https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 20 Apr 2026 08:42:35 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-re-do-your-sos-chores#post-323927 Thu, 04 Oct 2012 09:29:06 +0000 blackbird 323927@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>re-doing chores is something you do for a child, not an adult. once in awhile i get sloppy when i do dishes and my husband will say, "hey you didn't clean this pan well enough" but that's not a big deal. i am of the opinion that if i want it done a certain way, i should do it myself. i'm not going to re-do something just b/c it's not to my liking. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-re-do-your-sos-chores#post-323834 Thu, 04 Oct 2012 08:35:32 +0000 Andrea 323834@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, I don't re-do them unless it's something really obvious, like food left stuck on a pot. But I will let him know so that he can be more careful next time but I really think he has selective eye sight.<br /> It is more common that he leaves things 75% completed and then walks away. Or I just tell him not to do things in the first place because he can't do them correctly, like the laundry. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-re-do-your-sos-chores#post-323828 Thu, 04 Oct 2012 08:32:35 +0000 SAHM0811 323828@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hmm... I don't because there aren't many chores he does for me to re-do! I would think that if he saw me re-doing them, he would feel it's pointless for him to do in the first place. I'm grateful when he does any kind of housework, so I leave it be! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-re-do-your-sos-chores#post-323823 Thu, 04 Oct 2012 08:29:18 +0000 lawbee11 323823@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not really. Sometimes he does laundry and puts things in the wrong drawer or hangs something in the wrong place in my closet (I have it color-coordinated cause I'm a freak) so I'll just move it to the right place. But I don't make a big deal of it and usually do it when he's not in the room (I'm just glad he does the laundry!) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-re-do-your-sos-chores#post-323798 Thu, 04 Oct 2012 08:16:24 +0000 Grace 323798@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Only the dishwasher. He loads it do dang weird! And then all the dishes don't fit. The rest I don't touch - I want him to "own" the chores he does. If I redo everything, I think he'd get pissed and stop doing it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-re-do-your-sos-chores#post-323771 Thu, 04 Oct 2012 07:57:48 +0000 mrsjyw 323771@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>nope. i usually just do it myself (dishes), but never re-do them when he does them!</p> <p>he has re-mowed the lawn after my attempts :P </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-re-do-your-sos-chores#post-323769 Thu, 04 Oct 2012 07:56:17 +0000 littlebug 323769@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Never. I'm so thrilled that he does a chore - any chore - that I leave it be. More often than not, he'll redo something I've done. Because he's anal and meticulous and I'm totally not. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-re-do-your-sos-chores#post-323764 Thu, 04 Oct 2012 07:51:54 +0000 mamabolt 323764@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>His laundry folding leaves a lot to be desired. But I have started to let it go a little...he can fold his clothes, LO's clothes, and towels however he wants. But when it comes to mine, I want them folded neatly so I just do them myself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-re-do-your-sos-chores#post-323762 Thu, 04 Oct 2012 07:51:26 +0000 Smurfette 323762@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I used to all the time. Now I say something. Like he used to always forget to clean the outside of the toliet, but I said something to him and now he does it all the time. Instead of cleaning up after him when he does the kitchen, I say, honey you forgot to clean the counter tops and oven. Then he does it. Glad that I am saying something instead of doing it all myself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-re-do-your-sos-chores#post-323753 Thu, 04 Oct 2012 07:42:27 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 323753@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, I don't. I feel like I would undermine him if I did that. He would get pretty upset with me if I did. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-re-do-your-sos-chores#post-323730 Thu, 04 Oct 2012 07:24:03 +0000 JerricaBenton 323730@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Pretty much always. I used to tell him and grumble about it but now I realize that he really just can't do certain things up to my standards - he's just not wired that way (and he can't see that well!) - so I don't feel it's right for me to get upset. I just decide how much it bothers me and then re-do it or let it go. I'm admittedly a control/clean-freak so I can't just assume that all my expectations are totally reasonable. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-re-do-your-sos-chores#post-323725 Thu, 04 Oct 2012 07:18:38 +0000 MediaNaranja 323725@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The only thing that really bothers me is the way he stacks the clean dishes in the dishrack! And he always puts the plates away in the wrong place. I like things to be in specific places, and he always puts them away wrong. I just quietly rearrange things, and I doubt that he even notices when I do. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-re-do-your-sos-chores#post-323701 Thu, 04 Oct 2012 06:29:26 +0000 heffalump 323701@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, we're the opposite. He has to redo my chores. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-re-do-your-sos-chores#post-323690 Thu, 04 Oct 2012 05:26:39 +0000 Arden 323690@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: I wish my DH wanted feedback. Even when I try to be really sweet about it and show him a way "to get it done even faster while getting it cleaner", he still gets frustrated and gives up.</p> <p>So I end up re-doing anything that is a serious cleanliness issue, like dishes, but I leave things that don't really matter like how the bed is made. Unless we have people coming over, in which case I give him jobs that cannot be messed up and do everything else myself. </p> <p>Maybe I should hire a cleaning expert to come in and teach us BOTH how to clean effectively. That might work. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-re-do-your-sos-chores#post-323685 Thu, 04 Oct 2012 03:52:10 +0000 banana 323685@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I used to but I stopped doing that after my husband said he felt like I was indirectly criticizing him. Plus, when I started re-doing his chores, he would get upset and not do them. I'd rather have him do the chores his way than not at all! But with that said, he's actually really good around the house (his laundry skills are out of this world) so I don't really have much to re-do. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-re-do-your-sos-chores#post-323678 Thu, 04 Oct 2012 02:52:11 +0000 Honeybee 323678@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I used to, but I don't anymore. DH's work is invaluable and a lot of time the differences between how we complete chores are just personal preference anyway (e.g. I like bowls on the bottom rack of the dishwasher, he likes them on the top.) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-re-do-your-sos-chores#post-323675 Thu, 04 Oct 2012 02:31:11 +0000 DigAPony 323675@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh, I do sometimes. I HATE the way my husband does the dishes especially! He never had to do chores growing up (his mom stayed at home and did all the cooking, cleaning, etc.) so he doesn't do them all that well. One of the many reasons my kids will do chores...but that's a whole other can of worms. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-re-do-your-sos-chores#post-323665 Thu, 04 Oct 2012 01:07:10 +0000 Mrs squirreld 323665@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah I would say making the bed too... He tries his hardest I know... It's just I like the 5 million cushions in a certain way... But he loves me and tries so that's sweet. :-) he also hangs the Bathmat up on an angle!!( who does that) so I always straighten it.... I now sound a little crazy!! Haha definatley first world problems! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-re-do-your-sos-chores#post-323663 Thu, 04 Oct 2012 01:02:18 +0000 BoogieBea 323663@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I used to redo folding the laundry - okay, I still sometimes do it. We just fold clothes differently, not that one way is right or wrong. His folding method is just very haphazard and messy looking. I don't really mind for our clothes, but I like to keep the kids clothing neat. His mom folds clothes the same way so I think that's where he gets it from.<br /> I don't redo dishes but I have to finish them up. He always leaves one or two behind unwashed in the sink which boggles my mind. Every time.<br /> I used to nag about how I prefer things to be done but now I just try to appreciate that he is helping with the chores - especially after a long work day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-re-do-your-sos-chores#post-323660 Thu, 04 Oct 2012 00:41:01 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 323660@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The only thing I redo is when he attempts to make the bed.... it is sloppy and lopsided when he does it and the blanket is always longer on one side than the other. It really bothers me! </p> <p>Other than that, he's pretty thorough when he washes dishes, cleans the floors, etc. He might even be more thorough than me! He is also BETTER at folding clothes than I am since he used to work in retail. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-re-do-your-sos-chores#post-323658 Thu, 04 Oct 2012 00:33:53 +0000 mrbee 323658@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This would really gut me. If there's a problem with my chores, I prefer to hear the feedback so I can do it the proper way. </p> <p>Although if it's just a matter of personal preference, I'm not always convinced that one way is better than the other. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-re-do-your-sos-chores#post-323656 Thu, 04 Oct 2012 00:30:29 +0000 softcream 323656@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i saw a blog post yesterday morning that made me chuckle, because i thought i was the only one!</p> <p><a href="http://simplystated.realsimple.com/2012/10/01/re-doing-your-partners-chores/" rel="nofollow">http://simplystated.realsimple.com/2012/10/01/re-doing-your-partners-chores/</a></p> <p>my hubs is so sweet and likes to do the dishes even if he was the one who spent the whole evening making dinner for us, but ... i don't really like how the dishes turn out when he does them, so i usually re-do them.</p> <p>do you re-do your SO's chores? </p>