https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 17 Apr 2026 13:29:56 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-guardians-know#post-2501030 Sun, 20 Mar 2016 16:25:41 +0000 wrkbrk 2501030@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@regberadaisy: Yup! We asked them while I was pregnant. And yes it is in our estate papers. Interestingly, there may be some people who would be surprised it's NOT them and we haven't had those conversations ..... ! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-guardians-know#post-2501029 Sun, 20 Mar 2016 16:23:44 +0000 artsyfartsy 2501029@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My sister and I have already discussed and agreed that she will take in my kids if something happens to me and DH.</p> <p>I need to get it in writing but I keep putting it off. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-guardians-know#post-2501022 Sun, 20 Mar 2016 16:06:22 +0000 Astro Bee 2501022@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We double-checked with them, but we knew my parents would love to raise him if it came down to it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-guardians-know#post-2501014 Sun, 20 Mar 2016 15:36:59 +0000 youboots 2501014@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes we asked my cousin and her husband before T was born. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-guardians-know#post-2501010 Sun, 20 Mar 2016 15:30:37 +0000 Mrs.KMM 2501010@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes they know. We asked permission from both our primary option and a backup option. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-guardians-know#post-2499569 Fri, 18 Mar 2016 12:01:56 +0000 anonysquire 2499569@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We asked my parents. They said yes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-guardians-know#post-2499531 Fri, 18 Mar 2016 11:50:09 +0000 cat620 2499531@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have no idea who we would choose. I'm not a huge fan of my in-laws, so that would be a no. My family isn't in a position to take on a couple kids. My DH's siblings aren't really mature enough. It's a hard decision to make! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-guardians-know#post-2499225 Fri, 18 Mar 2016 08:32:21 +0000 snowjewelz 2499225@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We haven't given thought to it yet :meh: Adding onto will, life insurance, all that stuff that's on my to do list! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-guardians-know#post-2499101 Fri, 18 Mar 2016 06:59:37 +0000 hilsy85 2499101@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes of course we asked...I can't imagine doing it without asking the people first, even if you assume they will say yes. But I guess they can always decline if it came to it... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-guardians-know#post-2499088 Fri, 18 Mar 2016 06:50:00 +0000 Adira 2499088@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep, we asked them before we finalized our wills. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-guardians-know#post-2499077 Fri, 18 Mar 2016 06:33:04 +0000 looch 2499077@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@catlady: That's what our attorney advised. He basically said you can always make a revision, but we should approach it based on who could do it right now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-guardians-know#post-2499072 Fri, 18 Mar 2016 06:26:33 +0000 regberadaisy 2499072@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@catlady: see, I guess I look at it as, if we died tomorrow, who would be best equipped to take care of my children until they're 18? </p> <p>@LatteLove: It's taken us four years and we've gone back and forth. Finally it just came down to they might not raise our kids exactly the same way we would. But, we know without a sliver of a doubt that they will LOVE our children and our children will never ever be made to feel like an outcast. Just stupid stuff like they would never buy clothes from Salvation Army for our kids then dress their kids in Gap. Stupid stuff that for kids will make a difference.<br /> We are finally at peace with our decision. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-guardians-know#post-2498932 Thu, 17 Mar 2016 21:46:59 +0000 Boogs 2498932@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LatteLove: It's so hard, you love people, but the way they discipline and raise their kids is so different. :/ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-guardians-know#post-2498911 Thu, 17 Mar 2016 21:24:47 +0000 LatteLove 2498911@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Boogs: @Eko: we are in a similar place - I have one sister we would trust but definitely wouldn't raise our kids like we would. We have thinking about it for two years and still haven't decided/asked! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-guardians-know#post-2498906 Thu, 17 Mar 2016 21:22:16 +0000 Boogs 2498906@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Bao: Thinking of how many kids I could have if I had to take my siblings, is one reason we are good with stopping at two kids even though we would consider more. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-guardians-know#post-2498872 Thu, 17 Mar 2016 21:04:59 +0000 Bao 2498872@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Absolutely. I would never put that responsibility on someone without asking. We have also been asked to take my sisters 3 kids if that unfortunate event should ever occur. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-guardians-know#post-2498868 Thu, 17 Mar 2016 21:03:14 +0000 Boogs 2498868@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Eko: You sound like us.</p> <p>If/when we come to peace with some sort of decision, we will definitely ask first. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-guardians-know#post-2498864 Thu, 17 Mar 2016 21:02:05 +0000 Smurfette 2498864@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Of course. I wouldn't leave my child with someone without checking with them first. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-guardians-know#post-2498750 Thu, 17 Mar 2016 19:52:46 +0000 catlady 2498750@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, we asked permission of the first two people in line (MIL first, then my dad).</p> <p>@Eko: This was us too. Eventually we just decided on parents. We figure our parents are healthy now and we can change our wills if that situation changes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-guardians-know#post-2498742 Thu, 17 Mar 2016 19:46:38 +0000 yoursilverlining 2498742@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would definitely let people know you picked them as guardians. Finding out via a will that you're suddenly expected to take on children is kind of a big surprise! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-guardians-know#post-2498739 Thu, 17 Mar 2016 19:42:44 +0000 Eko 2498739@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH and I sincerely can't decide. We definitely would not pick our siblings. Our parents are an option but that can only last so long. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-guardians-know#post-2486084 Thu, 17 Mar 2016 19:15:00 +0000 regberadaisy 2486084@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In the event that both you and SO pass away, do you have guardians chosen for your kids?<br /> Did you ask them? Or is it just stated in your will and you didn't let them know?</p> <p>We have finally decided and will be asking them the next time we see them. </p>