https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 29 Apr 2026 17:20:03 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-sorry-too-much#post-1901606 Wed, 15 Oct 2014 09:18:34 +0000 lizzywiz 1901606@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@loki: oh, I 'please' and 'thank you' the crap outta people! Including my husband, who responds, "You don't have to thank me for doing the dishes (or whatever)." But I think he secretly feels appreciated because I do :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-sorry-too-much#post-1901563 Wed, 15 Oct 2014 09:03:59 +0000 loki 1901563@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lizzywiz: i agree, i'd much rather someone say sorry too much than not enough! i don't think it's necessarily a negative thing and i don't think me saying sorry says anything about my value or self esteem... i'm just aware of how my actions affect other people and i want to apologize if i'm interrupting them or i have to ask them to move out of my way. i also say please and thank you excessively... i equate it with being polite, regardless of whether or not it might annoy others! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-sorry-too-much#post-1901516 Wed, 15 Oct 2014 08:44:43 +0000 lizzywiz 1901516@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes. I don't apologize to ask a question or when someone encroaches on my space, like in the video, but I do apologize when I am asking someone to move, when I interrupt someone in their office at work, and often when I need help or something, as in "I'm sorry, could you...?"<br /> The main reason I know I say it too much is when it irritates someone (usually a woman) and they say the super helpful, "Stop saying sorry!" lol.</p> <p>And I am on the fence about changing it. </p> <p>Part of it is just my personality. I don't like to inconvenience people, not because of some deep seated inferiority complex but because I prefer to take care of things on my own, and I wish more people felt the same way. Don't bother me for something you could easily handle on your own with a little bit of thought, you know? So when I have to bother other people, I say 'sorry.'</p> <p>The other part of it is that it pisses me off when people snap, "Stop saying sorry!" How is that not rude? And I will call people out on it in a heartbeat.</p> <p>That being said, I am more aware due to raising a daughter and I would like her to say sorry less than I do. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-sorry-too-much#post-1901454 Wed, 15 Oct 2014 08:15:41 +0000 artsyfartsy 1901454@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Way too much. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-sorry-too-much#post-1901399 Wed, 15 Oct 2014 07:39:24 +0000 charmed 1901399@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, I say it all the time :meh: But not always as an apology, more like an alternative for "excuse me" like pp have mentioned. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-sorry-too-much#post-1901273 Tue, 14 Oct 2014 22:30:30 +0000 Sapphiresun 1901273@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm Canadian, so I probably say it a lot. I agree with the PP that it's commonly a substitute for "excuse me" here. </p> <p>But like others I try to make a conscious effort not to apologize for my ideas, or being an inconvenience when I deserve to be somewhere just as much as anybody else. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-sorry-too-much#post-1901009 Tue, 14 Oct 2014 17:17:51 +0000 simplyfelicity 1901009@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ejoiner: Ditto. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-sorry-too-much#post-1901004 Tue, 14 Oct 2014 17:11:10 +0000 MrsYellowJacket 1901004@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I used to!! I'm getting a lot better. I'm trying to practice not saying "sorry" when I truly had no control over it - especially in the professional world! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-sorry-too-much#post-1901000 Tue, 14 Oct 2014 17:08:47 +0000 SweetiePie 1901000@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I say it all. the. time. I really need to stop. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-sorry-too-much#post-1900969 Tue, 14 Oct 2014 16:14:04 +0000 Charm54 1900969@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep..I'm canadian. We say sorry for everything - even if it's not our fault! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-sorry-too-much#post-1900957 Tue, 14 Oct 2014 16:06:14 +0000 Boogs 1900957@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Some might say I don't say it enough lol. To me it's more about showing it than saying it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-sorry-too-much#post-1900595 Tue, 14 Oct 2014 12:34:55 +0000 blackbird 1900595@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: YES you don't need a disclaimer. I could see saying 'Oh excuse me" when yo'ure squeezing by someone or making room for them. Or if you're interrupting someone. What bothered me is the woman saying, "sorry, i have a stupid question.". Girl, you just undermined the shit out of yourself. </p> <p>I would never say it while handing DH the baby, haha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-sorry-too-much#post-1900527 Tue, 14 Oct 2014 12:07:50 +0000 littlebug 1900527@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, I don't. My mom does and it drives me insane. She apologizes for things that are out of her control (like my step-siblings' ridiculous behavior). My sister and I are constantly telling her to stop apologizing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-sorry-too-much#post-1900512 Tue, 14 Oct 2014 12:03:59 +0000 Grace 1900512@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Canadian, so yeah. </p> <p>@Ajsmommy: We will say sorry, if someone bumps into us. I think it's probably a more true stereotype than the one about us saying "eh" all the time.</p> <p>@Baby Boy Mom: I agree with you. "Excuse me" seems to be often received as as "why are you standing there in my way", whereas "sorry" seems to be received as "I'm sorry I have to get you to move a little bit over. My apologies for being annoying". </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-sorry-too-much#post-1900484 Tue, 14 Oct 2014 11:50:50 +0000 Baby Boy Mom 1900484@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Here's what I've noticed: a lot of times if I say sorry people are more accommodating, for example if I'm trying to get through with the stroller. I don't really mean it because I have nothing to apologize for but it's almost like apologizing for the inconvenience of them having to move over and it takes their guard down; when I say excuse me people get more annoyed. So it is what it is. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-sorry-too-much#post-1900476 Tue, 14 Oct 2014 11:46:34 +0000 looch 1900476@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I do this as well, but I have been actively trying to correct it.</p> <p>I notice though, that I mostly use it when I am going to interrupt someone, so the bigger task for me is waiting until people are finished speaking, then offering my 2 cents. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-sorry-too-much#post-1900472 Tue, 14 Oct 2014 11:44:57 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 1900472@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's definitely a bad habit I have. I didn't even realize it until DH pointed it out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-sorry-too-much#post-1900463 Tue, 14 Oct 2014 11:40:24 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 1900463@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Too many people to @: but I think the point of (not) saying sorry is what many of you touched on is when saying sorry is not really what you mean. Sometimes, excuse me is the correct phrase, or simply sharing your thought/ request/action without a minimizing disclaimer. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-sorry-too-much#post-1900449 Tue, 14 Oct 2014 11:35:20 +0000 maddyz 1900449@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have made a rule that I am not aloud to say sorry in a work email unless I am actually at fault and apologizing or expressing sympathy. Neither one of these come up as often as I had been using sorry. It's hard! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-sorry-too-much#post-1900414 Tue, 14 Oct 2014 11:14:38 +0000 PurplePeony 1900414@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I probably do, and I only mean it about 25% of the time! I think it's unconscious but I should try to be better about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-sorry-too-much#post-1900402 Tue, 14 Oct 2014 11:06:12 +0000 JerricaBenton 1900402@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I used to. I've consciously tried to stop saying 'sorry' when that's not what I mean. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-sorry-too-much#post-1900388 Tue, 14 Oct 2014 10:52:19 +0000 loki 1900388@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ajsmommy: it's a very Canadian stereotype but I think it's really true! I mean, of course, there are crazy rude people here too (on the TTC grrr) but.. for the most part, I think we tend to be overly polite and I definitely don't hear sorry as much when I go down to the US. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-sorry-too-much#post-1900378 Tue, 14 Oct 2014 10:46:39 +0000 Ajsmommy 1900378@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Do Canadians say sorry more often than others??</p> <p>only asking b/c a few responses say it often and attribute it to being canadian </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-sorry-too-much#post-1900373 Tue, 14 Oct 2014 10:42:14 +0000 Reese 1900373@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: Yep! Same. I blame it on being Canadian.</p> <p>I play hockey and even apologize when I accidentally hit another player! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-sorry-too-much#post-1900364 Tue, 14 Oct 2014 10:38:20 +0000 ejoiner 1900364@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I say sorry too much. Just grew up apologizing for everything, even when it wasn't my fault, and have thus continued that type of behavior well into my 20's. Just natural for me to apologize. I say "I'm sorry for saying sorry" all the time too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-sorry-too-much#post-1900351 Tue, 14 Oct 2014 10:32:58 +0000 ValentineMommy 1900351@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DH will confirm....I don't say sorry enough. Lol. So when I do say it, you know I really, really mean it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-sorry-too-much#post-1900322 Tue, 14 Oct 2014 10:20:21 +0000 2PeasinaPod 1900322@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, my husband points it out to me all the time. It's my bad habit that I can't seem to break. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-sorry-too-much#post-1900317 Tue, 14 Oct 2014 10:18:33 +0000 Adira 1900317@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, but I've been trying to stop and say "excuse me" more, since that's usually what I mean anyway! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-sorry-too-much#post-1900316 Tue, 14 Oct 2014 10:17:30 +0000 .twist. 1900316@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@loki: I'm sorry I said sorry! :'( </p> <p>Hah! Totally. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-say-sorry-too-much#post-1900304 Tue, 14 Oct 2014 10:08:17 +0000 fairy 1900304@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I say "excuse me" more than sorry I think. I don't think I say it excessively though, and I don't apologize for asking questions or when I give my daughter to my husband! </p>