https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 15 Apr 2026 05:03:57 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-trust-your-lo-to-stay-with-your-parents-for-multiple-days/page/2#post-2683239 Thu, 19 Jan 2017 14:48:57 +0000 fancyfunction 2683239@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes - my parents stay with them for a couple nights a few times a year. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-trust-your-lo-to-stay-with-your-parents-for-multiple-days#post-2683213 Thu, 19 Jan 2017 14:29:48 +0000 catgirl 2683213@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom - completely. She and my stepdad are very involved in DD's life. They listen to what we say. I fully expect DD to have a little extra TV time and a few more snacks but now that she is 2 I'm fine with that. I would want my mom to be with my stepdad because he is dealing with health issues though. </p> <p>MIL and her husband - I would be fine with them watching DD at our place for a night or two. Definitely not at their house. I also wouldn't want them to drive DD anywhere because they refuse to learn how to strap her in correctly. Thankfully from our apartment they could walk to everything they need.</p> <p>My Dad and stepmom - I would be fine with but they have zero interest. Which is fine. My half sisters are teenagers so they are still in the parenting stage. </p> <p>In June we are leaving DD with my mom for a long weekend. It will be the first time we both leave. My mom is coming to our place because she thinks it will be easier for both of them. The only reason we haven't done it before is because all of our parents work and are protective of vacation time - which I totally understand. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-trust-your-lo-to-stay-with-your-parents-for-multiple-days#post-2683191 Thu, 19 Jan 2017 14:14:48 +0000 lamariniere 2683191@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My answer doesn't quite fit the options, but I said, ok if we have to. Recently, we left our LOs with my ILs for 2 nights and it was fine. That said I am fearful of my ILs driving them around, which they don't do much, but still, it makes me very nervous. I also know they eat terribly and are so spoiled rotten that it takes days/weeks to get them back to reality. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-trust-your-lo-to-stay-with-your-parents-for-multiple-days#post-2683179 Thu, 19 Jan 2017 14:01:45 +0000 peachykeen 2683179@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With my dad, yes (and we have for an entire week and plan to again in April) but I can't leave her with the in-laws because they can't figure out how to strap her into her carseat properly and also don't seem to see the importance of carseat safety, making safe decisions in general, and healthy food. Their heart is in the right place but they just live in a very backwoods area and didn't seem to know/follow any guidelines when DH was a baby and seem to be too old/set in their ways to adapt. I really wish we could leave her with them because they are at least within driving distance, while my dad has to fly to stay with us! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-trust-your-lo-to-stay-with-your-parents-for-multiple-days#post-2683177 Thu, 19 Jan 2017 13:59:18 +0000 chopstixwife 2683177@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mil and step mil would be a total no. Mil lacks confidence to watch kids. Step Mil is older and wouldn't want to watch kids without their parents there. Which both are fine with me. During winter break, my eldest and youngest stayed at my parents for a whole week. They had fun with all their uncles, aunties and cousin around since they only live next door to the parents. We have plans to drop them off for a couple of weeks during the summer! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-trust-your-lo-to-stay-with-your-parents-for-multiple-days#post-2683176 Thu, 19 Jan 2017 13:58:49 +0000 PinkElephant 2683176@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My in-laws have watched my older girls (at their home and at mine) for up to a week or more, and I totally 100% trust them. I also trust my parents, but my parents are a little bit older and I think they'd be stressed out by being fully responsible for the kids 24 hours a day. I'm happy to have my parents as supplemental help while I am around or as babysitters for a few hours at a time, though! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-trust-your-lo-to-stay-with-your-parents-for-multiple-days#post-2683173 Thu, 19 Jan 2017 13:56:30 +0000 newlypregnantlady 2683173@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Absolutely not. But they're both in bad health and physically incapable of caring for a baby. Maybe once the kid is like in middle school? </p> <p>But my ILs (meaning MIL) could absolutely watch her. I just wouldn't do that to them now because my toddler is a handful. She's a bad sleeper and pretty much never sits down. Plus they both work. Technically FIL is on disability for a heart issue so I'd worry about him watching her alone because he probably couldn't keep up.</p> <p>My parents and my ILs are exactly the same age. So for us it's more about health than age. My parents' health has made me really serious about my health because I want to be able to be an active force of good in my children's and my grandchildren's lives. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-trust-your-lo-to-stay-with-your-parents-for-multiple-days#post-2683139 Thu, 19 Jan 2017 13:31:55 +0000 Mrs. Train 2683139@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Both my parents and my in laws have watched the kids for a weekend. It is fantastic! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-trust-your-lo-to-stay-with-your-parents-for-multiple-days#post-2683137 Thu, 19 Jan 2017 13:30:27 +0000 GoGoSnoGirl 2683137@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not ready to do that yet. LO is 19mos &amp; doesn't always sttn, so that's my excuse at the moment. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-trust-your-lo-to-stay-with-your-parents-for-multiple-days#post-2683130 Thu, 19 Jan 2017 13:24:57 +0000 My Only Sunshine 2683130@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it depends on the person more than the age.</p> <p>My dad is 73 and I wouldn't leave him with my kids because he seems like he's starting to get really stuck in his ways and a little confused sometimes. He got mad at me the last time they visited because I wouldn't let him have his phone at the dinner table. And he forgets that he's told a story already and insists on telling it all the way through again. And he naps EVERY afternoon. If his behavior wasn't starting to seem off, I would be fine with him watching them. My mom is 63 so as long as she's there I'm fine with them watching the kids.</p> <p>My in-laws are 63 and 69 and watch our kids frequently and I feel 100% great about them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-trust-your-lo-to-stay-with-your-parents-for-multiple-days#post-2683118 Thu, 19 Jan 2017 13:18:32 +0000 SugarplumsMom 2683118@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Only my ILs, not my mom, unfortunately. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-trust-your-lo-to-stay-with-your-parents-for-multiple-days#post-2683109 Thu, 19 Jan 2017 13:10:55 +0000 yin 2683109@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm comfortable with FIL watching the kids for a few days. The kids spend the night about once every other month and love it. I can't say the same for my MIL though. I definitely don't trust my parents to watch the kids. They're older and communication is an issue (they speak Chinese and my kids can't understand them). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-trust-your-lo-to-stay-with-your-parents-for-multiple-days#post-2683079 Thu, 19 Jan 2017 12:50:13 +0000 MOMTOLITTLEB 2683079@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, completely, both sets of parents. They wouldn't listen to all of my preferences but they'd keep him safe, well cared for and entertained. They watch him during the week for us so he's used to it and they're all pretty energetic with him. I'm hoping all the parents are just as enthusiastic about two kids but I know it's a lot! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-trust-your-lo-to-stay-with-your-parents-for-multiple-days#post-2683058 Thu, 19 Jan 2017 12:38:34 +0000 PawPrints 2683058@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What are you concerned that they might forget?</p> <p>Yes, I would. It probably won't ever happen with my parents because they live across the country, but my in-laws are begging to keep her for a few days while DH and I get away somewhere. I think they'd be ecstatic if I ever manage to screw up the courage for a longer vacation, too, so that may happen - they would keep DD for a weekish while DH and I go on a trip away somewhere. Personally I'm just not ready to be away from DD that long yet, but I would trust them to keep her that long. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-trust-your-lo-to-stay-with-your-parents-for-multiple-days#post-2683052 Thu, 19 Jan 2017 12:36:54 +0000 ShootingStar 2683052@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I trust my parents to watch DS, they've done it a couple times. Once when we had a destination wedding, and then when DD was born. I'm a little wary of having them take both kids though. DD never lets anyone else hold her when I'm around and I'm not sure how difficult she'd be if I was gone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-trust-your-lo-to-stay-with-your-parents-for-multiple-days#post-2683031 Thu, 19 Jan 2017 12:23:27 +0000 psw27 2683031@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have done this numerous times with my mom and my DH's mom and step-dad. </p> <p>The last time, my MIL and SFIL were completely overwhelmed so we wouldn't probably do it again, especially now that we are having a second. They constantly were finding things "wrong" with DS - his tantrums were too big, his attitude was too bad, he wouldn't eat anything, etc. They are just very dramatic and view things in a negative/hysterical way. It made our nice weekend away more stressful than it was worth. </p> <p>My mom has some problems with her hands, so I will probably need to make sure my dad or aunts are home to help her too but otherwise yes, I would leave him with her. </p> <p>My FIL and SMIL, I would not. I don't know them very well so I couldn't trust them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-trust-your-lo-to-stay-with-your-parents-for-multiple-days#post-2683019 Thu, 19 Jan 2017 12:15:35 +0000 nana87 2683019@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My parents yes-1 we thought about taking a babymoon this fall but the timing didn't work out. Lo1 has never spent a night w both dh and I away, but at this point it was mostly me not being ready-- I trust my parents. She will be w them while I give birth soon.</p> <p>Mil no...she hasn't spent as much time w her and frankly just spent a 6 month period barely even in touch w us bc she was too overwhelmed w her own issues. She isn't as attuned to what I consider child centered and developmentally appropriate activities, like she doesn't like taking lo to playgrounds and prefers just taking her shopping....🙄 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-trust-your-lo-to-stay-with-your-parents-for-multiple-days#post-2683012 Thu, 19 Jan 2017 12:10:21 +0000 Boogs 2683012@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Only the moms if I had to, but I still worry. And probably my MIL over my mom, she cares more about safety and knows the Heimlich and CPR if something happened. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-trust-your-lo-to-stay-with-your-parents-for-multiple-days#post-2683009 Thu, 19 Jan 2017 12:07:43 +0000 littlebug 2683009@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We've already done it with my parents 2x in the past 4 years. Once was just D, once was both kids. My ILs kept D for 3 nights when A was born, and I guess I'd be ok with them keeping both kids for mutliple nights, though I vastly prefer for them to stay with my parents for multiple nights. I think my dad would not be comfortable doing it with both kids, at least not until they're a little older. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-trust-your-lo-to-stay-with-your-parents-for-multiple-days#post-2683006 Thu, 19 Jan 2017 12:04:46 +0000 littlejoy 2683006@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I trust my parents, but we live over 2,000 miles away from them, which means we've done all of this parenting by ourselves ... so it's not that I don't trust my parents, it's just more that leaving her with them would be such a foreign concept for us. I'd be the mom who leaves a notebook of instructions, which I'm sure wouldn't annoy anyone. ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-trust-your-lo-to-stay-with-your-parents-for-multiple-days#post-2682985 Thu, 19 Jan 2017 11:54:35 +0000 MrsA 2682985@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My in-laws, yes, absolutely. My parents? They haven't spent any time alone with DD that I can recollect. I'm sure they'd keep her alive if we had to leave her with them for some reason, but no, they're not my first choice. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-trust-your-lo-to-stay-with-your-parents-for-multiple-days#post-2682979 Thu, 19 Jan 2017 11:49:50 +0000 kiddosc 2682979@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My parents, 1000% yes. I can't wait until A is done nursing so they can go stay for a weekend. As kids, my brother and I used to stay with my grandparents for a week during the summer. Everyone had fun. </p> <p>DHs parents are divorced (so would be doing it solo), older, and less mobile. I would probably be ok with a weekend, but I don't know if they could handle longer. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-trust-your-lo-to-stay-with-your-parents-for-multiple-days#post-2682944 Thu, 19 Jan 2017 11:23:56 +0000 Adira 2682944@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My parents - absolutely!</p> <p>My ILs - no. SMIL has tried to learn about the kids' food allergies, but has made comments about how they are too complicated for her. PLUS my kids have asthma, so that's just an additional complication. And MIL hasn't shown any interest in learning how to cook foods my kids eat. So NOPE. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-trust-your-lo-to-stay-with-your-parents-for-multiple-days#post-2682939 Thu, 19 Jan 2017 11:22:02 +0000 youboots 2682939@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes DD is almost 2 and we are going to a wedding in Mexico without her-my mom is watching her at our house </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-trust-your-lo-to-stay-with-your-parents-for-multiple-days#post-2682936 Thu, 19 Jan 2017 11:19:36 +0000 Ajsmommy 2682936@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I def think it'd no ok to leave dd with our parents. I don't and haven't, she's three....but the reasoning is not bc I don't trust them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-trust-your-lo-to-stay-with-your-parents-for-multiple-days#post-2682934 Thu, 19 Jan 2017 11:19:14 +0000 Mrs. Blue 2682934@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh and my parents are 66 and 67 and DH's parents are in their early 50s. DH's parents are definitely more capable of keeping all three kids for a week because they have a little more energy, but my parents could do it if we really needed them to and could definitely keep 1 or the older 2 for longer than a few days. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-trust-your-lo-to-stay-with-your-parents-for-multiple-days#post-2682929 Thu, 19 Jan 2017 11:17:30 +0000 Mrs. Blue 2682929@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My in-laws have kept the boys for a week each summer since the twins were 17 months old. That was way before I was ready for them to be gone that long, but we needed childcare for a week, so we had to do it. Now, it's not big deal. I have such great memories of staying with my grandparents when I was a kid, and I want my kids to have those same fun experiences. Sure, they don't do everything exactly like we would do it, but that's part of the fun of grandparenting. As long as they aren't doing anything dangerous, my philosophy is to let it go and deal with a couple days of "grandparent detox" when they come home. I will say, if you do let her go, you should plan something really fun for you and DH to do while she's there. The first time, I was just at home and work, and all I could think about was how I wanted them to come home. So, now we have a rule that if the kids are gone, we do something fun, too. Like this weekend, my parents are keeping the boys Friday-Sunday and so DH and I are going on a weekend trip. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-trust-your-lo-to-stay-with-your-parents-for-multiple-days#post-2682916 Thu, 19 Jan 2017 11:11:25 +0000 snowjewelz 2682916@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom has been helping me take care of DD1 since she was born; plus she is heavily involved with children of all ages at church, so I trust her 100%. My dad is more a play companion than a true care taker, haha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-trust-your-lo-to-stay-with-your-parents-for-multiple-days#post-2682900 Thu, 19 Jan 2017 11:02:47 +0000 Mamaof2 2682900@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom is 71 and yes I would trust her</p> <p>My MIL is 74 and I would not trust her - she tires easily and likes to nap several times during the day </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-trust-your-lo-to-stay-with-your-parents-for-multiple-days#post-2682897 Thu, 19 Jan 2017 11:01:04 +0000 petitenoisette 2682897@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My parents yes, they already provide childcare two days a week.</p> <p>My inlaws, no. My MIL has major health issues and my FIL already has to take care of her and he isn't in super awesome health himself. </p>