https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 15 Apr 2026 11:23:02 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-spend-more-time-with-your-famiy-or-your-in-laws/page/3#post-2224546 Thu, 02 Jul 2015 07:57:57 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2224546@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For us it boils down to proximity. MIL lives 4 hours away and my mom is less than a hour. We don't go out of our way to spend more time with my mom, but if I invite her to hang out with me she will likely see him because he lives there too. If distance was equal we would probably see them the same. Purposely getting together for holidays and milestones, and then in passing when the moms hang out with their own children. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-spend-more-time-with-your-famiy-or-your-in-laws/page/3#post-2224539 Thu, 02 Jul 2015 07:52:17 +0000 Alivoo01 2224539@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Both of our families are out of town (2.5 hours and 1.5 hours), but we probably see the in laws more often because they're closer or they come into town more often. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-spend-more-time-with-your-famiy-or-your-in-laws/page/3#post-2224454 Thu, 02 Jul 2015 06:39:26 +0000 nana87 2224454@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mine, but especially my dad, who works in the same city we do (my mom works a 90min flight away and they commute back and forth). My in-laws still see lo about once a month though. It's a lot of family time, tbh!</p> <p> My parents are more helpful when they're around so I prefer to have them over. Like, my inlaws expect that we act like hosts-- getting them water, making coffee when they want it, etc, whereas my parents will just do that stuff plus take out the trash, do the dishes, take the dogs out, etc without us asking </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-spend-more-time-with-your-famiy-or-your-in-laws/page/3#post-2224444 Thu, 02 Jul 2015 06:36:02 +0000 Charm54 2224444@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My family - they live 2 mins away so we see them multiple times a week . DHs family is 5 hours away so we see them about once every couple of months </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-spend-more-time-with-your-famiy-or-your-in-laws/page/3#post-2224429 Thu, 02 Jul 2015 06:12:25 +0000 Dandelion 2224429@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's about even. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-spend-more-time-with-your-famiy-or-your-in-laws/page/3#post-2224426 Thu, 02 Jul 2015 06:11:54 +0000 ValentineMommy 2224426@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My family, by far. But the ILs don't make any effort at all, so that's a big part of why. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-spend-more-time-with-your-famiy-or-your-in-laws/page/3#post-2224389 Thu, 02 Jul 2015 03:30:22 +0000 Cherrybee 2224389@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Both my mum and DH's parents live fairly close to us but we spend a lot more time with my inlaws. This is partly because they're nicer to spend time with (my mum has been known to create a bit of drama) and partly because they're just more accommodating. They have converted one of their bedrooms into a bedroom for their grandchildren - so they can stop over or take naps there - and they have lots of toys for the kids to play with. They babyproofed the downstairs and even filled in their pond when their grandkids came along so it wasn't a risk. Whereas my mum expects us to manage E when we visit and to stop her touching her glass ornaments.... which is fine.... but it doesn't make for an enjoyable visit! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-spend-more-time-with-your-famiy-or-your-in-laws/page/3#post-2224341 Wed, 01 Jul 2015 22:58:21 +0000 Ra 2224341@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>B spends more time with my family. I'm close with my mom so we visit her/meet for lunch at least once a week. B spends the night at their house at least once a month. My MIL is emotionally abusive and has mental issues so she's only allowed to see B when supervised and I will no longer attend functions when she's there.</p> <p>As far as siblings are concerned, B spends a ton of time with one of my SILs but rarely sees the other or my brothers. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-spend-more-time-with-your-famiy-or-your-in-laws/page/2#post-2224327 Wed, 01 Jul 2015 22:04:56 +0000 photojane 2224327@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mine. I see my mom several times a week, and see my dad at least once a week. We see DH's parents 2-3x/month. We're about to move though, and I'm super sad about it. :( I imagine we'll see his parents more now since they are retired and can visit more frequently... both of my parents work. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-spend-more-time-with-your-famiy-or-your-in-laws/page/2#post-2224322 Wed, 01 Jul 2015 21:51:30 +0000 Finfan 2224322@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We see my inlaws nearly every day. They live about 5 houses away and we usually take turns hosting dinners. </p> <p>We see my parents about every other month for the weekend. I'd like to see them more but it never seems to happen. :crying: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-spend-more-time-with-your-famiy-or-your-in-laws/page/2#post-2224317 Wed, 01 Jul 2015 21:29:10 +0000 Peasinapod 2224317@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would say we're equal. However his parents are divorced. So we see my family every week and either his mum or dad. I really love spending time with all family, no preference mine or his. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-spend-more-time-with-your-famiy-or-your-in-laws/page/2#post-2224245 Wed, 01 Jul 2015 20:00:49 +0000 Woolly Mammoth 2224245@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Right now we see my parents more often because they're retired (and I SAH) and they live a little closer. But a few years ago when my FIL was sick we visited my in-laws every weekend for months. And my MIL is planning to move to our neighborhood in a few years when she retires, so we should see her a lot more then. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-spend-more-time-with-your-famiy-or-your-in-laws/page/2#post-2224226 Wed, 01 Jul 2015 19:25:26 +0000 derevival 2224226@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We definitely spend a lot more time with my family. This is for many reasons: they live closer, his side doesn't make much effort to see us, my family does a lot more to help us (and I don't mean financially), etc. I dunno...generally speaking I don't think sons put as much effort into staying connected (in our case, it's a bit of laziness) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-spend-more-time-with-your-famiy-or-your-in-laws/page/2#post-2224187 Wed, 01 Jul 2015 18:24:38 +0000 FliegepilzHut 2224187@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We see DH's parents more because they live 15minutes away AND have higher expectations (at least once, but sometimes multiple times per week). I love spending time with my folks, but they live closer to an hour away and realistically, we only see them every month or two. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-spend-more-time-with-your-famiy-or-your-in-laws/page/2#post-2224169 Wed, 01 Jul 2015 18:00:08 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 2224169@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mauxie: I feel the same with our family dynamics. With my family, my parents and siblings are eager to help out where they can (buckling kids into car seats, helping feed dinner, holding if one is crying and the other one needs help with potty, etc), while DH'S family just sits and watches me sweat and and run around like a chicken with my head cut off. Usually, they're done with their food and sitting on the couch relaxing with a cup of coffee before I've even gotten the chance to dish up my own food! It drives me nuts. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-spend-more-time-with-your-famiy-or-your-in-laws/page/2#post-2224164 Wed, 01 Jul 2015 17:50:27 +0000 mauxie 2224164@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We spend more time with my family, but not by much. For the most part, it's pretty equal. They are both local and both work so free time is limited to the weekends.</p> <p>The time spent with my family is much more relaxing, though! They are much more willing to help out and host, whereas the time spent with in-laws is late dinners which end up being hectic and annoying for me if I have to do clean-up with 2 crazy toddlers. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-spend-more-time-with-your-famiy-or-your-in-laws/page/2#post-2224149 Wed, 01 Jul 2015 17:08:14 +0000 ineebee 2224149@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We spend more time with my family because sadly both his parents passed, and his one brother lives on the opposite coast. If it were a choice and I had to choose, I'd prefer to spend time with my family because they're awesome, but I also do/did like his family. They're very open and kind. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-spend-more-time-with-your-famiy-or-your-in-laws/page/2#post-2224131 Wed, 01 Jul 2015 16:45:28 +0000 MrsADS 2224131@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Maysprout similar dynamic in my DH's family as well. They all love each other but not super close or affectionate, like I am with my mom/family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-spend-more-time-with-your-famiy-or-your-in-laws/page/2#post-2224095 Wed, 01 Jul 2015 16:03:34 +0000 MrsSCB 2224095@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My family, but only barely. We don't spend much time with either because we live so far away :-/ Also, part of the reason we spend more time with my family is because they come visit us, too. My ILs have never visited us, so we only see them if we go there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-spend-more-time-with-your-famiy-or-your-in-laws/page/2#post-2224090 Wed, 01 Jul 2015 16:00:50 +0000 CakeLady 2224090@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom lives nearby and watches LO one day a week and sometimes we get together with her on the weekends, so we definitely see her more frequently but mostly for short periods of time - a few hours tops. When we see the inlaws, who live far away it is usually for days at a time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-spend-more-time-with-your-famiy-or-your-in-laws/page/2#post-2224078 Wed, 01 Jul 2015 15:47:04 +0000 MamaG 2224078@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Definitely my family. They all live out of state, but my family makes more of an effort (are willing to travel). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-spend-more-time-with-your-famiy-or-your-in-laws/page/2#post-2224067 Wed, 01 Jul 2015 15:37:41 +0000 mrs.shinerbock 2224067@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mine because my sisters live 20 min from us and my parents live 1.5 hrs away. We try to get together at least once per month. </p> <p>My ILs live on another continent and don't travel, so we see them for 1 week almost every year. DH Facetimes with them for 30-45 min almost everyday, but it's not really the same. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-spend-more-time-with-your-famiy-or-your-in-laws/page/2#post-2224058 Wed, 01 Jul 2015 15:30:33 +0000 birdofafeather 2224058@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>my family, by a hair. we try to be equal, but i err towards my parents. we are around 1.5-2 hours away from each set and with my travel schedule, i try to split the time to drop R off at my parents or my in-laws. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-spend-more-time-with-your-famiy-or-your-in-laws/page/2#post-2224040 Wed, 01 Jul 2015 15:17:03 +0000 sapphire 2224040@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Right now the ILs more because they are closer and my SIL also has a small baby. My parents live further away and my subs don't have young children. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-spend-more-time-with-your-famiy-or-your-in-laws/page/2#post-2224039 Wed, 01 Jul 2015 15:14:55 +0000 AngelicOne 2224039@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's a tie. We live hours away from both sets of parents (3 hrs by plane for IL's &amp; 5 hrs by plane from my family), so we go see them once a year for the same amt of days. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-spend-more-time-with-your-famiy-or-your-in-laws/page/2#post-2224037 Wed, 01 Jul 2015 15:11:36 +0000 Mrs Hedgehog 2224037@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mine but in all fairness, his family did just move here like, literally yesterday. So we will see how this changes! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-spend-more-time-with-your-famiy-or-your-in-laws/page/2#post-2224034 Wed, 01 Jul 2015 15:05:59 +0000 DillonLion 2224034@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It is mostly even, but my in-laws come and stay with us frequently because they live out of town so our relationship is more intimate overall and I feel closer to them because of it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-spend-more-time-with-your-famiy-or-your-in-laws/page/2#post-2224023 Wed, 01 Jul 2015 14:59:36 +0000 namaste 2224023@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>His family, only because my family isn't local but it's definitely only a few hours a month... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-spend-more-time-with-your-famiy-or-your-in-laws/page/2#post-2224012 Wed, 01 Jul 2015 14:53:17 +0000 JessKas 2224012@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We live upstairs from my mom and five minutes from my dad. The in laws live 1.5-3 hours away. We do visit the in laws at least once a month though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-spend-more-time-with-your-famiy-or-your-in-laws/page/2#post-2223988 Wed, 01 Jul 2015 14:33:23 +0000 catomd00 2223988@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In laws! But that's because my family is a plane ride away and my in laws are local. However, if both were local we would still spend more time with my Inlaws because they are more enjoyable to be around. </p>