https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 08 Apr 2026 20:06:33 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-yell-at-your-lo#post-1220555 Sat, 16 Nov 2013 00:34:38 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 1220555@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No. No. No. I can't handle yelling in general and I'm not a yeller, but more so, it is my son's personality that keeps me from ever raising my voice. He is the type that startles easily and cries if I so much as drop something loud on the floor (ie: a toy falls off the couch onto the hardwood floor). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-yell-at-your-lo#post-1220550 Sat, 16 Nov 2013 00:24:24 +0000 Ree723 1220550@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, I sometimes get really irritated and take on a bit of an irritated tone with her, which I hate, but for the most part, I make a really conscious effort to keep a handle on my emotions. She's not quite 17 months though so we'll see how it goes as she gets older. I really hope I can keep calm - I'm not a yeller by nature so hopefully that doesn't change. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-yell-at-your-lo#post-1220410 Fri, 15 Nov 2013 21:59:49 +0000 blackbird 1220410@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have totally lost my cool a few times. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-yell-at-your-lo#post-1220377 Fri, 15 Nov 2013 21:40:29 +0000 shopaholic 1220377@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Umm... LO was screaming in her crib today and I went to my own room (door closed) to scream myself. LO freaked out even more. I felt awful. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-yell-at-your-lo#post-1220360 Fri, 15 Nov 2013 21:36:00 +0000 Boheme 1220360@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I will only if he is in danger and I need to catch his attention.<br /> Otherwise, no. My parents yelled and it wasn't a pleasant experience. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-yell-at-your-lo#post-1220329 Fri, 15 Nov 2013 21:14:15 +0000 irene 1220329@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I did :( guilty. I was doing pretty well for a very very long time (whatever he does doesn't get to me) until I started implementing time outs (21 months). Then the line gets blurred and I found myself yelling/warning to give time outs. I do not like that at all, and I hate to always threaten LO. So now I am putting time out on hold and try to get back to my old self. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-yell-at-your-lo#post-1217520 Thu, 14 Nov 2013 21:28:49 +0000 matador84 1217520@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope! Warm/Strict here. Must be the teacher in me...yelling never solves anything. :) He knows when I'm being stern. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-yell-at-your-lo#post-1217509 Thu, 14 Nov 2013 21:25:40 +0000 BabyMats 1217509@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I yell at the dog. I cover his ears so he doesn't get startled or scared of me </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-yell-at-your-lo#post-1217505 Thu, 14 Nov 2013 21:23:56 +0000 winniebee 1217505@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have shouted "no" on numerous occasions when he does something truly bad or dangerous. But he just laughs. So I'm ditching that approach. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-yell-at-your-lo#post-1217490 Thu, 14 Nov 2013 21:21:04 +0000 Boogs 1217490@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@chopsuey: Mine does that and yells not to yell at him. </p> <p>@Honeybee: That's so great, I try so hard to do that. But, we are all human and can't help but yell sometimes lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-yell-at-your-lo#post-1217070 Thu, 14 Nov 2013 19:00:08 +0000 HLK208 1217070@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@chopsuey: same!</p> <p>I really try not to raise my voice since it doesn't help and I hate being that angry though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-yell-at-your-lo#post-1217049 Thu, 14 Nov 2013 18:54:14 +0000 chopsuey 1217049@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've raised my voice and it doesn't faze her. -.-<br /> I've had to stop raising my voice though, because she started raising hers back at me! Omg! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-yell-at-your-lo#post-1216930 Thu, 14 Nov 2013 18:18:29 +0000 MsMamaBear 1216930@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pinkcupcake: That's when I've yelled too. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-yell-at-your-lo#post-1216438 Thu, 14 Nov 2013 16:04:40 +0000 travelgirl1 1216438@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have never actually shouted at her.... I raised my voice a few times but I wouldn't say yelled.... She's still too sweet to get me too worked up yet. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-yell-at-your-lo#post-1216404 Thu, 14 Nov 2013 15:57:50 +0000 Mamaof2 1216404@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes =( My 2.5 yr old is in her no phase and isn't listening anymore. I have been giving her a warning and say "mommy is going to yell if you don't listen" and then if she doesn't listen I will raise my voice and she turns white (shocked) and then the tears come. I usually hug her and tell her that I am sorry I yelled but she needs to be a better listener.</p> <p>I use to yell at my now 5yr old but it made things worse! I NEVER yell at him anymore I have to keep my cool and figure out a solution w/o yelling. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-yell-at-your-lo#post-1216134 Thu, 14 Nov 2013 15:04:52 +0000 shinymama 1216134@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If by LO you mean my 11 year old, then unfortunately, yes. :sad: My little-LO, no {but sometimes I really, really want to}. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-yell-at-your-lo#post-1216129 Thu, 14 Nov 2013 15:02:47 +0000 deerylou 1216129@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've groaned her name really loudly in exasperation, but I haven't had many reasons to yell, yet. We're going to try to implement gentle discipline, but being a loud and emotional person, I'll have to work hard to keep myself in check. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-yell-at-your-lo#post-1216111 Thu, 14 Nov 2013 14:57:26 +0000 googly-eyes 1216111@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh, and usually it's just her name if it happens, or sometimes an OMG!! It could be not even AT her but I feel guilty when it happens. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-yell-at-your-lo#post-1216107 Thu, 14 Nov 2013 14:56:28 +0000 googly-eyes 1216107@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have. But it's not something I plan to do... I'm loud by nature so that doesn't help! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-yell-at-your-lo#post-1216095 Thu, 14 Nov 2013 14:54:36 +0000 Bookish 1216095@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Once, when she was 4 or 5 weeks old, I yelled not at her, per se, but at the situation because the PPD had hit and I thought I was losing my damn mind. I still feel guilty about it.. it really upset her and I immediately called DH and make him come home because it made me realize that I wasn't handling maternity leave as well as I thought. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-yell-at-your-lo#post-1216093 Thu, 14 Nov 2013 14:53:53 +0000 BoogieBea 1216093@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Unfortunately, I do sometimes. My son now says, in a pouting face, "I don't want mama to be angry". :sad: It immediately reminds me that I need to just step away from the situation and regroup. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-yell-at-your-lo#post-1216084 Thu, 14 Nov 2013 14:52:40 +0000 Honeybee 1216084@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@locavore_mama: Well, this is what happens when you try to teach your child emotional intelligence. :) All those phrases you repeat ad nauseam for their benefit (e.g. "DD, yelling hurts our ears and feelings. Can you use a gentle voice and your words to explain what is wrong?") end up getting repeated back to you... often. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-yell-at-your-lo#post-1216080 Thu, 14 Nov 2013 14:51:54 +0000 jmarionsmith 1216080@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Honeybee: that is freaking adorable.</p> <p>i do yell occasionally, especially if he's about to put something gross in his mouth or do something dangerous and and i'm not close enough to stop him quickly.</p> <p>when i yell he usually sticks out his bottom lip in the most pitiful pout and holds his arms up for me to pick him up. because even though i'm the one causing him to be upset, i'm the one to make him feel comforted, too. then i feel super guilty. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-yell-at-your-lo#post-1216073 Thu, 14 Nov 2013 14:49:38 +0000 sarac 1216073@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just a handful of times have I actually yelled, and each time I worked harder and harder not to do it again. Mostly when she's about to run into traffic or something where I'm very scared for her safety. My father was a yeller, and it made me really unhappy. </p> <p>Now, I'm an emotional person, and I raise my voice not infrequently. But she's well used to that - it's just how we do things around here. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-yell-at-your-lo#post-1216071 Thu, 14 Nov 2013 14:49:11 +0000 regberadaisy 1216071@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Honeybee: omgosh, that might be the cutest things I've heard all day. Where did she learned that?? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-yell-at-your-lo#post-1216068 Thu, 14 Nov 2013 14:48:12 +0000 T-Mom 1216068@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have really cut down by adjusting my own expectations of the kids, but I am a yeller. And only to my kids. I feel like a horrible person when it happens. But my DS immediately cries, and my DD will shrink back in horror. What a bad feeling to see that happen. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-yell-at-your-lo#post-1216067 Thu, 14 Nov 2013 14:47:51 +0000 mediagirl 1216067@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I try so hard not to but sometimes I get overwhelmed, especially if my husband and I are arguing and she is having a big tantrum. I'm trying to work on walking away....just to take a few deep breaths...and then coming back to the situation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-yell-at-your-lo#post-1216066 Thu, 14 Nov 2013 14:47:49 +0000 Honeybee 1216066@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DD says, "Yelling hurts my ears and my feelings." :/ At which point we apologize and go over the proper way to express displeasure. Having children is a very humbling experience! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-yell-at-your-lo#post-1216064 Thu, 14 Nov 2013 14:45:39 +0000 Mrs. Bee 1216064@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i try very very hard not to.. it only makes the situation worse, but sometimes i just can't help it! parents are human too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-you-yell-at-your-lo#post-1216061 Thu, 14 Nov 2013 14:45:19 +0000 Running Elley 1216061@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pinkcupcake: I've yelled in the exact same situations!</p> <p>I have and I feel horrible afterwards. It's obvious that he doesn't like it (Duh. Who would??) and I try VERY consciously not to handle my anger/frustration that way. </p>