https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 17 May 2026 17:56:28 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-friends-ask-how-much-money-so-and-you-make/page/2#post-1503628 Wed, 19 Mar 2014 08:59:08 +0000 blackbird 1503628@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>People IRL will sometimes ask in a roundabout way because some of them have interviewed for jobs here and want to know about what to expect the pay to be. I don't mind telling them a mid-X range in that case. We are all in the same industry so we're usually close </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-friends-ask-how-much-money-so-and-you-make/page/2#post-1503617 Wed, 19 Mar 2014 08:55:12 +0000 Weagle 1503617@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, but most of our friends tend to work the same kinds of jobs (DC gov't types), so it's pretty easy to guess or just look it up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-friends-ask-how-much-money-so-and-you-make/page/2#post-1503608 Wed, 19 Mar 2014 08:50:17 +0000 Grace 1503608@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nooooooooo. That can be pretty awkward if there is a big discrepancy between what the person and the asker make. I could see giving a range if someone was looking to get into the field and wanted to know what they could expect. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-friends-ask-how-much-money-so-and-you-make/page/2#post-1503339 Wed, 19 Mar 2014 06:35:17 +0000 bushelandapeck 1503339@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Some of our friends probably have a good idea what we make because they are in the same industry as DH. Our families also know but we don't talk about it unless aomeone asks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-friends-ask-how-much-money-so-and-you-make/page/2#post-1503278 Wed, 19 Mar 2014 04:33:24 +0000 lamariniere 1503278@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The only person I talk about salaries with is my best friend. We have known each other since we were 15, so we are very open with each other about everything. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-friends-ask-how-much-money-so-and-you-make/page/2#post-1503019 Tue, 18 Mar 2014 21:22:47 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 1503019@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@rahlyrah: same.<br /> Social workers' pay doesn't fluctuate much so I'd have no problem sharing my income if a friend straight up asks (but I doubt anyone would).<br /> DH is a business owner and he doesn't tell anyone, ever about his money. Nope. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-friends-ask-how-much-money-so-and-you-make/page/2#post-1502978 Tue, 18 Mar 2014 20:55:16 +0000 yellowbird 1502978@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No one has ever asked me! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-friends-ask-how-much-money-so-and-you-make/page/2#post-1502968 Tue, 18 Mar 2014 20:50:51 +0000 Reese 1502968@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not with DH (at all) but a few of my close friends and I are in the same field (self employed/went to school together) so we talk about invoicing clients/$$$ to make sure we are fair with industry standards. I also mentor students that are in school (take them on placements) and I am transparent with my fees as well as talk to them about what is an appropriate fee for a recent grad/years of experience. I don't want them to graduate and over charge people just because they "can" or because nobody told them any better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-friends-ask-how-much-money-so-and-you-make/page/2#post-1502584 Tue, 18 Mar 2014 17:51:13 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 1502584@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, only once. One of my friends asked me and she said it so matter of factLy I answered. I eventually had to tell her on another job-related-but-non-of-her-business question she was making me uncomfortable. </p> <p>I often wonder what our friends think we make because I am just as curious about them, but dare not ask! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-friends-ask-how-much-money-so-and-you-make/page/2#post-1502575 Tue, 18 Mar 2014 17:46:54 +0000 lilteacherbee 1502575@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're both teachers, and in my state it's embarrassingly low and currently talked about all the time, so everyone already knows. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-friends-ask-how-much-money-so-and-you-make/page/2#post-1501652 Tue, 18 Mar 2014 13:35:40 +0000 MrsH 1501652@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've never had anyone ask. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-friends-ask-how-much-money-so-and-you-make/page/2#post-1501608 Tue, 18 Mar 2014 13:27:39 +0000 JennyD 1501608@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah sometimes. It makes me uncomfortable with a few friends, but with friends that earn similarly to us, it's no big deal.</p> <p>One friend was saying once how she "didn't know anyone who made more than $XXX/year" and I had to quietly smile and back out of the conversation because she seemed to think that was an insane amount of money for a person to make, and we make a lot more than the amount she noted. It was super awkward. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-friends-ask-how-much-money-so-and-you-make/page/2#post-1501405 Tue, 18 Mar 2014 12:42:08 +0000 fussygal 1501405@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No! We had one (very close) friend ask a few weeks ago and I answered but I really wasn't comfortable with it. I was raised that talking about money so candidly is inappropriate. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-friends-ask-how-much-money-so-and-you-make#post-1501364 Tue, 18 Mar 2014 12:34:09 +0000 AmandaB8 1501364@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have 2 distinct groups of friends. Our one group doesn't talk about money at all. Our other group, we all know everyone's business. But there's no judging, and we're all just starting out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-friends-ask-how-much-money-so-and-you-make#post-1501304 Tue, 18 Mar 2014 12:24:59 +0000 HLK208 1501304@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, but I sometimes share information like when DH gets a raise or little things with my really close friends. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-friends-ask-how-much-money-so-and-you-make#post-1501281 Tue, 18 Mar 2014 12:20:26 +0000 dolphin 1501281@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, we don't talk about it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-friends-ask-how-much-money-so-and-you-make#post-1501263 Tue, 18 Mar 2014 12:16:28 +0000 petunia354 1501263@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I work with my family so my dad determines my pay and my sister does the payroll, so we all know what each other makes! It's no big deal though, we don't get hung up on the numbers or who makes more than who because it's all very fair. As far as friends go? No one has asked and I wouldn't ask anyone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-friends-ask-how-much-money-so-and-you-make#post-1501259 Tue, 18 Mar 2014 12:15:49 +0000 edelweiss 1501259@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>no, although they could probably figure it out because i work for the government and the info is public. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-friends-ask-how-much-money-so-and-you-make#post-1501256 Tue, 18 Mar 2014 12:14:56 +0000 MrsF 1501256@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-friends-ask-how-much-money-so-and-you-make#post-1501247 Tue, 18 Mar 2014 12:13:17 +0000 Anagram 1501247@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm a teacher, so my salary is public information. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-friends-ask-how-much-money-so-and-you-make#post-1501243 Tue, 18 Mar 2014 12:12:18 +0000 MsLipGloss 1501243@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Other than our tax/investment folks, we are the only people who know our incomes. I don't see how that information would be relevant to anyone else. I have been asked in a round about way numerous times, but never directly (chicken shits!). I just dodge the question with *why do you ask ?*. . . and go from there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-friends-ask-how-much-money-so-and-you-make#post-1501232 Tue, 18 Mar 2014 12:08:59 +0000 Dandelion 1501232@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope no one really asks. Only our parents know what it is. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-friends-ask-how-much-money-so-and-you-make#post-1501218 Tue, 18 Mar 2014 12:06:58 +0000 StbHisMrs 1501218@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>They've ask and we've obliged, it isn't that big of a deal to us if they're close friends. </p> <p>@Mrs. Blue: I really never looked at land like that, I have people ask how much property my parents have all the time and they're open about it too. Granted it isn't a huge ranch, but it's a nice sized vineyard. Now I'm kind of embarrassed for asking others in the past. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-friends-ask-how-much-money-so-and-you-make#post-1501203 Tue, 18 Mar 2014 12:04:29 +0000 IRunForFun 1501203@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope! I'll talk salaries and money with my BFF but not because she asks, just because I feel comfortable sharing and discussing. I'd feel very uncomfortable if my friends flat-out asked me that and I don't think I'd answer. I'd probably laugh it off. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-friends-ask-how-much-money-so-and-you-make#post-1501085 Tue, 18 Mar 2014 11:38:21 +0000 Mrs. Blue 1501085@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No way would I answer that. I can't think if anyone has actually flat out ask us, but even when it's just an implied question, I dodge it. I never ask about money and I never ask about how much land someone owns if they live in the country. I get asked about alllllll the time when it comes to my parents ranch, and I feel like it's the equivalent of asking how much money you have in the bank, invested, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-friends-ask-how-much-money-so-and-you-make#post-1501056 Tue, 18 Mar 2014 11:31:17 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 1501056@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-friends-ask-how-much-money-so-and-you-make#post-1501042 Tue, 18 Mar 2014 11:27:33 +0000 gingerbebe 1501042@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think a lot of it is how close the friend is. Also, it could just be a family/culture thing. For instance, money is spoken of freely in my family. My mom knows what we make, how much we pay for rent, how much debt we have, how much we paid for our car, etc. I don't know why - its just normal in my family. Perhaps its a Korean thing?</p> <p>On the flip side, my (white) Midwestern in-laws do not know a thing about any of our finances. DH says to talk about anything related to money would be extremely impolite and frankly just awkward for everyone involved. He doesn't care that MY family knows about our business because its "normal" for us, but we keep a double standard when it comes to his family.</p> <p>So if a friend asked me what DH made, it wouldn't weird me out per se. I'd just think about who's asking me, how close we are to them, and WHY they wanted to know. But that's just me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-friends-ask-how-much-money-so-and-you-make#post-1500914 Tue, 18 Mar 2014 11:00:42 +0000 Caly 1500914@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope, never. When DH was working, his salary was published/public knowledge so if someone cared enough, they could figure it out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-friends-ask-how-much-money-so-and-you-make#post-1500901 Tue, 18 Mar 2014 10:57:34 +0000 swurlygurl 1500901@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have one couple that does - it makes us a little uncomfortable because we're pretty private with our money, but we indulge their curiosities. </p> <p>We are only open with our parents about our salaries. If my sister asked I would tell her, but she's in a completely different place in her life, so it's probably not even a question she would consider asking. We've vaguely discussed ranges with DH's siblings, and we're always talking about when we get raises and promotions (not value, just that we got one), so we're all aware of each other's ranges.</p> <p>But friends... not something I like to talk about. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-friends-ask-how-much-money-so-and-you-make#post-1500895 Tue, 18 Mar 2014 10:56:51 +0000 plantains 1500895@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't mind talking about money on any level whatsoever, but I know it bothers a lot of people so I don't ask. My DH is a teacher so everyone knows what he makes and they are not shy talking about it! </p>