https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 29 Apr 2026 19:51:08 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-like-destination-weddings#post-646420 Sat, 16 Mar 2013 09:01:13 +0000 PurpleUnicorn 646420@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I went to a wedding in New Zealand. I stayed there for a month and it was hands down the best vacation/travel experience of my life (lol, except my own wedding I guess)! Although oddly I didn't think of it as a DW because my friend had just moved there with her FI and his family was there, but I guess they could have had the wedding in Canada before they moved but she wanted the beauty of NZ for her wedding. </p> <p>And I had a DW in Jamaica and loved it and have no regrets. I never thought it was a big deal to ask my friends and family to travel because we are all the type who take all inclusive Caribbean vacations as much as we can and have gone on vacation with each other in the past to those resorts. I did invite other people as well but I knew no one else other than close friends and family would feel obligated to go and so if anyone else came it was because they wanted a vacation out of it.</p> <p>AND finally, I keep hoping I will get invited to another DW one day because i think a good friend's wedding is a GREAT excuse to travel :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-like-destination-weddings#post-646411 Sat, 16 Mar 2013 08:57:17 +0000 Mrs. Pen 646411@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've never been invited to a destination wedding or known anyone that's had one! </p> <p>I should have had one ;) lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-like-destination-weddings#post-646400 Sat, 16 Mar 2013 08:49:50 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 646400@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I considered having a destination wedding in Hawaii, but I didn't feel comfortable planning a wedding from afar. Also, DH didn't like the idea of possibly running into our guests if we extended our stay there and did part of our honeymoon there. Now I sometimes wish we had just gone that route - the idea of a smaller, more intimate wedding with our closest friends in a different place sounds so romantic and perfect.</p> <p>I've never been to a destination wedding, but if it was prior to having my LO's I think I would've loved to have made a vacation out of it... now, I don't know if I'd consider going to one as a parent. It would seem more overwhelming/tiring than anything.</p> <p>@travelgirl1: Wow Spain!! That sounds amazing! I'm partial to Spain because I studied abroad there and I think it's such a gorgeous country with a fascinating culture. Gaudi everywhere! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-like-destination-weddings#post-646360 Sat, 16 Mar 2013 08:21:18 +0000 travelgirl1 646360@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had one in Spain and I loved it so, so much! But I didn't fully consider it destination since DH has family there... It was only destination for my family and friends. I love the cobbled streets and gorgeous churches in Spain, and our reception venue was a replica Mediterranean fishing village on a cliff looking over the sea. It even had an amphitheater! We're going to get A christened at the little church we got married in when we go to BIL's wedding in August </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-like-destination-weddings#post-646274 Sat, 16 Mar 2013 06:21:33 +0000 Cherrybee 646274@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is such a difficult question!!! </p> <p>I'm not a family oriented person. I'm just not. And although I love my friends, I didn't need them all around me the day I gave my life to someone else..... it was about us and no-one else..... so yes, in that sense, I LOVE destination weddings. The sun, the sand, the sea breeze gently blowing at your hair, walking barefoot down an aisle made petals, just the two of you (and a couple of really close friends for witnesses) away from the hustle and bustle of the world. So romantic. No screaming kids in the ceremony, no worrying about dietary requirements for 150 people and disabled access for your Aunt Maud. No-one you don't really like but felt bad about excluding. Perfect!</p> <p>What I'm not on board with is people who want both! They want the big wedding, they want their friends there, they want their family there and they want to do it 4000 miles away!! Not cool. It costs their guests a lot of money to attend their wedding and they have to use their precious holiday time in a way they haven't chosen to use it.... so no, I'm not a fan of them then!! </p> <p>The yardstick for me is this: Would I actively choose to spend two weeks in the Caribbean with these people? If yes - I would love to go to their destination wedding! If no - I'm really not close enough to them to justify the expense and, if I can't get out of it, I will moan until take off!!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-like-destination-weddings#post-646238 Sat, 16 Mar 2013 03:10:40 +0000 sunny 646238@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@KissMeCait: ahh you put in words exactly why I'm not a huge fan of them! Although I do think going away with friends is the big positive that I see. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-like-destination-weddings#post-644216 Fri, 15 Mar 2013 10:19:08 +0000 luckypenny 644216@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Heck yes! But I've never been invited to one :( it's a good excuse for a vacation </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-like-destination-weddings#post-644211 Fri, 15 Mar 2013 10:17:41 +0000 Mrsjets 644211@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We really wanted to elope so a DW was a compromise for our families (parents, really). Had our wedding been at home it would have been 150+ people and after 10+ years together the wedding itself wasn't that important to me/us. We had a personal/package Vegas wedding that was perfect for us and our 42 guests and with the recession travel and hotel there was so cheap. It was so much fun that our guests wanted to go again on our anniversary! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-like-destination-weddings#post-644098 Fri, 15 Mar 2013 09:51:24 +0000 KissMeCait 644098@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not really but I’ll go if the person is extremely close to me. I’m a bridesmaid in a destination wedding at the end of this year so I don’t have much of a choice. It would have been a lot easier for everyone involved if they could have planned a stateside wedding but I understand their reasoning behind it. We’ll go and we’ll have fun. I’ll just complain about having to pay for it up until we leave! Lol</p> <p>If she wasn’t one of my best friends, I wouldn’t go. I generally feel that destination weddings are kind of an inconvenience. The couple asks their family and friends to use their precious vacation time, pay a boat load of money to travel to the destination then stay at a resort which they more than likely didn’t get any say in and ultimately visit a location that they possibly had no desire to go to. Couples try to pitch these weddings as vacations for their guests but really, they’re not. Vacations are when you get to choose where and when you go. With destination weddings, the traveler has very little say. Some couples even micromanage all of the time there so that their guests don’t even get to enjoy the island/city. </p> <p>However, I have no issues with somewhat local destination weddings. If we can drive there and stay for a long weekend, hell yea! It’s the trips that require airfare and at least a week out of our lives that I find kind of annoying. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-like-destination-weddings#post-643962 Fri, 15 Mar 2013 09:12:34 +0000 PurplePumps 643962@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, if it's a nice place that I don't mind going to. My friend had a destination wedding in Thailand and it was awesome!!! Destination wedding to a place like Caribbean wouldn't thrill me though cause I'm not crazy about resort/beach type trips. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-like-destination-weddings#post-643919 Fri, 15 Mar 2013 09:04:00 +0000 Reese 643919@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am biased. I had a destination wedding. Everyone constantly brings up what a great time it was. We had around 40 people and it was such an amazing experience. Our friends that came that will be getting married in the future have all decided to now have destination weddings. I can't wait to go to them :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-like-destination-weddings#post-643881 Fri, 15 Mar 2013 08:56:08 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 643881@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a destination wedding- 5 hours away from where I live plus.it is a place people say they want to visit. The only people who took advantage of the destination was my family and even then they only stayed 2 nights. </p> <p>@sloaneandpuffy: I agree. Many hometown weddings I have attended required significant travel and overnight stay. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-like-destination-weddings#post-643880 Fri, 15 Mar 2013 08:56:06 +0000 skipper2010 643880@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I love them! I'll use any excuse for a vacation! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-like-destination-weddings#post-643823 Fri, 15 Mar 2013 08:43:08 +0000 LuLu Mom 643823@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've never been, but I really wanted one when we got married but DH was completely against it. We compromised and agreed to renew our vows after 5 years on a beach at our honeymoon resort! So I can get the beautiful pictures I have always wanted! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-like-destination-weddings#post-643821 Fri, 15 Mar 2013 08:43:02 +0000 mamimami 643821@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had one and I love them. People totally understand if you can't make it so that doesn't concern me too much. And it's a good excuse to make a little vacation!</p> <p>I live far away from my "home" and pretty much all my friends, though, so I guess almost every wedding is a destination wedding for me. </p> <p>But I think that is typical! People don't stay in their hometowns anymore. Pretty much any wedding is going to require travel for some if not all of its attendees! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-like-destination-weddings#post-643802 Fri, 15 Mar 2013 08:38:17 +0000 swurlygurl 643802@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If I had to do it over again, I would have done a destination wedding.</p> <p>I only like them if it's somewhere I want to go (Hawaii, out of the country...). My BIL and his fiancee are having their destination wedding in Michigan... it'll be pretty, but not necessarily somewhere I've been dying to travel to </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-like-destination-weddings#post-643606 Fri, 15 Mar 2013 07:30:37 +0000 mrs. bird 643606@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>if we had endless $$$ and time off, i'd love them! but we don't, so right now if we were invited to one, we probably would have to skip it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-like-destination-weddings#post-643602 Fri, 15 Mar 2013 07:28:57 +0000 heartonastring 643602@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We went to one. I was the MOH. Between all the different expenses (flights, dress, bachelorette, shower, meals etc.) It cost me a small fortune - like, $3k for four days, even with the bride paying for my hotel expenses - and it meant that we couldn't go on a vacation of our choice that summer, as we'd spent our travel budget on the wedding.</p> <p>So we've resolved not to go to anymore. Our vacation time is too precious and we'd prefer to spend it in places that we want to visit doing things we want to do. I feel like that sounds terrible and selfish, but, well, it's the truth. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-like-destination-weddings#post-643601 Fri, 15 Mar 2013 07:26:35 +0000 buffalove 643601@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I like a destination wedding if everything is provided for me! But if I'm expected to pay for much more than my flight and hotel, I'm not really down (even pre-baby). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-like-destination-weddings#post-643596 Fri, 15 Mar 2013 07:23:48 +0000 heffalump 643596@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If I were going to have a destination wedding, it would have been because I didn't want a lot of guests there. And honestly, I didn't want a lot of guests at my wedding so I seriously considered it! Unfortunately my MIL is afraid to fly and she's one guest I really wanted there so we stayed local. Still, we only invited 30 people to our ceremony.</p> <p>Before LO came I would have loved to be invited to a destination wedding. Now it wouldn't be so easy to go to one. But as long as we could afford it.... it would be a fun excuse to go on a vacation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-like-destination-weddings#post-643147 Thu, 14 Mar 2013 23:03:40 +0000 Freckles 643147@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am not a fan if it is a very expensive destination, and i am only willing to go if it is a close friend. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-like-destination-weddings#post-643123 Thu, 14 Mar 2013 22:45:08 +0000 anbanan15 643123@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had a destination wedding at a beach location about 10 hours away. We rented a beach house for our families to stay at the week before the wedding. We really wanted a small ceremony with our closest friends and family in attendance. We ended up having about 50 people there.</p> <p>We have never been a guest at a destination wedding. It would be interesting to attend one as a guest and not the bride! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-like-destination-weddings#post-643089 Thu, 14 Mar 2013 22:31:21 +0000 sunny 643089@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Do you like getting invited to destination weddings? Did you have one? </p> <p>We had a local wedding in the city where we live. I'm not a huge fan of destination weddings but I can see why people like them since you get married in a beautiful place and go on vacation with your friends!</p> <p>At this stage in my life though, I'd rather just go to local weddings but we have 1 destination wedding in Mexico to attend coming up. </p>