https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 24 May 2026 05:23:56 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-like-having-overnight-guests/page/2#post-2830355 Sat, 23 Jun 2018 23:16:40 +0000 youboots 2830355@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not exactly the same but I love “hosting” at our family beach house.</p> <p>We don’t have a guest room so occasionally people stay on our air mattress in my office. Not my fave but works in a pinch.</p> <p>We are moving cross country and will need a guest room and I feel good about hosting people there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-like-having-overnight-guests/page/2#post-2830351 Sat, 23 Jun 2018 22:26:56 +0000 summerfruit 2830351@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't really like having people over either. It's a lot of work cleaning everything up to look outsider presentable. Plus, I have my morning routine, and that goes out the window usually when we have people staying overnight. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-like-having-overnight-guests/page/2#post-2830276 Fri, 22 Jun 2018 19:19:33 +0000 pachamama 2830276@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Iced Tea: lol that is bananas. I would have said no. But I'm a jerk.</p> <p>This thread is making me think of those HGTV shows when people are all like "Oh yeah we need an extra bedroom for guests." I'm like, people, if you don't have a room, they can't stay there! Problem solved! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-like-having-overnight-guests/page/2#post-2830138 Thu, 21 Jun 2018 20:50:51 +0000 Iced Tea 2830138@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrsbells: Way! And the mattresses are still just sitting on the floor upstairs weeks after they left. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-like-having-overnight-guests/page/2#post-2830127 Thu, 21 Jun 2018 20:26:36 +0000 Mrsbells 2830127@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Iced Tea: no way! That is beyond crazy </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-like-having-overnight-guests/page/2#post-2830125 Thu, 21 Jun 2018 20:16:19 +0000 Foodnerd81 2830125@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Iced Tea: ha- dh’s grandmother has the worst guest bed/ mattress, but obviously I don’t complain when we stay there. She seemed a little taken aback when I brought an extra pillow when I was super pregnant! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-like-having-overnight-guests/page/2#post-2830124 Thu, 21 Jun 2018 20:06:12 +0000 Iced Tea 2830124@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So, you guys will love this. </p> <p>I had a houseguest who informed us two days prior to arrival that they would require a new mattress since ours was too soft. They paid for two twin mattresses (because they have different preferences, of course) to be delivered to my home, which I had to carry upstairs and find a place for. </p> <p>Before you tell me I shouldn't have, let me say that it was my in laws who only visit once every few years from overseas. I went along with this INSANITY since the opportunity for my husband and kids to bond with them is so very rare. I still have to laugh though. Who the heck does that?! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-like-having-overnight-guests/page/2#post-2830084 Thu, 21 Jun 2018 15:59:22 +0000 periwinklebee 2830084@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrsbells: yeah, exactly, and the people who I wouldn't want to come and stay for an extended period are exactly the ones that would feel entitled :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-like-having-overnight-guests/page/2#post-2830073 Thu, 21 Jun 2018 15:37:41 +0000 lioneyes 2830073@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Now that we have an actual house, I am ok with friends staying for 1-2 nights max. Without their kids!</p> <p>We are lucky because our families are all close enough they can come for the day. We actually had the opportunity to move cross country right after our wedding, and I was so stressed about the idea of my ILs coming and insisting on staying with us that I had to shut it down. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-like-having-overnight-guests/page/2#post-2830068 Thu, 21 Jun 2018 15:25:01 +0000 Mrsbells 2830068@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@periwinklebee: haha yes when we were renting an apartment we always had a good excuse and we lived close enough that no one needed to spend the night. Weird how the moment you get more space people feel entitled to it </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-like-having-overnight-guests/page/2#post-2830045 Thu, 21 Jun 2018 13:56:03 +0000 periwinklebee 2830045@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@psw27: She already had a fit when we told her she simply couldn't sleep on our floor because there was no space to put an air mattress. So yeah, even with a slightly larger condo we might have issues. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-like-having-overnight-guests/page/2#post-2830029 Thu, 21 Jun 2018 13:40:33 +0000 psw27 2830029@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@periwinklebee: truth. Think it over. Cause yeah, once there is space (and we still live in the city and don't have much...) they have no problem inviting themselves, disregarding timing that works for the family and making themselves right at home!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-like-having-overnight-guests/page/2#post-2830027 Thu, 21 Jun 2018 13:38:12 +0000 periwinklebee 2830027@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@psw27: Right now we are in a one bedroom condo and are deciding whether we want to stay in the city, get plenty of space in the burbs in exchange for a longish commute, or move to a less urban area altogether. I know this sounds horrible, but thinking about my MIL making extended visits of whatever length she chose (she's very adamant about doing whatever she pleases and expects it culturally) if we had a guest room is making me think that living forever in a tiny city condo may not be such a bad thing :meh: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-like-having-overnight-guests/page/2#post-2830018 Thu, 21 Jun 2018 13:26:08 +0000 ElbieKay 2830018@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: I skipped Passover when my son was six weeks old because I knew I would not really be able to focus on the seder anyway, and he would obviously not benefit from a seder at that age.</p> <p>We also skipped Passover this year because it was the best timing for us to go on a nuclear family "babymoon".</p> <p>My mom was disappointed but she survived. Sometimes it is ok to be selfish. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-like-having-overnight-guests/page/2#post-2829950 Thu, 21 Jun 2018 11:24:42 +0000 Becky 2829950@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hate it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-like-having-overnight-guests/page/2#post-2829934 Thu, 21 Jun 2018 10:39:45 +0000 Mrsbells 2829934@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@psw27: ugh! :meh: I can fully relate! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-like-having-overnight-guests#post-2829921 Thu, 21 Jun 2018 10:15:20 +0000 psw27 2829921@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrsbells: I agree completely - daytime house guests and parties and playdates, I'm all about. It just is the never ending weeks of my in laws who wear shoes in my house and leave used tea bags sitting on my white kitchen counters that make me want to move back into our 2 bed 1 bath with no space for guests. And like @Foodnerd81: my 3 year old is awesome about telling people the rules of the house. But we are 3 weeks out from another week long visit and I'm bracing myself. UGH. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-like-having-overnight-guests#post-2829909 Thu, 21 Jun 2018 09:59:31 +0000 Mrsbells 2829909@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Haha some of these posts are funny. I'm glad other people also think its rude of guests not to follow your house rules! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-like-having-overnight-guests#post-2829898 Thu, 21 Jun 2018 09:12:30 +0000 PurplePumps 2829898@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't mind, but it doesn't happen very often - maybe once every other year. (Though it might be more in the future now that my inlaws are retired and we're having a baby). BUT I've also never had an issue with (I'm sorry to say) rude guests that cannot follow simple house rules. Our shoes come off at the door, I don't care which one we come in, shoes come off. We eat in the living room, but people have always asked if it's ok to take food outside normal food areas (kitchen/dining room) or asked where we/they should eat. I'm not too worried about having enough or the right food, it's "just family" so that level of formality doesn't concern me... there's always the option to go get more food or take them grocery shopping. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-like-having-overnight-guests#post-2829889 Thu, 21 Jun 2018 08:27:45 +0000 Foodnerd81 2829889@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ElbieKay: my mil lives across the country and baby 2 was due one week before Christmas, so the timing sucked. But I also assumed second babies are always early so figured I’d be settled in already anyway. If I ever had another baby I would make sure we got more alone time, but we are done at two anyway. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-like-having-overnight-guests#post-2829878 Thu, 21 Jun 2018 07:39:49 +0000 ElbieKay 2829878@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: Our parents all live 45 mins away (in opposite directions). Both last time and this time they are invited to visit in the hospital once everyone is bonded and stable post delivery. But they are not invited to visit us at home for the first few weeks. I want time for us to settle in as a newly expanded family, and I also need the freedom to learn how to breastfeed without being sequestered in my bedroom. Especially with twins! That goes for both sides of the family, not just my in-laws. It will make zero difference to the babies at that age. They can bond with their grandparents a little later. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-like-having-overnight-guests#post-2829872 Thu, 21 Jun 2018 07:27:17 +0000 Foodnerd81 2829872@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ElbieKay: when we lived in our two bedroom condo it was a different story. Even when people weren’t staying overnight with us they would just be in the living room all day long. MIL, who I like very much, rented an air bnb around the time LO2 was born, and basically we had guests in our condo from like 9 am to 9 pm. With a 2.5 year old and a newborn and a mama who had just given birth and was engorged and leaking and exhausted. Not fun. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-like-having-overnight-guests#post-2829858 Thu, 21 Jun 2018 04:07:10 +0000 ElbieKay 2829858@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I like hosting during the day, and even hosting parties.</p> <p>I can think of a handful of close friends that I would be ok with hosting overnight for 1-2 nights max. Otherwise HELL NO.</p> <p>We live in a 3bdrm 2ba 1500sf apartment with only one common area (open plan living room + kitchen). There is nowhere to hide from house guests. (There isn't even anywhere to hide from my son or husband, haha!). So, anyone who I don't know intimately well, to the point where I don't feel like I need to be "on" around them, stresses me out as an overnight guest.---</p> <p>We've had two experiences where friends of my husband stayed with us. I was miserable (for different reasons each time). Neither is invited back for an overnight stay (and both have solicited invitations).</p> <p>I feel even more strongly about this now that I am nearing the end of my twin pregnancy. We will have two adults, three children and two cats. That is 300sf per human, and 215sf per creature if you count all seven of us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-like-having-overnight-guests#post-2829854 Thu, 21 Jun 2018 01:32:00 +0000 Purpledaisy 2829854@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@erinbaderin: 😂😂😂 same!!</p> <p>I love having people over and hosting but overnight? No thank you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-like-having-overnight-guests#post-2829852 Thu, 21 Jun 2018 01:12:27 +0000 Littlebit7 2829852@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I only like my parents staying. That said, we have most of our families stay at our apt at one point or another (our small, cramped apartment)<br /> My mom gets me and she understands my cleaning style and helps unasked<br /> My mother in law thinks she helps and thinks she is a domestic goddess but really she half asses it. Just throws shit in the dishwasher, crystal next to dinnerware and shocking, things break. Uses dirty rags to dry dishes. She folded a load of very very damp laundry and then when I threw it back in the dryer, she legit cried. She always asks to help with things, I explain how it do it, she does it differently so I have to redo it<br /> Sorry that was way off topic</p> <p>We also live in an apartment with neighbors below and everyone who comes to visit with kids thinks it’s ok to play basketball or drum on the floor or do jumping jacks as their morning workout (even with gentle reminders. Kids and adults. 🤦‍♀️) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-like-having-overnight-guests#post-2829847 Wed, 20 Jun 2018 23:38:54 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2829847@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ineebee: yes! My SIL recently came to visit for a week and she kept leaving stuff out within LO’s reach. Kids are observant and anything that’s new he’s drawn to like a magnet. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-like-having-overnight-guests#post-2829821 Wed, 20 Jun 2018 20:48:49 +0000 wrkbrk 2829821@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@erinbaderin: This made me laugh out loud!@Mrsbells: I do love it but I’m a true extrovert and love sitting around with a glass of wine talking with people - if I can do that in my own home, all the better! We designed and built a townhouse last year specifically to have a gues suite for out of town family and friends. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-like-having-overnight-guests#post-2829818 Wed, 20 Jun 2018 20:39:35 +0000 Mrsbells 2829818@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Iced Tea: yes the meal planning gets stressful if you have to do it for 3 meals a day over several days. Also being pregnant and nauseas doesnt help me!</p> <p>@ineebee: this is so true, we have had guests be super loud banging tables and yelling during a game which woke up one of my little ones at night. </p> <p>You both make a good point that hosting without the responsibility of kids is totally different </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-like-having-overnight-guests#post-2829812 Wed, 20 Jun 2018 20:03:35 +0000 ineebee 2829812@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Before kids, I loved having people over. After having kids and experiencing how hard it is to get kid-less guests with the program in our home, I don’t prefer it. My parents and brother have a hard time remembering to be quieter when kids are sleeping, keeping phones and iPads away, eating at our usual times, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-like-having-overnight-guests#post-2829811 Wed, 20 Jun 2018 20:02:46 +0000 Iced Tea 2829811@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Before kids, I SO loved having overnight guests. It was a fun change, and I loved cooking and enjoying some wine together. In short, I had some time and energy to spare. </p> <p>Now I don’t, so I get stressed about most overnight guests, especially the kind that are waiting around for me to plan every meal or have no idea how to respect my kids’ schedules. I don’t have the energy for it. </p>