https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 26 Apr 2026 13:52:51 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-split-motn-duties/page/2#post-1495402 Fri, 14 Mar 2014 21:28:03 +0000 daniellemybelle 1495402@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>At first he would get up &amp; do everything but nurse her because I was recovering from my C section. When he went back to work, I tried to not bother him too much but he would still help. Now it's 99% me but he will occasionally help out. Unfortunately because I did everything she does not like when he goes in so I end up having to anyway. Vicious cycle! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-split-motn-duties/page/2#post-1495328 Fri, 14 Mar 2014 20:30:37 +0000 QBbride 1495328@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mskeee: DH got up for the first time ever after I fed him in the morning and he stayed awake until his first nap so I could sleep... And our son is now 9 months old! </p> <p>I keep telling him that he has to let me sleep in one of the weekend days and he can even pick which day... But that has yet to happen (except that once)! I think it's mainly my own fault because I didn't enforce it from early on. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-split-motn-duties#post-1495322 Fri, 14 Mar 2014 20:27:03 +0000 Rockies11 1495322@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@QBbride: same here! It didn't make sense to me to have both of us up, and now if he gets up ever (sometimes he does a bit of morning time on Saturdays) he feels like he did so much! And we're both at work again now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-split-motn-duties#post-1494835 Fri, 14 Mar 2014 16:15:23 +0000 avivoca 1494835@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I do them all since I have the boobs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-split-motn-duties#post-1494821 Fri, 14 Mar 2014 16:06:46 +0000 SweetMamaM 1494821@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We share, mainly because the birth aggravated my previous sacro-iliac sprain so it's helpful to me for DH to get baby out of his hammock and hand him to me for feeding. I imagine that once we aren't feeding on demand and my sprain is fixed it will just be me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-split-motn-duties#post-1494766 Fri, 14 Mar 2014 15:42:11 +0000 indi 1494766@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We do like @septca: mentioned. On tough nights I'll get DH up to tend to her so I can rest a bit, but he's working and I'm still on leave. Since I'm nursing, there's not much point in waking him up unless I need a break because she's not going back down. Even when I'm back at work, I'll do most night things, but he does all the laundry, cooking, and dishes to help even it out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-split-motn-duties#post-1494711 Fri, 14 Mar 2014 15:14:07 +0000 QBbride 1494711@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, never. DH only took a few days off work and I breastfeed, so there's not a lot DH could do anyway. I figured if I had to get up, why make both of us get up... having said that, I think I've spoiled him a bit too much and now he would never expect to get up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-split-motn-duties#post-1494706 Fri, 14 Mar 2014 15:09:50 +0000 MrsH 1494706@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Anagram: that is encouraging! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-split-motn-duties#post-1494691 Fri, 14 Mar 2014 15:03:26 +0000 pinkcupcake 1494691@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep, he would always change and bring her to me to nurse </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-split-motn-duties#post-1494687 Fri, 14 Mar 2014 15:02:26 +0000 artsyfartsy 1494687@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yup. DH gets him when he cries, changes him if necessary and gives him to me to nurse him back to sleep. Then I put him back to bed in his pack and play and listen to make sure he falls asleep...otherwise I have to put him in the bed with us so he will sleep. That way DH gets more sleep since he's working right now and I'm not.</p> <p>LO is 3 weeks old today so we still have 2-3 wake ups a night. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-split-motn-duties#post-1494683 Fri, 14 Mar 2014 15:01:35 +0000 heffalump 1494683@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Lately she's only been having one wake up and...... DH takes it all! We've been giving her a bottle at night because if I nurse her she won't go back to sleep after, so DH will change her dipe and give her the bottle. If she has two wake ups I'll take the second one, but she hasn't lately. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-split-motn-duties#post-1494678 Fri, 14 Mar 2014 14:59:35 +0000 Beyond2 1494678@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I do all the middle of the night wakeups. It just makes sense since I exclusively breastfeed. Occasionally though when the baby wouldn't go back to sleep I'd send him and DH into the living room for some bonding time while I went back to bed! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-split-motn-duties#post-1494672 Fri, 14 Mar 2014 14:58:02 +0000 mrs. tictactoe 1494672@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>At the beginning, he would get up and bring Liam to me in bed so I could nurse, but after a while, I would just do it. It got to the point where he wouldn't even know if or when Liam woke up in the middle of the night. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-split-motn-duties#post-1494587 Fri, 14 Mar 2014 14:31:04 +0000 MrsStar 1494587@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. Dh helped the first night that we were home but then it was all me. dh seemed to clock out around 8pm and didn't help - it still frustrates me even now when lo is 18 months old! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-split-motn-duties#post-1494492 Fri, 14 Mar 2014 13:42:03 +0000 coopsmama 1494492@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was the only one who got up with DS during MOTN wake ups until he was 4 months old and I found out I was pregnant again! Now, DH does all of the wake ups (very few, usually he sleeps 7-7 through the night) and handles everything so I can get more rest. I really appreciate that he does that for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-split-motn-duties#post-1494474 Fri, 14 Mar 2014 13:33:24 +0000 MamaMoose 1494474@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not while I was on maternity leave. LO was EBF anyway so it made no sense for my husband to get up when there wasn't much he could do and he needed to get up for work in the morning. Often he would end up in the guest room for the second half of the night so he could get rest. Once I went back to work I would handle all the feeding but if she woke and we knew she wasn't hungry he would handle it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-split-motn-duties#post-1494466 Fri, 14 Mar 2014 13:27:50 +0000 petunia354 1494466@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, from the very beginning. I have super high sleep needs and DH has little to no sleep needs so he was more than happy to get up and cuddle his little man in the MOTN. It helped that I was pumping in addition to BFing so he could give him a bottle. Eventually he ended up doing more wake ups than me because he handled them way better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-split-motn-duties#post-1494303 Fri, 14 Mar 2014 12:28:24 +0000 swedishfish 1494303@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH always got up with me for MOTN duties. He kept me company while nursing and helped change her. He also got her back to sleep while I went back to bed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-split-motn-duties#post-1494296 Fri, 14 Mar 2014 12:26:35 +0000 catlady 1494296@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, we always split. LO has been a terrible sleeper so we literally take shifts to handle her wakeups. He will bring her to me if he thinks she is hungry. Not sure what we will do if/when she starts sleeping better though. She will probably still be nursing at night for awhile so I may end up taking all the motn duties at that point. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-split-motn-duties#post-1494293 Fri, 14 Mar 2014 12:26:25 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 1494293@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It was hard to because I was nursing, so I didn't see the point in both of us getting up when I had to get up anyway. He did help out a lot in the beginning by getting her, changing her, and bringing her to me... but after awhile I felt like one of us should get some sleep so he could be more present at other times. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-split-motn-duties#post-1494287 Fri, 14 Mar 2014 12:24:37 +0000 Mommy Finger 1494287@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. In the beginning when DH was home for the week or two and on weekends, he would change DS's diaper in between sides when I would BF him but while I was on maternity leave, I did it all. Then when I went back to work, we didn't need to change any diapers in the MOTN so I just BF and put him back to sleep. DS stayed asleep the whole time. I'm not going to pretend that I was super happy about it every time but it was best. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-split-motn-duties#post-1494162 Fri, 14 Mar 2014 11:43:01 +0000 PurplePeony 1494162@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He helped for the first few weeks, changing her diaper while I dealt with getting set up with nursing pillows and whatnot. Once BFing got easier and more comfortable, I started letting him sleep. Even though I do a diaper change during her MOTN wake-up (or, when she woke up more often, the one closest to the halfway point) it takes all of two minutes so it's not a big deal for me to do it before I nurse her. Also, DH likes to chat with her during diaper changes, whereas I want to keep her as sleepy as possible, so there's that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-split-motn-duties#post-1494016 Fri, 14 Mar 2014 10:48:58 +0000 dolphin 1494016@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, since I nurse I always got up with her but if she is fussy we take turns soothing/rocking her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-split-motn-duties#post-1494003 Fri, 14 Mar 2014 10:40:32 +0000 Alivoo01 1494003@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We did when DS was 1 month old. After that, all me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-split-motn-duties#post-1493986 Fri, 14 Mar 2014 10:33:45 +0000 yellowbird 1493986@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We always shared all motn duties until she started sttn at 11.5 months! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-split-motn-duties#post-1493983 Fri, 14 Mar 2014 10:32:17 +0000 tinyperson 1493983@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not really — at first, we would both just be up with her — I needed help for breastfeeding after my c section — but once he went back to work, I tried to let him sleep. Now that we're both at work, I'm the one who goes in to her if she cries in the MOTN (rare now at 15 months, thankfully), because if he goes in, she just cries more. She's a daddy's girl during the day, but mommy's girl at night. Yay me! He does get up if she's up for a longer stretch at night to see if there's anything he can do (get her some water, the thermometer, tylenol, etc.) which I appreciate. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-split-motn-duties#post-1493979 Fri, 14 Mar 2014 10:29:20 +0000 photojane 1493979@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope, but I stay home with Sadie &amp; Dan has to get up at 4am to go to work. There aren't many MOTN wake ups anymore (unless she's sick), but I've always handled them since she was born. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-split-motn-duties#post-1493978 Fri, 14 Mar 2014 10:28:21 +0000 cmomma17 1493978@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH helped a lot in the early days. Getting the baby and bringing him to me to nurse, reswaddling, etc. </p> <p>Nowadays it's allllll me! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-split-motn-duties#post-1493972 Fri, 14 Mar 2014 10:26:17 +0000 septca 1493972@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. No point because I was nursing and we rarely did diaper changes in the MOTN. If DD was having a hard timing going back down (rare), DH would take over. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-split-motn-duties#post-1493971 Fri, 14 Mar 2014 10:26:00 +0000 bpcmarj 1493971@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, or very very rarely. I can think of a couple of times when he got up with her and it was because I was incredibly sick and could hardly move. Other than that I tend to do them all (since I am still BFing and that's usually what she wants/needs). </p>