https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 30 Apr 2026 09:14:44 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-babies-can-feel-tension-in-a-house/page/2#post-567816 Fri, 15 Feb 2013 07:04:05 +0000 matador84 567816@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ah! I would be freaking out! We have really loud neighbors that just moved in when DS was born and I wanted to kill them. Just a little while longer and they will be gone...</p> <p>You are a saint for letting them stay so long! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-babies-can-feel-tension-in-a-house/page/2#post-567812 Fri, 15 Feb 2013 06:37:07 +0000 Mrs. Yoyo 567812@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PrincessBaby: good for your DH! Mine kicked my ILs out after they picked a really crazy fight with us last year. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-babies-can-feel-tension-in-a-house/page/2#post-567786 Fri, 15 Feb 2013 02:30:59 +0000 doodlepoodle 567786@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Two weeks is a LONG time for a visit in home whether or not you have a baby but with a newborn?! Holy crap. Yeah, major major props to hubby! I hope H gets back to normal and fast!! J is uses to loud talking BC my mom watches him and she's totally going deaf ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-babies-can-feel-tension-in-a-house/page/2#post-567754 Thu, 14 Feb 2013 23:45:42 +0000 lemondrop 567754@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, they sense stress. Good job to your husband for taking care of his ladies!</p> <p>I love my IL's to death, but my boy always acts differently when we have them (or anyone) stay with us. At 5 months it was really bad and he went on a nursing strike for a few days. At 10 months he went on a bottle strike. Both times all sleep went to hell and night weaning was history. </p> <p>We always cap off staying at their house or them staying with us at a week maximum. I would rather they stay with us than at a hotel, but it means that I can't let him cry for long at night/early morning- I don't want to wake anyone up, especially since my husband works during that time. </p> <p>For us the occasional week here and there of disrupted sleep are totally worth it for the quality time, but I do notice a change in the house for a bit. How you handled 2 weeks, holy $#&amp;%! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-babies-can-feel-tension-in-a-house/page/2#post-567743 Thu, 14 Feb 2013 23:27:16 +0000 Anagram 567743@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I get along with my in-laws pretty well. They are pretty unassuming and nice people. But threads like this make me a littttle nervous, because DH and I plan to have them come for 2 months (yup!) at the end of my maternity leave, so they can watch the baby during the day and hopefully help us make it until LO is 6 months old before they have to start day care.</p> <p>And should I mention that we'll be living in a small, two bedroom apartment by then? (Right now we are in a 1 bedroom).</p> <p>Hehe....we might be crazy, but we'll see how it goes! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-babies-can-feel-tension-in-a-house/page/2#post-567722 Thu, 14 Feb 2013 22:47:49 +0000 PurpleUnicorn 567722@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can't imagine 2 weeks! My stress-inducing family (parents, sister,BIL &amp; 2 year old niece) stayed with us for 3 nights over Xmas when L was 6 weeks old. He cried each evening,very different from his usual pattern and went back to normal the first night they were gone! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-babies-can-feel-tension-in-a-house/page/2#post-564516 Wed, 13 Feb 2013 17:53:20 +0000 shopaholic 564516@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow ! Your DH rocks for taking charge like that! I can only imagine how stressful it has been on you all - even poor H who can't get her needed naps! Hopefully your routine will settle back soon and you all can get some much needed rest! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-babies-can-feel-tension-in-a-house/page/2#post-564506 Wed, 13 Feb 2013 17:50:34 +0000 sunny 564506@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yay for your DH! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-babies-can-feel-tension-in-a-house/page/2#post-564497 Wed, 13 Feb 2013 17:46:32 +0000 Maysprout 564497@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Glad you get some relief! My IL are nice people in general but I could not handle them after baby was born. They were supposed to come for a couple nights right after baby was born but left after one night thankfully bc I think they could tell they were stressing me out and I really needed sleep. Everything became about their schedule instead of figuring out how to fit in with our household. MIL wanted to sleep in the nursery, not to help with night wakings but because we don't have 2 guest rooms so she didn't want BIL sleeping on the couch. But I was nursing, changing LO in there in the middle of the night several times and didn't want to keep tripping over MIL or an audience or to wake up DH who also hadn't slept much in several nights. It was just unnecessary drama - MIL kept talking about how poor BIL must not have slept well, BIL was saying he slept really good, and I'm just thinking WTF I literally haven't slept in days. I think I would have gone absolutely bonkers if they'd stayed for 2 weeks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-babies-can-feel-tension-in-a-house/page/2#post-564492 Wed, 13 Feb 2013 17:44:41 +0000 Sweet T 564492@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PrincessBaby: Your husband is awesome! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-babies-can-feel-tension-in-a-house/page/2#post-564426 Wed, 13 Feb 2013 17:04:32 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 564426@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Your DH is awesome! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-babies-can-feel-tension-in-a-house/page/2#post-564421 Wed, 13 Feb 2013 17:02:06 +0000 PrincessBaby 564421@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Lindsay05: @cascademom: Plus in DH's parents' case, they don't hear very well anymore. So I think they're used to shouting at each other and don't even know it </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-babies-can-feel-tension-in-a-house#post-564409 Wed, 13 Feb 2013 16:54:16 +0000 cascademom 564409@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Lindsay05: You know I wondered that too. I think some of it is that they aren't around babies for so long that they forget. My parents have been super helpful over the years with my nephews and niece. My mom's a former kindergarten teacher too, so she's well versed in kids especially young ones. </p> <p>With my MIL, being around a baby was an excuse to talk all the time about DH and BIL's babyhood. It was really truly annoying. She didn't offer advice or empathy. It was just "oh my babies." DH turns 35 this year, so yeah , she's far removed from kids. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-babies-can-feel-tension-in-a-house#post-564403 Wed, 13 Feb 2013 16:51:16 +0000 cascademom 564403@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PrincessBaby: Awesome!! Your husband rocks!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-babies-can-feel-tension-in-a-house#post-564386 Wed, 13 Feb 2013 16:43:38 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 564386@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Aww:( he probably threatened then with the duct tape! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-babies-can-feel-tension-in-a-house#post-564379 Wed, 13 Feb 2013 16:38:55 +0000 Arden 564379@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I get where you are coming from, because I usually end up with a migraine and nausea just THINKING about my inlaws visiting (technically, my FIL. My MIL means well).<br /> They kill me. Every. Single Time. I'm around them I get sick from the stress. If I had them in my home for two weeks, I'd get a stomach ulcer and a nervous breakdown. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-babies-can-feel-tension-in-a-house#post-564367 Wed, 13 Feb 2013 16:33:27 +0000 autumnlove 564367@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Awww! I'm happy they are leaving soon. I think DH feels this way when my parents visit...and they usually only stay for less than a week! He is always so relieved when they go home...they like to keep the baby up when she clearly wants to sleep and they don't take NO for an answer. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-babies-can-feel-tension-in-a-house#post-564363 Wed, 13 Feb 2013 16:30:33 +0000 Bookish 564363@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PrincessBaby: whoaaaaaaa. MAJOR props to your husband!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-babies-can-feel-tension-in-a-house#post-564348 Wed, 13 Feb 2013 16:24:56 +0000 Lindsay05 564348@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I dont get it. Did our parents not have to be quiet when we were babies? Do they not remember that having an overtired baby is not a good thing? I have yelled at my stepdad before because LO was crying and I was trying to get her down for a nap and he insisted on laughing at her and making jokes. Frick. Ask a tired mom how she feels about that. You have every right to be angry and hopefully they will be out of your hair soon! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-babies-can-feel-tension-in-a-house#post-564347 Wed, 13 Feb 2013 16:24:09 +0000 anonysquire 564347@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PrincessBaby: Holla! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-babies-can-feel-tension-in-a-house#post-564331 Wed, 13 Feb 2013 16:16:41 +0000 PrincessBaby 564331@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>UPDATE: Wow! DH just kicked the IL's out! He came home to a wife having a meltdown and a cranky no-nap baby, and he took H from me and told me to go run, shop, do something- he's taking over &amp; I need a break. I went for a run, came home, and they were loading up their van! DH told them this was out of control and they needed to either stay with BIL tonight, or get a hotel, that things were not going well with them in the house with the baby and it was causing too much stress. He must have given them a stern talking-to bc they BOLTED! I mean, I only ran for 40 minutes!!!! </p> <p>DH FTW!!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-babies-can-feel-tension-in-a-house#post-564208 Wed, 13 Feb 2013 15:30:37 +0000 rachiecakes 564208@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PrincessBaby: if my ILs were with me for more than a couple days, I would be packing my s and staying at a hotel with LO. I admire your patience.<br /> I agree with @BabyBoecksMom , wine is necessary.<br /> Take a deep breath knowing that they will be leaving soon. &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-babies-can-feel-tension-in-a-house#post-564200 Wed, 13 Feb 2013 15:27:12 +0000 immabeetoo 564200@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PrincessBaby: we had the same scenario around here before he turned 11 weeks fortunately it seems to have passed! I hated being the only one who could put him down for naps! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-babies-can-feel-tension-in-a-house#post-564149 Wed, 13 Feb 2013 15:11:28 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 564149@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, babies (and toddlers) can sense the tension. Just breathe, have a glass of wine (pump first!) and try to relax. You're so close to having the house back the way you want it. Just a few more hours - hang in there, you can do it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-babies-can-feel-tension-in-a-house#post-564143 Wed, 13 Feb 2013 15:09:20 +0000 MsLipGloss 564143@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PrincessBaby: That doesn't sound boring, that sounds amazeballs! </p> <p>And fwiw, BabyGloss has been fussier since MIL's arrival. I try to keep my cool as best possible, but sometimes I just get so annoyed/stressed/drained by the seeming lack of situational awareness being exhibited by an adult woman with two children, I am sure some of it spills over to BabyGloss. And that makes me a seriously sad panda. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-babies-can-feel-tension-in-a-house#post-564136 Wed, 13 Feb 2013 15:05:38 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 564136@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>To answer your question: yes!!! I truly believe LOs are in bad moods when there is tension in the house. Every time I go run an errand or do something and I get stressed and subconsciously show DS, he gets fussy.<br /> And at night I have DH do bedtime because I'm so spent that all LO does is cry because he sense my anxiety. His dad takes him: sleep!<br /> Good luck today and tomorrow. Never again....never again... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-babies-can-feel-tension-in-a-house#post-564125 Wed, 13 Feb 2013 15:02:59 +0000 PrincessBaby 564125@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lawbee11: This is true...There are probably several FILs getting strangled down here right this second!!!</p> <p>@MrsCB: That's a good idea! H might want to go to Target later!</p> <p>@MsLipGloss: Much sympathy, dude! I just want to sit next to my husband on the couch, watch my DVR'd Bachelor episodes that we never could watch bc they always had their shows to watch, and whip a boob out to feed my child---a typical night that may sound boring but it's what I love and I want it back! Waaaaahhh!!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-babies-can-feel-tension-in-a-house#post-564114 Wed, 13 Feb 2013 15:00:53 +0000 MsLipGloss 564114@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Sunny: OMG - *hover* is eggszachary the right word for it! In the mornings, I hand LO over so I can get ready for work. I am already sad about another day away from her, so every minute I get I try to soak up. When she comes downstairs, she immediately swoops in and hovers over LO to say good morning and completely cramps my style. *augh* It is so annoying! I try to remind myself that it is about LO and not me, and that LO is enjoying the attention and love. But. Still. Really? I mean . . . .come on! </p> <p>Even more than that, I really really hate having an audience to everything that happens in the house. She lives far enough away (at least a half a day's drive and then some) that I can't easily kick her out. :)</p> <p>ETA: Oh, and if one more person (irl) who never had to leave their child and go back to work tells me that they know how hard it is and blahblahblah I am going to punch someone! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-babies-can-feel-tension-in-a-house#post-564113 Wed, 13 Feb 2013 15:00:27 +0000 mrbee 564113@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sounds like they're leaving soon, but have you tried an iPhone White Noise app? There's one linked here that's awesome, and when the house is loud then we actually have 2-3 devices on with the (free) app:</p> <p><a href="http://www.hellobee.com/2012/05/23/top-12-most-used-products/" rel="nofollow">http://www.hellobee.com/2012/05/23/top-12-most-used-products/</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-babies-can-feel-tension-in-a-house#post-564107 Wed, 13 Feb 2013 14:58:52 +0000 loveisstrange 564107@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're overseas military and a friend of mine had her MIL come and stay for 3 MONTHS after her daughter was born. Not only did she stay that long, but she did absolutely nothing to help out in that time.</p> <p>Anyway, I think they can feel it. I know when DH's cousin and her kids came to visit when C was 2 months old, she was unusually fussy. </p>