https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 07 May 2026 14:35:21 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-require-unwind-time#post-749946 Mon, 29 Apr 2013 09:18:24 +0000 fancyfunction 749946@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I def do, especially when I get home from an outing. On Thurs nights I have orchestra rehearsal in NYC so I don't get home until 11:30. Husband and baby are asleep, so I have my Starbucks, put on the TV, do some work on the computer and don't get to bed til about 1am. I really enjoy this time. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-require-unwind-time#post-749827 Mon, 29 Apr 2013 08:38:57 +0000 littlek 749827@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I need time to unwind too. Until LO goes to sleep, I'm busy doing something. After LO goes to bed, we eat dinner, I just need to watch something mindless like HGTV or Real Housewives. DH does not get it and makes fun of me for watching trash. But he plays videogames while I'm making bottles, or doing laundry, so he already has his free time. And he DOMINATES our TV. I told him I need my own, so I can watch TV without being mocked. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-require-unwind-time#post-749565 Sun, 28 Apr 2013 22:43:06 +0000 travelgirl1 749565@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Weagle: This is us exactly. Let me know if you figure it out! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-require-unwind-time#post-749554 Sun, 28 Apr 2013 22:32:38 +0000 googly-eyes 749554@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I do, definitely!! DH usually does too though so we watch something brainless together right after LO goes down.. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-require-unwind-time#post-749537 Sun, 28 Apr 2013 22:02:22 +0000 Weagle 749537@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I do. And we're still figuring out what that means for both of us now that we're parents. I now want my unwinding to be totally alone. DH just can't understand. Partially because he's an extrovert, so he's more than happy to be with me constantly. Partially because he's super practical. His idea of a good night is come home, eat, clean kitchen, do some project, and go to bed. Meanwhile, I would like to just go to the bathroom without being bothered. It's so hard for me to meet his need for interaction and productivity and my need to recharge and collect my thoughts. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-require-unwind-time#post-749527 Sun, 28 Apr 2013 21:50:24 +0000 StbHisMrs 749527@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PrincessBaby: yes, yes it does!! I am so thankful we don't have them full time, God that sounds awful but I honestly think I'd go crazy!! I hear you on showering, alone! It is so nice, but is pretty rare ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-require-unwind-time#post-749521 Sun, 28 Apr 2013 21:45:28 +0000 PrincessBaby 749521@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@StbHisMrs: 4 kids = INSANITY. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-require-unwind-time#post-749519 Sun, 28 Apr 2013 21:44:37 +0000 PrincessBaby 749519@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@TurtleDoves: Exactly! While I was battling a baby to go to sleep for 1.5 hours, he was sprawled out on the couch! So he had plenty of unwind time!</p> <p>@StbHisMrs: I hear you! When he's home, it's sooooo much easier! Even though 70% of stuff still falls on me bc I have the boobs, that 30% break is crazy helpful! Like um, I can take a bath and use shaving cream and everything bc I know he'll get her/take care of her! Or I have time for extras like eyeliner! When he is gone, it's bananas! But I guess I get used to it and don't even realize just HOW bananas it is until he's home and makes everything easier. But we also only have 1! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-require-unwind-time#post-749517 Sun, 28 Apr 2013 21:41:39 +0000 travelgirl1 749517@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>God yes but I never get it! I have the same deal with A, nurse down, takes three or four attempts to lower her down into her crib (crazy legs like windmill blades waking her up) and can take me about an hour to get her down. By which time it's 9, sometimes 10pm and I just.want.to.relax.already!!!! Meanwhile, DH wants to snuggle or DTD or something, but I'm too stressed to DTD because a) A sleeps in our room so it has to be in the living room and having your baby on the monitor that you're watching like a hawk in case she wakes up and needs nursing again is just not sexy! and b) this is the first time I have had any time to myself and I want to use it! This is such a bone of contention in our house and actually as I type this DH came over to see what I was doing and I literally just had to explain that this is MY TIME TO CHILL! Ha ha. I have no idea what the answer is but I definitely don't have the balance right. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-require-unwind-time#post-749512 Sun, 28 Apr 2013 21:39:09 +0000 StbHisMrs 749512@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes I do! My husband is home maybe 3 days out of the week, the rest of the time he's out of town. I couldn't do 3 weeks!!<br /> I want to crawl into a hole all by myself on the weekends "we" have the girls (9 times out of 10 he's not here on the weekend), 4 kids alone is SCARY! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-require-unwind-time#post-749509 Sun, 28 Apr 2013 21:38:17 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 749509@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is us 100%.<br /> I need to wash my makeup off, get my feet up and watch mindless television and maybe dig my hand into some cashews or M&amp;Ms. After about 30 mins...I'm ready to drag my self to bed.<br /> When I get there (if we don't DTD), I need to cuddle a bit and then catch up on texts...then sleep.<br /> Drives my husband insane because he can't wrap his mind around it.<br /> Oh and *when* he comes home at 7pm, he winds down! And I'm still working around the house. So at 10pm he is ready for bed and im still wired and need to chiiiiill </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-require-unwind-time#post-749503 Sun, 28 Apr 2013 21:33:51 +0000 PrincessBaby 749503@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH works away 3 weeks and then is home 3 weeks. So I am submerged in solo parenting when he's gone. I established a hardcore bedtime routine with H, and then I nurse her to sleep. It is hard to get her to slip into deep sleep. And it takes at least 45 mins to get her down from when I start nursing her. I know because the Sleep Sheep usually craps out on me right at that crucial moment when I'm lowering her into the crib ( must get all-night white noise machine!)....Tonight, it took almost an hour and a half, and 4 attempts before successfully getting her down.</p> <p>By the time I came out of the nursery, DH was ready to go to bed and he assumed we'd go to bed together (not to dtd- already got that in today- ha!)...I told him I needed a little time to unwind, as this is what I do every night after my parental duties are done. I like to spend 30 or 40 mins watching something brainless, like Bravo, and have a glass of wine. DH complained that I "can't spend so long getting her down for the night." Because he wants to spend time with me, go to bed together. He understands I need some down time, he just wants us to have it together, while a happy baby sleeps effortlessly upstairs. I told him that is very perfect world! He's just not here, so it always takes some time for him to adjust to our routine when he gets home. But it made me really wish I could please him and get to unwind with him, instead of by myself while he goes to bed alone. I'm just not ready for sleep! </p> <p>Do you require some winding down each night? </p>