https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 14 Apr 2026 14:06:07 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-regret-who-was-with-you-in-the-delivery-room/page/2#post-2141912 Mon, 13 Apr 2015 10:40:03 +0000 namaste 2141912@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So many regrets!!! It was supposed to just be DH &amp; I but a friend visited really early during labor and stayed????!!! Luckily the nurse kicked her out during pushing/etc but I was super irritated the whole time and super pissed that DH didn't get my cues to kick her out. I would have done it myself but I was dealing with a failed epidural and didn't even think she would stay the whole time, like over 14 hours... :/ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-regret-who-was-with-you-in-the-delivery-room/page/2#post-2140458 Sat, 11 Apr 2015 04:58:27 +0000 maddyz 2140458@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a home birth in the end it was DH, my mom, doula and midwife. We sent my mother home to get some sleep while my labour was still light and didn't call her back over until I was pushing. Most of my laboring was DH and myself and my doula at the end. I was glad for the privacy. By the time pushing came I didn't really care who was around. I didn't want touches or much help, DH would give me little sips of Gatorade when I rested. Everyone else just stood around and check the baby's heart beat sometimes. It was so nice to be supported but not bothered.</p> <p>It was amazing to have my mom there after. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-regret-who-was-with-you-in-the-delivery-room/page/2#post-2140427 Fri, 10 Apr 2015 23:27:59 +0000 mrsjyw 2140427@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Dh was there. Aand my mom was there most of it, left part way through pushing, and I don't regret it. This next time it will be just dh and I. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-regret-who-was-with-you-in-the-delivery-room/page/2#post-2140426 Fri, 10 Apr 2015 23:26:13 +0000 jedeve 2140426@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It probably would've been good if my midwife or OB had made it in there! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-regret-who-was-with-you-in-the-delivery-room/page/2#post-2140322 Fri, 10 Apr 2015 20:27:54 +0000 loveisstrange 2140322@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just DH and no, not really. I ended up not being able to bring who I was going to because they locked down the labor ward due to rotavirus, so it was just DH. He was kind of terrified and useless (not that I blame him, it was a massacre), but I had a midwife with me the whole time and she was wonderful! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-regret-who-was-with-you-in-the-delivery-room/page/2#post-2140281 Fri, 10 Apr 2015 20:01:54 +0000 Caly 2140281@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. For the actual delivery it was just DH &amp; I and I wouldn't have had it any other way. Then there was about 20 some other people in attendance (dr, nurses, nicu nurse for each baby, anastesialogist, nicu dr &amp; then a bunch of students I allowed to watch the show...at that point, I was pretty much "come one, come all" heh :wink: ) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-regret-who-was-with-you-in-the-delivery-room/page/2#post-2140208 Fri, 10 Apr 2015 19:04:17 +0000 marionberry 2140208@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>C-sections both times so only my husband was allowed. If vaginal I still would have preferred it that way I think. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-regret-who-was-with-you-in-the-delivery-room/page/2#post-2140203 Fri, 10 Apr 2015 19:02:04 +0000 bushelandapeck 2140203@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Dh and my mom for the first one and just DH and I for the second. I would'nt change a thing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-regret-who-was-with-you-in-the-delivery-room/page/2#post-2140104 Fri, 10 Apr 2015 16:17:12 +0000 Ginger333 2140104@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For my first two births it was just DH and my bestie who just happened to also be a doula and was "working" the birth.<br /> For my last birth, my daughter was there (she was 6) and my same friend/doula who was at her birth was there for her in case she had questions or got scared. DD ended up staying for everything (&lt;1 hour labour) and got to cut the cord with DH.<br /> No regrets at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-regret-who-was-with-you-in-the-delivery-room/page/2#post-2140075 Fri, 10 Apr 2015 15:34:38 +0000 Ree723 2140075@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No regrets - just DH and hospital staff. I had zero desire to have anyone else there - as my mom always says, childbirth is not a spectator sport - and there were no expectations from anyone else that they would be allowed to be there either. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-regret-who-was-with-you-in-the-delivery-room/page/2#post-2140051 Fri, 10 Apr 2015 15:05:29 +0000 PurplePeony 2140051@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My doula was useful for a grand total of about 15 minutes, so I kind of wish we'd sent her away sooner. She did take some photos of the birth, which are wonderful to have, but once DD had been born and I was stitched up and the medical team left, she stuck around and it felt a bit intrusive. I was too exhausted to do much about it at the time but, looking back, I'd have told her to go get something to drink and give DH, DD, and me a few minutes all to ourselves. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-regret-who-was-with-you-in-the-delivery-room#post-2139981 Fri, 10 Apr 2015 14:14:34 +0000 ellewoods84 2139981@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No regrets--my husband and my mom. My labor was pretty quick, so at first it was just my husband until my mom arrived probably 2 hours before she was born. It was great to have them both there, they were both a really great support system! My MIL did come in when I was pushing, which I told my husband I did not want her in there, but luckily they kicked her out since there can only be 2 people. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-regret-who-was-with-you-in-the-delivery-room#post-2139956 Fri, 10 Apr 2015 13:52:01 +0000 avivoca 2139956@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It was just DH and the hospital staff, which is all I wanted. I really enjoyed it and I will do the same next time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-regret-who-was-with-you-in-the-delivery-room#post-2139949 Fri, 10 Apr 2015 13:46:17 +0000 LuLu Mom 2139949@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>First DD, my husband and then my mom came in (I was having a tough time) second DD was a scheduled CS so just DH. No regrets. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-regret-who-was-with-you-in-the-delivery-room#post-2139872 Fri, 10 Apr 2015 12:44:44 +0000 MenagerieMama 2139872@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. Just DH and the hospital staff. I was actually relieved because I wasn't sure how to tell my mom I didn't want here there and/or what to do about my MIL, but LO came a few days early (and I was CONVINCED I would be late). So my mom was actually in her plane en route when LO was born and the ILs didn't show up for a few days later. It was great! The only downside was that we didn't have a backup plan for our dogs without family in town (we moved across the country and literally know no one here, especially at that time) so DH had to keep popping out to go let the dogs out, which still makes me sad when he left after LO was born during that golden hour while staff left us alone. But the hospital was super close so it was fine. Much better than family drama! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-regret-who-was-with-you-in-the-delivery-room#post-2139775 Fri, 10 Apr 2015 11:34:45 +0000 Alivoo01 2139775@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope! I had DH and my photographer in there. That's all I wanted and am happy with that decision. I only want both of them there for all future deliveries too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-regret-who-was-with-you-in-the-delivery-room#post-2139693 Fri, 10 Apr 2015 10:34:08 +0000 dolphin 2139693@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It was just me and DH and I wouldn't want it any other way! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-regret-who-was-with-you-in-the-delivery-room#post-2139692 Fri, 10 Apr 2015 10:33:12 +0000 Chillybear 2139692@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is going to sound awful but my hubs was quite unhelpful during my most of labor and delivery. Most of my labor was boring and he's not a good conversationalist, so i was glad my mom was there for that part to keep me occupied during the longest stretch. Hubs was great when it came to the really hard contractions, and getting me to focus through them and was awesome when they had to give me the epidural. As for when I was pushing, my mom went to the waiting room. The nurse had my hubs hold my left leg while she held my right and my husband was very much not into taking that much of an active role in the pushing process and was quite squimish for a biology major. He would have preferred just standing near my head and encouraging me from there i guess. I dont think he was prepared for what delivery would really be like (we never took a class, he didnt read any books, it wasnt really discussed at the appts with our OB, and I really didnt know what i would "need" it terms of support to prepare him) I'm not sure how we will work this out when it comes time for baby #2. Not sure if I will discuss my husbands level of comfort with my doctor to arrange for 2 nurses or if we will hire a doula or have my mom stay while I deliver. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-regret-who-was-with-you-in-the-delivery-room#post-2139676 Fri, 10 Apr 2015 10:22:46 +0000 Jess1483 2139676@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH the whole time. Parents came in once I got the epi, left for checks, and left for pushing. After birth, when I felt up to it, we texted them that they could come back (maybe 10 minutes after). It was perfect. This time, my parents will have LO1, so I assume it will just be me and DH. I'm looking forward to that experience as well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-regret-who-was-with-you-in-the-delivery-room#post-2139673 Fri, 10 Apr 2015 10:20:07 +0000 MsHangry 2139673@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Haven't given birth yet, but plan for a nice size crowd at least for labor. I think I will like the distraction and conversation. I have warned them all that I may change my mind at any point and kick them out! </p> <p>I have had the opportunity to participate in a lot of births earlier this year. We would "enforce" a hospital "policy" that limited the number of guests present at the actual pushing/birth to 3. Sometimes that meant kicking 10+ extended family members out to the waiting room! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-regret-who-was-with-you-in-the-delivery-room#post-2139644 Fri, 10 Apr 2015 09:55:14 +0000 Andrea 2139644@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No regrets! DH and doula were both great. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-regret-who-was-with-you-in-the-delivery-room#post-2139549 Fri, 10 Apr 2015 08:45:54 +0000 snowjewelz 2139549@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH, mom &amp; sister. No regrets! Honestly, by the time the show is on the road, I didn't really care what was going on anymore! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-regret-who-was-with-you-in-the-delivery-room#post-2139388 Fri, 10 Apr 2015 07:23:44 +0000 Anya 2139388@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Me, DH, one nurse, one midwife. No regrets. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-regret-who-was-with-you-in-the-delivery-room#post-2139306 Fri, 10 Apr 2015 06:04:05 +0000 lamariniere 2139306@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lemondrop: haha, seriously!</p> <p>I just had DH and the hospital staff. It didn't even occur to me that anyone else needed to be there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-regret-who-was-with-you-in-the-delivery-room#post-2139291 Fri, 10 Apr 2015 04:54:27 +0000 78h2o 2139291@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had my husband and both of my parents. I don't have any regrets. My husband tried his best to support me, but was consumed by his own medical problems at the time. My parents were a great support, and it was a special experience to share with them. My dad stayed in the far corner of the room at an angle where he couldn't see much. My husband stayed by my head, and my mom and the nurse held my legs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-regret-who-was-with-you-in-the-delivery-room#post-2139283 Fri, 10 Apr 2015 03:57:34 +0000 Cherrybee 2139283@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, not at all. I had initially wanted to hire a doula because I didn't know how DH was going to cope supporting me in labour. He loves to make fun of me and when pushed to be serious he often gets over stressed, which in turn makes him snappy. He's terrible when I'm ill! We didn't hire a doula because DH refused to meet her, saying the whole thing was "ridiculous". Cut to my induction - DH was amazing! He was a tower of strength, supported me, fought my corner with the medical staff and counted me through every single contraction. Turns out when shit gets real, he's a bit of a gem! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-regret-who-was-with-you-in-the-delivery-room#post-2139276 Fri, 10 Apr 2015 03:10:03 +0000 Mrs. Coral 2139276@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. I had DH and he was amazing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-regret-who-was-with-you-in-the-delivery-room#post-2139254 Fri, 10 Apr 2015 00:04:45 +0000 DigAPony 2139254@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just my husband was there, and I don't regret it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-regret-who-was-with-you-in-the-delivery-room#post-2139224 Thu, 09 Apr 2015 22:48:57 +0000 MrsStar 2139224@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had dh, my mum and midwife. They were an amazing support team for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-regret-who-was-with-you-in-the-delivery-room#post-2139168 Thu, 09 Apr 2015 21:23:16 +0000 simplyfelicity 2139168@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So I haven't had my LO yet but the plan is to just have DH and my sis. My sis is my best friend, has delivered 4 times in every circumstance (vaginal, cesarean, vbac, med free, epidural, etc.) So she is a wealth of knowledge. Plus, DH is squeamish.<br /> Eta: I have also stipulated no parents, etc in the waiting room. They all live pretty close to the hospital and I don't like the idea of people waiting in a room for me to give birth. </p>