https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 28 Apr 2026 11:59:16 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-offer-unsolicited-advice-to-good-friends#post-544151 Fri, 01 Feb 2013 12:46:59 +0000 Freckles 544151@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@septemberlove: @Mrs. Pen: @MamaMoose: Yah, in the past i prefaced it with, "This is just what i did, and i know it's a personal choice if you want to do xyz" and let her know that she doesn't have to take my advice but that this is what worked for me.</p> <p>@Happygal: @.twist.: @Mrs. Lemon-Lime: That sounds good...i may try that out. I hate it when others give offhand unsolicited advice, and i only want to say something because i really care about her! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-offer-unsolicited-advice-to-good-friends#post-544136 Fri, 01 Feb 2013 12:39:29 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 544136@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Only when I want to talk about something. My advice usually is a solution that can be put into practice. After I say it, problem solved and we move on! </p> <p>Just ask her if she would like to hear what has worked for you. An even more passive approach is to send her an email with tips and links. Say.you did some research instead.of getting into a compare/ share about your LOs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-offer-unsolicited-advice-to-good-friends#post-544127 Fri, 01 Feb 2013 12:35:58 +0000 MamaMoose 544127@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would say something like "what worked really well for me was _______" That way you are just sharing your experience and she can choose to use it or not. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-offer-unsolicited-advice-to-good-friends#post-544124 Fri, 01 Feb 2013 12:35:13 +0000 Mrs. Pen 544124@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would try to phrase it nicely! like "have you considered trying..." "you know what really worked for me personally..." "My LC told me something about this..." etc etc!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-offer-unsolicited-advice-to-good-friends#post-544122 Fri, 01 Feb 2013 12:33:39 +0000 .twist. 544122@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with the other ladies. Phrase is in a kind way that gives her the option to accept the advice or not. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-offer-unsolicited-advice-to-good-friends#post-544102 Fri, 01 Feb 2013 12:26:30 +0000 lomom 544102@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd just phrase it like "I did xyz and it helped my LO. Do you think that could help your LO?" or any other non-confrontational phrasing... Just to throw it out there in case she hadn't thought of it, but without coming off in a negative way. If she does take offense, then know for future reference she's not interested in advice and try to be an ear to vent to. Sometimes that's more helpful than any advice :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-offer-unsolicited-advice-to-good-friends#post-544095 Fri, 01 Feb 2013 12:23:11 +0000 Happygal 544095@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You could start in by asking her if she wants advice. If I'm hesitant and unsure, I might start by saying something like, "Someone once gave me some advice about _________ and it helped; I can share what they told me if you'd like." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-offer-unsolicited-advice-to-good-friends#post-544038 Fri, 01 Feb 2013 11:59:28 +0000 Freckles 544038@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have a good friend who has been battling supply issues, and consequently her LO does not sleep very well. </p> <p>I went through the same thing, and while we talked about it, i am hesitant to say things that sound like i am telling her what she should do. Everyone has their own way of parenting, but she really seems clueless on good sleep habits, and will sometimes look at me and say, "see, i don't know why he is crying again!" I also think she should see a different LC!</p> <p>Would you just bite your tongue and not say anything, or would say something? I only see her a couple of times a year since we live in different cities, but talk frequently. </p>