https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 11 Apr 2026 00:26:49 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-its-weird-for-guests-who-are-relatives-not-to-give-gifts#post-2078108 Fri, 20 Feb 2015 08:03:04 +0000 mrsbubbletea 2078108@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@oliviaoblivia: that's exactly what I need to learn how to do! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-its-weird-for-guests-who-are-relatives-not-to-give-gifts#post-2078082 Fri, 20 Feb 2015 07:20:18 +0000 anonysquire 2078082@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Considering the only thing my husband's mom has given my baby was a check that bounced, I would be expecting it. It sucks, but inlaws suck. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-its-weird-for-guests-who-are-relatives-not-to-give-gifts#post-2078026 Fri, 20 Feb 2015 02:14:27 +0000 Mrs.Pinecone316 2078026@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would think that was super strange. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-its-weird-for-guests-who-are-relatives-not-to-give-gifts#post-2078019 Fri, 20 Feb 2015 01:32:10 +0000 tequiero21 2078019@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would think it's weird in general, but expected from my mil. They gave us a big check, but I think it's because they saw everyone giving us gifts. They never got my hubby and his bro gifts, birthdays, xmas, etc. they haven't given my kids any gifts, except occasionally they will buy clothes out of nowhere, but not for any particular reason. They are SO weird. So no birthday or xmas gifts for their only grandchildren, but randomly, they buy some clothes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-its-weird-for-guests-who-are-relatives-not-to-give-gifts#post-2078005 Fri, 20 Feb 2015 00:31:30 +0000 lamariniere 2078005@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it depends. Some people might have felt more like it was a family gathering and didn't feel like a gift was necessay? Or maybe they are waiting for the birth? </p> <p>I think in general I try to keep low expectations for things like that so as not to be disappointed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-its-weird-for-guests-who-are-relatives-not-to-give-gifts#post-2077766 Thu, 19 Feb 2015 20:57:17 +0000 mrsjyw 2077766@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Weird. </p> <p>My mil threw my bridal shower and one of my baby showers and still gifted us big ticket items. Def weird in my book. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-its-weird-for-guests-who-are-relatives-not-to-give-gifts#post-2077520 Thu, 19 Feb 2015 18:03:01 +0000 nana87 2077520@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would think that was strange </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-its-weird-for-guests-who-are-relatives-not-to-give-gifts#post-2077511 Thu, 19 Feb 2015 17:55:11 +0000 autumnlove 2077511@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My relatives didn't gift us until after LO 1 was born. My mom bought us a car seat early but she was really nervous about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-its-weird-for-guests-who-are-relatives-not-to-give-gifts#post-2077481 Thu, 19 Feb 2015 17:38:35 +0000 chopstixwife 2077481@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm asian so I don't expect a gift. If you give one, fine, if you don't it's okay too. I consider it as an event as bringing family together. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-its-weird-for-guests-who-are-relatives-not-to-give-gifts#post-2077473 Thu, 19 Feb 2015 17:33:28 +0000 illumina 2077473@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Baby showers are not super common over here so I would just assume they are going to give something after the baby is here, or maybe not...haha! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-its-weird-for-guests-who-are-relatives-not-to-give-gifts#post-2077458 Thu, 19 Feb 2015 17:23:29 +0000 .twist. 2077458@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hm. I was thinking relative like... aunt or second cousin or great grandma, and then I would just shrug and move on. Whateves. </p> <p>But the MIL and SIL's? That does seem a little strange. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-its-weird-for-guests-who-are-relatives-not-to-give-gifts#post-2077408 Thu, 19 Feb 2015 16:59:28 +0000 Modern Daisy 2077408@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would think it was weird if any guest showed up to a shower giftless. Especially an immediate family member assuming they are at least in their 20's </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-its-weird-for-guests-who-are-relatives-not-to-give-gifts#post-2077398 Thu, 19 Feb 2015 16:55:48 +0000 youboots 2077398@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Eh, I'd assume something was coming in the mail or after the baby arrives. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-its-weird-for-guests-who-are-relatives-not-to-give-gifts#post-2077383 Thu, 19 Feb 2015 16:47:28 +0000 Maysprout 2077383@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not all my sisters gave a gift at my shower, we all get along and they're hands on aunts. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-its-weird-for-guests-who-are-relatives-not-to-give-gifts#post-2077373 Thu, 19 Feb 2015 16:38:17 +0000 BSB 2077373@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: That is sad. Granted, I know people who have money and they have everything so sometimes it's hard to shop for them. But this is different. A card or something small could go a long way in this case. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-its-weird-for-guests-who-are-relatives-not-to-give-gifts#post-2077371 Thu, 19 Feb 2015 16:38:01 +0000 MamaBehr 2077371@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would think that to be very strange. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-its-weird-for-guests-who-are-relatives-not-to-give-gifts#post-2077369 Thu, 19 Feb 2015 16:37:25 +0000 rachiecakes 2077369@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My MIL didn't give me gifts at any of my showers, bridal or baby.<br /> (She didn't host/help plan. Just a guest.) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-its-weird-for-guests-who-are-relatives-not-to-give-gifts#post-2077363 Thu, 19 Feb 2015 16:33:49 +0000 Cole 2077363@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would find it weird too. My mil gave us a relatively small gift at my shower despite usually giving large gifts at other events including for housewarming so I thought it was really odd. Turns out she didn't want to make a scene and sent us a stroller a few weeks later.</p> <p>I also had an aunt who just never sent anything after saying she was going to fly in for the shower and telling my mom what she planned to buy so I guess sometimes people just get busy? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-its-weird-for-guests-who-are-relatives-not-to-give-gifts#post-2077361 Thu, 19 Feb 2015 16:33:03 +0000 MaryM 2077361@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would give them the benefit of the doubt and figure either they ordered something and it was arriving late, or they were planning something bigger later. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-its-weird-for-guests-who-are-relatives-not-to-give-gifts#post-2077360 Thu, 19 Feb 2015 16:32:34 +0000 Mrs. Tiger 2077360@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My MIL never gives gifts until after the baby is born,she thinks it's bad luck. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-its-weird-for-guests-who-are-relatives-not-to-give-gifts#post-2077356 Thu, 19 Feb 2015 16:29:52 +0000 mediagirl 2077356@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Now that I think about it and think about what she has told me about her MIL....I have a feeling she probably thinks she can afford to buy everything herself and probably didn't feel the need to buy her anything. And that's sad. You give gifts because you love someone, not because they can/cannot afford to buy it themselves. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-its-weird-for-guests-who-are-relatives-not-to-give-gifts#post-2077353 Thu, 19 Feb 2015 16:27:58 +0000 JerricaBenton 2077353@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would for sure think it was weird and be hurt if it were my MIL and SIL. The only other possible explanation could be that they're going to get something closer to or after the baby is born. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-its-weird-for-guests-who-are-relatives-not-to-give-gifts#post-2077339 Thu, 19 Feb 2015 16:15:54 +0000 Bao 2077339@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That is weird. Did they maybe ship something? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-its-weird-for-guests-who-are-relatives-not-to-give-gifts#post-2077337 Thu, 19 Feb 2015 16:14:27 +0000 mediagirl 2077337@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: they didn't host it. There were no group gifts! So weird... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-its-weird-for-guests-who-are-relatives-not-to-give-gifts#post-2077336 Thu, 19 Feb 2015 16:13:53 +0000 BSB 2077336@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: Did the MIL &amp; SIL host the baby shower and maybe they thought their gift was the shower? Baby showers are and can be expensive, so I can see that.</p> <p>If they didn't host the shower... I don't know. Maybe the contributed to a group gift? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-its-weird-for-guests-who-are-relatives-not-to-give-gifts#post-2077325 Thu, 19 Feb 2015 16:09:45 +0000 SleepyMonkey 2077325@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Is the sil younger? I dont think i got my sil a gift for her baby shower when i was in college. My mom didnt bring her gift to the shower, she had it mailed to her. </p> <p>Could it be a cultural difference? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-its-weird-for-guests-who-are-relatives-not-to-give-gifts#post-2077324 Thu, 19 Feb 2015 16:09:33 +0000 oliviaoblivia 2077324@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Happened to me. Thought it was weird.<br /> I try to not apply normal behavioural expectations to MIL though. Keeps me from getting disappointed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-its-weird-for-guests-who-are-relatives-not-to-give-gifts#post-2077322 Thu, 19 Feb 2015 16:08:50 +0000 LuLu Mom 2077322@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's very strange, to me the point of a shower is to give gifts, if you are unable then 1) don't attend or 2) at least bring a card with well wishes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-its-weird-for-guests-who-are-relatives-not-to-give-gifts#post-2077313 Thu, 19 Feb 2015 16:06:06 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2077313@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would find that strange if all the SILs were MIL's daughters. Otherwise, I would chalk something like that up to people coming from a different gift giving background. Or if said SIL or MIL were not financially well off to give a gift that would be perfectly fine letting their presence be their present. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-its-weird-for-guests-who-are-relatives-not-to-give-gifts#post-2077300 Thu, 19 Feb 2015 16:02:39 +0000 looch 2077300@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's weird, unless they planned to do something after the birth? </p>