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Hellobee Boards Topic: Do you need to be next to your toddler for them to sleep at bedtime? https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 14 Apr 2026 03:31:24 +0000 kiddosc on "Do you need to be next to your toddler for them to sleep at bedtime?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-need-to-be-next-to-your-toddler-for-them-to-sleep-at-bedtime#post-2772126 Thu, 07 Sep 2017 12:38:35 +0000 kiddosc 2772126@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Have always been able to put both of my kids down for the night without having to stay. That 1.5 hours after bedtime is the only free time I get! snowjewelz on "Do you need to be next to your toddler for them to sleep at bedtime?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-need-to-be-next-to-your-toddler-for-them-to-sleep-at-bedtime#post-2772103 Thu, 07 Sep 2017 11:40:07 +0000 snowjewelz 2772103@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Cosleep with baby and 2.75 year old needs us with her till she is asleep. autumnlove on "Do you need to be next to your toddler for them to sleep at bedtime?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-need-to-be-next-to-your-toddler-for-them-to-sleep-at-bedtime#post-2771503 Mon, 04 Sep 2017 15:08:57 +0000 autumnlove 2771503@https://boards.hellobee.com/ No, but she needs her blankets and stuffed animals in a certain way! Dahlia on "Do you need to be next to your toddler for them to sleep at bedtime?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-need-to-be-next-to-your-toddler-for-them-to-sleep-at-bedtime#post-2771442 Sun, 03 Sep 2017 21:34:06 +0000 Dahlia 2771442@https://boards.hellobee.com/ On and off. She'll have a few days or weeks of needing one of us to lay on her floor and hold her hand through the crib bars. Then we can usually start doing the sleep lady shuffle until we get back to not having to be in there. Had to be in there most of the early summer, had a month of freedom, and now have had to be back in there for the last week. Luckily we can leave after she falls asleep and she doesn't wake up at night. travellingbee on "Do you need to be next to your toddler for them to sleep at bedtime?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-need-to-be-next-to-your-toddler-for-them-to-sleep-at-bedtime#post-2771418 Sun, 03 Sep 2017 16:59:45 +0000 travellingbee 2771418@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Both need us in the room to fall asleep but then we leave Mrs. Champagne on "Do you need to be next to your toddler for them to sleep at bedtime?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-need-to-be-next-to-your-toddler-for-them-to-sleep-at-bedtime#post-2771398 Sun, 03 Sep 2017 07:42:06 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 2771398@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @gingerbebe: my kids are the same. Need to be alone and dark and white noise. KayKay on "Do you need to be next to your toddler for them to sleep at bedtime?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-need-to-be-next-to-your-toddler-for-them-to-sleep-at-bedtime#post-2771397 Sun, 03 Sep 2017 07:33:31 +0000 KayKay 2771397@https://boards.hellobee.com/ When we potty-trained DD2 (she was already in a big girl bed with no issues), she started being a little crazy at bedtime -- coming out of her bed a lot, waking up MOTN to pee/other, etc. Finally we instituted 2 rules: 1) DH always puts her to bed instead of her having a choice of parent, and 2) he lays with her, which we had never done before. In the beginning, he would lay with her until she fell asleep, but now he just "snuggles" with her for a couple minutes and then can leave while she is still awake. Who knows if it had anything to do with our rules or if it was just a phase that passed! yerpie110 on "Do you need to be next to your toddler for them to sleep at bedtime?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-need-to-be-next-to-your-toddler-for-them-to-sleep-at-bedtime#post-2771396 Sun, 03 Sep 2017 07:14:22 +0000 yerpie110 2771396@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Both of mine go through phases of needing us for whatever reason and not needing us. Over time, I've learned to go with the flow instead of stressing about it like I used to. I do cherish those moments of snuggling, especially with my oldest who is 4.5 because there is just something about that time between being awake and drifting off that often the most poignant of questions are asked or fears are shared - sentiments that's just don't always have the chance come out during the chaos of the day. Mrs. Goose on "Do you need to be next to your toddler for them to sleep at bedtime?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-need-to-be-next-to-your-toddler-for-them-to-sleep-at-bedtime#post-2771394 Sun, 03 Sep 2017 06:05:36 +0000 Mrs. Goose 2771394@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Nope, same as gingerbebe, which means for on the go sleep it does not happen and the nap is skipped. For bedtime and nap time she is often rolling around in bed and yelling/babbling/singing but happily for an hour before she falls asleep. ShootingStar on "Do you need to be next to your toddler for them to sleep at bedtime?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-need-to-be-next-to-your-toddler-for-them-to-sleep-at-bedtime#post-2771377 Sat, 02 Sep 2017 18:41:47 +0000 ShootingStar 2771377@https://boards.hellobee.com/ A little before 2 years old I had a lot of trouble getting DS to sleep. I used to lay on the floor next to his crib singing to him and holding his hand. And this was long after we sleep trained. He had no wake ups, but getting him down was a bear. We ended up converting his crib, figuring it couldn't get too much worse. I got pregnant and DH took over bedtime and they got into a solid routine and things got much better. With DD I learned my lesson and we have a routine and I'm not so scared of letting her cry. Most nights she doesn't but some nights she cries for literally about 5-10 seconds. Then she goes right to sleep. I don't like co-sleeping, it's too claustrophobic for me. I need my own space or my anxiety goes through the roof. youboots on "Do you need to be next to your toddler for them to sleep at bedtime?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-need-to-be-next-to-your-toddler-for-them-to-sleep-at-bedtime#post-2771367 Sat, 02 Sep 2017 16:59:47 +0000 youboots 2771367@https://boards.hellobee.com/ No. We sleep trained. We don't have a routine besides Jammies, teeth brush, stick her in bed. birdofafeather on "Do you need to be next to your toddler for them to sleep at bedtime?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-need-to-be-next-to-your-toddler-for-them-to-sleep-at-bedtime#post-2771351 Sat, 02 Sep 2017 13:01:37 +0000 birdofafeather 2771351@https://boards.hellobee.com/ not typically, but sometimes we need to still rock/hold her to sleep or when she wakes in the middle of night, she's only going back down if she's in bed with us, so i just pull her in. but that's like a couple times a month maybe, usually when sick or getting teeth. gingerbebe on "Do you need to be next to your toddler for them to sleep at bedtime?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-need-to-be-next-to-your-toddler-for-them-to-sleep-at-bedtime#post-2771341 Sat, 02 Sep 2017 10:22:14 +0000 gingerbebe 2771341@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Nope, but we sleeptrained. They actually have a hard time falling asleep or don't sleep as well when it's not alone, in a crib/their bed, white noise, and blacked out. mrsbubbletea on "Do you need to be next to your toddler for them to sleep at bedtime?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-need-to-be-next-to-your-toddler-for-them-to-sleep-at-bedtime#post-2771337 Sat, 02 Sep 2017 10:05:38 +0000 mrsbubbletea 2771337@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My kid has never gone to sleep alone! He sleeps alone after for the whole night though :) he'll be 3 at the end of the year. looch on "Do you need to be next to your toddler for them to sleep at bedtime?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-need-to-be-next-to-your-toddler-for-them-to-sleep-at-bedtime#post-2771331 Sat, 02 Sep 2017 08:03:41 +0000 looch 2771331@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Yeah, I had to. I still have to sometimes (my son is 6.5). meganmp on "Do you need to be next to your toddler for them to sleep at bedtime?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-need-to-be-next-to-your-toddler-for-them-to-sleep-at-bedtime#post-2771315 Fri, 01 Sep 2017 22:20:49 +0000 meganmp 2771315@https://boards.hellobee.com/ No, but I would hear them talking to each other all the time when they were supposed to be sleeping! Mrs. Pickle on "Do you need to be next to your toddler for them to sleep at bedtime?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-need-to-be-next-to-your-toddler-for-them-to-sleep-at-bedtime#post-2771308 Fri, 01 Sep 2017 21:28:38 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 2771308@https://boards.hellobee.com/ No. Sometimes DD cries a little before bed, but she always puts herself to sleep. wrkbrk on "Do you need to be next to your toddler for them to sleep at bedtime?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-need-to-be-next-to-your-toddler-for-them-to-sleep-at-bedtime#post-2771289 Fri, 01 Sep 2017 19:31:13 +0000 wrkbrk 2771289@https://boards.hellobee.com/ No. But that's not to say he wont start asking when he's a bit older. He's 3 months behind your twins. GoGoSnoGirl on "Do you need to be next to your toddler for them to sleep at bedtime?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-need-to-be-next-to-your-toddler-for-them-to-sleep-at-bedtime#post-2771285 Fri, 01 Sep 2017 19:15:05 +0000 GoGoSnoGirl 2771285@https://boards.hellobee.com/ DD will often ask me to lay on the floor next to her crib, but after a few minutes usually "dismisses" me & tells me to go to my room. Lol! This is generally only for naps, and opposite of your kiddo(s), she will do fine on her own at night. nana87 on "Do you need to be next to your toddler for them to sleep at bedtime?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-need-to-be-next-to-your-toddler-for-them-to-sleep-at-bedtime#post-2771284 Fri, 01 Sep 2017 19:08:31 +0000 nana87 2771284@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Lo1 is 3 and needs on of us next to her to fall asleep, but we sneak out after she's asleep 2littlepumpkins on "Do you need to be next to your toddler for them to sleep at bedtime?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-need-to-be-next-to-your-toddler-for-them-to-sleep-at-bedtime#post-2771257 Fri, 01 Sep 2017 16:57:27 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2771257@https://boards.hellobee.com/ No. Do they share with each other? Of course it can have its drawbacks with motn wakings but overall we've found it helpful. If this has been going on awhile I would be inclined to make some sort of change too, although I'm not sure what. Seems like a lof of our October '15 babies are going through some sort of sleep regression right now... BSB on "Do you need to be next to your toddler for them to sleep at bedtime?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-need-to-be-next-to-your-toddler-for-them-to-sleep-at-bedtime#post-2771253 Fri, 01 Sep 2017 16:31:44 +0000 BSB 2771253@https://boards.hellobee.com/ They are days away from turning 2. We can get them both to nap (well, the au pair can), but bedtime is completely different. We don't cosleep but the last couple days we've had to cosleep with DD. DS has gone through brief days where I will need to be next to him but at the moment we don't need to be in the room for him to fall asleep at night. I'm considering converting the crib to a toddler bed or getting twin mattresses put on the floor.