https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 01 May 2026 15:52:58 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-remind-people-when-they-owe-you-money#post-396436 Wed, 14 Nov 2012 08:43:01 +0000 Mrsbells 396436@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If its under $100 and its a family member then I dont consider that a loan. I wouldnt be expecting it back. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-remind-people-when-they-owe-you-money#post-396435 Wed, 14 Nov 2012 08:41:53 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 396435@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That sounds over the top for me. I don't lend out money, I just give it to them. If I buy someone lunch, I don't expect the money back. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-remind-people-when-they-owe-you-money#post-396416 Wed, 14 Nov 2012 08:30:30 +0000 BabyBear 396416@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Only if it's a large amount. $13 is a little silly to be harped about. I really don't lend out money though because I've learned lessons watching my grandmom do it all of her life. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-remind-people-when-they-owe-you-money#post-396412 Wed, 14 Nov 2012 08:28:53 +0000 mrs. bird 396412@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsTiz: that's super weird. And why us he coming to get if from you when you have nothing to do with it???? I'm sorry he's being a PITA. I'd just pay him and then avoid him so as to avoid the crazy train. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-remind-people-when-they-owe-you-money#post-396390 Wed, 14 Nov 2012 08:07:39 +0000 Smurfette 396390@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsTiz: Seriously? Over $13 when his wife owes you $50?? Crazy town. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-remind-people-when-they-owe-you-money#post-396388 Wed, 14 Nov 2012 08:01:01 +0000 Cherrybee 396388@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsTiz: Eh????? For the record, I find his behaviour really, really weird. My mum is really short on money but she would totally buy me lunch and refuse the money when I tried to give it back. Perhaps your MIL handles all their household money and pays him a tiny allowance (so she can spend the rest on Christmas ornaments and shirts!) so this $13 is really important to him?!?! Bizzare. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-remind-people-when-they-owe-you-money#post-396387 Wed, 14 Nov 2012 08:00:27 +0000 pastemoo 396387@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsTiz: wow!<br /> @zippylef: I have this policy, too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-remind-people-when-they-owe-you-money#post-396382 Wed, 14 Nov 2012 07:54:02 +0000 MrsTiz 396382@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Okay, just a little update. After basically harassing us over it since Sunday but refusing to come to our house and get it, he's coming to my job today to get it.</p> <p>He said if I don't have cash he'll ride with my to the ATM. WTF? He's annoying me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-remind-people-when-they-owe-you-money#post-393672 Mon, 12 Nov 2012 16:23:20 +0000 lolabee 393672@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsTiz: 13$? That seems so crazy to start things over!</p> <p>@zippylef: Great rule to live by! Wish I would have had that policy in place before lending a friend a large sum of money. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-remind-people-when-they-owe-you-money#post-393649 Mon, 12 Nov 2012 16:15:44 +0000 spaniellove 393649@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He needs to calm down a little! </p> <p>I don't lend money because it always gets weird. My policy is to either just give someone the money/treat them to a meal if it's an amount I can live with not seeing again, but never lend money or things because I know they will never come back. Maybe that's selfish. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-remind-people-when-they-owe-you-money#post-393630 Mon, 12 Nov 2012 16:07:19 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 393630@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@chopsuey119: I knoooow!!! He paid for his lunch. To me: if a family member buys you lunch, you shouldn't even be expected to pay him back.<br /> @mrbee: I agree-----just pay your dues &amp; get the hell out of this situation.<br /> I get why your off-put...I am! But take it as a lesson learned and do not deal with money with them ever again. I'd rather not eat then have someone harass me over $13. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-remind-people-when-they-owe-you-money#post-393542 Mon, 12 Nov 2012 15:27:44 +0000 .twist. 393542@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@zippylef: same! I follow that policy too, thank you Dave Ramsey! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-remind-people-when-they-owe-you-money#post-393513 Mon, 12 Nov 2012 14:59:08 +0000 MrsTiz 393513@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@adnama: @chopsuey119: No! FIL works, but MIL quit her job to stay home. So they def. aren't hurting for money! She was out shopping this weekend and spent $75 on Christmas ornaments! That's why it blows my mind, because I have never had to borrow/lend money to my family so they don't (and would never) ask me to pay them back.</p> <p>$13 isn't even the cost of 1 shirt, which MIL bought 6 of this weekend ;P and I don't care about the $50 she owes us and would have never given it another thought..but harassing us over $13 just gets me fuming mad. DH works his ass off for them, and never even gets a "thanks." so I'm a little taken aback that they couldn't foot a THIRTEEN dollar bill for their son! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-remind-people-when-they-owe-you-money#post-393478 Mon, 12 Nov 2012 14:38:51 +0000 Alivoo01 393478@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We don't remind people that owe us money unless it's a large amount and their promised return date is way past due. </p> <p>Between friends and family, we all alternate paying for meals and stuff. We don't keep track of who's turn it is or who has paid more over time, we just go with it. It'll even itself out in the future (e.g. presents, celebration meals, etc).</p> <p>I can't believe his own dad is chasing after him and it's for only $13!! Ridiculous. I agree with texting him and saying "mom borrowed $50 from me so take it out of that.". </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-remind-people-when-they-owe-you-money#post-393470 Mon, 12 Nov 2012 14:34:05 +0000 birdofafeather 393470@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>that's weird for family. i definitely don't do that! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-remind-people-when-they-owe-you-money#post-393454 Mon, 12 Nov 2012 14:27:45 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 393454@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Shutterbug: I agree. I can't believe he is going crazy over $13!</p> <p>However.... given the case that he really needs the $13, and his wife had to borrow $50, maybe they are really low on money, and o them that $13 is a lot? (But if that was the case, they shouldn't go out for lunch!) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-remind-people-when-they-owe-you-money#post-393435 Mon, 12 Nov 2012 14:19:51 +0000 Shutterbug 393435@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with PP... your DH should just text him back and say "mom owes me $50 - take the $13 from her :)" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-remind-people-when-they-owe-you-money#post-393431 Mon, 12 Nov 2012 14:18:41 +0000 mrbee 393431@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would forgive the $50, and pay back the $13 right away... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-remind-people-when-they-owe-you-money#post-393424 Mon, 12 Nov 2012 14:14:08 +0000 Mrs. Lovejoy 393424@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>oh, I'm such a pushover when it comes to things confrontational like this. I generally don't ask and don't worry about it. </p> <p>$13 though?! That seems so silly.. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-remind-people-when-they-owe-you-money#post-393420 Mon, 12 Nov 2012 14:12:37 +0000 Amelieisme 393420@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow. That's nuts! I usually don't remind people unless its more than $100 probably. I would in that situation though since he is being so ridiculous. I would mention the fact they owe me $50 (but not accept repayment) and pay him his $13 dollars and never borrow money or lend money to them again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-remind-people-when-they-owe-you-money#post-393412 Mon, 12 Nov 2012 14:08:48 +0000 loveisstrange 393412@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You should never lend money you expect to get back. That's my policy.</p> <p>Your FIL needs to chill. Family is more important than $13. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-remind-people-when-they-owe-you-money#post-393408 Mon, 12 Nov 2012 14:07:41 +0000 chopsuey 393408@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We usually pay for our friends'/family's meals without expecting them to pay us back.<br /> I can't believe your fil is going crazy over 13 bucks. Are they struggling financially? I would have dh text back and say "mom borrowed 50 way back when and never paid me back. Lets call it even." :P </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-remind-people-when-they-owe-you-money#post-393407 Mon, 12 Nov 2012 14:07:34 +0000 regberadaisy 393407@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow. Our families aren't really that way. My one BIL is and we always wonder how he turned out that way bc my husband isn't and neither are his parents.</p> <p>I wouldn't bug family about $13 or $50. I mean really in the big scheme of things.</p> <p>That being said we are horrible about it! His manager borrowed money from us over a year ago and still owes us $300 from it! I'm so aggravated about it because they keep saying they will return it. Like really? I'm laid off and we have a baby and it's just the 2 of you. Give us our freaking money back!!!<br /> We knew it would be a pain to get money back but we didn't have the heart to say no bc it was to buy airfare to see his daughter in a dance recital out of state. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-remind-people-when-they-owe-you-money#post-393404 Mon, 12 Nov 2012 14:07:12 +0000 Smurfette 393404@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes but only if it is a big amount. I wouldn't worry about $13. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-remind-people-when-they-owe-you-money#post-393399 Mon, 12 Nov 2012 14:05:26 +0000 MamaMoose 393399@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I normally don't because I don't like confrontation. But in this case I would TOTALLY use the opportunity to say "just take the $13 from the $50 mom owes me and please get me the remaining $37 as soon as possible". That ought to shut him up real fast. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-remind-people-when-they-owe-you-money#post-393396 Mon, 12 Nov 2012 14:04:50 +0000 prettylizy 393396@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>OMG that's crazy- over $13?</p> <p>I have a hard time reminding people when they owe me money. Only if it's a big sum (like we ordered the concert tickets for everyone and they owe us for their tickets) will I send a gentle reminder if it's forgotten. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-remind-people-when-they-owe-you-money#post-393395 Mon, 12 Nov 2012 14:04:47 +0000 autumnlove 393395@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I usually let it go unless it is a lot! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-remind-people-when-they-owe-you-money#post-393391 Mon, 12 Nov 2012 14:03:08 +0000 DillonLion 393391@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sorry, that is totally bizarre to harass someone over $13. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-remind-people-when-they-owe-you-money#post-393389 Mon, 12 Nov 2012 14:02:24 +0000 MrsTiz 393389@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A while back DH and I lent his mom $50. (It was about 6 months ago) and this weekend DH forgot his wallet at home, and his dad had to pay for his lunch- Which is incredibly rare, seeing as how we don't do anything without having money to do so.</p> <p>So now, my FIL is blowing up DH &amp; I's phones reminding us that DH owes him $13.00. They went to lunch this weekend....like damn, it's been 24 hours, breathe FIL.</p> <p>What is a nice way to say "Screw you, your wife owes me $50, let's just call it even."</p> <p>/rant. </p>