https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 27 May 2026 01:20:13 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-know-anyone-who-absolutely-does-not-want-children#post-152249 Tue, 08 May 2012 17:03:47 +0000 Honeybee 152249@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know a lot of couples who will never have children, and a couple singletons who have said they're not interested. They're all incredibly sweet to DD and DS, though, just not interested in having any of their own. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-know-anyone-who-absolutely-does-not-want-children#post-151125 Mon, 07 May 2012 20:34:23 +0000 sulli301 151125@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep! My uncle doesn't have kids &amp; has never wanted any. He is my godfather actually &amp; was a fantastic, hilarious, successful guy but not the parenting type! My parents always said I'd go to my aunt if anything happened to them lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-know-anyone-who-absolutely-does-not-want-children#post-150704 Mon, 07 May 2012 14:00:57 +0000 tequiero21 150704@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know 2 docs who r married to each other in their 60s. They don't have kids and don't regret it... My cuz married an older guy who already has a kid and doesn't want more. They agreed before getting married. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-know-anyone-who-absolutely-does-not-want-children#post-150651 Mon, 07 May 2012 13:24:20 +0000 Jumpingjacks 150651@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks: Well said. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-know-anyone-who-absolutely-does-not-want-children#post-150593 Mon, 07 May 2012 12:54:14 +0000 Mrs. Blue 150593@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have a friend that I don't think will ever have kids. She has a genetic condition that she isn't willing to risk passing on to a child, so she decided to never have kids. If the circumstances were different, I don't know if she would feel differently or not.</p> <p>Also, there are quite a few women in my profession who choose to not have kids. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-know-anyone-who-absolutely-does-not-want-children#post-150554 Mon, 07 May 2012 12:31:19 +0000 lavender 150554@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My brother in-law and his wife. They are perfectly happy with all their nieces and nephews. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-know-anyone-who-absolutely-does-not-want-children#post-150435 Mon, 07 May 2012 11:13:46 +0000 Alivoo01 150435@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have a couple sets of friends who do not want children. They love other's kiddos, but don't want any of their own. My boss doesn't want any either. She divorced her first husband bc he had a change in heart of not wanting kids to wanting them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-know-anyone-who-absolutely-does-not-want-children#post-150433 Mon, 07 May 2012 11:13:37 +0000 LuLu Mom 150433@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>One of my best friend's never wanted children. Her and her husband agreed when they got married that they wouldn't have children. About 4-5 years in they decided on one and done. However, now have two and she is a wonderful mom, seriously one of the best I have seen! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-know-anyone-who-absolutely-does-not-want-children#post-150419 Mon, 07 May 2012 11:02:49 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 150419@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsLipGloss: Suh-weet! Hopefully the childless respect our decisions too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-know-anyone-who-absolutely-does-not-want-children#post-150413 Mon, 07 May 2012 10:58:43 +0000 MsLipGloss 150413@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsJacks: Absolutey not - I totally picked up what you were layin' down, yo. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-know-anyone-who-absolutely-does-not-want-children#post-150398 Mon, 07 May 2012 10:49:19 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 150398@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsLipGloss: I hope you don't think I was saying that people shouldn't have babies, but rather that I respect others' reasons for not wanting them :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-know-anyone-who-absolutely-does-not-want-children#post-150393 Mon, 07 May 2012 10:44:51 +0000 yoursilverlining 150393@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@daniellemybelle: I agree with you completely about societal pressure! I think a lot of people end up with children because it’s just the “next step” of what they are expected to do as an adult, rather than sitting down and discussing it and whether it is really right for them/their partner/their relationship.</p> <p>We have many friends that are childfree by choice. I wonder if the friend of the OP meant it was a disservice to the rest of the world to have kids when you are not ready, and when there are already so many people (questionably) reproducing? None of the people I know who don’t want kids are anti-children – most LOVE spoiling nieces and nephews and other friend’s kids, they just don’t want a child for themselves. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-know-anyone-who-absolutely-does-not-want-children#post-150386 Mon, 07 May 2012 10:41:51 +0000 MsLipGloss 150386@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrBee: Agree. DH and I seriously considered not having children, for many, many reasons. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-know-anyone-who-absolutely-does-not-want-children#post-150384 Mon, 07 May 2012 10:40:49 +0000 MsLipGloss 150384@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsJacks: To me, there is a huge difference between making a decision not to have children but yet respecting others' decisions to *go forth and bear fruit* versus offensively/antagonistically stating that having children is doing the planet a disservice. </p> <p>And, with the hopes of this sounding as non-confrontational (or morbid) as possible, in terms of stress on our planet, I have never underestimated nature's ability to trim the population. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-know-anyone-who-absolutely-does-not-want-children#post-150383 Mon, 07 May 2012 10:39:26 +0000 daniellemybelle 150383@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks: I agree with you. There's a lot of societal pressure to have children. While 99.9% of people can't imagine their lives without their LOs once they have them, I think it's brave to not have children if you don't want to. Of course, it is hard for me to understand, but I have the baby rabies bad :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-know-anyone-who-absolutely-does-not-want-children#post-150382 Mon, 07 May 2012 10:39:05 +0000 mrbee 150382@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Kids definitely aren't for everyone! I like spending time with different types of people... it's nice breaking out of the "parent bubble" sometimes, if you know what I mean. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-know-anyone-who-absolutely-does-not-want-children#post-150366 Mon, 07 May 2012 10:32:24 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 150366@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think it's so much that some of my friends are ant-children, but just know that kiddos aren't right for them. I don't see it as selfish, but rather so honest about their capabilities and strengths. Honestly, there are plenty of babies in this world and it's not really great for our planet to stress it the way we do. That I have friends who have decided to not take the traditional route gives me great respect for their decisions. I can't imagine life without my babies, but I don't think everyone has to feel this way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-know-anyone-who-absolutely-does-not-want-children#post-150365 Mon, 07 May 2012 10:32:24 +0000 oliviaoblivia 150365@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I once dated a guy who was adamantly against having kids. I didn't believe he was serious and then he got a vasectomy at 28. Deal-breaker for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-know-anyone-who-absolutely-does-not-want-children#post-150358 Mon, 07 May 2012 10:26:48 +0000 MsLipGloss 150358@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rubies: If your friend truly thinks having children is doing a disservice, then perhaps it is best that she doesn't procreate. :P </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-know-anyone-who-absolutely-does-not-want-children#post-150354 Mon, 07 May 2012 10:25:39 +0000 Maysprout 150354@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A lot of my friends don't have kids but I don't know how motivated they are to become parents, they haven't said if it's part of the plan or not. My friend who was most vocal about not wanting kids decided at 30 that she did and so her and her husband now have a 2 month old. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-know-anyone-who-absolutely-does-not-want-children#post-150352 Mon, 07 May 2012 10:24:45 +0000 Mrs.Someone 150352@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My best friend has never been around many little kids, so she really just doesn't get them. Then she married her DH who has 6 nieces/nephews (so far!) They're still undecided, but leaning towards no I think. Every once in a while she worries about who to leave their "legacy" to though.</p> <p>Also, my brother is sure he doesn't want kids. He still hasn't found stability in his life (hes 32!) Hes great with kids though, so I wouldn't be surprised if it changed once he finds the right woman. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-know-anyone-who-absolutely-does-not-want-children#post-150343 Mon, 07 May 2012 10:21:51 +0000 MamaMoose 150343@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know plenty of older people who never had children. With most of them I don't know for sure if it was a choice or just the way things worked out for them. To my knowledge none of my friends who are still of child bearing age have categorically decided they don't want to have children.</p> <p>I don't understand the comment that "having children is a disservice to the world". In order for humanity to survive SOMEONE needs to be having children. Who exactly does she think should be chosen to procreate for this purpose?? People are weird.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-know-anyone-who-absolutely-does-not-want-children#post-150335 Mon, 07 May 2012 10:18:23 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 150335@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My brother doesn't want to have children. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-know-anyone-who-absolutely-does-not-want-children#post-150315 Mon, 07 May 2012 10:06:18 +0000 heffalump 150315@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have one friend who I think wants them, and also wants to get married, but said she doesn't because she never thinks it will happen for her. I also have a friend who just doesn't like children, and she just married an older man so she has an 18 year old step daughter. He's already been there, done that, so they won't have kids. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-know-anyone-who-absolutely-does-not-want-children#post-150308 Mon, 07 May 2012 10:02:21 +0000 mrsjyw 150308@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep, one of my friends at work and also my boss.</p> <p>My friend has been married for four years and they agreed on "none with the option of one" this past year, they decided on the none.</p> <p>My boss has been married for almost 10 years and has no plans of having children. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-know-anyone-who-absolutely-does-not-want-children#post-150286 Mon, 07 May 2012 09:50:39 +0000 MsLipGloss 150286@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Me. Until I met DH, and then it was all out the window! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-know-anyone-who-absolutely-does-not-want-children#post-150281 Mon, 07 May 2012 09:47:58 +0000 SugarplumsMom 150281@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes. She's really into her career and travels often because of it. Her lifestyle isn't indicative of a long-term relationship, much more a child. BUT I'm not so sure if it's really out of the picture (as much as she'd argue it is) because I know she looks at her superiors and thinks about what kind of life they live without having a place to call their own for longer than a few years and not having enough time for their families (or not having a family/broken families). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-know-anyone-who-absolutely-does-not-want-children#post-150279 Mon, 07 May 2012 09:46:26 +0000 Rubies 150279@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Minnie_Girl: HAHA...Yeah. I don't take her seriously, though, because she's the type of person who likes attention so she says off-hand things to create a stir. Oh welps! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-know-anyone-who-absolutely-does-not-want-children#post-150276 Mon, 07 May 2012 09:45:39 +0000 chopsuey 150276@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH didn't want to have kids before he met me. Now he's got baby fever </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-know-anyone-who-absolutely-does-not-want-children#post-150273 Mon, 07 May 2012 09:45:10 +0000 Mrs. Cat in the Cradle 150273@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I did. She is currently 7 months pregnant. :-) </p>