https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 19 Jun 2026 11:18:40 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-you-could-co-parent#post-2357368 Sun, 15 Nov 2015 19:29:36 +0000 gingerbebe 2357368@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am also one of those people for whom divorce isn't really an option and for whom exes are dead to me once we are through so I'm not sure how co-parenting would go with children. I think it would be much easier once/if I am remarried myself, but I think the important part is I would have to massively commit to healing myself so that I could make rational and unified parenting decisions with my ex and help my kid have a good relationship with his dad. But yeah, this is a life insurance-y awful question for sure. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-you-could-co-parent#post-2357313 Sun, 15 Nov 2015 18:33:16 +0000 erinpye 2357313@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hope I never have to find out, but I'd like to think I could. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-you-could-co-parent#post-2357267 Sun, 15 Nov 2015 17:31:52 +0000 Mae 2357267@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think we would be friends. Because my husband doesn't really do "friends" with women. But I would hope that if we ever got divorced we would have fought hard enough for our marriage that we'd be done fighting. We would have worked through all the shit, realized that for whatever reason we couldn't be together, but be mature enough to be friendly and co-parent. I think we could. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-you-could-co-parent#post-2357263 Sun, 15 Nov 2015 17:28:19 +0000 Oxana 2357263@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's hard for me to imagine. Neither of us believe in divorce, even if there was cheating involved. The only circumstance serious enough for me to actually consider divorce would be if my husband was abusing me or our children...and if that was the case, I wouldn't feel safe having them around him at all. :bummed: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-you-could-co-parent#post-2357255 Sun, 15 Nov 2015 17:21:27 +0000 simplyfelicity 2357255@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Also, answering this was like applying for life insurance-- makes me sad. :sad: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-you-could-co-parent#post-2357253 Sun, 15 Nov 2015 17:20:13 +0000 simplyfelicity 2357253@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Totally depends, really. If it was an amicable divorice and we had both found our own SOs, I think it might be possible. Not in a let's-have-a-board-game-night, but be able to be at school functions, conferences, birthday parties, etc without wanting to kill each other.<br /> If he cheated on me or something completely out of the blue, I don't think so. Not because I wouldn't forgive him but because I would feel like I didn't know him anymore. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-you-could-co-parent#post-2357243 Sun, 15 Nov 2015 17:08:56 +0000 sera_87 2357243@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep, totally. Already do, more or less. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-you-could-co-parent#post-2357094 Sun, 15 Nov 2015 13:48:40 +0000 Mrs. Pen 2357094@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would hope so. But knowing me/him, there would have had to be some very serious issues (like cheating) in order for us to separate. And who knows what our relationship would be like then.<br /> We have a great relationship and parenting partnership now so I just have a hard time picturing something different. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-you-could-co-parent#post-2357091 Sun, 15 Nov 2015 13:42:47 +0000 MOMTOLITTLEB 2357091@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it would be hard for me to give up control. My husband is extremely involved with our son but I am the one makes decisions regarding him. I'd try to stay friendly and I think we would but his family is very imposing and I think they'd have more influence over him without me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-you-could-co-parent#post-2357072 Sun, 15 Nov 2015 13:19:48 +0000 yoursilverlining 2357072@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would hope so, and I think so, but obviously a lot depends on the circumstances leading to the divorce. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-you-could-co-parent#post-2357061 Sun, 15 Nov 2015 13:05:31 +0000 SweetiePie 2357061@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My sister is in the midst of doing this. They just separated and her husband moved out. They have 3 kids. Last night she went to his house (he has the kids this weekend) and they did the movie night they've always done. They've taken the kids to the movies. Had dinner together. Go to church as a family. Etc. It's his weekend and my sister still helped out with pick ups from basketball practice this weekend and dropped off at his new place. They both understand that solo parenting will be hard so they are trying to help each other where they can.<br /> that being said, it's only 2 weeks into the separation so I think that it's actually harder for them than they anticipated and are reconsidering it. So maybe it's more that it's an eye opening experience and they are missing each other? I'm not sure. It's been hard for everyone to fully understand, but we are being supportive. Whether they remain separated and coparent or decide to give it another go, it's up to them to decide what's best. </p> <p>As for whether I could do it? I have no idea. Similar to what @joyfulkiwi said. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-you-could-co-parent#post-2357060 Sun, 15 Nov 2015 13:04:12 +0000 JenGirl 2357060@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think so, to some degree. I've always been able to be on good terms with my exes and even still hung out with a few, as friends. Though I'm sure it would be harder after a marriage. But that would be more, so being able to both go to game or recitals or such, and being nice at trade offs, etc. Not having dinner at the other's house on a random Tuesday night. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-you-could-co-parent#post-2357058 Sun, 15 Nov 2015 12:56:37 +0000 Cherrybee 2357058@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I could if the divorce was my choice (say, I had met someone new) and he was totally fine with it (maybe he was secretly gay and just relieved I had found happiness and now he could too). But I cant see that happening somehow. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-you-could-co-parent#post-2357044 Sun, 15 Nov 2015 12:41:05 +0000 oliviaoblivia 2357044@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Probably not.<br /> I haven't maintained relationships with any of my exes. As in I've never heard from or seen any of them again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-you-could-co-parent#post-2357040 Sun, 15 Nov 2015 12:38:27 +0000 Golden 2357040@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep. I think I'd be cool with it probably right up until he wanted to bring a new gf or something around. Then I could see there being issues. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-you-could-co-parent#post-2356902 Sun, 15 Nov 2015 09:52:05 +0000 Greentea 2356902@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think so. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-you-could-co-parent#post-2356899 Sun, 15 Nov 2015 09:48:22 +0000 JoyfulKiwi 2356899@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Im going to guess probably not "hanging out", because I can't imagine a scenario where I divorced my husband amicably. If we ended up getting divorced, something would have gone seriously wrong and I'm sure I'd have deeply hurt feelings. I'd hope I'd be able to do major events together without creating a strain for the kids. But of course, it's all so hypothetical, who knows? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-you-could-co-parent#post-2356896 Sun, 15 Nov 2015 09:46:08 +0000 LuLu Mom 2356896@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would like to say yes, but I think it would also depend on the reason for the divorce. If say there was another woman in the picture I would probably not be able to be one big happy family! I hope we never have to find out ha! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-you-could-co-parent#post-2356893 Sun, 15 Nov 2015 09:43:32 +0000 Bao 2356893@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travelgirl1: that's what I meant, if you could do it as friends, and be genuinely ok with it, not forced. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-you-could-co-parent#post-2356890 Sun, 15 Nov 2015 09:42:06 +0000 travelgirl1 2356890@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I like to think I could... But in reality I think that's not always in the children's best interest. For example, my parents insisted on both being there for stuff because they thought it was better for us but we hated it. They were so miserable around each other and ruined so many birthdays for my younger sisters. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-think-you-could-co-parent#post-2356887 Sun, 15 Nov 2015 09:39:16 +0000 Bao 2356887@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If you were to get a divorce? </p> <p>As in, hang out with your ex SO and your LO's doing activities, having dinner etc? Or do you think you would just be able to do what needs to be done like conferences/important appointments? </p> <p>I have no intentions of getting divorced, obviously, but a friend posted something about this on FB and it got me thinking. </p>