https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 17 May 2026 11:38:23 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-reward-charts-are-successful#post-2355048 Thu, 12 Nov 2015 23:51:36 +0000 daniellemybelle 2355048@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We tried one for potty training and LO was not really into it. She's only 2 though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-reward-charts-are-successful#post-2351723 Tue, 10 Nov 2015 23:15:03 +0000 yin 2351723@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've never done it before with the kids. I went to an open house tonight for a local charter school and noticed a lot of reward charts for behavior in the kindergarten classrooms. I'm not sure how I feel about that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-reward-charts-are-successful#post-2351722 Tue, 10 Nov 2015 23:13:27 +0000 MamaG 2351722@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Its most effective now (age 4) for tracking medicine. If she's on an antibiotic as an example. She gets to mark off each dose with a sticker toward being DONE. We've used them before to reinforce a behavior. We let her pick her "reward" for filling up the chart. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-reward-charts-are-successful#post-2351693 Tue, 10 Nov 2015 22:37:18 +0000 irene 2351693@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For us it is unclear but interesting. </p> <p>We only introduced it a few weeks ago. He is being rated on 6 things (unfortunately mine only hold 6 max): good table manners, say please/thank you, no whining, clean up your mess, go to the potty (as in no accidents, go to the potty willingly all on his own), and go to bed + stay in bed. </p> <p>At first we didn't have a clear rewarding structure (as we are all still trying to figure it out), and/or the reward wasn't clear so I wouldn't say it is super helpful. DS (3.5 years old) still get excited about going to the chart to stick up the stars every night. Until recently, more like last week, I figured if he gets all 6 stars in one day, or all stars on the same row at the end of the week, he will get one quarter (coin) for each. </p> <p>Last week he got his first coin because he said please and thank you every day for that week. We made it a big deal and "awarded" him the coin so he can put in his wallet (which already has $5.5 in it), explain to him that 4 quarters make a dollar, and how much his toys are roughly cost...etc. Last night he got all 6 stars in the same day, again we made it a big deal, awarded him a coin, he was so proud of himself. We reinforced the concept of money and how he could save up to buy things he wanted...etc.</p> <p>So I don't know if it would be motivating just yet, but I like how we are also introducing the concept of math and money slowly. Tonight he almost got 6 stars again but I explained to him how he did whine a bit when I picked him up from school. I said you almost got 6 stars today and another coin! Maybe you should really not whine tomorrow and then I am pretty sure you will get another coin. He seemed excited.</p> <p>If he gets 5 or more stars on a day, he will get a sticker on his mini wall calendar on that particular day. So he did get a sticker today. I am thinking if I should give him another reward (how big/small) if he accumulates x number of stickers in a month.</p> <p>So we shall see....</p> <p>ETA: I think in order for it to work, the reward has to be just right. If it is too small/hard to get, the child may see no point to work for it. If it is too big/easy, he/she loses the incentive to earn for it. Our starting rule was that he had to have all 6 stars in at least 3 days in that week to get a coin. Then we realize he never really have 3 perfect days in a week and that goal becomes impossible, thus we modified. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-reward-charts-are-successful#post-2351683 Tue, 10 Nov 2015 22:20:27 +0000 Mrs. D 2351683@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>To get our daughter to get over her fear of the potty for pooping (she's been fine peeing for months) and played with her desire to become a big sister.</p> <p>We told her we couldn't talk to God about sending us a baby for her to be a big sister to until we had no more babies in the house. It took longer than I"m willing to admit, but she finally pooped on the potty, and we're not looking back!<br /> Good thing she finally did though, because we started trying for #2 before any pooping success.</p> <p>As for reward charts, I never actually used them with her, but I used them in my first grade classroom last year. When the card was filled students could trade it in for a pencil or other prize from my bucket. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-reward-charts-are-successful#post-2351099 Tue, 10 Nov 2015 15:23:12 +0000 LadyPantaloons 2351099@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Bao: Also just to note. The sticker chart is a booklet I made up and we carry it in the car - there's lots of templates on pinterest. If one parent is dropping and the other is picking we leave it in her daycare cubby. The point is that it's an instant reward once she fulfills what we want - an entire calm leave and commute to and from daycare. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-reward-charts-are-successful#post-2351088 Tue, 10 Nov 2015 15:19:48 +0000 LadyPantaloons 2351088@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, we had to implement one recently because our DD was just exhausting us during daycare drop off and pick up. She would cry and refuse to get into the car, no matter what time of day it was and then cry the entire commute - like bloody murder screaming.<br /> So I had enough of that. She gets a sticker each time she has a "calm leave". After 6 "calm leaves" she gets to pick a prize from a box of things that I got from the dollar store.<br /> We mostly only had problem with daycare drops/pickups but we have used it for leaving a friends house a couple of times.<br /> The point is we won't use this forever, eventually she'll forget about it and "calm leaves" will just be normal.<br /> As for potty training - she was 2 and we used fruit snacks to reward her. Worked like a charm also. So our DD may just be reward focused. @Bao: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-reward-charts-are-successful#post-2350929 Tue, 10 Nov 2015 14:11:01 +0000 looch 2350929@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In the short term, yes, when my son has a clear goal in mind. For just regular good behavior, they don't work for us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-reward-charts-are-successful#post-2350925 Tue, 10 Nov 2015 14:10:12 +0000 Mamaof2 2350925@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>yes!</p> <p>They are not meant to be used forever. Ex: PTing<br /> They got rewards when they used the potty, they don't anymore - lol</p> <p>It helps put that "thing' in a mindset and reinforce it - one you get there you can stop </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-reward-charts-are-successful#post-2350914 Tue, 10 Nov 2015 14:05:25 +0000 hummusgirl 2350914@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We don't because I know I'd never keep up with it. I also am wary of replacing intrinsic motivation with external. We try to send the message that you should listen to your body and go potty when your body tells you it's time. We do chores because we like living in a clean house and we help each other out and it feels good to do things for yourself. Etc etc. I don't know, maybe we've just been lucky, but it seems to be working for our 3-year-old. I will say, we totally used the promise of Halloween candy to get him to nap last weekend, and it was glorious. But short-term bribes are about all we can commit to. I'm interested to see what other people do. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-reward-charts-are-successful#post-2350899 Tue, 10 Nov 2015 13:53:46 +0000 Bao 2350899@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For good behavior or using the potty, doing chores etc. Do you think reward charts are successful for your LO? I have attempted this a few times and I think it's on me because I tend to drop the ball on following through with it. There really has to be a decent reward at the end for LO because simply just getting a sticker doesn't really appeal to her. I would love for this to work though, there are various things I would love to use it for. </p>