https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 10 May 2026 17:14:58 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-reward-or-praise-for-a-change-in-behavioractions#post-2748108 Thu, 15 Jun 2017 19:12:32 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2748108@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would do similar to what you did!</p> <p>We went through something similar and while her learning her own words was reward in itself, the encouragement at home definitely helped her keep at it, because it's not like she just had to do it once at school.</p> <p>Isn't it the best? It is so hard to be the parent of the kid that gets walked over. My dd just blossomed after she found her own voice! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-reward-or-praise-for-a-change-in-behavioractions#post-2748076 Thu, 15 Jun 2017 17:00:41 +0000 hummusgirl 2748076@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd probably do a high five and mention how proud she must feel for standing up for herself, and leave it at that. Not that there's anything *wrong* with rewards but I want to try and encourage intrinsic motivation which I think is ultimately more powerful than external rewards/prizes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-reward-or-praise-for-a-change-in-behavioractions#post-2748060 Thu, 15 Jun 2017 16:21:37 +0000 MrsBrewer 2748060@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: Definitely reward and praise!! good for her for sticking up for herself! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-reward-or-praise-for-a-change-in-behavioractions#post-2748017 Thu, 15 Jun 2017 14:56:20 +0000 2PeasinaPod 2748017@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Absolutely reward and praise! My oldest has done a few things in which he was terrified to do. We were able to talk him into doing them in a gentle way, and I was so proud of him for being so brave. We talk about how a brave person is someone who does something that they're scared of doing, but does it anyway because they know it's the right thing.</p> <p>His egg challenge was his biggest accomplishment of this sort. All of his life, we've been telling him eggs did bad things to him. So when it came time for his egg challenge, we prepared him the night before and he started crying because he didn't want to eat something that was going to hurt him. We explained that it was perfectly ok to be scared, and asked him what made him feel safe. When he said me and daddy, we told him that we would be right there with him to help him to feel safe. He did the egg challenge with no issues and passed. We made sure to tell him how proud we were of him for conquering his fear and got him some Italian Ice that night :grin: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-reward-or-praise-for-a-change-in-behavioractions#post-2748003 Thu, 15 Jun 2017 14:22:17 +0000 yoursilverlining 2748003@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>reward for sure! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-reward-or-praise-for-a-change-in-behavioractions#post-2747996 Thu, 15 Jun 2017 14:09:01 +0000 looch 2747996@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For us, rewards have to be big to work....but on the flip side, so do the consequences for non-compliance. So I try to limit rewards to things that we're actively working on for maximum impact.</p> <p>In this case, it sounds like an active project, so I would have rewarded. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-reward-or-praise-for-a-change-in-behavioractions#post-2747990 Thu, 15 Jun 2017 13:53:12 +0000 gingerbebe 2747990@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: reward for sure. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-reward-or-praise-for-a-change-in-behavioractions#post-2747981 Thu, 15 Jun 2017 13:44:12 +0000 PinkElephant 2747981@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would totally reward in this situation. I probably wouldn't make it a tangible reward EVERY time, but would offer tons of praise, high fives, and hugs when I didn't reward. I personally find that tangible rewards (a treat food, a toy, or the chance to stay up late/do a special activity) are most effective for my DDs when they are kind of a "surprise" rather than expected each time, if that makes sense.</p> <p>ETA: I've offered "surprise rewards" to my three year old recently for behaving nicely around the baby (not squashing, pestering, etc.) and it's worked well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-reward-or-praise-for-a-change-in-behavioractions#post-2747978 Thu, 15 Jun 2017 13:42:16 +0000 matador84 2747978@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would continue to praise, BUT for things that are done over an extended amount of time (behavior or actions), I tend to reward. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-reward-or-praise-for-a-change-in-behavioractions#post-2747975 Thu, 15 Jun 2017 13:40:55 +0000 Foodnerd81 2747975@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would reward. I would personally try not to always make it a food reward (though they often are!) but I don't see anything wrong with rewards for good things. We've been having nap time battles (3.5 years old and I still want her to have quiet time if she doesn't sleep). The other day she finally played quietly in her room until time was up and I was really proud of her and ended up painting her toenails because she'd been so good. And then she did it again the next two days! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-reward-or-praise-for-a-change-in-behavioractions#post-2747969 Thu, 15 Jun 2017 13:32:48 +0000 mediagirl 2747969@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My daughter is having some trouble with some kids at her school who are very assertive. She is not assertive and at naptime she would give away her blanket and her stuffed animal when someone asked for them or told her to give these items to them.</p> <p>One night at dinner she told us about that day's naptime. She said one of the usual suspects told her she needed her blanket because she was cold. M told the little girl that she couldn't give her a blanket but she could ask the teacher for an extra one.</p> <p>We're pretty proud of her for A. sticking up for herself and B. telling us about it. We ended up letting her have a big dessert that night after she told us about it. We made a big deal out of it, too. Lots of high fives and "good job"'s. </p> <p>In a situation like this, when your child does something that she wasn't comfortable doing in the past, would you reward them somehow or just praise and move on? </p>