https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 20 Jun 2026 16:51:44 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-want-your-so-down-there-during-delivery/page/2#post-169766 Sat, 26 May 2012 09:41:39 +0000 PrincessBaby 169766@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just recently watched YouTube videos of vaginal delivery with an epidural (you know...to see if it's less violent) and I was pretty traumatized. So I'm thinking if DH sees that, we'll never get to conceive another child bc that's the only thing he'll ever associate with my Lady Bits. </p> <p>I actually asked him after reading this thread and he said,"I don't even know what I think about that..." Lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-want-your-so-down-there-during-delivery/page/2#post-169715 Sat, 26 May 2012 04:50:42 +0000 pastemoo 169715@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No and no-- but when push came to shove (hardy har), we both wanted to see and be present. Sucks though, just as we were getting close--me pushing and him holding my leg--they whisked me away for a c-section. We were both really bummed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-want-your-so-down-there-during-delivery/page/2#post-169703 Sat, 26 May 2012 01:37:56 +0000 lemondrop 169703@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was totally fine with it and expected it, he helped hold my leg and was my biggest support during the birth process. We are a team, I don't have anything to hide from him after what got us into the pregnancy in the first place!</p> <p>He is a vet, so he has seen far worse things. That being said, we weren't sure how it would effect him since his uncle passed out at his childrens' births, and he is a vet too. </p> <p>I think it helped him understand just how great the stresses on my body were. I didn't feel that he would see me with any significant difference afterwards either (other than my supreme awesomeness of squeezing out a 6lb 11oz watermelon). I did feel bad about how stressed he was over my discomfort at first, but then I was too busy concentrating on squeezing that gigantic baby out to care about any modesty with anyone present. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-want-your-so-down-there-during-delivery/page/2#post-169698 Sat, 26 May 2012 00:34:04 +0000 Mrs. Superhero 169698@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't really think about that. He said it was a bit traumatizing (mostly because the baby's head looks so weird coming out) but maybe that helped him be more understanding when I said "no touchy!" for ten weeks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-want-your-so-down-there-during-delivery/page/2#post-169668 Fri, 25 May 2012 20:57:37 +0000 Mrs. Sunglasses 169668@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He saw.... but he's a nurse so nothing really would be too graphic for him. The second time around (seeing I went med-free) I held his hand and squeezed the hell out of it, so he wasn't anywhere below my waist! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-want-your-so-down-there-during-delivery/page/2#post-169666 Fri, 25 May 2012 20:54:25 +0000 MrsMccarthy 169666@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I really don't want him down there if i can help it, although i do think he should cut the cord. we did have a little visit to the er and labor and delivery for a false alarm recently and he was so good at dealing with me getting speculumed and swabbed in his birdseye view so i am feeling less concerned that if things dont go to plan he will totally flip out. i am also planning a water birth so if all goes well things will hopefully not be quite as graphic or in your face when they happen too. we shall see. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-want-your-so-down-there-during-delivery/page/2#post-169563 Fri, 25 May 2012 18:14:59 +0000 Honeybee 169563@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were both expecting that DH would stay by my head with DD, but he ended up watching her birth, and he said it was incredible. I had to have my placenta manually removed with DS, and he watched the whole thing, after watching DS's birth; I'm relatively certain there is nothing that could happen that would rival that, and he still feels the same way about me, so... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-want-your-so-down-there-during-delivery/page/2#post-167279 Thu, 24 May 2012 09:06:16 +0000 lavender 167279@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Originally the plan was to have him by my head but the nurse had other intentions for him, mainly holding my leg and she actually made him watch! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-want-your-so-down-there-during-delivery/page/2#post-166965 Wed, 23 May 2012 21:39:34 +0000 KT326 166965@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>All through the pregnancy I kept telling dh he could stay by my head. That went out the window as soon as I started pushing. The nurse told him to hold a leg and he couldn't say no. He ended up seeing everything and is a little scarred by it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-want-your-so-down-there-during-delivery#post-166915 Wed, 23 May 2012 20:39:31 +0000 PurpleUnicorn 166915@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i dont think i would care either way.....however i think DH wants to stay by my head and away from "down there", lol. Which i think i will appreciate because i like the idea of holding his hand if needed and just having him to look at me and be supportive that way thru eye contact i guess. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-want-your-so-down-there-during-delivery#post-166911 Wed, 23 May 2012 20:36:50 +0000 cvbee 166911@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm really surprised about how many people didn't want DH to look!</p> <p>@sorrycharlie: hahaha! I do think it makes DH more sympathetic about what I've been through. </p> <p>I had a 'go with the flow' birth plan, and I felt the same way about DH looking: see what feels right. </p> <p>He was holding one of my legs for the 2 hours of pushing and saw everything and I am glad because he could tell me about it at the time and later. I found the 'updates' and the comments about the progress and that I was 'doing a good job' from both DH and the nurses to be really motivating during pushing. Also, I had him look at my stitches during recovery days after I came home from the hospital. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-want-your-so-down-there-during-delivery#post-166822 Wed, 23 May 2012 19:54:39 +0000 Bao 166822@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Umm I would say no, but I think when the moment comes I really won't care :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-want-your-so-down-there-during-delivery#post-166714 Wed, 23 May 2012 18:41:58 +0000 yoursilverlining 166714@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No way. No one needs to see that horror show! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-want-your-so-down-there-during-delivery#post-166692 Wed, 23 May 2012 18:09:31 +0000 sulli301 166692@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH held one of my legs along with the nurse &amp; mostly he was looking @ me, but he saw a little bit...honestly in that 1.5 hours of pushing I didn't care anyways! He isn't easily grossed out by that stuff &amp; all he really saw was DD's head crowning he said </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-want-your-so-down-there-during-delivery#post-166673 Wed, 23 May 2012 17:32:10 +0000 kml636 166673@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I definitely don't! Yikes! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-want-your-so-down-there-during-delivery#post-166672 Wed, 23 May 2012 17:31:59 +0000 sorrycharlie 166672@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't think I did..but I want him to. </p> <p>Hear me out - DH has a super high sex drive and I know he's not going to last 6 weeks before pawing at me. Maybe if he watches LO come out, he'll be more sympathetic when I say "NO!" ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-want-your-so-down-there-during-delivery#post-166668 Wed, 23 May 2012 17:26:44 +0000 Penny Lane 166668@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't mind either way. He doesn't want to see anything, and I'm not sure how much he could really handle seeing anyway, he's fairly squeamish. He can't even stay in the same room when I'm getting a blood test :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-want-your-so-down-there-during-delivery#post-166662 Wed, 23 May 2012 17:21:02 +0000 cyndistar3 166662@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Last time I didn't want him to leave my side but I am hoping this thime I can let go of his hand long enough for him to catch :)<br /> eta: he did end up seeing her come out anyways. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-want-your-so-down-there-during-delivery#post-166657 Wed, 23 May 2012 17:17:10 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 166657@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When the time comes I'd love for him to look so he can tell me what's going on. He is squeamish though so I don't think he will want to. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-want-your-so-down-there-during-delivery#post-166646 Wed, 23 May 2012 17:07:51 +0000 duckduckkristen 166646@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Beforehand I didn't want DH seeing anything, but when it came time, I really didn't care. I just wanted that baby out! He was holding one of my legs so it was easy for him to look and he seemed really excited about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-want-your-so-down-there-during-delivery#post-166629 Wed, 23 May 2012 16:52:24 +0000 MegWag 166629@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't have a preference. I honestly don't understand the big deal. I guess it never entered my mind that my husband would be bothered/grossed out/disturbed by watching me bring our child into the world.<br /> In the end, he stood at about waist level. He was able to hold my hand and look down and see everything that was happening. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-want-your-so-down-there-during-delivery#post-166293 Wed, 23 May 2012 12:39:32 +0000 Mrs. Pen 166293@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: @mrs. wagon: I opted for pictures, because when you're in labor it's hard to think about what's going on. I liked being able to look at the pictures a week or so later and know what it was like/looked like. It was interesting for me.</p> <p>I totally didn't care what my husband did. He ended up having to hold one leg and I think he liked watching, he got excited when he could see the baby's head! He didn't think it was gross or get turned off. But I wasn't really even thinking about that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-want-your-so-down-there-during-delivery#post-166292 Wed, 23 May 2012 12:38:11 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 166292@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I told my DH that I didn't want him down there, and he agreed he would stay up by my head but that he did want to cut the cord. Well, when delivery came he basically watched the whole entire time I was pushing...he was simply fascinated and thought it was amazing....I was definitely not in the mood to care if he looked anyway. </p> <p>Now that it is all over with he said he finds me much sexier and can't believe how "strong" my body is. Who woulda thought? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-want-your-so-down-there-during-delivery#post-166284 Wed, 23 May 2012 12:33:18 +0000 Pipers Mommy 166284@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH saw it all and helped hold my legs during delivery. I think I would have been a bit disappointed if he hadn't watched our LO enter the world. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-want-your-so-down-there-during-delivery#post-166276 Wed, 23 May 2012 12:30:02 +0000 MamaMoose 166276@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't really care. It's up to him what he's comfortable with. I think in the moment he'll want to see what's going on and watch the baby come out. It's not like I have anything he hasn't seen before. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-want-your-so-down-there-during-delivery#post-166268 Wed, 23 May 2012 12:24:31 +0000 LivsMama 166268@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a c-section and DH watched that. But if I had ever wanted a vaginal delivery, Id be fine with him being down there. Ive been front and center for a birth (my best friend's..i coulda caught the baby) and it was absolutely incredible. I asked him if he would have wanted to be down there if I had ever wanted a natural birth and he said yes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-want-your-so-down-there-during-delivery#post-166242 Wed, 23 May 2012 12:01:36 +0000 regberadaisy 166242@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't care either which way and honestly we really didn't talk about it besides him cutting the cord.<br /> During he was super involved! As involved as the nurse, we were shocked just how involved he was but at the end of it we lOved that he was such a big part of her delivery.</p> <p>And honestly he thought it was amazing and I'm kinda jealous at that point the mirror wasn't there and I didn't get to see! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-want-your-so-down-there-during-delivery#post-166229 Wed, 23 May 2012 11:54:39 +0000 mrskc 166229@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't mind either way. If he wants to look, then that's fine. He's told me though he doesn't want to see since some of his buddies recommended against watching. I kind of want him to watch though, but I'm the type that would probably want the mirror. We'll see when the time comes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-want-your-so-down-there-during-delivery#post-166220 Wed, 23 May 2012 11:48:27 +0000 Modern Daisy 166220@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>NO. I don't even think I want him in the room since his presence will stress me out. He tends to give me a deer in the headlights stare when things are going wrong and I can only imagine how horrible that would be when giving birth! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-want-your-so-down-there-during-delivery#post-166140 Wed, 23 May 2012 11:02:37 +0000 LuLu Mom 166140@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, first I don't think he could handle it and second I don'tthink I could handle him being dow there! haha he can keep me company up by my face and help keep me calm. </p>