https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 25 Apr 2026 20:08:36 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wish-you-were-a-sahm/page/2#post-1012066 Tue, 13 Aug 2013 02:00:59 +0000 looch 1012066@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wish I had more flexibility with my working hours. Mornings stress me out but I like to be in early and leave early! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wish-you-were-a-sahm/page/2#post-1011930 Mon, 12 Aug 2013 23:19:32 +0000 yoursilverlining 1011930@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, I never wish I was a stay a home mom. I strews working fewer hours after LO was born (50+\week to a solid 40/week) and wasn't as personally invested in my job after LO but the answer wasn't to quit working. I think it's normal that the more you add to your life, the less energy you have to focus on work, and plenty of other things :) </p> <p>I now work FT from home, and spend 2 days a week with LO at home with me; and while that time is awesome, I need intellectual stimulation every day, which doesn't come from spending time with little kids. Sounds like of harsh, but I need the challenge that comes from my work and I would never feel happy or fulfilled without it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wish-you-were-a-sahm/page/2#post-1011886 Mon, 12 Aug 2013 22:22:56 +0000 winniebee 1011886@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@woodentulip: @Mrs. Yoyo: I'm also a stay at home mom out of circumstance (cross country move for a year). I was ready for a break from my work so welcomed it. But it's much harder than I ever expected! I have a wonderful but demanding 15 month old who only naps 1.5 hours a day at the moment. And a husband with a brand new and busy job. I don't have time to Pinterest anything and definitely am getting by a lot of days! Who has the energy??! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wish-you-were-a-sahm/page/2#post-1011873 Mon, 12 Aug 2013 22:11:34 +0000 keiki_mama 1011873@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>As much as I love my baby I'm really glad I work full time outside of our home. I love being able to interact with other adults, it's a nice "break" :) I love being able to bring home a paycheck and contribute financially to our household. The idea of being away from the workforce and being completely financially dependent on DH is terrifying and makes me feel vulnerable. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wish-you-were-a-sahm/page/2#post-1011865 Mon, 12 Aug 2013 22:06:04 +0000 Mrs. Yoyo 1011865@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@woodentulip: My situation is very, very much like yours. We moved, I didn't find anything right away, and now No. 2 will be here soon and it's definitely not a good time to look. So yeah, circumstantial SAHM. </p> <p>Most days I'm OK. The days I'm not are really bad, though, and I am trying to brace myself for how much harder it will be with 2. So I feel ya. I am not the Susie homemaker type, and think Pinterest is kind of evil. I freelance in an attempt to stay sharp and am grateful for that, but it's not the same. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wish-you-were-a-sahm/page/2#post-1011829 Mon, 12 Aug 2013 21:39:38 +0000 cmomma17 1011829@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@irene: I voted other because Yes I wish I could stay home with my baby but No I do not love my career. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wish-you-were-a-sahm/page/2#post-1011632 Mon, 12 Aug 2013 19:48:35 +0000 MrsScallop 1011632@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh, I have been thinking about this a lot lately too! DH and I are grad students now, so we have been able to be half WAH/ half WOH parents for the most part since LO was born, trading off baby duty as needed when we had to go in to campus for meetings or teaching. I have been super distracted by baby and house though, to the point where I have thought that being a SAHM would be better. I haven't really decided if I have it in me though. I have a year to go to graduate and would like to actually use this degree (after almost 7 years...!), but SAH with baby sounds pretty good too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wish-you-were-a-sahm/page/2#post-1011555 Mon, 12 Aug 2013 19:11:04 +0000 woodentulip 1011555@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am a SAHM. And I just wanted to chime in, because I am having a hard time with it. I am a SAHM due to circumstances (we moved across the country with a 6 month old and an almost 3 year old last fall). I left my job behind so when my (Canadian) mat leave ended, I had no job to go back to. And now, I am vaguely keeping my eyes open, but haven't found anything.<br /> But anyhow.<br /> I have a great day about 80% of the time. And the other 20%? I feel like the worst human on the planet. I am surrounded my other SAHMs who pinterest the shit out of their lives, and I don't. I am scraping by.<br /> I went back to work after my older daughter was born and while I wished for more time with her, I never felt like I was actually making a mistake by being at work. So anyhow, I guess I am just saying that today...I wish that I weren't a SAHM. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wish-you-were-a-sahm/page/2#post-1011508 Mon, 12 Aug 2013 18:48:46 +0000 Periwinkle 1011508@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This unicorn land sounds amazing! I have days where I would like the option of being home with LO, but in all honesty, I am not cut out to be s SAHM. I struggled a bit during my maternity leave and found that there was not enough structure for me. In retrospect, I would have done things differently (I think!) but it was hard for me.</p> <p>I love the balance that work provides for me. Of course I miss LO so much. I have days where I can't believe how quickly time is going by and I get so sad that I am not with him during the day. With work, time goes by so quickly and I am scared that each time I blink my eyes, LO will be at a completely different stage :( Who's to say that I would feel differently as a SAHM, though! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wish-you-were-a-sahm#post-1011463 Mon, 12 Aug 2013 18:32:18 +0000 Boogs 1011463@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rainbow Sprinkles: I want to live in unicorn land! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wish-you-were-a-sahm#post-1011457 Mon, 12 Aug 2013 18:30:37 +0000 Boogs 1011457@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have to say, I've been a SAHM for a little over two years and I'm super burned out by it. It might be because I lack the type of support I need, though. I actually envy moms who work, especially those who can work from home part time. In my ideal world I would be able to be a part time WAHM. Unfortunately, it's almost impossible to find something that would work for our family, especially with DH's schedule. I would end up having to pay for childcare and that would cost probably more than I would make. I think what it comes down to is that often times the grass feels greener on the other side, but really both sides have great and not so great things about them. </p> <p>I hope in the end you'll be able to find a way that works for your family so you can find your happy place. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wish-you-were-a-sahm#post-1011451 Mon, 12 Aug 2013 18:28:19 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 1011451@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Or, I would work every day for three hours or something like that. That would be sweet. With 10 weeks paid vacation every year. LOL.<br /> Maybe in Unicorn land... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wish-you-were-a-sahm#post-1011445 Mon, 12 Aug 2013 18:25:57 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 1011445@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If we could swing it financially, I would love to be a SAHM.</p> <p>I would, however, like to do something 10-15 hours a week just to get me out of the house. Like maybe work at a wine store or coffee shop or clothing boutique. Just so I had some me-time and fun money.</p> <p>But, alas, unless my husband starts making 50k more a year, I won't be staying home any time soon. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wish-you-were-a-sahm#post-1011393 Mon, 12 Aug 2013 18:09:16 +0000 katsupgirl 1011393@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm just not that into all aspects of my job. Plus I can't run around the city like I used to because I'm always stressed about pumping. Ideally I'd like to work from home. I'm not really good at being a SAHM. I'm kinda lazy. My mom watches LO during the day and teaches her all kinds of stuff. I wouldn't be able to do that. </p> <p>I need to work for the money but I'd prefer something where I can make my own hours and not be away from her so much. I was off today and worked a little from home. My mom still came over to hang with us and that was perfect. Also no feeding/pumping stress. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wish-you-were-a-sahm#post-1011176 Mon, 12 Aug 2013 16:09:53 +0000 Espion 1011176@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@rahlyrah: I go back in a couple weeks and DH is staying home with E for right now. (He's taking a break before looking for a job.) I'm so grateful because I feel like E is still so fragile. I totally work myself up in my mind thinking about daycare and how they might handle a crying baby. But I also feel a little superfluous. Like who needs mom, except for a paycheck? Maybe this is how the in-touch dads feel... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wish-you-were-a-sahm#post-1011155 Mon, 12 Aug 2013 16:00:00 +0000 yellowbird 1011155@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@rahlyrah: my DH is a SAHD for now (he's been job searching for 6 months!) and I really thought I would resent him for it. Now that i'm actually living it, I am so glad he gets to stay home with her. I don't worry about her being at daycare, because I know she's in the very best hands. I love the bonding that they get to do, and I'll always still be her mom. She still misses me and I miss her terribly, but now i'm to the point where I kind of worry about him finding a job because then i have to worry about her being with someone else. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wish-you-were-a-sahm#post-1011141 Mon, 12 Aug 2013 15:54:19 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 1011141@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>nope, i also came back from maternity leave early. but i do get to WFH so i still get to see my baby during the day while i work, so i think that makes a huge difference. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wish-you-were-a-sahm#post-1011136 Mon, 12 Aug 2013 15:51:42 +0000 HabesBabe 1011136@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have no desire to be a SAHM at all-- and I don't "love" my job, either! I came back from maternity leave early (decided not to waste 3 weeks of PTO I had saved up) and was happy to do it. For me, I need a bigger purpose/role within our family than just being Mom. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wish-you-were-a-sahm#post-1011116 Mon, 12 Aug 2013 15:45:21 +0000 Mommytotwois 1011116@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@rahlyrah: I totally know how you feel! DH was a SAHD But starting last week he has a new job and is gone from 12PM-8PM :sad: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wish-you-were-a-sahm#post-1011067 Mon, 12 Aug 2013 15:22:16 +0000 Ra 1011067@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I want more than anything to be a SAHM. I go back to work tomorrow and am dreading it. My DH is a WAHD and I'm beginning to resent him for it. I'm jealous and sad that he will see all the milestones firsthand, while I will hear about them after the fact. I know that I am not being fair; I can't help help how I feel. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wish-you-were-a-sahm#post-1011044 Mon, 12 Aug 2013 15:12:01 +0000 sunny 1011044@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My passion for my career had kind of waned before I even got pregnant but it really went kaput once my LO showed up. I still enjoy what I did for a career since I am working on some related personal projects but I really enjoy being a SAHM! I would looooove to work 3 days a week at a corporate job and get the best of both worlds. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wish-you-were-a-sahm#post-1011025 Mon, 12 Aug 2013 15:02:30 +0000 yellowbird 1011025@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@grizz: I would NOT be able to handle that either. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wish-you-were-a-sahm#post-1011009 Mon, 12 Aug 2013 14:59:33 +0000 Boheme 1011009@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm going to have a terrible time going back. I do social work, and I work with women who use drugs and/or alcohol, and are pregnant. I also follow their babies' progress for 18 months. Before I was just able to brush everything off before going home. Now that I'm a mom my brain is wired completely different or something, because their actions infuriate me. I'm no longer able to comprehend how someone could treat their baby in that way. I will probably end up looking for something else, probably outside of social work even. I just can't handle it like I could before. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wish-you-were-a-sahm#post-1010972 Mon, 12 Aug 2013 14:51:44 +0000 dojo 1010972@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Though I have lost a lot of my motivation at work I still think that being a SAHM is not for me - I feel like I was going a little nuts at home during mat leave. I certainly miss him while I'm at work and would rather spend more time with him so now I am trying to look for a new position closer to home or maybe something with more flexible hours since right now I spend 2 hours a day commuting. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wish-you-were-a-sahm#post-1010961 Mon, 12 Aug 2013 14:48:20 +0000 Mrsbells 1010961@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wish I was a part time SAHM </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wish-you-were-a-sahm#post-1010959 Mon, 12 Aug 2013 14:47:51 +0000 Bookish 1010959@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No. As much as I'm cherishing my mat leave, I really am excited to get back to work. I want to work hard to provide for her, and I'm proud of what I've accomplished in the few years I've been in the workforce. </p> <p>That being said, I wish I had had the option. I do love my work, but I wish I could have taken a year off, or even six months...or work part time ya know? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wish-you-were-a-sahm#post-1010940 Mon, 12 Aug 2013 14:42:16 +0000 littlek 1010940@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have no desire to be a SAHM. I need the challenge of a career. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wish-you-were-a-sahm#post-1010924 Mon, 12 Aug 2013 14:35:49 +0000 plantains 1010924@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope, definitely not for me. I leave home at 8.30 and get back in from my office at 5.30 so I feel like I see DD a pretty good amount. I am definitely not cut out for SAHM. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wish-you-were-a-sahm#post-1010887 Mon, 12 Aug 2013 14:25:06 +0000 yellowbird 1010887@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-wish-you-were-a-sahm#post-1010880 Mon, 12 Aug 2013 14:22:48 +0000 cascademom 1010880@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hedge and haw about considering being a SAHM. I love, love spending time with my son. My maternity leave was tough and lonely at times. I just didn't feel cut out for it. I got promoted when I came back to work to doing something that I enjoy and find interesting. Right now, I'm working on getting a certification to be even more valuable in the workplace. I surprised myself by being more apt as a WOHM than a SAHM. </p>