Hellobee Boards Topic: Do you wear black to a funeral?

Hellobee Boards Topic: Do you wear black to a funeral? https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 29 Jun 2026 06:14:34 +0000 Arden on "Do you wear black to a funeral?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wear-black-to-a-funeral#post-356174 Tue, 23 Oct 2012 12:30:10 +0000 Arden 356174@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I do, because I feel it's a sign of respect in our culture. If I wore bright colors, it might hurt other mourners and make them feel that I didn't respect them or the deceased. I'm not wearing black for the deceased, I'm wearing it for the family. MsMini on "Do you wear black to a funeral?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wear-black-to-a-funeral#post-356165 Tue, 23 Oct 2012 12:27:37 +0000 MsMini 356165@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I wear dark neutral colours, unless it is requested otherwise. The last funeral I went to I wore a black silk knee length dress with a charcoal 3/4 length cardigan. The one before that was my cousins, she had planned her own funeral when she was in palliative care and requested everyone wear something purple (her favourite colour), so I wore black pants, a charcoal sleeveless wrap top, and an Amethyst coloured cardigan. mediagirl on "Do you wear black to a funeral?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wear-black-to-a-funeral#post-356130 Tue, 23 Oct 2012 12:17:47 +0000 mediagirl 356130@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I wear dark gray or black. It is out of respect for the family and the deceased. I would feel uncomfortable wearing any other color. Smurfette on "Do you wear black to a funeral?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wear-black-to-a-funeral#post-356115 Tue, 23 Oct 2012 12:15:38 +0000 Smurfette 356115@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Sorry for your loss. I usually always wear dark colors. I wore a dark dress to my great-grandma's service a couple weeks ago. It was more of a celebration of her life since she was 103 and in a lot of pain. I still wore black, but partly because I had no other dresses that fit me since it was cold out. tororojo on "Do you wear black to a funeral?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wear-black-to-a-funeral#post-355744 Tue, 23 Oct 2012 10:48:31 +0000 tororojo 355744@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I would wear dark colors, but I think a bright scarf or shoes would be okay...I hate to be completely dreary. BelugaBean on "Do you wear black to a funeral?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wear-black-to-a-funeral#post-355743 Tue, 23 Oct 2012 10:48:18 +0000 BelugaBean 355743@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I think it depends on the funeral but I agree that you should wear what you like. I've always worn dark colors but I did have a friend whose father passed away a few years ago. His mother wore brighter colors because his father always loved how she looked in bright colors and she wanted to celebrate his life and I thought it was sweet. rachiecakes on "Do you wear black to a funeral?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wear-black-to-a-funeral#post-355735 Tue, 23 Oct 2012 10:45:38 +0000 rachiecakes 355735@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I guess I should add that I think if you are family, you should wear what you like. As a friend, I wouldn't wear anything to draw attention or that might seem disrespectful but as family, I think it's important to remember your loved one and celebrate them how you see fit. rachiecakes on "Do you wear black to a funeral?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wear-black-to-a-funeral#post-355732 Tue, 23 Oct 2012 10:43:44 +0000 rachiecakes 355732@https://boards.hellobee.com/ so sorry for your loss :( When my friend Justin's father passed away in March I wore dark colors, tweed skirt with black sweater. DS was 3 months old and I didn't want to bring him, but they insisted and said that it would make my friend's mom smile to see him there. I put DS in a light blue dressy sweater one-piece. His father was a pretty stylish man, so Justin wore a beautiful seersucker suit with light green. It was a really touching tribute to his dad and celebrated that side of him. cvbee on "Do you wear black to a funeral?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wear-black-to-a-funeral#post-355712 Tue, 23 Oct 2012 10:35:40 +0000 cvbee 355712@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I wear dark colours and dress up like business-clothes. Springtime on "Do you wear black to a funeral?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wear-black-to-a-funeral#post-355706 Tue, 23 Oct 2012 10:33:14 +0000 Springtime 355706@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Dark colors. The last funeral I went to I wore a dark gray top and black pants. ShootingStar on "Do you wear black to a funeral?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wear-black-to-a-funeral#post-355697 Tue, 23 Oct 2012 10:30:24 +0000 ShootingStar 355697@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I wear dark colors. At my grandmother's grave site memorial I wore gray pants, black sweater and black boots. To me a funeral *is* the time to mourn their death, and I wouldn't be in the mood to wear anything more colorful. It would also stick out like crazy and be possibly offensive other members of my family. ladyfingers on "Do you wear black to a funeral?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wear-black-to-a-funeral#post-355570 Tue, 23 Oct 2012 09:40:45 +0000 ladyfingers 355570@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I wear dark colors. It's a norm, and I don't want to feel like I'm standing out. It just feels more respectful to me. rattles on "Do you wear black to a funeral?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wear-black-to-a-funeral#post-355545 Tue, 23 Oct 2012 09:30:43 +0000 rattles 355545@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I'm sorry for your loss. I lost my grandmother last month at 6 months. I wore a purple dress that she would have liked for the memorial but then wore black for the funeral itself. I think it's important to do what you feel comfortable with, as long as it's also sensitive to the rest of your family. If you decide to go for black, maybe a bright flower in your hair or something like that? Alivoo01 on "Do you wear black to a funeral?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wear-black-to-a-funeral#post-355543 Tue, 23 Oct 2012 09:30:35 +0000 Alivoo01 355543@https://boards.hellobee.com/ So sorry for your loss. I normally wear an outfit where black is the main/dominant color, and the other colors are not bright/contrasting. Weagle on "Do you wear black to a funeral?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wear-black-to-a-funeral#post-355529 Tue, 23 Oct 2012 09:24:21 +0000 Weagle 355529@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I always wear dark, neutral, simple clothes. Mrs. Pickle on "Do you wear black to a funeral?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wear-black-to-a-funeral#post-355513 Tue, 23 Oct 2012 09:15:32 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 355513@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I'm sorry for your loss. I've always worn dark colors to funerals. I have a black dress and wear a cardigan over it. mrs. bird on "Do you wear black to a funeral?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wear-black-to-a-funeral#post-355511 Tue, 23 Oct 2012 09:14:21 +0000 mrs. bird 355511@https://boards.hellobee.com/ So sorry for your loss! My nana's service was Sunday & this is what we wore. There were plenty of people in colors other than black, but most were in dark simple clothing. a navy or gray simple dress I think would be more appropriate than a black sequin one. Not a great example, but you know what I mean. I wore brown to my grandfather's a few years ago. [attach=2301/12/mccno1.600x450.image.jpeg] Mrsbells on "Do you wear black to a funeral?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wear-black-to-a-funeral#post-355494 Tue, 23 Oct 2012 09:04:25 +0000 Mrsbells 355494@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I follow whatever dress code is provided. I ALWAYS ask what colors they want people to wear. Most people want you to wear black but I have been to cultural african funerals where they wanted everyone to wear white, or white & black or even red and black. And each color combo means somethign different so I dont want to be disrespectful and wear the wrong thing Maysprout on "Do you wear black to a funeral?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wear-black-to-a-funeral#post-355458 Tue, 23 Oct 2012 08:46:20 +0000 Maysprout 355458@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I'm sorry for your loss. I was almost 8 months pregnant when my grandmother died. I wore a blue maternity dress, it had different swashes of blue colors, like a painters brush, might have had some white and black swashes too. I can't remember what sweater I wore though, I think it was black though. Shutterbug on "Do you wear black to a funeral?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wear-black-to-a-funeral#post-355454 Tue, 23 Oct 2012 08:44:37 +0000 Shutterbug 355454@https://boards.hellobee.com/ When my next door neighbor and mom of my friend died when I was in middle school, I insisted on wearing this light turquoise dress to the funeral because I thought it would make me less sad. The casket ended up being the exact same color as my dress and I felt uncomfortable and like I was trying to draw attention to myself. Now I wear dark colors out of respect to the family, but I understand what you mean about mourning their death rather than celebrating their life. I think when it's your close family member it's ok not to follow the tradition of dark clothes if you don't want to. I'm so sorry for your loss. littlebug on "Do you wear black to a funeral?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wear-black-to-a-funeral#post-355444 Tue, 23 Oct 2012 08:42:19 +0000 littlebug 355444@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I'm sorry for your loss. I usually just stick with dark colors - black, gray, navy. And I'll wear kind of the same thing to both a viewing and a funeral - nice slacks and a nice shirt. I don't really "dress up," but I certainly try to look nicer than I do on a normal day. doxielove on "Do you wear black to a funeral?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wear-black-to-a-funeral#post-355439 Tue, 23 Oct 2012 08:40:49 +0000 doxielove 355439@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I'm very sorry for your loss. I typically wear black or grey neutrals. Usually black dress pants, a black heel, and a grey or white shirt with a black sweater. mrbee on "Do you wear black to a funeral?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wear-black-to-a-funeral#post-355427 Tue, 23 Oct 2012 08:36:32 +0000 mrbee 355427@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I would wear very dark colors, ideally a suit. Not sure I have an appropriate one though. autumnlove on "Do you wear black to a funeral?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wear-black-to-a-funeral#post-355425 Tue, 23 Oct 2012 08:35:03 +0000 autumnlove 355425@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I'm sorry for your loss! I usually wear dark colors...charcoal gray, black, gray. I usually don't wear all black. Sugar.Biscuit on "Do you wear black to a funeral?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wear-black-to-a-funeral#post-355419 Tue, 23 Oct 2012 08:32:43 +0000 Sugar.Biscuit 355419@https://boards.hellobee.com/ As I have previously posted on another thread my Grandpa past away Sunday night. Now that we are preparing for the viewing & funeral we all have to find something to wear. For the viewing we were told there is no need to dress up just wear our nicer day clothes or business casual & dress up for the funeral. I ask DS what he was planning on wearing and he said his gray suit the the viewing and he is going to buy a black suit and white shirt for the funeral. Personally I don't like wearing black to a funeral. I see it as morning a death rather than celebrating a life. Movies haven't exactly helped me with this stereotype. I told DH about this and he was sad about it. I told him that was my opinion and that it is important to me that he wear what he feels is appropriate & that he feels comfortable. This is our first experience with death together so it has been an interesting experience (not a bad thing). So what do you typically wear to a funeral? Does it depend on the season, relation, or do you have a standard look for every funeral?