https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 20 May 2026 18:19:02 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-nitpick-or-let-things-lie#post-920596 Wed, 10 Jul 2013 18:31:01 +0000 MrsScallop 920596@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am like you and tend to let things go even though they are sometimes things I probably really should say something about. Usually it is ok, but I do need to learn to stand up for myself more because I am starting to realize that I don't get much of a say in a lot of household choices anymore. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-nitpick-or-let-things-lie#post-920548 Wed, 10 Jul 2013 18:07:03 +0000 bisous 920548@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Slow learning curve here! I used to nitpick everything, but I am learning not to. My DH is so good to me, so I know I shouldn't sweat the small stuff! I love every part of him, even the part that can't load the dishwasher properly and takes forever to take his clothes out of the dryer. :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-nitpick-or-let-things-lie#post-920517 Wed, 10 Jul 2013 17:47:46 +0000 sorrycharlie 920517@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm learning! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-nitpick-or-let-things-lie#post-920227 Wed, 10 Jul 2013 15:53:10 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 920227@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I pick my battles.<br /> For every 10-20, I let go, I'll say something about one. I'll make myself clear ad to the point and it thankfully, never falls on death ears.<br /> When you deal with a personality like my husband's, you have to know that if you start acting out on every little thing he does, he will feel defeated. So, I try to bite my tongue whenever I can.<br /> I actually noticed it makes for a happier me! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-nitpick-or-let-things-lie#post-920218 Wed, 10 Jul 2013 15:49:53 +0000 cascademom 920218@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm learning to pick my battles better. Sometimes still, I nitpick or we blow up at dumb things. Lately, it's been dumb things that cause fights. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-nitpick-or-let-things-lie#post-920213 Wed, 10 Jul 2013 15:46:38 +0000 Ra 920213@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't nitpick but I tend to be pretty vocal if I'm upset about something. DH actually loves this about me (weird, right?!). If I hold things in I tend to build resentment. I'd much rather clear the air immediately. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-nitpick-or-let-things-lie#post-920203 Wed, 10 Jul 2013 15:45:14 +0000 mrsjyw 920203@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The only things I nitpick about are relationship type things, consideration, how he speaks to me or his parents, etc. </p> <p>I do not nitpick about him not picking up his clothes, or if leaves something around for days, or etc. chore type stuff that might not be "my way." That stuff doesn't get to me. </p> <p>Character related, relationship related stuff, I def nitpick and talk through until LIGHTBULB DING :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-nitpick-or-let-things-lie#post-920199 Wed, 10 Jul 2013 15:43:29 +0000 Sapphiresun 920199@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I try not to nitpick. I'm a little bit type a and particular and realized that it wasn't fair to dh that my way and timeline for things are always "better". So I really try now to let him do things how he sees fit and just appreciate that he's doing them.<br /> Even though sometimes... It's hard. I'm very logistically minded and often want to question his ways or make sure he's taking all pertinent (probably unimportant) details into account. But really, if things are on his time does it matter if the order that he does errands maximize efficiency by going a route that minimizes left hand turns and doubling back... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-nitpick-or-let-things-lie#post-920159 Wed, 10 Jul 2013 15:27:51 +0000 Boheme 920159@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I pick my battles very carefully... I don't utter a word about housework or errands because I know if he skips something he will get around to it, and he does the same with me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-nitpick-or-let-things-lie#post-920149 Wed, 10 Jul 2013 15:20:18 +0000 Caly 920149@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I generally (or at least I hope) pick my battles. Now, if something is really bothering me I have to bring it up or else it will end up festering &amp; blow out of proportion. Not letting it fester is something I had to work on over the years since I used to stew til it became more of an issue than it needed to be. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-nitpick-or-let-things-lie#post-920025 Wed, 10 Jul 2013 14:42:45 +0000 hilsy85 920025@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I tend to bite my tongue...Generally, after some time passes, I'm not upset about it anymore. I try to do this with small stuff and big stuff, but the big stuff usually comes out anyway! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-nitpick-or-let-things-lie#post-919958 Wed, 10 Jul 2013 14:23:26 +0000 NovBaby1112 919958@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh, nitpick...it is something I am actively trying to work on. For instance, DH stays home with LO on Wednesdays while I work, and 100% guaranteed the house will be a complete train wreck when I get home, as it is every Wednesday. Every Wed we get into an argument because I get ticked at how messy the house is and I don't understand how it gets like that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-nitpick-or-let-things-lie#post-919937 Wed, 10 Jul 2013 14:16:19 +0000 IRunForFun 919937@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't exactly say I nitpick, since I don't point out every single little thing that bugs me. The small things that are really just my own hang-ups, I let go. But if it's something a little bigger, and it really bothers me, I bring it up immediately so we can resolve it. I'm trying to encourage SO to do the same because he hates confrontation/making people mad and he'll hold in the things that bother him until he's just in a foul mood and then he'll burst. I prefer it the other way around. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-nitpick-or-let-things-lie#post-919899 Wed, 10 Jul 2013 14:09:24 +0000 heffalump 919899@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I guess it just depends on what it is. If it's something that's seriously going to piss me off, I'll tell him. He prefers it that way so I don't keep it in and go crazy later. But if it's something little that doesn't really matter, I let it go. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-nitpick-or-let-things-lie#post-919880 Wed, 10 Jul 2013 14:04:49 +0000 DillonLion 919880@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I intentionally choose not to argue about things on a regular basis. </p> <p>What about you? Do you just let things go? Or do you try to address things immediately as they happen?</p> <p>Sometimes this way of things comes back to bite me in the butt and make me feel like I should stand up for myself more often. But I hate confrontation, and have had such bad experiences when I attempt to stand up for myself in the past, so I have no made much headway in this department. </p>