https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 23 Apr 2026 12:15:37 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-worry-about-your-age-and-ttc#post-1942212 Wed, 12 Nov 2014 23:25:30 +0000 FliegepilzHut 1942212@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsMed: Just seconding the motion to have you join us over on the IVF thread! Lots of ER/ET coming up over there! :goodluck: :heart:</p> <p>Yes, I have recently started to worry about this...again. I'll be 34 in a couple of months. :sad: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-worry-about-your-age-and-ttc#post-1942171 Wed, 12 Nov 2014 22:32:14 +0000 PrincessBaby 1942171@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes and no. I think the main thing is I don't know if I want to be knee deep in diapers in my late 30s. I'll be almost 35 when I deliver LO2, and I just really am not thrilled with the idea of doing the pregnancy thing again so late in the game, and then starting all over with a NB at 38 or 39. I know people do it all the time but in my late 30s I had hoped I"d be relaxing in the sun on our boat or the beach while kids were old enough to also enjoy it and be a little more independent. Only time will tell if #3 will happen. Before yesterday, I was adamant I wanted a son and thought that if LO2 is another girl, I'd definitely be on the hook to try for a 3rd/boy. But I'm over that. I'm ecstatic with 2 girls, and if I don't have a son, that's fine. I won't let that pressure me. It's just about do I want to do it again so late in my 30s.</p> <p>3 was always what we both wanted but I guess I thought I'd be a young whippersnapper when we got started. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-worry-about-your-age-and-ttc#post-1942165 Wed, 12 Nov 2014 22:23:02 +0000 momazon 1942165@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsMed: I meant to put a link. Sorry!<br /> <a href="http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ivf-thread-2/page/28" rel="nofollow">http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ivf-thread-2/page/28</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-worry-about-your-age-and-ttc#post-1942135 Wed, 12 Nov 2014 21:56:58 +0000 MrsMed 1942135@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@momazon: Hey thanks! Which one? I've been told before, but everytime I forget. Duh. I've been meaning to share my story over there but I've just been kinda lost in space lately. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-worry-about-your-age-and-ttc#post-1942131 Wed, 12 Nov 2014 21:53:49 +0000 momazon 1942131@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsMed: You should come join us on the IVF thread-- there are a few of us going through stims, retrievals and transfers right now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-worry-about-your-age-and-ttc#post-1941379 Wed, 12 Nov 2014 14:38:10 +0000 MrsMed 1941379@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@kayakgirl73: Thanks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-worry-about-your-age-and-ttc#post-1941320 Wed, 12 Nov 2014 14:17:32 +0000 Cherrybee 1941320@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm 33 now and would really have liked to have had three children.... I do worry about my age - not so much the conceiving/health aspects but coping with two more newborns as an increasingly older mother. I look back to my twenties, when I would party all night, most nights, and still get up for work in the morning. These days, I really need my sleep! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-worry-about-your-age-and-ttc#post-1941302 Wed, 12 Nov 2014 14:12:19 +0000 kayakgirl73 1941302@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsMed: I hope your retrieval goes well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-worry-about-your-age-and-ttc#post-1941246 Wed, 12 Nov 2014 13:51:00 +0000 SugarplumsMom 1941246@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: I :heart: that article. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-worry-about-your-age-and-ttc#post-1941242 Wed, 12 Nov 2014 13:49:45 +0000 MrsMed 1941242@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@kayakgirl73: I feel you. I'm 42. And after getting pregnant easily and losing them twice, I had my daughter the day after I turned 41. We never used birth control afterwards. A year later, I'm a day away from the egg retrieval during my first IVF cycle. I too, am worried that #2 won't happen. But I'll cross that bridge when we get to it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-worry-about-your-age-and-ttc#post-1941155 Wed, 12 Nov 2014 13:16:21 +0000 kayakgirl73 1941155@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I worry if we'll have a second. We tried on our own for a while i.e. I did nothing to prevent once LO was six months old. I'm now on my second IUI cycle. I'm 41 and LO was an IUI baby, pregnant at 38 and delivered at 39. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-worry-about-your-age-and-ttc#post-1940693 Wed, 12 Nov 2014 10:26:19 +0000 ValentineMommy 1940693@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes. I'll turn 34 in January. Conceived DS easily (first try) and when ttc#2 we conceived on the first try again...which ended in mc. Have not been able to conceive since and my age is starting to freak me out. We wanted 3+ and that is seeming less and less likely. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-worry-about-your-age-and-ttc#post-1940625 Wed, 12 Nov 2014 10:00:49 +0000 meredithNYC 1940625@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A little. I am 33 and have a 2.5 year old and am due with #2 in April. We probably will not have a third, but if we do I wonder about the timing, particularly as I do not think I could handle having another too quickly after #2. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-worry-about-your-age-and-ttc#post-1940544 Wed, 12 Nov 2014 09:22:46 +0000 Carobee 1940544@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I worry about it all the time - I'm 34 turning 35 next year and we are going to start trying for our first in Feb. I wish I had met DH when I was younger, but I didn't. I'm trying to stay relaxed about it for his sake. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-worry-about-your-age-and-ttc#post-1939009 Tue, 11 Nov 2014 10:33:25 +0000 krispi 1939009@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I worry about it a little. We're 36 and 37 and have agreed to sort of NTNP until we get some other financial situations sorted out. If we were younger, it wouldn't be such a big deal, but at this age, every little thing that makes us have to wait is super frustrating. We don't have any kids yet, so it's nerve wracking not knowing if we will be able to get pregnant when we want. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-worry-about-your-age-and-ttc#post-1938696 Tue, 11 Nov 2014 06:46:12 +0000 kentuckygirl 1938696@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Definitely :sad: I just turned 39 and our LO is 5 months old, conceived through IVF. I don't know if we can do IVF again, so I really worry about TTC #2. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-worry-about-your-age-and-ttc#post-1938627 Tue, 11 Nov 2014 00:17:22 +0000 GoGoSnoGirl 1938627@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I got a little frustrated after a few months of not getting pregnant, then at 6 mos ttc we did get our BFP. Unfortunately, lost that baby at 6w &amp; then my worry started to set in about how long it may take to get a sticky baby. Fortunately, we got pg again 3 cycles after m/c &amp; we are now 12w along with what appears to be a healthy baby. I'm 41. I'm only a little worried now that the getting pg part is behind me about recovery from birth &amp; my energy levels raising a baby &amp; then child, but not enough to not dive in head long &amp; even day dream about #2. It's all good. :grin: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-worry-about-your-age-and-ttc#post-1938130 Mon, 10 Nov 2014 17:57:24 +0000 lilyofthewest 1938130@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Some. I'm 32, due with #1 in April, turn 33 in July. It took 8 cycles of well-timed trying to get pregnant.</p> <p>Sweetie and I are pretty sure we'd like a #2 (well, Sweetie would like 3, or 4. I'm pretty sure I'm on board for a 2nd but not any more). </p> <p>In order to get the best possible pay/leave benefits, my kiddos need to be at least 2 years apart. Hopefully #2 will be successfully conceived more quickly than #1. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-worry-about-your-age-and-ttc#post-1938042 Mon, 10 Nov 2014 16:36:42 +0000 MrsMccarthy 1938042@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes but I worry about everything! Honestly all of my friends but one have had babies very easily over 35. The one person who didn't did finally conceive naturally after almost 2 years TTC. I wouldn't go thinking I had all the time in the world but I also don't think trying after 35 means you won't conceive quickly. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-worry-about-your-age-and-ttc#post-1938033 Mon, 10 Nov 2014 16:33:04 +0000 BKCaribBaby 1938033@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I should be, but I'm not that much. I'm less concerned about age but rather the logistics of having more than one child. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-worry-about-your-age-and-ttc#post-1937971 Mon, 10 Nov 2014 15:49:57 +0000 78h2o 1937971@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, it definitely had some bearing on our decision to try for number #2 now vs. waiting a few years. We also wanted a smaller age gap, but given other things going on in our lives (my husband's health issues), I think we would have waited longer if we were younger. </p> <p>I was less concerned about our ability to get pregnant than I was about the risk of miscarriage/genetic issues going up and my energy level going down. </p> <p>As it is, I will be 37 when #2 is born. I used to want 3 kids, but I have a feeling that this will be it, primarily due to my age/energy level. We'll see though...at least having #2 now leaves that possibility open in my mind. If we waited until I was 39 or 40 to try for number #2, I probably wouldn't feel comfortable trying for #3 at age 41 or 42. The article that @looch: posted makes a good point about the risk of chromosomal abnormalities still being &lt;1% into the late 30's, but the way the rates jump up each year scared/scares me, even though I know the overall incidence was/is still low. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-worry-about-your-age-and-ttc#post-1937948 Mon, 10 Nov 2014 15:39:56 +0000 Raindrop 1937948@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Logically I know worrying is not helpful but yes ... I am worried. I am currently pregnant with #2 and we would be happy with 2 kids but somehow we always pictured 3 kids or even more. I'm going to try not to worry till this one is out and when we cross that bridge.</p> <p>I would have had kids sooner but finding someone (DH) took me longer than I expected. :) Like others said oh wells. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-worry-about-your-age-and-ttc#post-1937917 Mon, 10 Nov 2014 15:26:40 +0000 fancyfunction 1937917@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A little bit but not overly so. I'm 35 now and we'll be TTC #2 soon. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-worry-about-your-age-and-ttc#post-1937908 Mon, 10 Nov 2014 15:21:06 +0000 rachiecakes 1937908@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>kind of - only because if we have another it'll be a while and I'm 34 now </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-worry-about-your-age-and-ttc#post-1937732 Mon, 10 Nov 2014 14:16:04 +0000 BandDmommy 1937732@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not worried. But if we do go for<br /> #3 it will be sooner rather than later. I don't like the stress of TTC. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-worry-about-your-age-and-ttc#post-1937727 Mon, 10 Nov 2014 14:13:55 +0000 travellingbee 1937727@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wasn't worried at all. I got pregnant with LO at 34 (had him at 35) on the first try so felt very confident that I would be able to get pregnant with #2. However, apparently a lot has changed since then. He is 20 months old. I now have diminished ovarian reserve and am about to start fertility treatments. So yes. I am worried. We won't have any more but I really would like a #2. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-worry-about-your-age-and-ttc#post-1937721 Mon, 10 Nov 2014 14:10:55 +0000 lizzywiz 1937721@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ballerinabee: this.<br /> My health, the potential LO's health.<br /> But, we can't afford it so probably don't need to worry, lol. One and done unless I win the lottery. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-worry-about-your-age-and-ttc#post-1937532 Mon, 10 Nov 2014 12:57:57 +0000 travelgirl1 1937532@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I worry about it a lot. I'll be turning 35 a few days before this one arrives (if all goes well) and I would like one more. But, I also want to retrain and we have to move back to the UK at some point and buy a house etc. I mainly worry about future losses and struggling to conceive. That would majorly screw things up at my age. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-worry-about-your-age-and-ttc#post-1937458 Mon, 10 Nov 2014 12:22:03 +0000 ElbieKay 1937458@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was a little worried about fertility before we started TTC. Then I got pregnant on the second try, but that ended in a miscarriage. It took four more tries to get a sticky baby.</p> <p>So, now I am pretty comfortable that the plumbing works, and I am not *too* worried about age being a factor next time.</p> <p>But, I turned 37 two months after my son was born. If we decide to have a second child, then I will probably be 39 or 40 when s/he is born. I think being older will make it harder for me to recover from pregnancy and labor/delivery. And I am not thrilled with the prospect of being in my late 50s when I need to worry about paying college tuition.</p> <p>But, I didn't meet my husband til I was 32.5. We got married when I was 34.5, and we took a year to just be married before we started TTC. I think we had a reasonable timeline and would not have wanted to rush things. So, que sera sera. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-worry-about-your-age-and-ttc#post-1937393 Mon, 10 Nov 2014 11:12:23 +0000 xmaskidjr 1937393@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm currently 39 and expecting second baby in next May. I do worry about my retirement and their college tuition. :) Or I will be in 50s when they will be in teens... On the other hand, I try to exercise and keep healthy life style to keep up with them. </p>