https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 29 Apr 2026 18:09:01 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-take-me-time/page/2#post-1410019 Sun, 09 Feb 2014 09:04:30 +0000 avivoca 1410019@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bisous: I go to my classes on Saturday mornings. It's the only way I can get it in right now, but hopefully next month I'll be able to do twice-weekly classes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-take-me-time/page/2#post-1409939 Sun, 09 Feb 2014 05:56:50 +0000 Boheme 1409939@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't get any, really. It's tricky with DS's sleep and my husband's schedule. I am free to go to the gym or whatever as long as my husband is home, but our schedules don't match up well. When we get him sleeping better I'm going to start going back to my early morning boot camp class :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-take-me-time/page/2#post-1409932 Sun, 09 Feb 2014 05:07:09 +0000 yin 1409932@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I struggled a lot with having "me time" with my first. It was tough for me to EP and handle being a SAHM trapped at home most days. Both DH and I have set aside our hobbies and interests for our kids. When we do have time to ourselves, we prefer to spend it together (date nights). I do need to work on setting more time aside for myself. Taking care of a toddler and baby is no joke. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-take-me-time/page/2#post-1409926 Sun, 09 Feb 2014 02:53:31 +0000 sunny 1409926@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I like having some "me" time to accomplish things on the computer that I can't do when LO is around. Things like editing photos and trip planning. Usually I can do this a few nights a week after LO is down for the night. Now that LO is in daycare I've been using the time she is away to study study study in order to get a job!</p> <p>I also do a monthly moms dinner with some friends which is nice. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-take-me-time/page/2#post-1409852 Sat, 08 Feb 2014 23:36:56 +0000 Baby Boy Mom 1409852@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not really. Between a DH in med school, and 2 kiddos there's just no opportunity...we don't have any family around and BFing just complicates things even more. I've pretty much just made peace with it being like this until we move. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-take-me-time/page/2#post-1409841 Sat, 08 Feb 2014 23:24:07 +0000 sarac 1409841@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@illumina: I feel the same way. Being a mom is the biggest thing that I do, but it isn't the only thing! Both my husband and I have made sure to maintain our hobbies and interests add much as is possible. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-take-me-time/page/2#post-1409817 Sat, 08 Feb 2014 23:03:45 +0000 bisous 1409817@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Between our work schedules (I work 8-4:30 and my SO has a different schedule every week and works weekends) there isn't a lot of time for "me time" aside from browsing the web ony ohone or catching a show or two on Netflix while LO is napping on the weekend. I was trying to keep up with regular manicures but it's been impossible. I would be happy to do a pedicure once a month.</p> <p>And yoga or a barre class weekly would be amazing. I would like to make that a goal, although it worries me that it would get in the way of bedtime routine! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-take-me-time/page/2#post-1409807 Sat, 08 Feb 2014 22:57:36 +0000 birdofafeather 1409807@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. M: good idea! I need to reinstate dinners at my house!</p> <p>With WAH and DH in school a bunch, I don't get a lot of me time but it's something we have as a priority for each other this year! Now that I'm BFing less, it's much easier to get away! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-take-me-time/page/2#post-1409785 Sat, 08 Feb 2014 22:33:03 +0000 Mrs. M 1409785@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Now that LO is down to one nursing session a day it is much easier (and less stressful) to leave the house. My husband has long work hours so my alone time usually consists of trips to Target or the grocery store after he gets home and my daughter is sleeping. I also organized a girl's dinner last month in efforts to actually see my friends more. I'm hoping it will become a monthly ritual! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-take-me-time/page/2#post-1409751 Sat, 08 Feb 2014 21:48:50 +0000 pinkcupcake 1409751@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not really. And I don't really feel the need for it - I love spending time w/ my husband and daughter, and feel happier with them than alone. </p> <p>The extent of the "alone" time I need is an hour or so alone in the evening to decompress in my room alone, after an especially long or stressful day w/LO. Usually after that, I feel good again:) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-take-me-time/page/2#post-1409745 Sat, 08 Feb 2014 21:42:18 +0000 fancyfunction 1409745@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Absolutely! I need it to stay sane. ;) I like to just go shopping along for an hour or two, have the occasional massage, dinner/lunch with friends, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-take-me-time/page/2#post-1409718 Sat, 08 Feb 2014 21:26:48 +0000 cheesetomywhine 1409718@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not particularly. Sometimes I go run an errand during nap when DH is home, but usually I wait until she is in bed. I don't go that often though. My mum just started taking her on Monday mornings for storytime so that gives me some time. I am using it to book my midwife appointments but I will still have some free time afterwards to read or whatnot. I get me time during naps/independent play which she does 2x a day for ~30 minutes each/after she is in bed so I feel that it is plenty. If I do want to go somewhere DH is fine with watching her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-take-me-time#post-1409660 Sat, 08 Feb 2014 20:39:03 +0000 sslm 1409660@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Now that LO doesn't really nurse between 10:30 and 2:30 I've been having a lot more me time on the weekends. I'm trying to go to the gym and today I went for coffee with a friend!! Even just doing grocery shopping by myself is awesome. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-take-me-time#post-1409625 Sat, 08 Feb 2014 20:09:13 +0000 avivoca 1409625@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Once a week, I go to Barre class, and I'll sew once she's asleep. I'm hoping to start going twice a week soon. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-take-me-time#post-1409552 Sat, 08 Feb 2014 19:20:15 +0000 Running Elley 1409552@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My me time is working out and getting my hair done (once every 6-8 weeks). I get mini me time during naps but I usually do chores during that time so any time after I finish and they're still asleep I use to relax... Usually to read. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-take-me-time#post-1409489 Sat, 08 Feb 2014 18:21:36 +0000 AmandaB8 1409489@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Me time is kind of the reason I EP. DD has a rough time nursing, and I hate pushing it. </p> <p>I can go 6 hours without a pump, and it's wonderful to have that time. Heck, it's great to hide in our bedroom to pump on the weekends :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-take-me-time#post-1409483 Sat, 08 Feb 2014 18:18:43 +0000 Smurfette 1409483@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mani/pedi, craft, or lunch/dinner with friends. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-take-me-time#post-1409458 Sat, 08 Feb 2014 17:51:35 +0000 rattles 1409458@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I use some of her nap time now for my me time, but I haven't been able to take very much in the evenings/weekends lately. DH works until well after DD is in bed, and the weather here has been brutal. I don't want to read at a coffee shop badly enough to dig out the car and fight the roads. In the summer I did a better job of just getting out for a walk on my own or some such. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-take-me-time#post-1409453 Sat, 08 Feb 2014 17:49:03 +0000 yoursilverlining 1409453@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes; we both get "me/alone" time on a weekly basis. We each make an effort to make sure the other gets time to do whatever they want - whether that be sleeping in super late, getting out of the house or whatever. There is definitely no mommy martyrdom here! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-take-me-time#post-1409445 Sat, 08 Feb 2014 17:40:46 +0000 blackbird 1409445@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mamamoose, totally agree! A lot of women feel so guilty about taking time for themselves. Why?! Why do we feel the need to do *everything* and put ourselves last? </p> <p>I take time for myself. Being a mom is part of who I am--it is not 100% of me. I have to nurture all the pieces. I don't overdo it, but I work out and that is very important to me....and that's a good 6+ hours/week. My mood is much better and I feel better about myself. I also do girls nights with my friends and I feel SO refreshed from just a couple hours, I read, etc. He has his tv shows he watches, I have some that I watch without him. I knit, I sew, I make things for E. DH will go hang out with his buddies and stuff and we are always grateful to the other person for picking up the slack, so to speak. Dh also loves one on one time with her, so why should I feel guilty?! I don't :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-take-me-time#post-1409404 Sat, 08 Feb 2014 16:54:31 +0000 Sapphiresun 1409404@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not really. My husband works a lot, and we don't have family nearby, so often I'll go days on end with DH only being home to sleep. Probably based on this, he's also not very comfortable being responsible for LO. I think we figured out lately that I'd had less than 48 hours where I wasn't taking care of or "on call" for LO since she was born six months ago, and I certainly wasn't doing fun stuff all that time. Often grocery shopping or attending my own medical/dental appointments. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-take-me-time#post-1409374 Sat, 08 Feb 2014 16:37:18 +0000 Mrs. Oatmeal 1409374@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My 'me time' is usually while DH and LO are home - having a LONG shower, or spending some guilt-free time baking or reading or Hellobee-ing.<br /> I have gone out shopping on my own a few times, but I don't really get much alone time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-take-me-time#post-1409366 Sat, 08 Feb 2014 16:25:43 +0000 mrsjyw 1409366@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I go on target runs, mani/pedi, bath and read books on my kindle, and lately I've been working out. I always make sure to have me time even tho it may not be hobby related like dh (video games, golf, etc) it's imperative for my mental balance to have time to myself </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-take-me-time#post-1409341 Sat, 08 Feb 2014 16:12:47 +0000 Anagram 1409341@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband and I both get very little "me time" if I define that as time where someone else is watching LO and we don't have to be accountable for her. </p> <p>We don't have any family closer than an 8 hour drive, and sitters here are super expensive so that leaves DH. He's totally willing and able, but it's tough right now with our schedules. I wake up at 5:30 am each week day for work, so by the time DH gets home from work at 7 pm, I'm usually too exhausted to go anywhere and I try to be in bed by 10 and have to pump, make and pack work pump bag and lunch, etc. weekends are spent grocery shopping, doing laundry, cleaning the house with DH.</p> <p>Our 6 month kid still sleeps like a newborn so I think we are in survival mode. About once a month, DH goes to a work happy hour but is generally home by 8. I have a moms group that meets Thursdays at 5, sometimes I go but that's with LO.</p> <p>For me, it's immensely helpful to have DH going through the same thing at the same time. It makes me feel like we are a team. I think once I stop EPing and whenever LO starts sleeping a bit better, he and I will both feel a bit more human and energetic enough to do things with friends once a month or so.</p> <p>Of course, then we'll probably try for number 2! ;-)</p> <p>We have a 4 day trip next weekend to our old city and we're already planning for DH to go out with his friends one night while I go out with my friends the next ( while the other watches LO). I'm looking forward to it, even if I will have to pump somewhere random at some point in the night! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-take-me-time#post-1409310 Sat, 08 Feb 2014 15:41:34 +0000 sandy 1409310@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Maybe it's just my personality or bc I'm an older than average FTM but I don't crave a ton of me time. I feel like I had a lot of time to do my own thing for years before I got married and before I had LO. My parents live super close so ever since LO was born they would come stay with her during naps and I would get to have an hour or two to myself and most of the time just going to the store was fun enough. And when she was super little and EBF I didn't like being away from her for very long bc her awake times were so short. </p> <p>Now that she's older I love spending time with her - I think a big part of that though is making sure we have activities planned every day and having a group of moms/kids to hang out with. I feel like it's "me time" during the 2-3 hours at play gym or at a friends house bc I get to visit with other parents while LO plays. Maybe it's bc she's a good sleeper but we've gone out on date nights at least once a month and often 2-3 times a month since she was born - so I feel like I get a lot of time out to "be myself". I will admit that I am slightly obsessed with my LO and love being with her and I know I need to constantly be aware of it so she can have her own life as she gets older and not be overwhelmed with a hovering parent. So she spends 2 mornings a week in a 2s class and I think that separation is good for us. I have some guilt putting her in a class when I stay at home full time but she loves it and I get some me time. </p> <p>My husband has season tickets for football with his dad.. It's 8 home games during the season but it's often a full day event but it's his one thing he really enjoy. I don't feel like I need to find a similar hobby to keep things even. I get a few hours in the morning and I get nap time and if I wanted I could have more time but I don't crave it. I get drinks with girlfriends every few months or get a pedicure every few months and that's good enough for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-take-me-time#post-1409287 Sat, 08 Feb 2014 15:22:34 +0000 cascademom 1409287@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: showers are the best me time ever. As a working mom, I like my quiet WFH days, just me at home! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-take-me-time#post-1409286 Sat, 08 Feb 2014 15:22:10 +0000 MamaMoose 1409286@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yup. My husband is great about letting me do my own thing whenever I want. I think he secretly loves getting to have LO all to himself for daddy/daughter time. </p> <p>Sometimes I think that when these issues arise there is a bit of mama martyr going on. You don't get what you don't ask for. Most of the women on this site seem to have loving and supportive husbands who I'm sure would be happy to watch the kid(s) while you get away for a little while. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-take-me-time#post-1409283 Sat, 08 Feb 2014 15:20:32 +0000 cascademom 1409283@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My me time changed in the first year with LO. I broke up with my yarn store, so I don't have my weekly time off. I stopped knitting for months and just got back into it. Me time is a lot less with LO. I'm finding new avenues of social time. DH and I spend a lot more time together now than before LO. That's taken some adjustment. We both crave me time. His friend circles were less effected and more supportive of LOs than mine are, so still finding the right group to fit into and have time to myself again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-take-me-time#post-1409277 Sat, 08 Feb 2014 15:12:13 +0000 Mrs. Jump Rope 1409277@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: we just had this conversation at home last night!</p> <p>My husband has time consuming hobbies and always has. He snowboards and mountain bikes and enjoys working on his cars. </p> <p>I don't have many hobbies, and the activities I do enjoy don't take quite as much time. </p> <p>I do get a healthy balance of me time, though. I get a few hours to myself every night and during Chloe's nap time. It feels like he gets more, though, since he's usually gone for hours at a time! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-take-me-time#post-1409273 Sat, 08 Feb 2014 15:08:45 +0000 snowjewelz 1409273@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Shopping! I never drag DH to go shopping with me, and I love to have some retail therapy. Or I do my nails, either at home or go out. </p>