https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 03 Aug 2026 12:41:36 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-good-boy-or-good-girl-to-your-lo/page/2#post-420510 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 21:47:40 +0000 Baby Boy Mom 420510@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't for the reasons you stated. It just come more naturally to me to compliment his behavior since that's what I'm trying to reinforce. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-good-boy-or-good-girl-to-your-lo/page/2#post-420495 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 21:43:46 +0000 Mrs. Cowgirl 420495@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Pen: i'll get started on a post!! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-good-boy-or-good-girl-to-your-lo/page/2#post-420493 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 21:43:30 +0000 Mrs. Cowgirl 420493@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LittleGBee: oh my gosh. that's nuts! good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-good-boy-or-good-girl-to-your-lo/page/2#post-420490 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 21:42:54 +0000 Mrs. Cowgirl 420490@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@AprilK: honestly, it's probably all semantics, but the current books say not to qualify behavior as good or bad, even if you are explaining it with specifics. they suggest naming specific behavior -- so, for example, just taking out the first part of your example and saying, "you shared the cars at the museum today! you waited your turn and did what mama said. you were really patient and you obeyed!" </p> <p>i'll share more in an upcoming post!</p> <p>but like i said, though i fully support the idea behind this, i'm sure in 20 years, they'll be telling us something else!</p> <p>i'm cracking up about your niece! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-good-boy-or-good-girl-to-your-lo/page/2#post-420119 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 17:50:41 +0000 Mrs. Pen 420119@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sometimes I do... I think it's something that comes naturally. I also do the whole "you're so smart!" thing because I'm so proud when he does things I didn't realize he could do.</p> <p>Are you going to write a post now about things to say instead and how to praise effectively? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-good-boy-or-good-girl-to-your-lo/page/2#post-420090 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 17:27:37 +0000 LittleGBee 420090@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mother-in-law has recently taken to calling my almost one year old baby girl "Perfect Child," and it sends me reeling every single time. My relationship with my mother in law is tumultuous to say the least, but my husband and I have decided that it's absolutely not a nickname or an expectation that we want her growing up hearing. We have decided to address it next time it comes up, because it's worth fighting for, but here's hoping it doesn't come up on her first birthday. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-good-boy-or-good-girl-to-your-lo/page/2#post-420011 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 16:47:25 +0000 AprilK 420011@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Cowgirl: If you also include specifics with it do you think saying 'good boy' is bad? My son is so active, I like to let him know when his behavior was more acceptable - like on Sunday after I took him to the Children's museum, I was getting him into his pajamas and was like "You were such a good boy today. You shared the cars at the museum and waited your turn and did what Mama said." I'm thinking that as long as I also include specifics it should be allright? I don't know... there are so many ways to mess up this parenting gig, I feel like I should just start saving for therapy bills right now ;)</p> <p>I do want to avoid the "You're so smart!" thing - my husband is a prime example of that study. He's been told he's smart his whole life and I think has had a harder time learning work ethic professionally b.c he's always just been so smart in school that he didn't have to put in the effort as much.</p> <p>My SIL and sister and I are hilarious around my 4 year old niece... when anyone tells her she is pretty, someone else chimes in with another compliment about her smarts or hard work. It's like all three of us are bent on making sure she knows that pretty isn't everything. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-good-boy-or-good-girl-to-your-lo/page/2#post-419756 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 15:36:20 +0000 Mrs. Cowgirl 419756@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: oh, oops! i don't know why i assumed it was you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-good-boy-or-good-girl-to-your-lo#post-419079 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 11:55:37 +0000 autumnlove 419079@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I try not to but I do say it from time to time! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-good-boy-or-good-girl-to-your-lo#post-419060 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 11:45:58 +0000 mrbee 419060@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Cowgirl: Oh I forgot to mention, I didn't write that post! I think Mrs. Bee worked with someone else on this post... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-good-boy-or-good-girl-to-your-lo#post-419059 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 11:45:31 +0000 mrstilly 419059@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I say good boy now and then, but I find myself saying good job or just yay when DS does something new or funny. Sometimes I'll tell him he's a cool dude because it's so funny when he repeats it. He says hi to everyone, so I tell him often that he's such a nice and friendly boy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-good-boy-or-good-girl-to-your-lo#post-419046 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 11:40:03 +0000 T.H.O.U. 419046@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@T-Mom: This is totally what I am afraid of! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-good-boy-or-good-girl-to-your-lo#post-418958 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 11:12:35 +0000 T-Mom 418958@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Thehistoryofus: I'm struggling with the whole "pretty" concept for DD. I think her grandparents have been telling her she's so pretty, and now every time she wears a necklace or some outfit she likes, she says "oh, I'm going to be so pretty in this" and then if she doesn't like some clothing she says "but i'm not going to be pretty, mommy!" Ugh! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-good-boy-or-good-girl-to-your-lo#post-418941 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 11:08:04 +0000 Mrs. Cowgirl 418941@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Thehistoryofus: that's a good one! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-good-boy-or-good-girl-to-your-lo#post-418939 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 11:07:32 +0000 Mrs. Cowgirl 418939@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaMoose: awww, congrats!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-good-boy-or-good-girl-to-your-lo#post-418853 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 10:44:49 +0000 Sammyfab 418853@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Cowgirl: yes!!! I'd love it if you did a post on this topic! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-good-boy-or-good-girl-to-your-lo#post-418840 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 10:41:54 +0000 Mrs. Cowgirl 418840@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: @Sammyfab: hmmm...i'm thinking maybe i'll write a post about it? would that be something you'd be interested in? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-good-boy-or-good-girl-to-your-lo#post-418734 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 10:11:14 +0000 mrbee 418734@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaMoose: congrats mama!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-good-boy-or-good-girl-to-your-lo#post-418661 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 09:49:31 +0000 Sugar.Biscuit 418661@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so glad to see so many good comment about nurtureshock, I put that on my chritsmas list and REALLY hope I get it!</p> <p>By the way those techniques work on the SO too ;-) geat ways to fill his bucket! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-good-boy-or-good-girl-to-your-lo#post-418597 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 09:07:45 +0000 Lozza 418597@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I say "good job" all the time, but I don't think I ever tell him he's "good" or "smart" or things like that. Typically it's either "good job" or "thank you for doing X". </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-good-boy-or-good-girl-to-your-lo#post-418568 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 08:40:30 +0000 Sammyfab 418568@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I try not to say "good boy" but it does slip out. For the most part we say "good job" or "yay!!" and clap and cheer. </p> <p>I just skimmed over Mr. Bee's post, but are there any other suggestions other than being specific to the task you're praising? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-good-boy-or-good-girl-to-your-lo#post-418554 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 08:32:17 +0000 chopsuey 418554@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We say "good *action*" I do say good girl once in a while though :P </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-good-boy-or-good-girl-to-your-lo#post-418550 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 08:30:58 +0000 ValentineMommy 418550@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Reading the question, I thought of<br /> 1. my dog<br /> 2. nurtureshock. That book had a profound impact on me. </p> <p>However, that being said, since I do say it all the time to my dog, I feel like it's going to come out of my mouth without me even thinking about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-good-boy-or-good-girl-to-your-lo#post-418541 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 08:26:29 +0000 MamaMoose 418541@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I do when she gets a good latch. But considering she's not even 48 hours old I don't think I'm doing permanent damage yet ; ) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-good-boy-or-good-girl-to-your-lo#post-418523 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 08:10:21 +0000 blackbird 418523@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So what do you say instead??? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-good-boy-or-good-girl-to-your-lo#post-418506 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 07:56:33 +0000 matador84 418506@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrscowgirl I am a teacher too and you are completely right!<br /> Mindset is a must read! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-good-boy-or-good-girl-to-your-lo#post-418498 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 07:51:13 +0000 T.H.O.U. 418498@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think the easiest phrase for me to use instead of "good girl" is "good job" or "You did it". </p> <p>The other phrase I want to be careful about using is "That's pretty". We were at the mall and she wanted to watch some women get their make up done and I caught myself telling her that they were "getting pretty". Of course they were pretty without make up too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-good-boy-or-good-girl-to-your-lo#post-418456 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 06:19:59 +0000 SugarplumsMom 418456@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I try not to, but I always end up saying "good girl" right after a very loud burp! I don't have any urges to say it for anything else though ... she's only 5 months, so I have time to "fix" her table manners =) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-good-boy-or-good-girl-to-your-lo#post-418451 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 05:59:45 +0000 Mrs. Tricycle 418451@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We say it to the dogs all the time, so I'm finding myself saying it to LO. To make matters worse, our dogs are female, so half the time "Good Girl" slips out when I'm talking to our son. Oops! He's gonna be all kinds of confused. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-good-boy-or-good-girl-to-your-lo#post-418394 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 02:12:34 +0000 808love 418394@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I try not to but DH is not on the bandwagon. I try to mix it up by adding you are so patient, so sweet, so loving. I'm not so sure she understands, you worked so hard but ill try.. </p>