Hellobee Boards Topic: Do you wish you had more, fewer, or the same number of siblings?

Hellobee Boards Topic: Do you wish you had more, fewer, or the same number of siblings? https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 14 Apr 2026 14:41:30 +0000 LadyDi on "Do you wish you had more, fewer, or the same number of siblings?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wish-you-had-more-fewer-or-the-same-number-of-siblings/page/2#post-2786541 Wed, 15 Nov 2017 10:45:00 +0000 LadyDi 2786541@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I have one brother who is 14 years older than me. I was a pretty introverted kid, so it didn't really bother me not to have siblings who were closer in age, but in retrospect a sibling or two who were closer would have been nice! I am sure we would have fought when we were younger, but DH is really close with his two sisters now that they are older and I am jealous of that! Ajsmommy on "Do you wish you had more, fewer, or the same number of siblings?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wish-you-had-more-fewer-or-the-same-number-of-siblings/page/2#post-2786516 Wed, 15 Nov 2017 08:45:29 +0000 Ajsmommy 2786516@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I have one brother and I wouldn't change it at all. We had the best time growing up together. I never wanted more siblings. He was my best friend! We did have cousins close in age though so maybe that blurs my experience. Now that we are older we arent' as close but that is strictly bc we don't live close. I am certain if we lived closer we'd obviously see eachother often. ineebee on "Do you wish you had more, fewer, or the same number of siblings?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wish-you-had-more-fewer-or-the-same-number-of-siblings/page/2#post-2786512 Wed, 15 Nov 2017 08:34:19 +0000 ineebee 2786512@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I have one brother and it’s great! Growing up, I hated always being the “baby” and wanted a younger sibling to take care of and to gang up on my brother with (haha), but got over it by my teens. Bro and I are very close now and it’s wonderful. I don’t feel like anything is missing. autumnlove on "Do you wish you had more, fewer, or the same number of siblings?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wish-you-had-more-fewer-or-the-same-number-of-siblings/page/2#post-2786433 Tue, 14 Nov 2017 17:58:08 +0000 autumnlove 2786433@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I always wanted a younger brother or sister. Mrs.Pinecone316 on "Do you wish you had more, fewer, or the same number of siblings?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wish-you-had-more-fewer-or-the-same-number-of-siblings/page/2#post-2786430 Tue, 14 Nov 2017 17:49:24 +0000 Mrs.Pinecone316 2786430@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I have 2 brothers. I would have loved a sister also. 2littlepumpkins on "Do you wish you had more, fewer, or the same number of siblings?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wish-you-had-more-fewer-or-the-same-number-of-siblings/page/2#post-2786069 Mon, 13 Nov 2017 12:03:05 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2786069@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I always wanted a sister, and am so excited to be giving my dd a sister (as is she!) but you just never know how things will turn out.. so I don't really ever dwell on that as an adult! Adira on "Do you wish you had more, fewer, or the same number of siblings?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wish-you-had-more-fewer-or-the-same-number-of-siblings#post-2786016 Mon, 13 Nov 2017 09:59:15 +0000 Adira 2786016@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I've never really thought about this before. I have one brother and we're pretty close in age, so I feel like that age gap was a bigger factor than anything else. Yes, we fought like cats and dogs growing up, but we're best friends as adults. Yes, I would've liked having a sister, but I consider my best girlfriends are like my sisters. And like @Truth Bombs: mentioned, I'm not sure we would've had all the opportunities growing up and all the attention of our parents if there had been more of us! Plus I look at my own parents. My mom is one of 6. My dad is one of 7. Someone is always fighting with someone on my mom's side. And on my dad's side, they all spread out across the US and barely keep in touch!! And then there's my only sibling and me and we get together all the time! I wouldn't change it a thing. ValentineMommy on "Do you wish you had more, fewer, or the same number of siblings?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wish-you-had-more-fewer-or-the-same-number-of-siblings#post-2786012 Mon, 13 Nov 2017 09:53:24 +0000 ValentineMommy 2786012@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I have one sibling (a brother), and while I wouldn't trade him or our childhood for anything, as an adult I would LOVE to have a sister. I probably wouldn't have enjoyed having one growing up though :silly: Portboston on "Do you wish you had more, fewer, or the same number of siblings?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wish-you-had-more-fewer-or-the-same-number-of-siblings#post-2785878 Sun, 12 Nov 2017 16:27:25 +0000 Portboston 2785878@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I have an older sister but we never got along and aren’t particularly close as adults. I could have done without a sibling or a different sibling. My sisters personality is extremely difficult to get along with. She doesn’t have many friends either (so I know it’s not just me!) periwinklebee on "Do you wish you had more, fewer, or the same number of siblings?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wish-you-had-more-fewer-or-the-same-number-of-siblings#post-2785877 Sun, 12 Nov 2017 16:26:21 +0000 periwinklebee 2785877@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I have one much younger brother, probably in part because of the large age gap and in part because of personality and life choices, we are not very close. I think a big part of why in an ideal world I would love three kids close in age is because I did feel lonely growing up - no cousins nearby, my parents were strict about letting us play with other kids, so mostly it was myself and a book. However, I recognize that things don't usually resemble the ideal you have in your head and if I had more siblings - or a sibling closer in age - things very well could have been worse. My parents intentionally chose two kids far apart because that's what they felt like they could best handle financially and emotionally, and hence it's probably the case that this was the best scenario for my childhood. I know in making their family planning decisions, they had my best interests in mind. LemonJack on "Do you wish you had more, fewer, or the same number of siblings?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wish-you-had-more-fewer-or-the-same-number-of-siblings#post-2785834 Sun, 12 Nov 2017 10:57:26 +0000 LemonJack 2785834@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I'm one of three and always thought I wanted three, but ODD was a really challenging infant. Now that we have a second girl, a part of me feels like I could be content with two. I like that they're both girls so they'll have each other growing up (hopefully!). But, deep down I know I want three. I'm just terrified of having a third and having him/her be as difficult as our oldest was as a baby! looch on "Do you wish you had more, fewer, or the same number of siblings?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wish-you-had-more-fewer-or-the-same-number-of-siblings#post-2785820 Sun, 12 Nov 2017 07:26:18 +0000 looch 2785820@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I am the oldest of three with a large age gap, it's really like I grew up as an only child and I behave that way, unfortunately. I longed for a sister, but I filled that gap with friends of my choosing. Nutella on "Do you wish you had more, fewer, or the same number of siblings?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wish-you-had-more-fewer-or-the-same-number-of-siblings#post-2785807 Sun, 12 Nov 2017 00:01:08 +0000 Nutella 2785807@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Mrs. D: mine chased off bullies when I was young & it was so awesome. But the love definitely changed over the years to being quite distant. As adults things are ok but only in crisis or major life moments, not really daily life. Gives me the sads just thinking about it but so much if it must come down to individual personalities of course! LCTBQE on "Do you wish you had more, fewer, or the same number of siblings?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wish-you-had-more-fewer-or-the-same-number-of-siblings#post-2785788 Sat, 11 Nov 2017 20:20:33 +0000 LCTBQE 2785788@https://boards.hellobee.com/ couldn't help but notice that if we wished our parents had fewer children, everyone seems to be effortlessly offering up their siblings. no volunteers to have never been born? I guess I'd stay with being one of three even though I didn't get a car. but that's in hindsight. when I was 16 I probably would have taken the car instead of my little brother. @Mrs. D: confirmed over the years with my friends who also have one: frequently, older brothers don't protect you from bullies. they chase you and frighten you when you're little and ignore you when you're older :) ShootingStar on "Do you wish you had more, fewer, or the same number of siblings?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wish-you-had-more-fewer-or-the-same-number-of-siblings#post-2785783 Sat, 11 Nov 2017 19:27:57 +0000 ShootingStar 2785783@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I have one brother. I don’t wish I had more siblings, I just wish I had a different one. My brother was too young growing up to feel close to. As adults he’s...extremely weird, to put it nicely. And his wife is even worse. They’re not people I really want to continue to pursue relationships with or be around my kids much. It would be nice if I had a sibling I felt close to and also had two kids. I think holidays would feel plenty full with 6 adults and four kids. Mrs. D on "Do you wish you had more, fewer, or the same number of siblings?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wish-you-had-more-fewer-or-the-same-number-of-siblings#post-2785721 Sat, 11 Nov 2017 09:14:52 +0000 Mrs. D 2785721@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I have two sisters. Most of my childhood I only had one though, so it was a huge change to have a baby sister when I turned 13. that said, I couldn't imagine my teen years without them both! However, I always wished for an older brother to protect me from bullies jhd on "Do you wish you had more, fewer, or the same number of siblings?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wish-you-had-more-fewer-or-the-same-number-of-siblings#post-2785717 Sat, 11 Nov 2017 08:22:31 +0000 jhd 2785717@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I have five siblings. I wouldn’t change it at all. The family I grew up in is a big part of who I am. But it did not influence the number of children my husband and I hope to have. CatchAFallingStar on "Do you wish you had more, fewer, or the same number of siblings?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wish-you-had-more-fewer-or-the-same-number-of-siblings#post-2785698 Fri, 10 Nov 2017 23:25:25 +0000 CatchAFallingStar 2785698@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I think I’d prefer to have more. I have one brother who’s 5 years older. We’ve never been very close. I’d love to have a younger sibling. But, I know that would have been too much for my parents. dolphin on "Do you wish you had more, fewer, or the same number of siblings?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wish-you-had-more-fewer-or-the-same-number-of-siblings#post-2785694 Fri, 10 Nov 2017 23:09:53 +0000 dolphin 2785694@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I have two older brothers and I wouldn't change it. We weren't super close growing up because of the age gap but now that we're older it's nice when we can all get together. Also, my kids ADORE their uncles. summerfruit on "Do you wish you had more, fewer, or the same number of siblings?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wish-you-had-more-fewer-or-the-same-number-of-siblings#post-2785692 Fri, 10 Nov 2017 22:41:09 +0000 summerfruit 2785692@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I have one sister who came along almost ten years after I was born. At the time, I was very excited to be getting a sibling. I probably would have been fine if I'd stayed an only child, but I'm happy to have my sister. I think I would have had a much different personality and upbringing if there were more siblings. Corduroy on "Do you wish you had more, fewer, or the same number of siblings?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wish-you-had-more-fewer-or-the-same-number-of-siblings#post-2785691 Fri, 10 Nov 2017 22:23:24 +0000 Corduroy 2785691@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I have one brother but he’s hard to get close to. I was happy with what I had with SIL but now they’re divorcing and I feel alone (not that that’s about me but I’m wishing for a sister now). Purpledaisy on "Do you wish you had more, fewer, or the same number of siblings?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wish-you-had-more-fewer-or-the-same-number-of-siblings#post-2785690 Fri, 10 Nov 2017 22:02:50 +0000 Purpledaisy 2785690@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I'm an only child and have always hated it. Even more now that I'm an adult. This is one of the major reasons that I want to have a third kid. Mrs. Goose on "Do you wish you had more, fewer, or the same number of siblings?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wish-you-had-more-fewer-or-the-same-number-of-siblings#post-2785687 Fri, 10 Nov 2017 20:58:46 +0000 Mrs. Goose 2785687@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @justjules: I echo your sentiments exactly There are 6 of us altogether and I love it. There is as 18 year age gap between the oldest and youngest and two of us each have two kids now. It’s fun. Every time we’re all together...or most of us are, I feel so lucky to have them. We each bring something different to each other and have different connections. lamariniere on "Do you wish you had more, fewer, or the same number of siblings?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wish-you-had-more-fewer-or-the-same-number-of-siblings#post-2785683 Fri, 10 Nov 2017 19:06:47 +0000 lamariniere 2785683@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I have one brother, and though I would have liked to have had a sister, I agree with many of @Truth Bombs:’s reasons for being content with just one sibling. Also, I don’t think my parents could have afforded more than 2 kids. skipra on "Do you wish you had more, fewer, or the same number of siblings?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wish-you-had-more-fewer-or-the-same-number-of-siblings#post-2785679 Fri, 10 Nov 2017 18:30:56 +0000 skipra 2785679@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I have 2 but several step siblings and I lived with one so similar to 3 siblings. I think 2-3 siblings is great but also 1 would be nice especially if it's all you've known. No more than 3 for sure. codeitall on "Do you wish you had more, fewer, or the same number of siblings?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wish-you-had-more-fewer-or-the-same-number-of-siblings#post-2785673 Fri, 10 Nov 2017 18:03:18 +0000 codeitall 2785673@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I wouldn't change it. I have 5 siblings. Sure, the ones furthest in age aren't super close, but it is really fun to have that span of experiences and ages as a family. Sure we were a little crazy at times and I'm sure my mother had dark thoughts at us occasionally, but we all get along well and look out for each other still. I think that in larger families, you sacrifice for each other. I dropped competitive gymnastics so my brothers could have soccer games on the weekends. I may not have liked going to Legoland as a teenager for my younger siblings, but I got to see how much they appreciated it and tried to make it fun for them. We supported each other by attending recitals, competitions, award ceremonies, etc. Nutella on "Do you wish you had more, fewer, or the same number of siblings?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wish-you-had-more-fewer-or-the-same-number-of-siblings#post-2785670 Fri, 10 Nov 2017 17:41:36 +0000 Nutella 2785670@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I have one sibling and always wanted one more, preferably a sister since I didn’t have any close female relatives nearby in my age group. Due to a big age gap with my brother I spent most of my teenage and early twenties as an only child essentially and I kinda hated it. Home life was a bit dull & while our parents gave us everything materially, I spent most school holidays wishing for more company (my brother’s schedules never lined up with mine (and I think he didn’t like having an annoying little sister tagging along on his adventures). I ended up over-emphasising friendships instead (something my mum who has many sisters could never understand 🙄) - but as I’ve grown and had babies, I now really feel the difference between family & friends. :bummed: DesertDreams88 on "Do you wish you had more, fewer, or the same number of siblings?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wish-you-had-more-fewer-or-the-same-number-of-siblings#post-2785666 Fri, 10 Nov 2017 17:24:57 +0000 DesertDreams88 2785666@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I only have one brother and I've always wanted more siblings. I don't think it would have negatively impacted family dynamic in regards to opportunities or attention as mentioned above, I think it would have just given me more of a chance of connecting with someone. crazydoglady on "Do you wish you had more, fewer, or the same number of siblings?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wish-you-had-more-fewer-or-the-same-number-of-siblings#post-2785660 Fri, 10 Nov 2017 17:02:54 +0000 crazydoglady 2785660@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Honestly? I wish my parents had fewer kids . And not because I am not close to one (which is true) but because I feel like my parents lacked the time and resources to really cultivate who we were as individuals. I hated sports but was put in soccer because all my siblings were. I would have preferred something artistic. I also think that I would have more self-confidence and a higher self-esteem as a result. I'm not saying large families are always like that, but it was my experience. shabang on "Do you wish you had more, fewer, or the same number of siblings?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wish-you-had-more-fewer-or-the-same-number-of-siblings#post-2785655 Fri, 10 Nov 2017 16:36:25 +0000 shabang 2785655@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I'm one of three. It's the best number!