Hellobee Boards Topic: Do you talk about your loss with your friends?

Hellobee Boards Topic: Do you talk about your loss with your friends? https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 15 Apr 2026 22:57:50 +0000 travelgirl1 on "Do you talk about your loss with your friends?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-talk-about-your-loss-with-your-friends#post-1962711 Thu, 27 Nov 2014 15:13:04 +0000 travelgirl1 1962711@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I do because it helps me keep the baby's memory alive, which is very important to me. I probably over talk about it with some family, deliberately, because it annoys me that they have never brought it up. DesertDreams88 on "Do you talk about your loss with your friends?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-talk-about-your-loss-with-your-friends#post-1962678 Thu, 27 Nov 2014 13:31:12 +0000 DesertDreams88 1962678@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I do, for two reasons: 1) I'm an open book with emotions and talking, so.... It's like a default setting I can't turn off! 2) My miscarriage started at work so after leaving unexpectedly and canceling parent teacher conferences for three days in a row.... About half of my coworkers knew, unavoidably. GoGoSnoGirl on "Do you talk about your loss with your friends?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-talk-about-your-loss-with-your-friends#post-1960425 Tue, 25 Nov 2014 18:47:19 +0000 GoGoSnoGirl 1960425@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I have mentioned it to some, especially in defense of our choice not to share our news about this pregnancy until we were pretty far along (& some still don't know we're expecting yet, though today's 14w). I'm not afraid to talk about it, but I've been surprised by some friends (who haven't had a loss) who seem really uncomfortable. I feel fortunate to have had family to confide in & HB. You ladies are great for that kind of conversation & understanding. Mrs. Lemon-Lime on "Do you talk about your loss with your friends?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-talk-about-your-loss-with-your-friends#post-1958233 Mon, 24 Nov 2014 14:04:28 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 1958233@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I do because people are so nosey! They all ask when we are having children. I share it with them because it's the only way to truly convey "we're trying, but it's not working out in our favor." I get nothing out of it because people expect me to be emotional and it's hard to feign emotion for something I dealt with and am truly at peace with. To me it's just about being open & honest, since they all seem to want to go along the TTC journey with me. Ash on "Do you talk about your loss with your friends?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-talk-about-your-loss-with-your-friends#post-1958215 Mon, 24 Nov 2014 13:57:13 +0000 Ash 1958215@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I'm pretty open about it since it's been 2 years. I hid it for a long time. JennyG on "Do you talk about your loss with your friends?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-talk-about-your-loss-with-your-friends#post-1958210 Mon, 24 Nov 2014 13:56:09 +0000 JennyG 1958210@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I talked to my friends about my recent CP mostly because they all now we're trying. I didn't want to keep them in the dark, plus I wanted them to feel like we could talk about it if it ever happen to happen to them. simplyfelicity on "Do you talk about your loss with your friends?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-talk-about-your-loss-with-your-friends#post-1958159 Mon, 24 Nov 2014 13:40:09 +0000 simplyfelicity 1958159@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I do, but most of my friends don't really understand because they aren't "there yet" in life. My sis understands because she has had two losses. yin on "Do you talk about your loss with your friends?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-talk-about-your-loss-with-your-friends#post-1958154 Mon, 24 Nov 2014 13:34:21 +0000 yin 1958154@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I only openly talked about it once to a friend who had just gone through a miscarriage. It felt good to let it out. travellingbee on "Do you talk about your loss with your friends?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-talk-about-your-loss-with-your-friends#post-1958146 Mon, 24 Nov 2014 13:30:40 +0000 travellingbee 1958146@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Most of my friends have experienced a loss. I've talked with a few of them. It definitely helps to know others have gone through it. Anya on "Do you talk about your loss with your friends?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-talk-about-your-loss-with-your-friends#post-1957975 Mon, 24 Nov 2014 12:11:20 +0000 Anya 1957975@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I do. At the time I didn't know of anyone else who had gone through the same kind of loss and it felt very isolating. I am very open about it so that if it ever happens to a friend (or friend of a friend, etc), they might be able to reach out to me as someone who has been through what they're going through. MaryM on "Do you talk about your loss with your friends?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-talk-about-your-loss-with-your-friends#post-1957967 Mon, 24 Nov 2014 12:09:52 +0000 MaryM 1957967@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I talk about it with a few. A friend of mine (who introduced me to the bee) MCed not long before I did, so it was really helpful to have someone share notes with while we went through everything. I'll bring it up with others if it comes up. A friend at work recently announced her pregnancy to me (but her office doesn't know yet) and she was saying how hard it was to keep it under wraps during the 1st tri. I commented "You could have done what I did and get norovirus at the same time. It's a great excuse." But it wasn't so much about my loss, as it was about having also been pregnant. Another time a coworker I was close to asked if I'd known anyone who had a loss because she wasn't sure what to say to a friend who'd just had one. I opened up to her and let her know I'd had one and offered advice from experience. I don't go out of my way to share, but if I see the opportunity to offer someone help, then I'm all about it. I don't know what I would have done without the first friend I mentioned and my SIL when I had my loss. Dandelion on "Do you talk about your loss with your friends?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-talk-about-your-loss-with-your-friends#post-1957963 Mon, 24 Nov 2014 12:08:59 +0000 Dandelion 1957963@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I do. They don't ask, but I offer relevant info when it seems appropriate. I have friends facing a potential loss, so I'm prepared to be sharing about it some more. blackbird on "Do you talk about your loss with your friends?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-talk-about-your-loss-with-your-friends#post-1957954 Mon, 24 Nov 2014 12:06:17 +0000 blackbird 1957954@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I do; my friends are wonderful :heart: Mrs. Pickle on "Do you talk about your loss with your friends?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-talk-about-your-loss-with-your-friends#post-1957946 Mon, 24 Nov 2014 12:04:05 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 1957946@https://boards.hellobee.com/ When talking about pregnancy, parenting, infertility, etc with my friends sometimes my miscarriage comes up. I don't go out of my way to talk about it though. Its been several months now so it's not very fresh in my mind. My best friend lost her first pregnancy early like I did, so it is nice to have someone I can talk to who relates to what I'm feeling if I need to. And the same for her.