https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 19 May 2026 19:39:42 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-money-can-buy-happiness#post-438907 Sat, 08 Dec 2012 09:10:08 +0000 Arden 438907@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think that being rich will make you happy. However, having enough money to live a stress-free life can contribute towards a happier life. </p> <p>Researchers at Princeton examined Gallup poll data from nearly 500,000 US households and found that higher family incomes were related to better moods on a day to day basis. However, the positive effects of money had no effect on people’s happiness and moods after an income level of $ 75,000.00 was attained.</p> <p>Once you make enough to live without the stress and heartache that comes from not being able to provide for your family, you are happier. Any money beyond that though, has no effect and can sometimes make you unhappier. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-money-can-buy-happiness#post-438756 Sat, 08 Dec 2012 00:35:31 +0000 BoogieBea 438756@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think if you want a family, then having a family of your own is pretty invaluable. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-money-can-buy-happiness#post-438740 Sat, 08 Dec 2012 00:15:59 +0000 sera_87 438740@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It doesn't buy happiness, but it can rent it for a while.</p> <p>ETA: it also buys chocolate. and wine. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-money-can-buy-happiness#post-438662 Fri, 07 Dec 2012 21:50:51 +0000 Andrea 438662@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The average guy wins out in my book. He's not broke, right? I wouldn't want to be destitute, but average and happy is just fine. Rich, having no kids, and dealing with crazy exes? No thanks! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-money-can-buy-happiness#post-438646 Fri, 07 Dec 2012 21:41:04 +0000 prettylizy 438646@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't give up having a family for anything in the world, but I really like money and would like to have as much as possible. If I had to choose, I would hcoose the family man and hope that they can make a healthy living together. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-money-can-buy-happiness#post-438643 Fri, 07 Dec 2012 21:38:21 +0000 smocks 438643@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@banana: Yikes, I think that her current financial woes are probably swaying her judgment a bit. Does she expect the guy with the money to bail her out? I don't know, the way you presented it makes it sound like she's not thinking this through.</p> <p>@MamaMoose: +1</p> <p>I agree that money makes life easier, but if the underlying relationship isn't strong, money isn't going to solve any problems. I work at a bank in a department that deals with rich individuals, and I've seen heaps of nasty divorce decrees. Based on that alone, I'd say that money doesn't buy happiness. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-money-can-buy-happiness#post-438634 Fri, 07 Dec 2012 21:29:11 +0000 Mrs. Bee 438634@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>money can't buy happiness. you'll just find something else to be unhappy about. i think most rich people are depressed! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-money-can-buy-happiness#post-438630 Fri, 07 Dec 2012 21:25:47 +0000 Freckles 438630@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Money makes things easier, but that is it. Even people with money have problems because they dont know how to manage their wealth! No matter how much you have, you will always want or think you need more. </p> <p>I dont think it is a wealthy husband your friend needs, but someone who will make her happy regardless of how much money they have, and who has their life together. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-money-can-buy-happiness#post-438504 Fri, 07 Dec 2012 19:20:54 +0000 sarac 438504@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hell to the no. Money relieves the stress of not having it, and certainly contributes to happiness. But that's it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-money-can-buy-happiness#post-438497 Fri, 07 Dec 2012 19:18:32 +0000 Foodnerd81 438497@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PurplePumps: No, I definitely don't think money can buy happiness, but lack of money can certainly cause unhappiness.</p> <p>Totally this. If the guy who can't have is own kids is willing to try in other ways (IVF, adoption) then that wouldn't be a deal breaker for me. I can't quite see these being the factors I'd base who I want to spend the rest of my life with. </p> <p>That said, if someone was really bad off financially, I could see that factoring in. I know my career wasn't going to ever make me rich, and I really wanted to be a SAHM, so I guess if I knew that would never be an option with a guy, that would factor in (but not be a deal breaker). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-money-can-buy-happiness#post-438469 Fri, 07 Dec 2012 18:50:32 +0000 Bao 438469@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Money doesn't buy happiness, but it sure as hell makes life easier. My husband and I have been struggling financially lately, but had we not had each other and a supportive family (things money can't buy), we would have nothing. Money isn't everything. DH just got a new job this week so things are looking up, and that money sure will make things easier and add a little more happiness! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-money-can-buy-happiness#post-438463 Fri, 07 Dec 2012 18:46:05 +0000 MamaMoose 438463@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think that if your friend is even factoring money into the equation then she doesn't love either of these men and she should just move on</p> <p>In general I don't believe that money buys happiness. As long as you have enough to support your family more money won't mean more happiness. But I do believe that not having enough money to cover your basic needs would cause quite a bit of stress and therefore unhappiness. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-money-can-buy-happiness#post-438458 Fri, 07 Dec 2012 18:42:10 +0000 banana 438458@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@podomama: I totally agree with you. I used to be more idealistic before too. But now, I totally see why some women would marry rich (or at least not struggling) mean. The guy has fertility issues. He had a vasectomy 15 years ago and apparently it made some permanent changes to his body. I don't know anything about vasectomies but I always thought they were totally reversible. Apparently not always? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-money-can-buy-happiness#post-438452 Fri, 07 Dec 2012 18:39:32 +0000 banana 438452@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lantern: Oh, I wrote that as one of the many examples she gave. She was just having a pity party. Her finance problems are really bad. They haven't paid their mortgage in 6 months and had to recently sell their car (they have no car!). She takes her kids to their sick doctor's appointments by riding a bus sometimes (if she can't find a ride at the last minute). She has zero in her savings and has tons of debt. She can only afford to take her kids to Disneyland once a year because she saves for that trip all year. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-money-can-buy-happiness#post-438440 Fri, 07 Dec 2012 18:30:20 +0000 PurplePumps 438440@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, I definitely don't think money can buy happiness, but lack of money can certainly cause unhappiness. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-money-can-buy-happiness#post-438438 Fri, 07 Dec 2012 18:28:03 +0000 archivedbee 438438@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I used to be such an idealistic person (i.e. "I don't care about money I just want a good guy , etc...), but after being married and having a child, I can totally see how money can definitely make a huge difference in life. I don't think it can buy every happiness but, on the flip side, if your marriage is strained and your constantly stressed out from worrying about finances, that's a tough boat to be in. Before I thought it was so superficial to go for a guy with money, but I can no longer fault women for it...especially if they want to stay home to raise their kids. Of course, the guy can't be a total jerk and money can't be the only reason you're going for him because that would be stupid. And there are so many other factors to think about. For example, I think that if the guy is not wealthy but he is good (meaning responsible) about finances, then that's a plus, but if he's of average wealth AND terrible with money, then that is a triple minus!! But about the wealthy guy who can't have children....is he fixed ? If he's not fixed then they can probably do IVF ? no ? But yeah, the crazy ex wife is the scary part .... =\ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-money-can-buy-happiness#post-438434 Fri, 07 Dec 2012 18:26:05 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 438434@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think money buys happiness, but it makes life easier. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-money-can-buy-happiness#post-438430 Fri, 07 Dec 2012 18:22:59 +0000 Mrs. Lantern 438430@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@banana: being able to take the kids to disneyland at least once a year...sounds like money's not THAT big of an issue for your friend!</p> <p>It's easy to attribute the stress to money problems. But stress is a way of dealing with sticky situations. Who knows, maybe even with money, there will be other things that'll stress her out? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-money-can-buy-happiness#post-438427 Fri, 07 Dec 2012 18:19:45 +0000 mrbee 438427@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>"She said nobody knows what it's like to live without money unless you've been there yourself."</p> <p>@banana: I believe it!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-money-can-buy-happiness#post-438423 Fri, 07 Dec 2012 18:07:59 +0000 HLK208 438423@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Money comes and goes so it's not that important to me. I think personality, chemistry and physical attraction triumph money. </p> <p>If I had a ton of money, I wouldn't value pay day's as much either. If it weren't for the bad days, good days wouldn't seem so good...that's how I feel about money. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-money-can-buy-happiness#post-438417 Fri, 07 Dec 2012 18:03:15 +0000 Rubies 438417@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Does she love both of them?</p> <p>I don't know man, crazy exes scare me. I hate drama. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-money-can-buy-happiness#post-438415 Fri, 07 Dec 2012 18:01:09 +0000 banana 438415@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85: That's exactly how I felt too. I could never imagine my life without kids. But we had another friend there with us, who has 2 kids and a husband, but is struggling with money. And she's dealing with depression because of all the stress in her life. Without money, she's always worried/stressed and can't seem to enjoy her life with her kids and husband. She can't buy them the toys that they want, she can't afford tutoring, she can't take them to Disneyland more than once a year (must less travel anywhere else). She was one of the ones that said money can totally buy happiness because she has the perfect family and no money, and is miserable. I told her to try to see the bigger picture (healthy family!) but she's constantly worried about losing her house and supporting her family. She said nobody knows what it's like to live without money unless you've been there yourself. </p> <p>sigh... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-money-can-buy-happiness#post-438409 Fri, 07 Dec 2012 17:54:56 +0000 hilsy85 438409@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think money can create an easier living situation, which then might make it easier to be happy. But in your friends case, I would never give up the possibility of a family for money. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-money-can-buy-happiness#post-438406 Fri, 07 Dec 2012 17:54:22 +0000 sorrycharlie 438406@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've always wanted a family and kids so that's a separate thing for me!</p> <p>But I think money can definitely make life easier and cause happiness. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-money-can-buy-happiness#post-438390 Fri, 07 Dec 2012 17:47:07 +0000 Mrs. Train 438390@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If you are miserable I don't think money can buy happiness. I think if both men are equal in compatibility then having money is a nice bonus. But I don't think money should be the big factor. I think family building would be a bigger concern. Like if the one that cant have kids is unwilling to have a family through other means that might be a deal breaker. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-money-can-buy-happiness#post-438378 Fri, 07 Dec 2012 17:39:31 +0000 banana 438378@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just had lunch with a friend who is deciding between two men (I know, sounds lame but it's a really complicated situation). Anyhow, one of them is quite wealthy but can't have children and has some baggage (crazy ex wife). The other isn't wealthy (just average I guess), CAN have kids and has no baggage. She's trying to figure out which man will bring her the most happiness in life.</p> <p>We got into a discussion on marrying a man with money. And my other girlfriends all agreed that money can totally buy happiness, and that she should go with the guy with money. I couldn't give my opinion because I'm not really sure. I know NOT having money is hard. But can money buy happiness? Can it make up for a lot? </p>