https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 10 May 2026 23:27:58 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-tend-to-get-lost-in-whatever-phase-of-life-you-are-in#post-613898 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 11:32:55 +0000 .twist. 613898@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am totally guilty of this for sure. I'm trying to tone it down right now and bring back some of who I was into who I'm becoming. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-tend-to-get-lost-in-whatever-phase-of-life-you-are-in#post-613884 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 11:27:27 +0000 twoofeverything 613884@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was just thinking about this the other day!<br /> Yes and no. As a SAHM, I do get "lost" in the babies while I"m home with them. Even when they're asleep, I"m doing their laundry, posting on HB, making appointments for them, shopping online for them...the list goes on. And I LOVE it! </p> <p>Luckily, I still have my tutoring business. Even though it's exhausting -- and even though it would would be nice not to have to go to work after caring for two infants all day -- I think it's good for me. I also try to make a point to go out to lunch with friends and get the gym whenever I can. (Although when I do, all I can think about is how soon I can get home to be with my family!)<br /> So yes...babies are all-consuming, and I have no doubt I'll be somewhat lost in Mommyhood for the rest of my life. While I wouldn't say I have an identity other than being a Mom, I do have other THINGS in my life, if that makes sense. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-tend-to-get-lost-in-whatever-phase-of-life-you-are-in#post-613836 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 11:14:16 +0000 Mrs. Chalk 613836@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am guilty of this as well. I also spend so much time reading up on baby/toddler development, activities, etc., that I wonder sometimes if I am actually doing it at the expense of spending time with the kids, if that makes sense. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-tend-to-get-lost-in-whatever-phase-of-life-you-are-in#post-613494 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 09:26:32 +0000 LuLu Mom 613494@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I did in the beginning and became very unhappy, so I force myself to still find my oldself pre-mom every once in awhile. this may just be getting dinner with friends or shopping for a few hours baby free, but it's what I need to feel like myself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-tend-to-get-lost-in-whatever-phase-of-life-you-are-in#post-613458 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 09:13:34 +0000 meredithNYC 613458@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I try really, really hard not to. I think it's because I have an amazing group of girlfriends who I have been friends with for about 6 years now. Of course, as life goes, some of us are on different "tracks". So when I was engaged and when I had LO, I tried really hard to retain some of the old me for the sake of my friendships and so as not to alienate the women who maybe weren't in the same place. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-tend-to-get-lost-in-whatever-phase-of-life-you-are-in#post-613382 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 08:13:53 +0000 blackbird 613382@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I typically don't--it's also been almost 4 years since I got married, so I've had a lot of time in between--but sometimes i become worried that parenting will be so all-consuming that I will lose myself. It's not the 1 child that worries me, it's when we have 2 or 3. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-tend-to-get-lost-in-whatever-phase-of-life-you-are-in#post-613357 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 07:51:16 +0000 heffalump 613357@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think I get lost.... I actually use my hobby in whatever phase I am in. I'm an artist and I love to craft. When I was getting married, I did a lot of DIY projects for the wedding. When I was pregnant I did a ton of DIY projects for LO's nursery. Now that she's here I'm making her tutu's, onesies, etc. and I'm always in party planning because I like to DIY for her parties. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-tend-to-get-lost-in-whatever-phase-of-life-you-are-in#post-613332 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 07:30:57 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 613332@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes! Thankgoodness for DH's complaints otherwise all my energy all the time would be in prep mode. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-tend-to-get-lost-in-whatever-phase-of-life-you-are-in#post-613246 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 01:22:43 +0000 Dandelion 613246@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes...a good example is that these past few days/weeks, all I do is google birth stories and examine everything that happens to see if it could be labor.</p> <p>When I was TTC, I was obsessed.</p> <p>I didn't with the wedding, cause it was a whirlwind thing and I didn't have time to get caught up in it, lol. Plus, we knew ahead of time it would be a low-planned thing.</p> <p>DH is the same way...we've been house hunting, and he spends all his spare time online, looking at listings. He dives right into whatever is going on with him every time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-tend-to-get-lost-in-whatever-phase-of-life-you-are-in#post-613242 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 01:17:05 +0000 Running Elley 613242@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes. I definitely do. I was the same with the wedding and TTC and now everything baby related. It's like I need something to fixate on. I'm actively trying to make myself more well rounded but it's hard to not be stuck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-tend-to-get-lost-in-whatever-phase-of-life-you-are-in#post-613152 Mon, 04 Mar 2013 23:26:35 +0000 StbHisMrs 613152@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes and no. My ds was an only child for so long! Once he started to get older, 6-7 and in school, I felt like I was getting to do way more for me! Five more years to go ;)<br /> Right now my life is all about everyone else... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-tend-to-get-lost-in-whatever-phase-of-life-you-are-in#post-613050 Mon, 04 Mar 2013 22:22:27 +0000 anbanan15 613050@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Blue: That is me to a T!</p> <p>I keep saying I am going to do such and such for myself, but I'm so consumed with this phase of my life that I keep putting it off. It is such a hard balance...maintaining self in parenthood. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-tend-to-get-lost-in-whatever-phase-of-life-you-are-in#post-613021 Mon, 04 Mar 2013 22:13:18 +0000 Mrs. Blue 613021@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've been thinking lately that it seems like I've been losing a little bit of "me." When we got engaged, I was obsessed with everything wedding related, and it seemed like my whole world revolved around that in one way or the other. Since we started debating when to TTC and now through pregnancy, it seems like TTC, pregnancy, parenting, etc. is all I read about, think about, etc. It kind of bothers me to think that I sort of lose myself a little when I'm in a new "big" phase of life. It worries me a little since, unlike wedding planning, parenting doesn't have an expiration date where you refocus yourself on your goals, hobbies, etc. </p> <p>Do you tend to get so consumed in a stage that you forget about other hobbies, etc.? How do you refocus yourself so that you do a good job as a parent, etc., but still keep your own interests part of your life? </p>