https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 08 Apr 2026 18:52:11 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-i-love-you-to-ils/page/2#post-2342547 Mon, 02 Nov 2015 23:36:46 +0000 Applesandbananas 2342547@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep. While I may not love them in the same way that I love my parents, I love them because they are DH's parents and my LO's grandparents. We have our differences, but without them, I wouldn't have DH or LO. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-i-love-you-to-ils/page/2#post-2342534 Mon, 02 Nov 2015 23:11:44 +0000 HLK208 2342534@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@oliviaoblivia: HAHA!! Exactly how I feel! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-i-love-you-to-ils/page/2#post-2342530 Mon, 02 Nov 2015 23:00:21 +0000 Synchronicity 2342530@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Definitely, because I do love them. I wouldn't say it if I didn't mean it! We don't say it often, though, whereas I say it to my own parents every time we say goodbye or hang up the phone or finish texting for the night... Lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-i-love-you-to-ils/page/2#post-2342455 Mon, 02 Nov 2015 21:10:07 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 2342455@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes I do. Almost every day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-i-love-you-to-ils/page/2#post-2342422 Mon, 02 Nov 2015 20:34:53 +0000 coopsmama 2342422@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, I don't. We're not that close. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-i-love-you-to-ils/page/2#post-2342417 Mon, 02 Nov 2015 20:31:35 +0000 lady baltimore 2342417@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have a great relationship, but no. I didn't grow up in a family that said it regularly, and only started signing cards to my own parents with "love" in the past few years, so it's just not phrasing I use easily or often. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-i-love-you-to-ils/page/2#post-2342316 Mon, 02 Nov 2015 18:09:17 +0000 Mama Bird 2342316@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, but I don't say it to my parents either. We hug instead :happy: I think it's a cultural thing, no one I know says I love you to their parents or ILs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-i-love-you-to-ils/page/2#post-2342287 Mon, 02 Nov 2015 17:43:19 +0000 Mommy Finger 2342287@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH is from an "I love you" family where they say it to each other every time they speak on the phone or at the end of a visit. I'm not like that so I only say it to my FIL (MIL has passed away) when he says it to me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-i-love-you-to-ils/page/2#post-2342286 Mon, 02 Nov 2015 17:42:48 +0000 Greentea 2342286@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would if I did, but we are completely estranged. One is in prison and the other is a terrible person (no, for real) and incapacitated alcoholic. Whomp whomp. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-i-love-you-to-ils#post-2342284 Mon, 02 Nov 2015 17:38:09 +0000 mrbee 2342284@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@oliviaoblivia: haha I lol'd!</p> <p>As for me, I don't usually drop the love bomb on the in-laws! I think I have twice: once on the wedding day, and again later when our first kid was born. But they are big on showing love through actions, not words. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-i-love-you-to-ils#post-2342281 Mon, 02 Nov 2015 17:33:13 +0000 ldh112 2342281@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My MIL will occasionally text or email it but typically says something like "hugs!" Personally, I would not initiate it but have occasionally responded "love you" back when it seems more awkward to not say it. I don't think she's ever said it to me in person, or its maybe just been directed to my husband and I as "we love you guys!" Seeing the various responses makes me feel better about it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-i-love-you-to-ils#post-2342261 Mon, 02 Nov 2015 17:10:24 +0000 BandDmommy 2342261@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaBehr: I'm same way. It takes a lot for me to say I love someone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-i-love-you-to-ils#post-2342253 Mon, 02 Nov 2015 17:02:56 +0000 MamaBehr 2342253@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>no. But when they say it to me, it's always more of a "love to everyone" so I don't feel bad about it. </p> <p>Love isn't a word I throw around. It took me awhile to say it to DH and I don't say it to my own family often (mayyybe once a year), so I'm not just going to say it every time we get off facetime.</p> <p>edited to add: I'm not saying anyone who does say it just throws it around, it is an issue I have with myself. :) I don't say it unless I really truly feel it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-i-love-you-to-ils#post-2342244 Mon, 02 Nov 2015 11:45:10 +0000 lilyann 2342244@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>To MIL/SIL, yes, because I do! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-i-love-you-to-ils#post-2342235 Mon, 02 Nov 2015 11:39:29 +0000 sleepybear 2342235@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have once in a while, but it's always been super awkward for me to get out. I normally let my husband respond (they don't typically address just me). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-i-love-you-to-ils#post-2342231 Mon, 02 Nov 2015 11:34:56 +0000 Meowkers 2342231@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Only in response when my MIL tells me she loves me. I'm a very affectionate person so I would say it if I felt it. :-/ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-i-love-you-to-ils#post-2342228 Mon, 02 Nov 2015 11:27:02 +0000 Alivoo01 2342228@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. They're not really affectionate people, but we do hug them good-bye, which is kind of like saying "I love you" for us! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-i-love-you-to-ils#post-2342218 Mon, 02 Nov 2015 11:18:41 +0000 tofuwad 2342218@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am very close to my in laws and don't say it. But I'm not an affectionate person and don't even say it to my parents (I'm also not a hugger). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-i-love-you-to-ils#post-2342204 Mon, 02 Nov 2015 11:08:51 +0000 Miss Ariel 2342204@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BandDmommy: yes! My mil says it to me too and I never know how to respond. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-i-love-you-to-ils#post-2342198 Mon, 02 Nov 2015 11:03:12 +0000 ms.line 2342198@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, because I don't. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-i-love-you-to-ils#post-2342183 Mon, 02 Nov 2015 10:56:34 +0000 catomd00 2342183@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes but I'm close with them. I see them 3-4 times a week! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-i-love-you-to-ils#post-2342142 Mon, 02 Nov 2015 10:26:02 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 2342142@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes! I'm close to my MIL and she doesn't treat me like an inlaw. She treats me like her daughter. I'm grateful that we have a good relationship. I think it makes life easier. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-i-love-you-to-ils#post-2342141 Mon, 02 Nov 2015 10:25:53 +0000 mediagirl 2342141@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No. I don't love them. That sounds horribly mean but like @BandDmommy: I really don't know them. I don't say I love you to anyone other than my parents and my immediate family, though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-i-love-you-to-ils#post-2342134 Mon, 02 Nov 2015 10:22:21 +0000 snowjewelz 2342134@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No but I also don't really say I love you to my parents a lot haha. We're the stereotypical Asian families :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-i-love-you-to-ils#post-2342129 Mon, 02 Nov 2015 10:16:14 +0000 Umbreon 2342129@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I do sometimes, but only because they say it to me. I never say it with my parents so it feels so weird to say it to DH's. But what am I supposed to say when they say "I love you"? It feels rude not to say it back. I don't always say it back. Only when I feel I have to.</p> <p>I say it to DH every day though. I would say it to my parents if they said it to me. I have no issues saying I love you. It's just not something my parents taught me to do, so I never did with them and to start now, feels weird. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-i-love-you-to-ils#post-2342127 Mon, 02 Nov 2015 10:14:05 +0000 littlebug 2342127@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. My MIL says it and I either let Hubs say it back or I just kind of ignore it. It sounds mean, but to say it back would feel disingenuous. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-i-love-you-to-ils#post-2342106 Mon, 02 Nov 2015 09:50:54 +0000 MrsKoala 2342106@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>To MIL for sure because I do really love her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-i-love-you-to-ils#post-2342105 Mon, 02 Nov 2015 09:49:43 +0000 bushelandapeck 2342105@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I do, if they say it to me. They generally say "love ya" or "love you guys" and I say "we love you too", or something like that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-i-love-you-to-ils#post-2342101 Mon, 02 Nov 2015 09:47:17 +0000 simplyfelicity 2342101@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's just my MIL but no, we don't say it. Not because we don't care for each other (we do) she's a very private person. My family is different tho. My parents say it all the time and I tell my siblings here and there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-i-love-you-to-ils#post-2342089 Mon, 02 Nov 2015 09:42:49 +0000 BandDmommy 2342089@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: yes, I'm very much "loved" since I've provided a baby girl. :wink: </p>