anagram 1368653@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I tell my mom about illnesses and stuff because she doesn't get alarmed or even all that concerned really. I mean, she gets concerned, but is just like "you'll pull through it". We sometimes keep small things like illnesses from DHs parents because they are like you said---will call all the time, worrying, checking in, asking if they should come visit to help, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-keep-bad-news-from-your-parentsfamily#post-1368600 Wed, 22 Jan 2014 20:50:17 +0000 MrsRcCar 1368600@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We don't tell people outside our household about small things. If there is something more serious going on we hold off telling anyone until we have a plan. It helps keep everyone from worrying too much. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-keep-bad-news-from-your-parentsfamily#post-1368462 Wed, 22 Jan 2014 20:14:09 +0000 Periwinkle 1368462@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I tend to overshare :( I would probably do better keeping some things closer and not worrying others. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-keep-bad-news-from-your-parentsfamily#post-1368453 Wed, 22 Jan 2014 20:11:44 +0000 autumnlove 1368453@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't tell my parents everything. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-keep-bad-news-from-your-parentsfamily#post-1368452 Wed, 22 Jan 2014 20:10:48 +0000 hilsy85 1368452@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Pepper: same--I know how close you were with your mom, and I am the same way--I hate to have her worry :heart: </p> <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: lol, I could see this happening with both of our parents. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-keep-bad-news-from-your-parentsfamily#post-1368440 Wed, 22 Jan 2014 20:04:44 +0000 MrsH 1368440@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I tell my mom pretty much everything. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-keep-bad-news-from-your-parentsfamily#post-1368437 Wed, 22 Jan 2014 20:04:15 +0000 Pepper 1368437@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I always kept stuff from my mom because she worried SO much about everything. I had to go to triage with bleeding several times during my pregnancy and I never told her. It would have made her sick with worry the whole time I was pregnant! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-keep-bad-news-from-your-parentsfamily#post-1368428 Wed, 22 Jan 2014 20:00:50 +0000 DigAPony 1368428@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I tell my mom everything (and I assume she then tells my dad). My husband doesn't reveal much to his parents unless his mom asks specific questions. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-keep-bad-news-from-your-parentsfamily#post-1368394 Wed, 22 Jan 2014 19:50:22 +0000 MamaMoose 1368394@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I tell my parents everything. My husband is much less candid with his parents. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-keep-bad-news-from-your-parentsfamily#post-1368393 Wed, 22 Jan 2014 19:50:15 +0000 MrsStormy 1368393@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh yeah we totally keep stuff like that from the IL's, they are super worriers/ over reactors so yeah... but they also keep really truly serious things from us which is frustrating, even though I know their intentions are pure I have to make a point to tell them to let us know if something happens (ie: grandma in law is not doing well, we'd like to know if she is dying, if possible I know DH would like to say goodbye). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-keep-bad-news-from-your-parentsfamily#post-1368388 Wed, 22 Jan 2014 19:48:34 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 1368388@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I share a lot with my fam. ILS not so much because like @Smurfette: that's just the way my husband operates. Sometimes I wish I didn't share ideas, my dad keeps trying to sell me on different dog breads. We decided no dog at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-keep-bad-news-from-your-parentsfamily#post-1368379 Wed, 22 Jan 2014 19:42:48 +0000 matador84 1368379@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes!!! My dad recently had a heart attack and already worries too much. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-keep-bad-news-from-your-parentsfamily#post-1368376 Wed, 22 Jan 2014 19:41:39 +0000 Smurfette 1368376@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I tell my mom pretty much everything. But we don't tell ILs but that is cause DH doesn't call them much. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-keep-bad-news-from-your-parentsfamily#post-1368370 Wed, 22 Jan 2014 19:39:29 +0000 Lindsay05 1368370@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I dont tell them any negative news at all. Even if we are sick because we will get a million phone calls. I couldnt even tell my dad when I went in labour cause he would freak the eff out! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-keep-bad-news-from-your-parentsfamily#post-1368364 Wed, 22 Jan 2014 19:36:18 +0000 hilsy85 1368364@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Dandelion: SAME. Which is why I was kind of surprised that DH told my in laws about it! But They have a tendency to keep SERIOUS bad news from him (like family members having cancer) so I guess he doesn't wnat to go down that path. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-keep-bad-news-from-your-parentsfamily#post-1368361 Wed, 22 Jan 2014 19:35:03 +0000 Dandelion 1368361@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No I don't mention little things like that. For the same reasons. Especially my mil...she makes a huge deal out of everything. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-keep-bad-news-from-your-parentsfamily#post-1368355 Wed, 22 Jan 2014 19:33:24 +0000 hilsy85 1368355@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Do you tell your parents/family everything? Or do you not tell them things that might upset them? (not super serious stuff--although maybe this too if it applies to you!). </p> <p>For example, I didn't tell my parents /sister that LO burned his arm the other day because I knew it would upset them and I just kind of didn't want to deal with their questions about how he is doing, how did it happen, how does it look today, etc etc. SO I didn't say anything, and by the time they see him it will hopefully be healed!</p> <p>W </p>