https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 24 Apr 2026 09:16:03 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-friends-and-family-ask-about-your-family-plans#post-1319019 Sat, 04 Jan 2014 09:00:31 +0000 twodoghouse 1319019@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've been pretty open that these twins will be it for us. I do get a lot of people saying that I may love being a mom so much that I'll be ready to do it again in a couple years. Mostly the people who say that are ones who don't know what we went through to get pregnant this first time. On the flip side, I also get people who know about our IF telling me stories about people they know who went through IVF then went on to have surprise babies later and maybe that will happen for us. But we are very happy to be having two and really plan on being done after this! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-friends-and-family-ask-about-your-family-plans#post-1319015 Sat, 04 Jan 2014 08:56:43 +0000 avivoca 1319015@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@runnerd: Yeah, we got married at 21 and 22, no way were we ready to have kids. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-friends-and-family-ask-about-your-family-plans#post-1319007 Sat, 04 Jan 2014 08:47:11 +0000 Mamasig 1319007@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Family and close friends do but not in a nosy way. We don't mind. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-friends-and-family-ask-about-your-family-plans#post-1318995 Sat, 04 Jan 2014 08:27:01 +0000 mlm2934 1318995@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@avivoca: this is us. We were together 5 years, then married 5 years, so any questions we did get for a few years had tampered off because most family had put us in the "they aren't having kids" camp </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-friends-and-family-ask-about-your-family-plans#post-1318990 Sat, 04 Jan 2014 08:19:42 +0000 swedishfish 1318990@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope! LO is only 6 months old though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-friends-and-family-ask-about-your-family-plans#post-1318952 Sat, 04 Jan 2014 07:31:56 +0000 babycanuck 1318952@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>All. The. Time. I tell people I don't know if we're going to have kids and try to change the conversation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-friends-and-family-ask-about-your-family-plans#post-1318942 Sat, 04 Jan 2014 07:12:37 +0000 avivoca 1318942@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not really anymore. We waited so long before getting pregnant (5.5 years) that most of our family thought we weren't ever going to have children. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-friends-and-family-ask-about-your-family-plans#post-1318874 Sat, 04 Jan 2014 02:47:58 +0000 yin 1318874@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Everyone kept asking about a second for about a year, and once I was pregnant everyone was so surprised. Not sure why. People now jokingly ask when the next one will come. I'm done. Just not looking forward to the question for the next couple of years. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-friends-and-family-ask-about-your-family-plans#post-1318861 Sat, 04 Jan 2014 01:41:36 +0000 lemondrop 1318861@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>lol, heck #2 isn't even fully baked yet and I get the "awww, so when are you going to try for that girl?" ugggh! I've gotten really good at the raised eyebrows dirty look and remind them they haven't even met our second child yet. </p> <p>Sure I'd love to finish up with a girl, but I'll be perfectly happy with a third boy- our plans aren't reliant on gender.</p> <p>I just say that it's going to be several years since I haven't forgotten the crappy parts of pregnancy, I'll definitely need more than 2 years off in between the last two. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-friends-and-family-ask-about-your-family-plans#post-1318823 Sat, 04 Jan 2014 00:44:21 +0000 Weagle 1318823@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our parents don't really ask, but other family members and friends do. I don't mind. It's not a big secret. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-friends-and-family-ask-about-your-family-plans#post-1318812 Sat, 04 Jan 2014 00:28:30 +0000 Kimberlybee 1318812@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My inlaws keep hinting at us to try for another one, specifically to try for a boy! They are so old school and I want to say "We don't need a boy, your family is not part of the British monarchy" but I just ignore them instead. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-friends-and-family-ask-about-your-family-plans#post-1318509 Fri, 03 Jan 2014 20:54:49 +0000 cascademom 1318509@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When LO was younger, DH's grandma asked about #2. Now that he's past 12 months LO old, they don't ask. My boss asked the week after we got married. I told him it would be awhile. We waited two years before trying. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-friends-and-family-ask-about-your-family-plans#post-1318447 Fri, 03 Jan 2014 20:10:23 +0000 MrsH 1318447@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ask? No. Comment? Yes. I'm pregnant and my aunt at Christmas assured me she thought we'd have at least three more. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-friends-and-family-ask-about-your-family-plans#post-1318442 Fri, 03 Jan 2014 20:08:05 +0000 matador84 1318442@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes and it can be awkward! Ugh. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-friends-and-family-ask-about-your-family-plans#post-1318384 Fri, 03 Jan 2014 19:29:30 +0000 autumnlove 1318384@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsLipGloss: yup! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-friends-and-family-ask-about-your-family-plans#post-1318380 Fri, 03 Jan 2014 19:27:08 +0000 blackbird 1318380@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yuuuup </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-friends-and-family-ask-about-your-family-plans#post-1318362 Fri, 03 Jan 2014 19:13:23 +0000 chopsuey 1318362@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>People ask/tell us to have a 3rd. We're done! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-friends-and-family-ask-about-your-family-plans#post-1318333 Fri, 03 Jan 2014 18:39:23 +0000 yoursilverlining 1318333@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope, thankfully we both come from mostly MYOB families, so there haven't been many comments asking about our plans for a second - we've also been pretty open that we're one and done. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-friends-and-family-ask-about-your-family-plans#post-1318325 Fri, 03 Jan 2014 18:32:33 +0000 MsLipGloss 1318325@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@autumnlove: Was it the article from The Atlantic? That is an *awesome* article! *highfive* </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-friends-and-family-ask-about-your-family-plans#post-1318323 Fri, 03 Jan 2014 18:31:31 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 1318323@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>They don't because they know about our struggles. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-friends-and-family-ask-about-your-family-plans#post-1318321 Fri, 03 Jan 2014 18:30:52 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 1318321@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Friends all the time especially the ones with children. Ils- no. My parents-yes. Once we hit the three year mark my parents started asking for grandkids. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-friends-and-family-ask-about-your-family-plans#post-1318320 Fri, 03 Jan 2014 18:29:01 +0000 sslm 1318320@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thankfully no one asks!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-friends-and-family-ask-about-your-family-plans#post-1318314 Fri, 03 Jan 2014 18:25:44 +0000 MamaChin 1318314@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not really. Only my DH's cousin's wife who would ask me everytime I saw her. I've asked her to stop and she either doesn't care or doesn't care. Over Christmas she asked about plans for a third, I AM STILL PREGNANT WITH MY SECOND. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-friends-and-family-ask-about-your-family-plans#post-1318283 Fri, 03 Jan 2014 18:03:00 +0000 betsyboop 1318283@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Friends yes, family no. I don't really mind when friends ask. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-friends-and-family-ask-about-your-family-plans#post-1318249 Fri, 03 Jan 2014 17:43:12 +0000 prettylizy 1318249@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@autumnlove: HB for the win!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-friends-and-family-ask-about-your-family-plans#post-1318245 Fri, 03 Jan 2014 17:41:57 +0000 autumnlove 1318245@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@prettylizy: ya, I got the article from a thread on HB! :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-friends-and-family-ask-about-your-family-plans#post-1318243 Fri, 03 Jan 2014 17:41:37 +0000 Running Elley 1318243@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yepp, almost everyone.... Especially since #1 and #2 are so close together. Everyone just assumes we're going to have a baby per year and love discussing it. Not happening people!!</p> <p>ETA: Strangers comment on our family plans the other way around. Even the checker at target has asked if I'm done having kids because we got a boy and a girl. Those comments actually bother me more! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-friends-and-family-ask-about-your-family-plans#post-1318241 Fri, 03 Jan 2014 17:41:16 +0000 mrs. 64 1318241@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Family no, friends yes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-friends-and-family-ask-about-your-family-plans#post-1318238 Fri, 03 Jan 2014 17:40:02 +0000 prettylizy 1318238@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>omg you emailed them articles? lol! No one really asks right now but I'm sure if I have another girl this time I'll get lots of "will you try again for a boy?" That would be a no.... we're done with 2. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-friends-and-family-ask-about-your-family-plans#post-1318237 Fri, 03 Jan 2014 17:39:59 +0000 Dandelion 1318237@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not really. MIL told me I didn't need to be pregnant after this but I told her we'll be the ones to decide that. My mom knows that I like to wing it. </p>